Mmene Kuthamangira Ndi Chibwenzi Changa Zinandisinthira Mmene Ndimaganizira Zolimbitsa Thupi

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Ndili ndi zaka 7, abambo anga adayamba kukonzekera ine ndi mchimwene wanga ku 5K yathu yasukulu yapulaimale. Amatiyendetsa kupita kusukulu yasekondale komanso nthawi yomwe timazungulira, ndikudzudzula mayendedwe athu, kuyenda kwa mikono, ndikuchepera kumapeto.

Nditapambana malo achiwiri pampikisano wanga woyamba, ndinalira. Ndidamuwona mchimwene wanga akuponyera m'mwamba pomwe amafika kumapeto ndipo ndimadziona ngati waulesi chifukwa cholephera kufikapo.

Patapita zaka, mchimwene wanga ankapambana mpikisano wa ogwira ntchito kukoleji popalasa mpaka kusanza, ndipo ine ndinkagwa m’bwalo la tenisi nditachita monyanyira malangizo a bambo anga akuti “ukhale wolimba,” poganiza kuti sindingathe kusiya. Komanso ndinamaliza maphunziro anga kukoleji ndili ndi 4.0 GPA ndikukhala wolemba waluso pantchito zanga.

Kuthamanga kunakhala kumbuyo mpaka pambuyo pa zaka za m'ma 20 pamene ndinasamukira ndi chibwenzi changa ndipo tinayambitsa maulendo othamanga pambuyo pa ntchito pafupi ndi kwathu. Koma, nayi chinthu: Amandiyendetsa misala chifukwa amangoima akatopa. Sikuti cholinga chonse chochita masewera olimbitsa thupi sichinali choti muchepetse thupi lanu? Ndinkathamangira kutsogolo ndi kuzungulira kubwerera kukakumana naye. Mulungu aletse mapazi anga anasiya kuyenda. (Mtundu uwu wamaganizidwe opanda chilichonse sichinthu chothandiza kwambiri mwina. Phunzirani zambiri za chifukwa chake muyenera kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, osati kuthamanga kapena mtunda.)

Ndinayambanso kuzindikira kusiyana kwamalingaliro mikhalidwe yathu, inenso. Tikamagwira ntchito limodzi kunyumba, amapita kokagona akafuna kupuma, ndipo ndimakwiya kwambiri. Kodi iye anali kuganiza chiyani? Kodi sankadziwa kuti nthawi yopuma imeneyi ingatalikitse ntchito yake?

Tsiku lina, adayesa kundimangirira m'manja nthawi yogona. "Ndimayesetsa kuti ndisatenge nthawi yopuma chifukwa ndimagwira ntchito mofulumira," ndinatero.

"Ndimayesetsa kupuma pang'ono chifukwa ndimasangalala ndi moyo," adatero.

Zoonadi, lingaliro langa loyamba linali chikupeza chiyani? Koma kenako ndinadziuza kuti, kusangalala ndi moyo - lingaliro lotani.

Njira yanga yosangalala ndi moyo nthawi zonse imakhala ikukakamira kuti ndipeze ntchito (kapena kulimbitsa thupi) kuti ichitike mwachangu kuti ndikhale ndi nthawi yopuma pambuyo pake-monga bambo anga adandiphunzitsira. Koma, ngati ndikunena zowona, ndimangogwiritsa ntchito nthawi "yaulere" kuchita zambiri. Mophiphiritsira (ndipo nthawi zina kwenikweni) pomwe bwenzi langa limathamanga kwakanthawi, ndinali kumeneko ndikuthamanga mpikisano wothamanga womwe sunabwere.

Nthawi inayake masana kumapeto kwa sabata, ndidakhumudwitsidwa ndikuyimilira kwakeko kotero ndidafunsa, "Mukuyembekeza kupindula chiyani popuma kaye?"

"Sindikudziwa," adakwiya. "Mukuyembekeza kupindula chiyani pothamanga mosalekeza?"

"Chitani masewera olimbitsa thupi," ndidatero. Yankho lowona mtima likadakhala: Kufunika koponya kapena kugwa. Lingaliro lakukwaniritsa lomwe limabwera ndi izi.

Kuphunzitsa kwanga kosawoneka bwino kunali kopanda phindu, ndipo ndidawona izi. Sanaphunzitse chilichonse. Iye ankangoyesa kusangalala ndi kuwala kwa dzuwa kwa kasupe-ndipo ndinali kuwononga chisangalalo chake. (Zokhudzana: Kuthamanga Kunandithandiza Pomaliza Kumenya Kukhumudwa Kwanga Kwakubereka)

Mwina wondidzudzula wodziona yekha anali atakula kwambiri, sindikanatha kuzimitsa kwa ena. Kapenanso, kuuza mnzanga kuti afikire kuntchito, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, komanso moyo momwe ndimakhalira ndikuyesera kudzitsimikizira kuti njira yanga ndiyabwino. Koma kodi ndinali kudzitsimikizira ndekha, kapena ndinali kutsimikizira abambo anga?

Ndipamene zidandigunda: Malangizo, kulimbikira, komanso kuthekera kopitilira mfundo yomwe mukufuna kusiya zomwe abambo anga adandiphunzitsa zidandifikitsa pantchito yanga, koma zabwinozi sizimandithandizira pa nthawi yanga. Amandipangitsa kukhala wokhazikika komanso wokhazikika panthawi yomwe ndimayenera kukhala kuswa kuchokera ku zovuta zantchito yanga; nthawi yopumula ndikutsuka mutu wanga.

Ngakhale ndili wokondwa kuti bambo adandiphunzitsa kuti kudzikakamiza kumapindulitsa, ndaphunzira kuti pali matanthauzo osiyanasiyana a mphotho. Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi sikupambana pamene kukudwalani popanda cholinga. Kukuwa sikukutanthauza kuti mwapereka zoposa munthu amene ali pafupi nanu. Ndipo mtundu woterewu wamalingaliro okhwima samakulolani kusangalala ndi moyo ndikusangalala ndi kuyenda.

Choncho ndinaganiza zosiya kusandutsa masiku athu othamanga kukhala gawo lina la mpikisano wothamanga. Ndinkatengera chibwenzi cha chibwenzi changa: kupumira kumsika wa utitiri kuti ndipeze msuzi wamakangaza watsopano, wokhala pansi pamtengo kuti ndipange mthunzi, ndikunyamula ma ayisikilimu popita kunyumba. (Zokhudzana: Zomwe Ndaphunzira Zokhudza Kukhazikitsa Zolinga Zolimbitsa Thupi Nditathamanga 5K Yanga Yoyamba)

Pamene tinabwerera kuchokera ku ulendo wathu woyamba wopumula, ndinapepesa kwa iye chifukwa cha khalidwe langa launyamata, kuwauza nkhani za ntchito yanga yaubwana yothamanga. "Ndikuganiza kuti ndikukhala bambo wanga," ndidatero.

"Chifukwa chake, ndimapeza mphunzitsi waulere," adaseka. "Ndizabwino."

"Inde." Ndinaganiza za izo. "Ndikuganiza kuti nanenso ndinatero."

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