Patti Stanger: "Zomwe Ndaphunzira Ponena za Chikondi"

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Ngati wina akudziwa zomwe zimafunika kuti apeze mnzanu woyenera, ndi matchmaker extraordinaire Patti Stanger. Chiwonetsero cha Stanger chotsogola komanso chotsutsana kwambiri cha Bravo Wopanga Millionaire, potengera bizinesi yake yopanga masewera Millionaire's Club ndipo pakadali pano yachisanu, atha kutiphunzitsako zochepa chabe za moyo ndi chikondi. Kuwona Stanger akugwira ntchito ndi mamiliyoni ambiri a anyamata oyipa kuli ngati kuwonera makina opaka mafuta. Kalembedwe kake kolimba mtima, kopanda tanthauzo kamene kamadutsa konyentchera pomwe amatenga zomwe akutanthauza kuti apeze chikondi lero. Koma pansi pa umunthu wake wodalirika, wodulidwa-kuthamangitsa pali munthu wamtima wokoma mtima, wauzimu, wachikondi yemwe amakhulupirira kwambiri mphamvu ndi chilakolako cha chikondi chenicheni.

eHarmony (eH): Kodi mukuganiza kuti munthu amafunikira chiyani kwa bwenzi lake kuti banja lawo liziyenda bwino?

Patti Stanger (PS): Ma C atatu: kulumikizana, chemistry ndi kuyanjana. Popanda izi, ubale utha.

eH: Kodi tiyenera kuzindikira chiyani zaife tisanakhale pachibwenzi?

PS: Mfundo yakuti palibe amene ali wangwiro, chilakolako chimatha ndipo mikangano ya zachuma ikhoza kusokoneza ubwenzi.

eH: Ndi zolakwa zotani zomwe timapanga poyesa kupeza chikondi cha moyo wathu?

PS: Timapita pamasiku kuganiza kuti munthuyo ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wathu wam'tsogolo, osawadziwa, popeza tikukhala m'malo ongopeka komanso chinyengo chachikondi.

eH: Kodi n'kofunika kwambiri kukonda kapena kukondedwa?

PS: Mmodzi sangakhale popanda mnzake, ndiye onse awiri. Ngati mukupereka chikondi koma osachilandira, simuli paubwenzi wabwino. Ngati mukuchilandira koma osachipereka, ndiye kuti mukupezerapo mwayi wina.

eH: Kodi mumakhulupirira mu chikondi poyang'ana koyamba?

PS: Inde, ndimakhulupirira miyoyo yakale poyang'ana koyamba, kutanthauza kuti mwina mumawadziwa kuyambira nthawi yina yamoyo ndipo mukukhala ndi mtundu wa déjà vu pomwe mumawazindikira.

eH: Ndi liti pamene munganene kuti ndi nthawi yoyamba yomwe mudapezadi chikondi?

PS: Posachedwapa. Ndine zaka 51.

eH: Kodi mumakonda chiyani pa moyo wanu pompano?

PS: Kuti ndimakhala bwino pakhungu langa, kuti ndine woonamtima modabwitsa, pafupifupi kulakwitsa, ndipo ndimatha kuyimba kuwombera m'moyo wanga osadalira ena. Kuphatikiza apo, ndimamva kuti ndine wokonda kwambiri kugonana omwe sindinamvepo.

eH: Kodi chikondi chimatanthauza chiyani kwa inu tsopano motsutsana ndi zaka 10 zapitazo?

PS: Ndikulumikizana kwakukulu tsopano kuposa kale, monga ndikudziwa kuti tonse timavomerezana zolakwa zathu zonse ndikudziwa kuti izi zidzakhalapobe.

eH: Kodi chovuta kwambiri pa chikondi ndi chiyani?

PS: Kuzipeza.

eH: Ndi upangiri wanji womwe mungapatse omwe akulimbana ndi kudzikonda-komanso omwe akufunafuna chikondi?

PS: Dziwani kuti zonse zomwe zimafunika ndi chimodzi, ndipo Chinsinsi chachinsinsi ndikudzikonda nokha, kukhala oleza mtima ndikudziwa, mosakayika, ili panjira yopita kwa inu.

eH: Muli pantchito yapadera komanso udindo wothandiza anthu kuti apeze wina ndi mnzake ndikukhulupirira kuti apeza chikondi. Ndi mbali ziti zokhutiritsa ndi zokhumudwitsa kwambiri zomwe mumachita?

PS: Gawo labwino kwambiri lokhala wokomera anzanu ndikupeza kuti muli ndi mbiri kumwamba, monga ndikukhulupirira kuti ndimagwirira ntchito Mulungu. Choyipa kwambiri ndichakuti opanga machesi nthawi zambiri amatha kukonza aliyense, mpaka kuguwa, koma osadzipeza okha chikondi, chifukwa chake chimakhala chowawa.

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