Okondedwa Ogwira Ntchito Zaumoyo: Mwezi Wathu Wodziwitsa Anthu 'Watha.' Kodi Munaiwala za Ife?

Zamkati

• 1. Ngati mukuti simukuyimbira foni, onetsetsani kuti ndizowona
• 2. Lankhulani zaumoyo wamaganizidwe ndi anthu m'moyo wanu
• 3. Perekani upangiri, koma khalani wofunitsitsa kuphunzira
• Kumbukirani: Zinthu zazing'ono nthawi zambiri zimakhala zofunika kwambiri

Palibe ngakhale miyezi iwiri pambuyo pake ndipo zokambiranazo zamwalira.

Mwezi Wodziwitsa Anthu Zaumoyo Wamalonda udatha pa Juni 1. Sipadadutse miyezi iwiri ndipo zokambiranazo zidazimiranso.

May adadzazidwa ndikulankhula zenizeni zakukhala ndi matenda amisala, ngakhale kupereka chithandizo ndi chilimbikitso kwa iwo omwe angafunike.

Koma ndi chowonadi chowononga kuti, ngakhale zili choncho, zinthu zikuwoneka monga momwe zidalili kale: kusowa kuwonekera, kudziona kuti ndiwosafunika, komanso kwaya yamawu othandizira ikuchepa pang'onopang'ono.

Zimachitika chaka chilichonse. Timakhala mwezi wathunthu tikulankhula zaumoyo wamaganizidwe chifukwa zikuyenda munkhani komanso pa intaneti. Chifukwa ndi "zofunikira" - ngakhale zili zofunikira kwa ife omwe tikukhala nawo masiku 365 pachaka.

Koma matenda amisala si chizolowezi. Sizinthu zomwe ziyenera kuyankhulidwa kwa masiku 31 okha, kupeza zochepa zomwe amakonda komanso kubwereza, kuti nkhani zathu zizikhala chete pambuyo pake.

M'mwezi wodziwitsa, timauza anthu kuti alankhule ngati akuvutika. Kuti tili nawo. Kuti timangoyimbira foni.

Timapanga malonjezo okhala ndi zolinga zabwino kuti tidzaonekera, koma nthawi zambiri, malonjezo amenewo amakhala opanda pake - masenti awiri okha omwe amaponyedwa pomwe mutuwo unali "wofunikira."

Izi zikuyenera kusintha. Tiyenera kuchitapo kanthu pazomwe tikunena, ndikupanga thanzi lam'mutu kukhala tsiku loyamba la masiku 365 pachaka. Umu ndi momwe.

1. Ngati mukuti simukuyimbira foni, onetsetsani kuti ndizowona

Uwu ndi uthenga wamba womwe ndimawona pa intaneti: Anthu amangotumizirana mameseji kapena kuyimbirana foni ngati okondedwa awo akufuna kuyankhula. Koma nthawi zambiri, sizowona.

Wina adzawatenga pazoperekazi pokhapokha kuyitanidwa kwawo kukanidwa kapena kulekerera mawu, kapena amalandira uthenga wosazindikira, ndikuwachotsa kwathunthu m'malo mofunitsitsa kumvera ndikuwathandiza.

Ngati muuza anthu kuti adzakufikireni pamene akuvutika, khalani okonzeka kuyankha. Osapereka yankho lamawu awiri. Osanyalanyaza kuyitana. Musawapangitse kumva chisoni kukufunsirani thandizo.

Gwiritsitsani mawu anu. Apo ayi, musadandaule kuzinena konse.

2. Lankhulani zaumoyo wamaganizidwe ndi anthu m'moyo wanu

Ndimaziwona chaka ndi chaka: Anthu omwe sanalimbikitsepo zaumoyo wam'mbuyomu, kapena analankhula zakufuna kuthandiza ena nazo, mwadzidzidzi amatuluka m'nkhalango chifukwa ikuyenda.

Ndikhala woonamtima: Nthawi zina zolembedwazo zimawona kukhala zofunikira kuposa zowona mtima. Polemba za thanzi lam'mutu, ndimalimbikitsa anthu kuti afufuze ndi zolinga zawo. Kodi mukulemba chifukwa mukumva kuti "muyenera," chifukwa zikumveka bwino, kapena chifukwa choti ena onse ali? Kapena mukufuna kuwonetsa anthu omwe mumawakonda mwanzeru?

