Ubale Wachikondi: Nthawi Yoti Mukambirane

Zamkati

• Zizindikiro zaubwenzi ndizosavomerezeka
• Zinthu zomanga zoyeserera musanatsanzike
• Malangizo okuthetsa chibwenzicho
• Nthawi yosanzika
• Ganizirani kufunafuna chithandizo
• Khalani omvetsetsa
• Kudzichiritsa ndi kudzisamalira mutatha banja
• Kutenga

Anthu omwe amapezeka kuti ali ndi vuto losinthasintha zochitika amakhala ndi kusintha kwakanthawi kwamankhwala komwe kumatha kubweretsa magawo amisala kapena okhumudwitsa. Popanda chithandizo, kusintha kwamalingaliro kumeneku kumatha kukhala kovuta kusamalira sukulu, ntchito, ndi maubale okondana.

Kungakhale kovuta kwa mnzanu yemwe sanagwirizane ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi matenda ochititsa munthu kusinthasintha zochitika kuti amvetsetse zovuta zina.

Ngakhale kusokonezeka kwa maganizo kungabweretse zovuta, sizikutanthauza mnzanu.

"Matenda amisala samangotanthauza kufooka kosalekeza, koma mwina pakhoza kukhala zochitika za nthawi zovuta kwambiri," atero Dr. Gail Saltz, pulofesa wothandizirana ndi zamankhwala ku New York-Presbyterian Hospital Weill-Cornell Medical College.

"Ngakhale atakhala kuti akumenya nkhondo nthawi yayitali, cholinga chikhala kuti awabwezeretse kukhazikika ndikukhalabe otere."

Matendawa amakhalanso ndi zinthu zabwino. Anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la kusinthasintha zochitika amawonetsa "luso lapamwamba, nthawi zina, mphamvu zambiri, zomwe zimawalola kukhala oyamba komanso olingalira," adatero Dr. Saltz. Adanenanso kuti ma CEO ambiri ali ndi vuto la kusinthasintha zochitika ndipo amagawana izi.

Ngakhale kuti vutoli lilibe mankhwala, mankhwala amatha kuthana ndi zizindikilo ndikuthandizira kukhazikika. Izi zitha kupangitsa kuti zikhale zosavuta kupitiliza ubale ndikupititsa patsogolo mgwirizano wautali, wathanzi.

Komabe, ndizotheka kuti chibwenzi chikhale chopanda thanzi ngakhale pamene zizindikiro za matenda ochititsa munthu kusinthasintha zochitika zimayendetsedwa bwino. Anthu ena amakumana ndi zovuta zomwe zimapangitsa kukhala kovuta kukhala pachibwenzi.

Nazi zinthu zina zofunika kuziganizira ngati mukuganiza zothetsa chibwenzi ndi mnzanu yemwe wapezeka kuti ali ndi vuto losinthasintha zochitika.

Zizindikiro zaubwenzi ndizosavomerezeka

N'zotheka kukhala ndi ubale wathanzi, wosangalala ndi munthu amene ali ndi matenda ochititsa munthu kusinthasintha zochitika. Komabe, pakhoza kukhala zisonyezo zachindunji zomwe zikusonyeza kuti mungayang'anenso pachibwenzi.

Dr. Saltz adati zizindikilo zingapo zitha kuwonetsa ubale wopanda thanzi, makamaka ndi mnzanu yemwe wapezeka kuti ali ndi matenda ochititsa munthu kusinthasintha zochitika:

• kumva kuti ndiwe wosamalira chibwenzi
• kutopa
• kudzimana zolinga zanu pamoyo, zofunikira zanu, komanso zofunikira kuti mukhale ndi mnzanu

Wokondedwa wanu kusiya mankhwala kapena mankhwala akhoza kukhala chenjezo mtsogolo mwaubwenzi. Komanso, monga pachibwenzi chilichonse, musaganize kuti wokondedwa wanu akumuyika pachiwopsezo.

Zizindikiro zopanda thanzi zimadutsa mbali zonse ziwiri. Munthu amene amapezeka kuti ali ndi matenda ochititsa munthu kusinthasintha zochitika amawonanso mbendera zofiira kuchokera kwa mnzake.

"Wokondedwa amene amasalidwa komanso kukhala ndi nkhawa kwambiri pazokhudza matenda amisala, zomwe mwatsoka ndizofala, atha kukhala wovuta kukhala naye," atero Dr. Saltz.

