Langizo: Kodi Ndimalimbana Bwanji Ndi Nkhani Zodalirika Zaubwenzi Wakale?

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Kukhala wochenjera pambuyo poti watenthedwa chibwenzi sikuli kwachilendo, koma ngati chibwenzi chanu chomaliza chidakuponyani pachingwe chomwe mumamva kuti muli ndi zipsera ngati momwe simudzadaliranso - ndiye nthawi ya ena kudziwonetsera nokha ndi upangiri.

Tengani nthawi kuti muchiritse, mwatsatanetsatane mbiri, ndikumvetsetsa ubale wanu womaliza kuti musanyamule katundu kupita ku wina wotsatira.

1. Pangani chodulidwacho kukhala choyera. Zamakono chikhalidwe TV kupanga kuchira kosiyana kotheratu ndi nthawi ina iliyonse mu mbiri yachikondi. Zikhulupiriro zanu zitha kukhala chifukwa choti kulumikizana kwakanthawi, ngakhale kokhako, kumapangitsa kuti kusamvana kwathunthu kukhale kosatheka. Ngakhale zitha kutanthauza kuti mudzaphonya makanema abwino kwambiri amphaka, tsekani kapena chepetsani Facebook mpaka mutasunthika.

2. Mvetsetsani kukhulupirirana. Nthawi zina timakopeka ndi anthu chifukwa cha mikhalidwe yosagwirizana: Kafukufuku wina pa yunivesite ya Charles ku Prague anapeza kuti anyamata a maso a bulauni amapereka chithunzi chodalirika. Zodabwitsa kwambiri, a University of St. Andrews mu 2010 ku Scotland adapeza kuti omwe adafunsidwa anali ndi tsankho lalikulu podalira nkhope zopapatiza za amuna. Musasunthe msanga, koma ngati mwamuna akupatsani chifukwa chokhulupirira—amachita zimene wanena, ndipo amakuchirikizani—mumvereni zimene wakuuzani m’malo moganizira zimene zinam’pweteka kumbuyo.

3. Osalakwitsa kawiri kawiri. Nthawi zambiri akazi amasankha mwamuna yemweyo poyesa "kumuweta" kapena "kumusintha" (mu psychology izi zimatchedwa "kukakamiza kubwereza"). Izi zitha kukhala ntchito yanthawi zonse yopanda phindu. Ngati bambo yemwe ali ndi mbiri yakubera adaswa chidaliro chanu, ndipo mumayamba chibwenzi ndi mnyamata wina yemwe amadziwika ndi diso lake loyendayenda ... mukudziwa komwe izi zikuchitika.

4. Dziwani kuzungulira kwanu. Ngakhale mungafune kuganiza kuti muli ndi ufulu wosankha, kusamba kwanu ndi mahomoni onga testosterone m'dongosolo lanu atha kukhala gawo lalikulu pamalingaliro anu pachibwenzi. Chosangalatsa kudziwa ndichakuti oxytocin, yemwe amaganiza kuti ndi bulangeti "yolumikizana ndi anthu", ndizovuta kwambiri. Pankhani ya vuto la kudalira kotsalira, oxytocin ikhoza kukhala yochititsa: Imakulitsa kukumbukira, zabwino ndi zoipa. Ngakhale kuti n'zosavuta kumenyana ndi mnyamata watsopano kuti abweretse maganizo oipa okhudza maubwenzi kuyambira kale (kapena nthawi zabwino kuti mumve bwino), khalani nawo. Kulola malingaliro abwino ndi oyipa kulowa mchikondi chatsopano kungasokoneze zochita zanu ndi zikhulupiriro zanu.

5. Khalani osamala mozungulira mphindi ziwiri. Ngati mukuyesanso ndi munthu yemweyo, mudzapeza zosangalatsa kuti kafukufuku watsopano wochokera ku Redeemer University College ku Ontario adapeza kuti kudalira kukhoza kukusokonezani kukumbukira, kumatipangitsa kuona zolakwa za mnzathu wakale ngati zopweteka kwambiri kuposa poyamba. ngati mungathe "kumukhulupiriranso". Koma kwa iwo amene sakhulupirira kwenikweni mnzawo, zikumbukiro za kutha kwa wokonda zimangowonjezereka pakapita nthawi.

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