Momwe Mungapangire Luso Langa

Zamkati

• Zomwe iwo ali
• Chifukwa chake ali ofunikira
• Pangani (ndikusunga) ndandanda
• Yendetsani luso lanu lachilengedwe
• Yesani kusinkhasinkha
• Pangani nthawi yodziwonetsera nokha
• Sungani zolemba zanu
• Khalani achifundo
• Yesetsani kudzilankhula nokha
• Tengani mwayi
• Ganizirani zolinga zanu
• Lankhulani ndi wothandizira

Zomwe iwo ali

Ngakhale kuti simutha kuthera nthawi yochuluka poganizira za luso lanu lokhalira kuchita zinthu zina, zimayamba kusewera pafupipafupi. M'malo mwake, mwina mumagwiritsa ntchito maluso awa m'malo ambiri m'moyo wanu.

Maluso oyanjana nawo ("mkati mwanu") maluso amkati ndi machitidwe omwe amakuthandizani kuthana ndi malingaliro, kuthana ndi zovuta, ndikuphunzira zatsopano.

Maluso awa, omwe amakhudzana ndi luntha lamaganizidwe, amaphatikizapo zinthu monga:

• kudzidalira
• kupirira
• kudziletsa
• kulimbikira
• kutseguka kwa malingaliro atsopano
• kutha kuthana ndi zosokoneza
• kasamalidwe ka nthawi

Chifukwa chake ali ofunikira

Mwinamwake mwazindikira kuti maluso awa onse ali ndi chochita ndi kuthekera kwanu pakudziyang'anira pawokha.

Anthu omwe ali ndi luso lodziletsa nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi nthawi yosavuta:

• kuwongolera machitidwe ndi malingaliro
• zovuta zakuthambo
• kuyesetsa kukwaniritsa zolinga ngakhale kuti pali zododometsa

Mosiyana ndi luso laumunthu monga kumvetsera mwachidwi, maluso omwe mumakhala nawo sangakhale ndi vuto lililonse mukamacheza ndi ena. Koma ndizofunikabe.

Osadandaula ngati maluso awa samabwera kwa inu mwachilengedwe. Ndizotheka mwamphamvu kukulitsa nzeru zamunthu. Malangizo 10 pansipa angathandize.

Pangani (ndikusunga) ndandanda

Kodi muli ndi maudindo ambiri oti muzichita?

Mwinamwake mumayiwala kawirikawiri za kudzipereka kapena kulola ntchito zomwe simukuzikonda kuunjikana chifukwa simumafuna kuzichita.

Ndizovuta kuti muyambe pomwe simukudziwa komwe mungayambire. Mumangokhalira kuzengereza, koma zowonadi zimakusiyani ndi nthawi yocheperako yochitira ntchito zonse (zomwe zingakhale zosasangalatsa).

Ngati mumakonda kusiya ntchito mukakhala ndi zambiri zoti muchite, yesetsani kupanga ndandanda yomwe imaphatikizapo kudzipereka pantchito ndi nthawi yokumana pamodzi ndi zochitika zina, ntchito zapakhomo, ndi kudzisamalira, monga kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndi kupumula.

Izi zitha kuthandiza chifukwa:

• kukhala ndi zikumbutso za zonse zomwe muyenera kumaliza kumatha kukuthandizani kuti mukhale oyenera ngakhale pali zosokoneza
• kulinganiza zochitika zosangalatsa kumakukumbutsani kuti pali zambiri zoyembekezera kuposa phiri lochapa zovala

Pambuyo pa masabata angapo, mutha kuwona kusintha kwamomwe mumagwiritsira ntchito nthawi yanu- popanda thandizo la ndandanda.

Yendetsani luso lanu lachilengedwe

Ndi anthu ochepa kwambiri mwachilengedwe mwanjira iliyonse, ndipo zili bwino! Koma mwina muli ndi mphamvu zina, ngakhale simukuzizindikira.

Mwina muli ndi luso loleza mtima ndi ana ang'onoang'ono kapena anzanu amwano, koma simuleza mtima nokha mukalakwitsa.

Kapenanso mwina ndinu wothetsa mavuto kuntchito koma mumavutika kuthana ndi zovuta pamoyo wanu.

Sizachilendo kufotokozera maluso akunja munjira zopindulitsa ena ndikulephera kugwiritsa ntchito maluso omwewo pazomwe mwakumana nazo.

Izi zitha kukupangitsani kuti zikuwoneke ngati mulibe maluso amenewo, pomwe mukuona kuti ndizosavuta kuthandiza anthu ena. Koma inunso muyenera kukuthandizani.

Yambani kuchita izi mwa kulingalira zomwe mungachitire wina momwe mungakhalire.

Ngati mungalimbikitse mnzanu kuti azitsatira china chake chovuta, mwachitsanzo, onetsani kulimbikira kwanu m'malo motaya mtima.