"Atha kukhala kuti nthawi zambiri amakunyozani kapena kukunyalanyazani, [akunena zinthu monga]" Mulibe matenda ochititsa munthu kusinthasintha zochitika, "[omwe atha] kusokoneza chithandizo chanu," adanenanso. Kwa mnzanu yemwe amapezeka kuti ali ndi vuto losinthasintha zochitika, iyi ikhoza kukhala nthawi yoti ayang'anenso za chibwenzicho.

Zinthu zomanga zoyeserera musanatsanzike

Pali zinthu zingapo zomwe mungayesere kusunga chibwenzicho.

Choyamba, kumbukirani chifukwa chake muli pachibwenzi. "Muyenera kuti munayamba kucheza ndi munthuyu ndikusankha munthuyu chifukwa pali zinthu zambiri zomwe mumakonda komanso kukonda munthu ameneyu," adatero Dr. Saltz.

Adatinso kuti mudziphunzitse nokha za matenda a bipolar kuti mumvetsetse bwino za vutoli. Zimathandizanso kuphunzira kuzindikira zizindikilo za kukhumudwa kapena hypomania kuti muthe kulangiza mnzanu kuti alankhule ndi omwe amawapatsa chithandizo chofunikira ngati akufunikira.

Dr. Saltz analimbikitsanso kulimbikitsa mnzanu kuti apitilize kumwa mankhwala ndikumwa mankhwala aliwonse omwe akupatsidwa.

"Nthawi zina, anthu akakhala okhazikika kwakanthawi, amakhala ngati," O, sindikuganiza kuti ndikusowanso chilichonse cha izi. 'Nthawi zambiri limakhala lingaliro loipa, "adatero.

Dr.Alex Dimitriu, yemwe anayambitsa Menlo Park Psychiatry & Sleep Medicine, adati mutha kuthandizanso mnzanu powapatsa "kuwayang'anira modekha, osaweruza komanso kuwongolera" ndikulimbikitsa machitidwe abwino.

Makhalidwe awa ndi awa:

• kugona mokwanira, mokhazikika
• pogwiritsa ntchito zinthu zochepa
• kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi
• kuchita zosavuta, kutsatira mwatsatanetsatane tsiku lililonse
• kuchita kudzizindikira
• kumwa mankhwala monga mwalamulo

Kuphatikiza apo, adalangiza mnzanuyo kuti adziwe anthu atatu odalirika omwe angawayankhe (mwina ndinu m'modzi) ngati akumva bwino.

"Lolani anthu amenewo kuti apereke mphambu zapakati, ndikuti," Hei, eya. 'Ndiwe mutu pang'ono, kapena watsika pang'ono,' kapena chilichonse chomwe angapereke, "adatero.

Malangizo okuthetsa chibwenzicho

Muyenera kuyambiranso mwachangu ubale uliwonse womwe wasokonekera, ndikusamalira chitetezo chanu. Kupitirira apo, ngati zizindikiro zosakhala bwino zikupitilira kapena kukulirakulira, itha kukhalanso nthawi yoganiza zothetsa chibwenzicho.

Nthawi yosanzika

Dr. Dimitriu adalangiza kuti musathetse banja lanu mukamachita manic.

"Nthawi zambiri, ndimaganiza kuti palibe chilichonse chomwe munganene chomwe chingatsimikizire winayo [za] chilichonse, ngati alidi kumbali ya nkhanza," adatero.

"Chachikulu kwambiri, ndikuganiza, kwenikweni, ndikuchedwa kutha kwa banja ngati izi zikuchitika ndikungokhala ndi nthawi yozizira," adanenanso.

Pambuyo pake, "Musapange zisankho zazikulu pokhapokha anzanu atatu [odziwika ndi odalirika] anena kuti muli m'malo. Ndipo zimaphatikizaponso ubalewo. ”

Ganizirani kufunafuna chithandizo

Ngati mutha kutha, Dr. Saltz adalimbikitsa kuti muwonetsetse kuti mnzanuyo ali ndi chilimbikitso cham'mutu, ndipo ngati mungathe kuwalumikiza kwa akatswiri azaumoyo, zingakhale zothandiza.

Ngati mungakhale ndi chidziwitso chakuwathandiza mutha kusiya uthenga, ngakhale mukudziwa kuti wowathandiza sangakwanitse kuyankhula nanu chifukwa cha Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act (HIPPA).

