Kuyankhula Kwanu Koyipa Kungasokoneze Thanzi Lanu - Nazi Momwe Mungayimire

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• Kodi mawu anu amkati amachita chiyani?
• Ndiye zimakhala bwanji udindo?
• Kodi kucheza kumawononga bwanji thanzi lanu?
• Kodi mungawongolere bwanji zolankhula zopanda pake ndikuzipanga kukhala zathanzi komanso zolimbikitsa?
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Mawu anu amkati ndi amphamvu kwambiri, akutero EthanKross, Ph.D., katswiri wazamaganizidwe komanso wamaubongo, yemwe anayambitsa Emotion & Self Control Lab ku University of Michigan, komanso wolemba Zocheza (Gulani, $ 18, amazon.com). Zingakupangitseni kukhala osangalala komanso opambana - kapena zitha kuwononga thanzi lanu komanso kukupangitsani kukalamba mwachangu. Apa, akufotokozera momwe mungaletsere kuyankhula kwanu kopanda pake ndikusandutsa chinthu china chabwino.

Kodi mawu anu amkati amachita chiyani?

"Pamlingo wofunikira kwambiri, timachigwiritsa ntchito kusunga zidziwitso m'mitu yathu. Ndikadati ndikufunseni kuloweza nambala yafoni, mutha kugwiritsa ntchito mawu anu amkati kuchita zimenezo. Imagwiranso ntchito ngati pulogalamu yokumbutsa: Lingaliro la pakamwa limabwera mumutu mwanu pazomwe muyenera kuchita.Mawu amkati amawerengedwa kuti ndi gawo lamakutu athu okumbukira.

Koma nthawi zambiri ndimatchula ngati mpeni wa malingaliro a Swiss Army chifukwa kuwonjezera pa kukumbukira, timagwiritsa ntchito zinthu zambiri, monga kulenga ndi kukonzekera. Titha kubwereza mwakachetechete zomwe tidzanena tisanalankhule zambiri, mwachitsanzo. Nthawi zambiri timakhala ndi monologue yamkati yomwe imadutsa m'mutu mwathu kuti timvetsetse zomwe takumana nazo. Zimatithandiza kupeza tanthauzo munjira zomwe zimaumba umunthu wathu. Ndipo timagwiritsa ntchito mawu athu amkati kudziphunzitsa tokha ndikuti, Umu ndi momwe mungachitire ndi izi. Kudzipatsa nkhani yolankhulira - ndiwo mawu anu amkati ogwirira ntchito. "

Ndiye zimakhala bwanji udindo?

"Chodabwitsa n'chakuti, pamene tiyesa kugwiritsa ntchito mawu athu amkati kuti tithane ndi mavuto kapena kuti timvetsetse vuto, nthawi zambiri zimabwerera m'mbuyo. Ndi chifukwa chakuti timakonda kuyang'ana mozama pa zomwe zikuchitika, monga 'chifukwa chiyani munthu ameneyo wandinyoza?' Lingaliro limodzi loipa limatsogolera ku linzake, ndipo posakhalitsa timangokhalira kunyengerera, ndipo timakakamira pamenepo.

Chitsanzo china ndi pamene timayamba kudzidzudzula tokha ndipo timayamba kuganiza kuti ndife owopsa. Izi ndi zomwe ndimatcha chatter - mbali yakuda ya mawu athu amkati. Chatter ndi vuto lalikulu. Zimasokoneza ntchito yathu kuntchito, ndipo zimawononga ubale wathu ndi thanzi lathu. Ndipo panthawi ya mliriwu, kusatsimikizika ndi kuwonongeka kwa mphamvu zomwe tonsefe timakhala tikumva zalimbikitsa macheza. "

Kodi kucheza kumawononga bwanji thanzi lanu?

"Zimathandizira kukulitsa kupsinjika kwathu, ndipo kupsinjika maganizo kukakhala kokulirapo pakapita nthawi, kumawononga thupi. Izi zingayambitse matenda monga kugona, matenda a mtima, komanso khansa zina.

Chosangalatsa kwambiri ndi sayansi yomwe ikuwonetsa momwe macheza, monga kupsinjika kwanthawi yayitali, angakhudzire DNA yathu. Umboni womwe ukubwera ukuwonetsa kuti imathandizira kuyambitsa ma jini omwe amakhudzidwa ndi kutupa ndikuzimitsa majini omwe amalimbana ndi ma virus. Osati zokhazo, komanso kupsinjika maganizo kosatha kungakhudzenso momwe ma telomere athu, zipewa zotetezera kumapeto kwa ma chromosome athu, zimayambira kufupikitsa, zomwe zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi ukalamba wa ma cell." Wautali)

Kodi mungawongolere bwanji zolankhula zopanda pake ndikuzipanga kukhala zathanzi komanso zolimbikitsa?

"Mwamwayi, pali zida zosiyanasiyana zomwe tingagwiritse ntchito. Mukakumana ndi vuto, bwererani m'mbuyo ndikukonzanso momwe mukuwonera. Monga momwe zimakhalira zosavuta kupereka uphungu kwa anthu ena, ngati tingathe kulankhula tokha. Munthu wachiwiri kapena wachitatu, amatilekanitsa ndi malingaliro athu ndipo amatilola kukhala oganiza bwino. James. Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti mukamagwiritsa ntchito njirayi, mumakhala ocheperako ndipo mumatha kuganiza mwanzeru. Ndi jujitsu wamaganizidwe. Zimasintha malingaliro anu kuti mudzitha kudzipatsa nokha upangiri wabwinonso wamomwe mungathetsere mavuto.

Komanso khazikitsani dongosolo m'malo anu. Tikamacheza, timamva ngati ndife osalamulirika. Ipezeni mwa kukonza tebulo lanu kapena kukonza patebulo pakhitchini. Kukonzekera malo anu enieni kumakupatsirani malingaliro amisala.

Pitani panja. Kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi m'chilengedwe kumathandizanso kuti ubongo wanu ubwerere, zomwe zingathandize kuchepetsa kulankhulana. Yendani kudera lamapiri, kapena pitani kukayenda paki. Ngati simungathe kutuluka m'nyumba, yang'anani chithunzi cha chilengedwe - sayansi imapeza kuti ili ndi zotsatira zofanana. Ndipo mugule mbewu. Kuphatikiza zobiriwira mlengalenga mwanu kungathandizenso. "(Zogwirizana: Momwe Mungagwiritsire Ntchito Kuyankhula Kwabwino Patsiku la Mental Health ndi Pambuyo)

Magazini ya Shape, June 2021

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