Momwe Moyo Wanga Wagonana Unasinthira Nditatha Kusamba Kwa Nthawi

Zamkati

• Tikuwonananso mtsogolo, libido
• Zokambirana momasuka zimapangitsa kusiyana
• Kutenga

Ndisanayambe kusamba, ndinali ndi chilakolako chogonana. Ndinkayembekezera kuti ichepera pang'ono zaka zikamapita, koma sindinali wokonzekera kuti ziyime mwadzidzidzi. Ndinakhumudwa kwambiri.

Monga namwino, ndimakhulupirira kuti ndinali ndi chidziwitso chamkati chokhudza thanzi la amayi. Buku langa lamasamba 1,200 laku sukulu yaunamwino lokhudza zaumoyo wa amayi ali ndi chiganizo chimodzi chokhudza kusamba. Inanena kuti ndiko kusiya kusamba. Nyengo. Mkamwini wanga wamwamuna, wophunzira unamwino, anali ndi buku lokhala ndi ziganizo ziwiri za kusamba, momveka bwino kuti sitinapite patali kwambiri.

Popeza zochepa zomwe ndimapeza kuchokera kwa azimayi achikulire, ndimayembekezera kuwotcha pang'ono. Ndimaganiza kuti kamphepo kayaziyazi kamatenga mphindi kapena ziwiri. Kupatula apo, "kunyezimira" kumatanthauza kuti ayenera kukhala achidule, sichoncho? Cholakwika.

Tsopano ndikukhulupirira kuti kutentha kumatanthauza kutentha kwamphamvu mofanana ndi mphezi kapena kuwala kwa moto m'nkhalango.

Ngakhale libido yanga isanapite patali, kutentha kwakukulu kunachepetsa moyo wanga wogonana. Mwamuna wanga amandigwira kulikonse ndipo kutentha kwa thupi langa kumangokhala ngati kukwera kuchokera pa 98.6 mpaka 3,000 madigiri. Kuyaka kwadzidzidzi sikukuwoneka ngati kosayenera. Magawo otuluka thukutawa adalepheretsanso kukondana.

Pomaliza, ndinatha kuyatsa kuwala kwanga ndi mafani, ayezi, zofunda, ndi ma isoflavones a soya. Kugonana kunayambanso kukhala gawo la moyo wathu. Sindinadziwe kuti zinthu zatsala pang'ono kuipiraipira.

Tikuwonananso mtsogolo, libido

Mmawa wina wabwino, libido yanga idangonyamuka ndikumapita. Ndinkafuna Loweruka, ndipo Lamlungu, zinali zitatha. Sikuti ndinali ndi vuto lililonse lokondana. Kungoti sindinkaganiziranso za izi.

Ine ndi amuna anga tinasokonezeka. Mwamwayi, ndinali ndi gulu langa la Menopause Goddess kuti ndilankhule nawo. Tonsefe timakumana ndi zovuta zomwezo. Chifukwa cha zokambirana zathu momasuka, ndinazindikira kuti ndinali wabwinobwino. Tidagawana malingaliro ndi zothandizira momwe tingayambitsire moyo wathu wachikondi.

Kwa nthawi yoyamba m'moyo wanga, kugonana kunali kopweteka. Kusamba kwa thupi kumatha kuyambitsa ukazi ndi kupyapyala kwa minofu yovuta ya nyini. Zonsezi zinkandichitikira.

Pofuna kuthana ndi izi, ndinayesa mafuta amafuta angapo ndisanapeze omwe amagwira ntchito. Mafuta a Primrose andithandiza ndi chinyezi chonse. Ndinayesa ma dilators angapo azimayi, omwe amathandizira kutulutsa chinyezi changa ndikulimbikitsa thanzi la ukazi ndi kwamikodzo. Pomaliza, ndidapeza kuti ndibwino kutsuka "madona anga" ndi choyeretsera makamaka chifukwa chaichi, komanso kupewa mankhwala okhwima a sopo.

Zinthu zosiyanasiyana zimagwira mkazi aliyense. Kuyesera ndikofunikira kuti mupeze zomwe zikukuyenderani bwino.

Zokambirana momasuka zimapangitsa kusiyana

Zithandizo pamwambapa zidathandizira pazinthu zakuthupi zobwezeretsanso chibwenzi. Nkhani yokhayo yotsala ndiyoti ndiyambenso kulakalaka.

Gawo lofunikira kwambiri kuti ndiyambirenso kugonana ndimakambirana momasuka ndi amuna anga za zomwe zimachitika, momwe zimakhalira zabwinobwino, ndikuti tigwire ntchito limodzi.

Ndinayesa mankhwala ena a zitsamba opititsa patsogolo, koma sanandigwire. Tinayesa mankhwala amnzathu oti azionetsa amaliseche kamodzi pamlungu ndikumwetulira. Mawonekedwe owonjezera ndi "mausiku ausiku" adathandizira kukhazikitsa mawonekedwe oyenera ndi mawonekedwe.

Sitinakhazikitse zoyembekezera, koma nthawi zambiri kuyandikira kwathu kumabweretsa kugonana. Pang'ono ndi pang'ono, libido yanga idabwerera (ngakhale ndiyotentha kwambiri). Ndiyenerabe kupereka nthawi ndi chisamaliro pa moyo wanga wogonana kuopera kuti "ndingaiwale" kufunika kwake kwa ine ndi mnzanga.

Kutenga

Tsopano ndili ndi zaka 10 zitatha. Mwamuna wanga ndi ine timapangabe "madeti," koma nthawi zambiri timasankha kugonana komwe sikumakhudza kulowa, monga kugonana mkamwa kapena kuseweretsa maliseche. Timakumbatirana ndikupsompsona tsiku lonse, kotero kuti kuyanjana ndikumayanjana nthawi zonse. Mwanjira imeneyi, ndimamva ngati moyo wanga wogonana ndiwowoneka bwino kuposa kale lonse. Monga momwe amuna anga amanenera, "Zimakhala ngati timangokhalira kukondana tsiku lonse."

Kusamba sikuyenera kutanthauza kutha kwaubwenzi kapena moyo wathanzi wogonana. M'malo mwake, atha kukhala chiyambi chatsopano.

Lynette Sheppard, RN, ndi wojambula komanso wolemba yemwe amakhala ndi blog yotchuka ya Menopause Goddess. Mkati mwa bulogu, azimayi amagawana nthabwala, thanzi, komanso mtima zakusintha kwa msambo komanso njira zakutha. Lynette ndi amenenso analemba buku "Becoming a Menopause Goddess."