Yesani kusinkhasinkha

Kusinkhasinkha kungakuthandizeni kuphunzira kuzindikira ndikuvomereza zomwe mukuganiza ndikumverera osakodwa ndi mizere yolakwika kapena kudziweruza.

Ndiko kuchita kwa anthu ambiri omwe akuyang'ana kuti awonjezere kuzindikira kwamalingaliro.

Ubwino wake waukulu ndi monga:

• kupumula

Mwinanso zotsatirazi sizikuthandizani mwachindunji kuti mudzilumikizenso nokha. Koma zitha kuthandizira pakukhazikika kwathanzi komanso kwamaganizidwe.

Kumva kwamphamvu m'maganizo ndi mwakuthupi kumatha kuthandizira kukulitsa kutsimikiza mtima kwanu, kukupangitsa kukhala kosavuta kuthana ndi zovuta.

Kusinkhasinkha kulinso ndi maubwino ena oyenera pakudziwonjezera kudzizindikira:

• Ikhoza kukuthandizani kuti muziyang'ana kwambiri bwino, zomwe zingayambitse mbali zonse za moyo.
• Kulingalira mozama kufunitsitsa kwanu kulingalira njira zatsopano zothetsera mavuto.

Pangani nthawi yodziwonetsera nokha

Kuzilingalira kumawoneka ngati ntchito yayikulu kwambiri. Ndipo inde, izo angathe kuphimba nthaka yambiri.

Koma zimangotanthauza kuganizira zochita zanu, zosankha zanu, ndi zinthu zofunika pamoyo wanu, kuphatikizapo zomwe mumakonda komanso okondedwa anu.

Mukadziwonetsa nokha, mutha kukhala ndi chidwi ndi zizolowezi zomwe zimakuyenderani bwino komanso komwe mumakumana ndi zovuta.

Mwina inu:

• pewani anzanu m'malo modalira iwowo polimbana ndi mavuto
• kuzengereza kugwira ntchito kuntchito pomwe simukuzimvetsa

Njirayi ingathandizenso kulimbitsa chidziwitso chanu cha anthu ndi zinthu zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri.

Izi zimakupatsani mwayi wofufuza njira zatsopano zakukwaniritsira kapena kugwiritsitsa zinthuzo.

Mwachitsanzo, anzanu amatanthauza zambiri kwa inu, ndiye mukuganiza kuti muyenera kupeza njira yothanirana ndi mavuto omwe simukufuna kuwatseka.

Sungani zolemba zanu

Kulemba zamankhwala kumatha kukuthandizani kuti muzilumikizana ndi inu nokha pamalingaliro akuya popereka mbiri yooneka ya malingaliro ndi momwe mumamvera kuti mudzakumbukire mtsogolo.

Zolemba zanu ndizolembedwa za inu. Imakhala ndi malo abwino osungira zolinga, malingaliro, ndi zokumana nazo tsiku lililonse.

Zimathandizanso kudziwa zinthu zomwe mukufuna kuthana nazo, monga kudzidalira kapena kusalimbikitsa.

Kusunga zolemba kumatha kuwonetsanso kukula pakapita nthawi.

Mukakayikira luso lanu lamkati kapena kumva ngati simunakwaniritse zambiri, kuyang'ana m'mbuyo miyezi kapena zaka zapitazo kumatha kukuwonetsani komwe luso lanu lidawonekera.

Mwinamwake mudathetsa mavuto bwino kapena mudakhala ndi kulimba mtima kuti mubwerere ku kutha kopweteka, mwachitsanzo.

Khalani achifundo

Kuchulukitsa chifundo kwa ena kumatha kukuthandizani kuti muzitha kudziwa bwino momwe mukumvera ndikuthandizira kuti chisoni chanu chikule.

Chifundo sichimabwera mosavuta nthawi zonse. Nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta makamaka kukhala ndi chifundo kwa anthu omwe amachitira anzawo zoipa ndikuwonetsa machitidwe osakoma mtima, osasamala.

Koma mwambi wakuti "Dziyikireni nokha" nthawi zonse ndi malo abwino kuyamba. Kulingalira kawonedwe ka munthu wina nthawi zambiri kumapereka chidziwitso pazifukwa zomwe angachitire zinthu zina.

Kuchita mokoma mtima kungathandizenso kukulitsa malingaliro abwino kwa ena ndi inu eni.

Zimathandizanso kukumbukira aliyense amalakwitsa.

Ngati mukuchita manyazi kapena kudziimba mlandu chifukwa cha chinthu chomwe mumanong'oneza bondo, kumbukirani kuti tonsefe timachita zinthu zomwe timafuna kuti zitithe. Moyo sumapereka ma-overs, koma mutha kuyesanso nthawi zonse.

