Ndinayesa zovuta za masiku 30 kuti ndikutsitsimutse moyo wanga wogonana wosakwatiwa

Zamkati

• Dziwani njira zogonana.
• Koma posakhalitsa, tinaganiza zokwanira ndipo tinakhazikitsa malamulo.
• Onaninso za

Ndinkakonda kugonana.

Osati kugonana kwina, koma zambiri za kugonana. Kugonana konyansa. Kugonana kosaloledwa. Kugonana m'malo opezeka anthu ambiri. (Ndikusiyani tsatanetsatane wake.) Kenako ndinakwatirana - koma timagonana. Kenako ndinatenga mimba—ndipo tinasiya kugonana. Kenako ndinakhala mayi-yesani kugonana nane, ndipo ndidzatero kudula inu. Kenako ndinakhala mayi wogwira ntchito-ndipo zili ngati chidutswa chonse cha moyo wanga chidabedwa.

M'malingaliro mwanga, kugonana sikuyenera kukambirana. Ndi zofunika monga kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kudya moyenera, kapena kugona. Koma ndichifukwa chiyani nthawi zambiri kumakhala chinthu choyamba kukhala pachibwenzi pomwe china chimayenera kupereka? (Nayi lingaliro: Siyani kupukusa kwapa media media ndikupita kukakhala ndi malungo m'malo mwake! Zidzakupangitsani kuti musangalale kwambiri ndi moyo wanu kuposa chithunzi cha mtsikana yemwe ali mu bikini pa yacht-ndikulonjeza.)

Ndikudziwa amayi ambiri ogwira ntchito omwe amagonana. Koma sindikudziwa mayi aliyense wogwira ntchito wokhala ndi ana aang'ono omwe ali nawo wokhazikika kugonana-ndipo pali kusiyanitsa ndithu. Ngati mukuwerenga izi ndikuti, "Ndikutero!" zabwino kwa inu, koma sindimakukondani kwambiri. Izi ndi za amayi omwe amadzidzimuka wina atawagwira. Kwa azimayi omwe angakonde kudziphatika ndi galasi lalikulu la vinyo ndi Netflix kuposa kukhala maliseche ndikukhala ndi winawake lowetsani iwo.

Mwinanso ndikumakhala ndi pakati komwe kumandipangitsa kuti ndizikhala nthawi yayitali osagonana. (Mukadakhala m'modzi wa amayi apakati omwe wokondedwa Kugonana, inenso sindimakukondani kwambiri.) Mwina anali ndi mwana wanga wamkazi namwino kwa zaka zitatu zolimba zomwe zidachita. (Nipple PTSD ndichinthu chenicheni, y'all.) Mwinanso kuthera maola kumbuyo kwamafoni ndi ma laputopu omwe amachepetsa ma libidos athu. Kapenanso kuti tili otanganidwa kwambiri kuchita kuti tinaiwala kuchitirana wina ndi mnzake. (Zokhudzana: Zinthu 6 Zomwe Anthu Omwe Amakhala Mmodzi Amodzi Angaphunzire kuchokera ku Maubwenzi Otseguka)

Pamene ndinali kuyang'ana kalendala yanga posachedwa, ndinazindikira mowopsya kuti sikuti ine ndi mwamuna wanga sitinagonane kwa mwezi woposa mwezi umodzi-koma kuti tinali tisanagonepo. kukhudza wina ndi mnzake kupitirira kupsompsonana kwabwino m'mawa kapena usiku.

Dziwani njira zogonana.

Ndidabwera ndi lingaliro lalikulu nditamvera audiobook ya Rachel Hollis 'Mtsikana, Samba Nkhope Yako. Ndinakakamira amuna anga ndi kachasu ndikumuuza kuti: "Tigonana tsiku lililonse masiku 30. Ndipo wanga orgasm ndiye cholinga chake."

Ndinaona kunyezimira m'diso lake. Kundipatsa ziwonetsero zomwe ndimakonda kwambiri. Zinasintha liti-komanso koposa zonse, chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa chake zinali zovomerezeka kuyatsa.

Tsiku 1: Tinagonana kotentha. Tili ndi izi!

Tsiku 2: Munthu, Pulogalamu yaWophunzira ili pa. Ndipo tili ndi nyengo yachiwiri yonse ya Ozark penyani! Ugh, ndi mochedwa kwambiri. Mwina tingangoyamba mwalamulo kuyesa mawa?

Tsiku 3: Ulendo wabizinesi

Tsiku 4: Nthawi ya chokoleti = chokani kwa ine

Tsiku 5: Mulungu, timayamwa izi. Chifukwa chiyani sitigonana?!?

Ndazindikira kuti ine ndi mwamuna wanga sitichita bwino chifukwa chokakamizidwa. Tinkadziwa kuti sitikugonana, koma kuyitana kuti masekondi asanu aliwonse sikunathandize. Ndinafufuza ubongo wanga chifukwa cha kinky yanga yapita, ndikufunafuna mtundu wina wamakhadi oti ndisewere. Ndinapita kumakalasi azakugonana, pomwe azimayi amapatsa ma pink dildos blowjobs ndi mtundu wachangu womwe umasungidwira ophunzira njinga. Ndinagona ndi mkazi. Ndinali ndi atatu. Ndinagonana m'malo amtundu uliwonse omwe amapangitsa anthu ambiri manyazi.

Ndiye ndichifukwa chiyani sindinadziwe momwe ndimagonera mchipinda chathu chomwe chinali mnyumba yathu yomwe timakhala? Zachidziwikire, china chake sichinali kuwonjezera.