Mosiyana ndi kuzindikira kwapamwamba, mavuto amisala samatha pakatha mwezi umodzi. Simufunikanso kupanga chisonyezo chachikulu, mwina. Mutha kukhala athanzi m'maganizo mwanu.

Fufuzani ndi okondedwa anu omwe, inde, amafunikira kukumbutsidwa pafupipafupi kuti mulipo. Thandizani ngati muwona wina akuvutika. Funsani anthu kuti ali bwanji kwenikweni kuchita, ngakhale akuwoneka "abwino."

Kukhala komweko kwa anthu m'moyo wanu m'njira yopindulitsa ndikofunikira kwambiri kuposa momwe mudzalembere mwezi wa Meyi.

3. Perekani upangiri, koma khalani wofunitsitsa kuphunzira

Nthawi zambiri anthu amalankhula kwa ena kuti angobwezedwa ndi uphungu kapena ndemanga zopanda nzeru: Pali anthu omwe ali nazo zoyipa kwambiri. Palibe chomwe muyenera kukhumudwa nacho. Ingochotsani izi.

Dziwani kuti ndemanga izi sizothandiza. Zimasokoneza munthu yemwe ali ndi matenda amisala. Anthu amakumasukirani chifukwa akuona kuti akhoza kukukhulupirirani. Zimakhala zowononga mzimu mukawatsimikizira kuti ali olakwika.

Mverani zomwe akunena, ndipo ingogwirani malowo. Chifukwa choti mulibe chidziwitso pazomwe akukuuzani sizikutanthauza kuti malingaliro awo siabwino.

Khalani okonzeka kuphunzira ndikumvetsetsa zomwe akunena. Chifukwa ngakhale simukutha kupereka upangiri woyenera, podziwa kuti mukufunitsitsa kuyesa kumvetsetsa kumatanthauza dziko lapansi.

Kumbukirani: Zinthu zazing'ono nthawi zambiri zimakhala zofunika kwambiri

Pali zinthu zambiri zomwe zimawerengedwa ngati kupezeka kwa munthu yemwe ali ndi matenda amisala zomwe mwina simunazindikire.

Mwachitsanzo, ngati munthu athetsa mapulani chifukwa chofunitsitsa kuti atuluke panyumba, musawakwiyitse chifukwa cha iwo ndikuwatcha abwenzi oyipa. Musawapangitse kudzimva olakwa chifukwa chokhala ndi chikhalidwe chomwecho chomwe mukufuna kuwadziwitsa.

Anthu amatha kuda nkhawa kuti kupezeka wokondedwa wawo ali ndi matenda amisala ndi kudzipereka kwakukulu kapena udindo waukulu. Izi sizili choncho.

Omwe omwe tikulimbana ndi thanzi lathu samangokhala udindo wanu; nthawi zambiri matenda athu amatipangitsa kukhala ngati katundu wolemetsa monga momwe zilili. Zomwe timafunikiradi ndi munthu yemwe amamvetsetsa, kapena amatenga nthawi kuti atero.

Zinthu zazing'ono zimawerengedwa, ngakhale samva ngati "kulimbikitsa." Kutipempha kuti tipite kukamwa khofi kumatitulutsa m'nyumba kwakanthawi pang'ono. Kutumiza mawu kuti ticheze kumatikumbutsa kuti sitili tokha. Kuyitanira ife ku zochitika - ngakhale zitakhala zovuta kuti tipeze - zimatipangitsa kuzindikira kuti tidakali gulu la achifwamba. Kukhala komweko ngati phewa lolira kumatikumbutsa kuti timasamalidwa.

Sizingapangitse kukhala ndi hashtag yokhazikika, koma kukhalapo kwa wina munthawi yakuda kwambiri ndikofunika kwambiri.

Hattie Gladwell ndi mtolankhani wa zaumoyo, wolemba, komanso woimira milandu. Amalemba za matenda amisala akuyembekeza kuti achepetsa manyazi ndikulimbikitsa ena kuti alankhule.