Zomwe Muyenera Kudziwa Ponena za Anzanu Oganiza

Zamkati

• Zikutanthauza chiyani?
• Zolinga za 5 zokhala ndi mnzanu wongoyerekeza
• Kodi ndizabwino kuti ana akhale ndi bwenzi longoyerekeza?
• Kodi makolo ayenera kuchita chiyani?
• Bwanji ngati mnzanu wongoyerekeza akuwopsyeza?
• Kodi ana amakula zaka zingati?
• Kodi imalumikizidwa ndi schizophrenia?
• Nanga bwanji ngati wamkulu ali ndi mnzake wongoyerekeza?
• Nthawi yoti muwonane ndi dokotala
• Mfundo yofunika

Kukhala ndi bwenzi longoyerekeza, lomwe nthawi zina limatchedwa mnzake wongoyerekeza, kumawerengedwa kuti ndi gawo labwino komanso labwino la masewera aubwana.

Kafufuzidwe ka abwenzi ongoganiza kwakhala kukuchitika kwazaka zambiri, madokotala ndi makolo mofananamo akudabwa kuti ndiwathanzi kapena "wabwinobwino."

Kafukufuku wambiri wasonyeza mobwerezabwereza kuti nthawi zambiri ndi gawo lachilengedwe la ana ambiri.

Kafukufuku wam'mbuyomu akuti 65% ya ana mpaka azaka 7 anali ndi anzawo ongoganiza.

Zikutanthauza chiyani?

Si zachilendo kuti ana apange mabwenzi kapena anzawo ongoganiza - munthu amene angalankhule naye, kucheza naye, komanso kusewera naye.

Omwe amanamizira kuti ndi abwenzi atha kutenga chilichonse: mnzake wosawoneka, nyama, chinthu china chodabwitsa, kapena mkati mwa chinthu, monga chidole kapena nyama yodzaza.

Kafukufuku wambiri wasonyeza kuti kukhala ndi mnzanu wongoyerekeza ndi mtundu wathanzi wamasewera aubwana.Kafukufuku apezanso kuti pakhoza kukhala maubwino ena pakukula kwa ana omwe amapanga anzawo ongoganiza.

Ubwino wake ndi monga:

• kuzindikira kwamtundu wapamwamba
• kucheza kwambiri
• zinathandiza kuti zinthu ziziyenda bwino
• njira zothanirana ndi mavuto
• kukulitsa kumvetsetsa kwamamvedwe

Anzanu ongoganiza atha kupatsa mwana wanuubwenzi, kuthandizira, zosangalatsa, ndi zina zambiri.

Zolinga za 5 zokhala ndi mnzanu wongoyerekeza

Mu 2017, ofufuza adalongosola zolinga zisanu zokhala ndi bwenzi longoyerekeza:

1. kuthetsa mavuto ndi kusamalira malingaliro
2. kuwunika malingaliro
3. kukhala ndi mnzako wamasewera osangalatsa
4. kukhala ndi wina kuti athane ndi kusungulumwa
5. kulola ana kuti afufuze zamakhalidwe ndi maudindo muubwenzi

Kodi ndizabwino kuti ana akhale ndi bwenzi longoyerekeza?

Ngakhale makolo ena amakhala ndi nkhawa, sizachilendo kwa mwana kukhala ndi mnzake wongoyerekeza.

Poyerekeza ndi ana omwe alibe bwenzi longoyerekeza, ana omwe alibe sali osiyana m'njira izi:

• mikhalidwe yambiri yamunthu
• dongosolo la banja
• chiwerengero cha abwenzi osaganizira
• zochitika kusukulu

M'mbuyomu, akatswiri amakhulupirira kuti kukhala ndi bwenzi longoyerekeza kumawonetsa vuto kapena matenda amisala. Malinga ndi izi, malingaliro awa adasokonezedwa.

Ngakhale anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti ana azaka zakubadwa kusukulu ali ndi anzawo ongoganiza, sizachilendo kwa ana okulirapo kukhala nawo, nawonso.