Pamafunso aposachedwa a podcast m'buku langa, ndidafunsa omwe adakwatirana momwe amayenderana ndi ntchito, kulera ana, komanso maubwenzi achikondi. Mkazi adaseka nati: "Ndavala zovala zamanyazi kenako tituluka m'malo mwathu." Mwamunayo anapitiliza kuti: "Ndikamuyang'ana kunyumba kwathu, sindikuwona zachiwerewere. Ndikuwona mayi."

Nenani za mphindi yaying'ono. Sindimamuwona mwamuna wanga ngati munthu wogonana-ndinkamuwona ngati bambo kwa mwana wathu wamkazi. Monga chikwatu chochapira. Monga wophika.

Ngati tikufuna kugonana, timayenera kuchoka kumalo athu. Kukaniza nthawi yomweyo kumangoyenda mutu. Koma tili ndi mwana wazaka 6! Sitingangopita kukamwa zakumwa Lachiwiri usiku! Ndiyenera kutuluka mu zovala zanga zogonera, kukwera galimoto, ndikupita kwina! Zowopsya!

Koma posakhalitsa, tinaganiza zokwanira ndipo tinakhazikitsa malamulo.

1. Ikani chidule cha satana chomwe chimadziwika kuti foni yanu. Kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti mafoni am'manja asokoneza maubwenzi athu onse, makamaka achikondi athu. Ngati mumapezeka kuti mukuyang'ana foni yanu m'malo moyang'ana mnzanuyo, ikani kabokosiko m'bokosi ndipo mverani munthu amene amakukondani. Sankhani kukhala ndi chidziwitso-osataya nthawi pafoni yanu. (Werengani: Zinthu 5 Zomwe Ndaphunzira Nditasiya Kuyika Foni Yanga Pogona)
2. Dziwani nthawi yomwe mumakonda kwambiri kugonana. Ndine munthu wogonana m'mawa. Ikakwana 11 koloko, sikuti sindikufuna kugonana kokha, ndimakhala wokwiya poganizira zomwe tingachite. pambuyo timagonana. Ngati izi zikutanthauza kuti tiyenera kukhazikitsa alamu mphindi 15 m'mbuyomo (ndimasewera ndani-mochuluka ngati mphindi zisanu), ndizomwe tingachite.
3. Letsani bedi lanu. Kwezani dzanja lanu ngati mukugonana ndi sayansi ndipo zambiri zomwe zimachitika mchipinda? Posachedwapa, ine ndi mwamuna wanga tinagonana m’galimoto m’njira yathu, tikumamvetsera nyimbo yochititsa chidwi. Zinandipangitsa kumva kuti ndili ndi moyo m'njira yomwe sindinakhale nayo kwa nthawi yayitali. Khalani ochita chidwi.
4. Pangani zokondana tsiku lililonse. Tinene kuti: Ambiri aife sitigonana tsiku lililonse, koma titha kukhala okondana. Tengani mphindi zisanu kuti muyang'ane ndi wokondedwa wanu ndikuyankhula zomwe mumakonda pa iwo. Pangani ngati achinyamata achichepere. Gwiranani manja. Muzikumbatirana nthawi yaitali. Ingopeza nthawi yolumikizira.
5. Dziwani zomwe zimakupangitsani inu nonse. Kodi ndi liti pamene munadzifunsa nokha kapena mnzanuyo kuti nthawi yanu ndi yotani? Kodi mumadziwa? Ndidamufunsa mwamuna wanga kuti ndipo anali ngati, "Um…." Ndikutanthauza, kwenikweni? Palibe? Lowetsani mutu wanu m'ngalande, bwanawe! Ndikudziwa kuti wanga ndi.
6. Khalani ndi orgasm tsiku lililonse. Chabwino, ngati lingaliro logonana tsiku lililonse limakupangitsani kuti musokoneze, izi siziyenera. Khalani ndi chilakolako. Nokha. Ndi chithandizo. Mulimonse. Mwamuna wanga adandigulira chovutira chodabwitsa kwambiri, ndipo ndimachisunga pogona panga usiku. Zimatenga mphindi zitatu kuti ndithe kumasulidwa tsiku lililonse, ngakhale zitakhala ife sakukhala busy, Ine am. (Malangizo 13 abodzawa athandiza kwambiri.)
7. Lekani kuyankhula ndikuyamba kuchita ... wina ndi mnzake. Kodi mukudziwa kuti takhala nthawi yochuluka bwanji tikukambirana za kuchuluka kwa zomwe sitikugonana? Ndi liti pamene tikanangokhala tikugonana? Kugonana ndimachitidwe. Nthawi zambiri zimakulumikiza ndipo zimakupangitsa kuti uzimva bwino. Ingochitani.

Mosasamala kanthu kuti mwatopa kapena ana anu akukhala tinthu tating'onoting'ono, pangani kugonana kosangalatsanso. Osazitenga mozama. Khalani okoma mtima kwa inu nokha. Ndipo zindikirani kuti muyenera kukhazikitsa chitsanzo cha kuchuluka kwa kugonana komwe kumakwanira pachibwenzi chanu-osati zomwe nkhani ina imanena osati zomwe hule lomwe limagonana masiku asanu ndi awiri pa sabata limanena. Lekani kumvetsera kwa wina aliyense ndipo mvetserani kwa mwamuna, mkazi, kapena mnzanu amene wayima patsogolo panu: Zokwanira bwanji? Ndi ndalama zingati?

Chilichonse chomwe mungasankhe, sangalalani ndi gawo ili laubwenzi wanu. Yesani zinthu zatsopano. Dzidabwitseni nokha ... ndi mnzanu.

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