Nthawi yachiwiri (kapena yachitatu) mozungulira, mudzakhala ndi chidziwitso chambiri komanso zokumana nazo, ndikuwonjezera mwayi wanu wolondola.

Chifundo ndi zina zodzidziwitsira zimapangitsa kukhala kosavuta:

• kuzindikira kumene inu mwalakwitsa
• kuvomereza kuti zoyambitsa komanso zovuta zamunthu nthawi zambiri zimapangitsa kukhala kovuta kusankha bwino nthawi zonse
• khulupirirani kuti anthu ambiri (kuphatikiza nokha) akuyesera kuchita zomwe angathe ndi zomwe ali nazo

Yesetsani kudzilankhula nokha

Momwe mumadzilankhulira nokha ndikudziganizira nokha zimakhudza kwambiri zomwe mumakumana nazo mkati.

Maganizo olakwika ndi kudzitsutsa koopsa kungaoneke ngati njira yabwino yodzilimbikitsira ndikudziyankhira nokha pazolakwa, koma nthawi zambiri, izi zimakhala ndi zotsutsana.

M'malo modziderera mumtima mukasokoneza, yesani kuyang'ana komwe mudakwanitsa m'malo mwake. Nchiyani chinakuyenderani bwino?

Ndibwino kuti muzindikire komwe mungakhale ndi malo okula. Koma kudzitamandira chifukwa cha mphamvu ndi kuchita bwino kungakuthandizeni kuyandikira malo ofookawa molimba mtima komanso molimbika.

Kuchita izi kungathandize kuti kukhale kosavuta kuyesanso nthawi ina.

Tengani mwayi

Kuyesa china chatsopano kumatha kukhala kowopsa. Nthawi zambiri zimawoneka ngati zotetezeka kutsatira zomwe mukudziwa kale kuti zikugwira ntchito.

Koma nthawi zina chiopsezo chaching'ono chimatha kulipira, kaya ndinu:

• kuyesera kuti ubale ukhale wolimba
• kuyamba ntchito yatsopano
• kutenga chizolowezi chatsopano

Kutsatira machitidwe omwewo kumatha kukulepheretsani ndikulepheretsani kuti mupeze njira zina zomwe zingakwaniritse zosowa zanu moyenera.

Kuyika pachiwopsezo komwe kumathera mu kupambana kungakulitse kudzidalira kwanu ndikukulimbikitsani kuti mupitirize kuyesa zatsopano.

Koma kutenga mwayi womwe sungagwire ntchito kumatha kubweretsa kupita patsogolo.

Mukukulabe mikhalidwe monga kupirira komanso kulimbikira, popeza kupyola mu zovuta kumakuwonetsani kuti ndizotheka kupitiriza ndikuyesanso.

Ganizirani zolinga zanu

Zolinga zimanena zambiri za yemwe inu muli monga munthu ndi zomwe zimakuyendetsani. Amathandizira kudziwitsa zosankha zanu ndikupanga moyo wanu.

Ndikofunika kukhala ndi zolinga, zamtsogolo komanso zakutali kwambiri.

Kuchita bwino ndi zolinga zing'onozing'ono, monga kusiya chizolowezi chosafunikira kapena kuwerenga buku mwezi uliwonse, kungakupatseni mphamvu kuti mupange zolinga zikuluzikulu zomwe zimafunikira kuyesetsa kwakanthawi, monga kuchepetsa kuponda kwanu kapena kukhala munthu wowona mtima kwathunthu.

Zolinga zenizeni zingaganizire zomwe simungakwanitse komanso zomwe mumakwanitsa kuchita.

Kuzindikira zomwe mwachita m'mbuyomu kumakulimbikitsanso kuzindikira kwanu komanso kukulimbikitsani kulimba mtima kwanu kuti muchitepo kanthu ndikulingalira zamtsogolo.

Kuganizira za munthu yemwe mukufuna kukhala kungakuthandizeni kupitiliza kukhazikitsa zolinga zakukwaniritsa malotowo.

Lankhulani ndi wothandizira

Sizovuta nthawi zonse kukulitsa nzeru zamaganizidwe wekha, makamaka ngati mungodziwa zochepa chabe za mikhalidwe yomwe mukufuna kulimbikitsa.

Mothandizidwa ndi othandizira, nthawi zambiri mutha kukulitsa kudzizindikira kwanu mukazindikira zovuta kapena madera omwe amakukhudzani m'malingaliro ndi zizolowezi zanu.

Wothandizira amathanso kukuthandizani kulumikizana ndi njira zina kubwereranso ku luso laumwini ndikupatseni chitsogozo pamadera oyenera kuwunika kwina.

Mwachitsanzo, ngati mukuvutika kuti mudzikhululukire zolakwa zomwe mwachita, wothandizira atha kukuthandizani kuti muziyanjana ndi kudzimvera chisoni mumtima ndikuphunzitsani maluso olimbikitsira kudzidalira.

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