Kafukufuku wakale wopezeka kwa ana azaka zapakati pa 5 mpaka 12 anali ndi anzawo amalingaliro.

Atsikana ali ndi mwayi wambiri kuposa anyamata kukhala ndi anzawo ongoganiza.

Lingaliro lingakhale gawo lofunikira pamasewera ndi chitukuko cha mwana. Kukhala ndi bwenzi longoyerekeza kungathandize mwana kuwunika maubwenzi ndikugwiritsa ntchito luso lawo.

Kodi makolo ayenera kuchita chiyani?

Ngati mwana wanu akukuuzani za mnzake wongoyerekeza, mufunseni mafunso. Mutha kuphunzira zambiri za mwana wanu, zokonda zake, komanso zomwe mnzake wongoganiza angawachitire.

Mwachitsanzo, kodi bwenzi lawo longoyerekeza likuwaphunzitsa momwe angachitire ndi anzawo?

Itha kuthandizanso kusewera limodzi. Ikani malo owonjezera pa chakudya chamadzulo, kapena mufunseni mwana wanu ngati mnzake akubwera maulendo, mwachitsanzo.

Ngati mwana wanu kapena mnzake wongonamizira mnzake amafunafuna kapena amachititsa mavuto, mutha kukhazikitsa malire. Palibe chifukwa choperekera machitidwe oyipa, kunamizira kapena kwina. Kuphatikiza apo, kukhazikitsa malire ikhoza kukhala nthawi yophunzitsira.

Bwanji ngati mnzanu wongoyerekeza akuwopsyeza?

Ngakhale abwenzi ambiri ongoganiza amawonedwa ngati okoma mtima, ochezeka, komanso omvera, si onse omwe adanenedwa choncho. Ena amatchedwa osokoneza, olamulira, kapena achiwawa.

Ndizotheka kuti abwenzi ena ongoganiza amaopa, kukhumudwitsa, kapena kuyambitsa mikangano ndi ana. Pomwe ana ambiri amafotokozera kuwongolera kapena kukopa pamachitidwe amnzeru zongoganiza, ana ena amawafotokozera kuti sangathe kuwalamulira.

Ngakhale sizikumveka kwathunthu chifukwa chomwe bwenzi longoyerekeza lingakhale loopsa, zikuwoneka kuti maubale omwe amaganiziridwawa amaperekabe phindu kwa mwanayo.

Maubwenzi ovutawa atha kumathandizabe mwana kuyanjana ndi anzawo komanso kuthana ndi zovuta mdziko lenileni.

Kodi ana amakula zaka zingati?

Makolo ena amakhala ndi nkhawa kuti ana omwe ali ndi anzawo ongoganiza samamvetsetsa zenizeni motsutsana ndi malingaliro, koma izi sizowona.

M'malo mwake, ana ambiri amamvetsetsa anzawo omwe amangoganiza kuti amanamizira.

Mwana aliyense ndi wosiyana ndipo adzakula kuchokera mu gawo ili la moyo wawo munthawi yake. Pali malipoti enanso a ana ochepera zaka 7 ndi anzawo ongoganiza, ngakhale malipoti ena awonetsa abwenzi ongoganiza omwe alipo mwa ana mpaka zaka 12.

Palibe chifukwa chodandaula ngati mwana wamkulu akulankhulabe za mnzake wongoyerekeza.

Ngati muli ndi nkhawa chifukwa chamakhalidwe a mwana wanu - osati kungoti ali ndi anzawo omwe amanamizira kuti ndi abwenzi awo - mutha kufikira katswiri wazamisala yemwe amakhazikika pa chisamaliro cha ana.

Kodi imalumikizidwa ndi schizophrenia?

Zikafika pamalingaliro owoneka bwino, makolo angakayikire ngati mwana wawo akumangokhalira kuona zinthu m'maganizo kapena matenda amisala.

Kukhala ndi bwenzi longoyerekeza sikofanana ndi kukumana ndi zizindikilozi, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimalumikizidwa ndi schizophrenia.

Schizophrenia siziwonetsa zisonyezo mpaka munthu azaka zapakati pazaka.