"Mutha kusiya uthenga kwa wowathandiza kunena kwenikweni," Tikutha, ndikudziwa kuti izi zidzakhala zovuta, ndipo ndikufuna kukudziwitsani za izi, "adatero.

Analangizanso kuti azisamala ndi malingaliro aliwonse ofuna kudzipha. Malingana ndi kafukufuku wa 2014, pafupifupi 25 mpaka 50 peresenti ya anthu omwe ali ndi matenda ochititsa munthu kusinthasintha zochitika amayesa kudzipha nthawi imodzi.

“Ngati munthu wina aliyense awopseza kuti adzipha, izi zimachitika msanga. Muyenera kutenga njira zilizonse zomwe mwawona kuti zilipo pakadali pano ndikuwatengera kuchipinda chadzidzidzi, "adatero.

"Ndizovuta ngakhale mutasiyana nawo."

Khalani omvetsetsa

Mutha kuyesa kukhala othandizira momwe mungathere pakutha. Komabe, Dr. David Reiss, asing'anga wamaofesi omwe ali ndi maofesi ku Southern ndi Central California, adati anthu ena sangakhale omvera chifukwa amadzimva kuti awakana.

"Atha kukhala osakwanitsa 'kukonza' ubale womwe umathera m'njira yabwino, ndipo" kutseka "okhwima sikungakhale kosatheka," adatero.

"Khalani okoma mtima, koma osapambanitsa, ndipo zindikirani kuti mukathetsa chibwenzicho, kukoma mtima kwanu sikungalandiridwenso, ndipo zili bwino."

"Osazitenga ngati chiwopsezo chaumwini," adaonjeza. “Dziwani kuti zomwe munthu winayo amachita, komanso kuthekera kwake kukhalabe pachibwenzi kapena chaulemu pambuyo poti akukanidwa, mwina sizingatheke ndipo simungathe kuzisintha.

“Chitani yesetsani kukhala achifundo, koma khalani okonzeka kuti chifundo chija chikanakanidwa osakhudzidwa. ”

Kudzichiritsa ndi kudzisamalira mutatha banja

Kutha kulikonse kungakhale kovuta, makamaka ngati mutakhala ndikudzipereka kwakanthawi kwa mnzanu. Dr. Reiss adati izi zitha kuchititsa kudzimva waliwongo.

"Mukayamba kudzimva kuti ndinu wolakwa pomwe simunapange zomwe munthu winayo amayembekezera, kulakwa kwanu kumadzetsa mkwiyo, kukhumudwa, ndi zina zonse mwa inu nokha komanso kwa munthu winayo ndikuzikulirakulira," Dr. Reiss Adatero.

Ananenanso kuti, "Limbani ndi vuto lanu momwe mungathere, musanapatuke, komanso mutapatukana."

Zitenganso nthawi kuti muchiritse. Dr. Saltz adalimbikitsa kuchita zonse zomwe mungathe kuti muphunzire kuchokera ku ubale uliwonse womwe sunagwire ntchito. "Nthawi zonse zimakhala bwino kuti mudziwerengere nokha chifukwa chomwe mwasankhira munthuyu, zomwe mumakonda," adatero.

"Kodi ndichinthu chomwe, mukamayang'ana kumbuyo, mumamva bwino, kapena chimafanizira mtundu wina womwe sunakhale wabwino kwa inu? Ingoyesani kuphunzira kuchokera pachibwenzi chomwe sichidakhalitse ndikumvetsetsa za inu pankhaniyi. "

Kutenga

Mutha kukhala ndi ubale wathanzi komanso wosangalala ndi mnzanu yemwe wapezeka kuti ali ndi matenda ochititsa munthu kusinthasintha zochitika.

Vutoli limatha kubweretsa zabwino komanso zovuta muubwenzi, koma mutha kuchitapo kanthu kuti muthandizire mnzanuyo ndikuwathandiza kuthana ndi matendawa.

Mukawona zikwangwani zosavomerezeka mgwirizanowu zomwe sizikukula, mungayesere kutha. Mungayesere kukhala othandiza panthawi ya kutha kwa banja, koma musadzitengere nokha ngati salandira thandizo lanu.

Monga ubale uliwonse, yang'anani pakuphunzira kuchokera pazomwe mukukumana nazo mukamapita patsogolo.