Matenda aubwana-schizophrenia ndi osowa komanso ovuta kuwazindikira. Zikachitika, zimachitika pambuyo pa zaka 5 koma asanakwanitse zaka 13.

Zizindikiro zina za schizophrenia yaubwana ndizo:

• paranoia
• amasintha malingaliro
• kuyerekezera zinthu zakale, monga kumva mawu kapena kuwona zinthu
• kusintha kwadzidzidzi pamakhalidwe

Ngati mwana wanu akusintha mwadzidzidzi pamakhalidwe awo ndipo akukumana ndi zina zambiri kuposa bwenzi longoyerekeza, pitani kwa adotolo awo kapena kwa akatswiri azaumoyo.

Ngakhale zisonyezo za schizophrenia ndi abwenzi omwe amangoganiza nthawi zambiri amakhala osiyana komanso osiyana, pamakhala zovuta zina zamaganizidwe ndi thupi zomwe zimatha kulumikizana.

Kafukufuku ku 2006, mwachitsanzo, adapeza kuti ana omwe amakula ndi vuto lodzipatula amakhala ndi mwayi wokhala ndi bwenzi longoyerekeza.

Matenda a Dissociative ndimatenda amisala momwe munthu amakhudzidwira ndi chowonadi.

Kafukufuku wina wanena kuti achikulire omwe ali ndi Down syndrome amakhala ndi anzawo ambiri am'malingaliro ndipo amatha kuwathandiza kuti akhale achikulire.

Nanga bwanji ngati wamkulu ali ndi mnzake wongoyerekeza?

Palibe kafukufuku wambiri pa abwenzi ongoganiza atakula.

Kafukufuku waposachedwa, ofufuza adapeza kuti mwa omwe adafufuzidwa akuti adakumana ndi mnzawo wongoyerekeza atakula. Komabe, uku kudali kukula kocheperako ndipo kunali ndi malire. Kufufuzanso kwina kuli kofunika.

Izi zikunenedwa, zikuwoneka kuti palibe chisonyezo choti bwenzi longoyerekeza kupitilira pakukula limatanthauza china chilichonse chosiyana ndi chaubwana.

Kungakhale chabe chizindikiro cha kuthana kapena malingaliro olimba, ngakhale akatswiri sakudziwa.

Kumbali inayi, ngati munthu wamkulu amva mawu, amawona zinthu zomwe palibe, kapena amakumana ndi zizindikilo zina za kuyerekezera zinthu m'maganizo kapena matenda amisala, matenda amisala, monga schizophrenia, atha kusewera.

Nthawi yoti muwonane ndi dokotala

Nthawi zambiri, abwenzi olingalira amakhala osavulaza komanso abwinobwino. Koma ngati mukukhulupirira kuti mwana wanu akukumana ndi zina zambiri, onani dokotala wawo wamkulu.

Nthawi iliyonse momwe mwana wanu amasinthira modetsa nkhawa kapena akayamba kuda nkhawa, funani thandizo kuchokera kwa dokotala wa mwana wanu kapena katswiri wazachipatala.

Ngati mnzanu wongoyerekeza wa mwana wanu amakhala wowopsa, wankhanza, kapena wowopsa kwa mwana wanu, kuwunika ndi katswiri wazamisala kumatha kukupatsani mtendere wamaganizidwe.

Kuti mupeze dokotala pafupi ndi inu, tsatirani izi:

• wofufuza zamaganizidwe
• katswiri wazamaganizidwe

Muthanso kufunsa mlangizi wololeza, wamwino wazamisala, kapena dokotala wina yemwe angakuthandizeni.

Mfundo yofunika

Kukhala ndi bwenzi longoyerekeza ndi gawo labwinobwino komanso lathanzi pamasewera aunyamata. Kukhala nayo kwawonetsanso zabwino pakukula kwaubwana.

Ngati mwana wanu ali ndi mnzake wongoyerekeza, zili bwino. Amatha kutuluka mu nthawi yawo pomwe amasiya kufunikira maluso omwe mnzake akuwaphunzitsa.