Ungwiro: ndi chiyani komanso mawonekedwe akulu

Zamkati

• Zinthu zazikulu
• Mitundu yofuna kuchita bwino kwambiri
• Ndi liti pamene kufuna kuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa kumakhala vuto?

Kuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa ndi mtundu wamakhalidwe womwe umadziwika ndi kufunitsitsa kugwira ntchito zonse mwanjira yangwiro, osavomereza zolakwika kapena zotsatira zosakhutiritsa pamiyeso yanu. Munthu amene amafuna kuchita zinthu bwino mosalakwitsa nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi ndalama zambiri kwa iye komanso kwa ena.

Kuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa kumatha kugawidwa mu:

• Yachibadwa, yosinthika kapena yathanzi, pomwe munthuyo ali ndi chidwi komanso chidwi chakuchita bwino ntchito;
• Neurotic, mal-adaptive kapena owopsa, momwe munthuyo amakhala ndi ungwiro wapamwamba kwambiri, ndipo nthawi zambiri kumakhala kofunikira kugwira ntchito yomweyo kangapo chifukwa akuganiza kuti si wangwiro, zomwe zimatha kukhumudwitsa.

Ngakhale ofuna kuchita bwino samalola zolakwa ndipo, zikachitika, amadzimva okhumudwa, osakhoza, opsinjika kapena opsinjika, kukhala ofuna kuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa sikulakwa kwenikweni. Chifukwa nthawi zonse amafuna kuchita bwino ntchito yake, wokonda kuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa nthawi zambiri amakhala wokhazikika, wolangika komanso wotsimikiza, zomwe ndizofunikira pamoyo wake wamunthu komanso waluso.

Zinthu zazikulu

Anthu ofuna kuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa nthawi zambiri amayang'anitsitsa tsatanetsatane, amakhala olongosoka kwambiri komanso amakhala ndi chidwi chofuna kuchita zinthu mosazindikira. Makhalidwe amenewa amawerengedwa kuti ndi abwinobwino komanso athanzi kwa anthu onse, chifukwa amasokoneza moyo waumwini komanso waluso. Komabe, izi zikaphatikizidwa ndi miyezo yayikulu yakufunika komanso kukulitsa kudzidzudzula, zimatha kubweretsa kukhumudwa komanso kukhumudwa.

Makhalidwe ena amphumphu ndi awa:

• Udindo wambiri komanso kutsimikiza;
• Kufunika kwakukulu ndi inu komanso ndi ena;
• Sakuvomereza zolakwa ndi zolephera, ali ndi zovuta kuvomereza kuti adalakwitsa ndikuphunzira kuchokera pamenepo, kuphatikiza pakumva kulakwa ndi manyazi;
• Amawona kuti ndizovuta kugwira ntchito pagulu, chifukwa samakhulupirira kuthekera kwa ena;
• Nthawi zonse amaganiza kuti china chake chikusowa, osakhutitsidwa ndi zotsatira zake;
• Iye savomereza kudzudzulidwa bwino lomwe, koma nthawi zambiri amatsutsa ena kuti asonyeze kuti ali bwino.

Anthu ofuna kuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa amawopa kulephera, chifukwa chake amakhala ndi nkhawa nthawi zonse pazinthu ndipo amakhala ndi chiwongola dzanja chokwanira kwambiri, chifukwa chake pakakhala kulephera kapena cholakwika chilichonse, ngakhale chaching'ono, amakhala okhumudwa komanso amadzimva kuti sangakwanitse.

Mitundu yofuna kuchita bwino kwambiri

Kuphatikiza pakuwerengedwa kuti ndi athanzi kapena ovulaza, chidwi chokwanira chimatha kusankhidwanso malinga ndi zomwe zidakulitsa kukula kwake:

1. Kukhala wangwiro, momwe munthuyo amadziyimbira mlandu kwambiri, kuwonetsa mkhalidwe wodera nkhawa kwambiri kuti zonse zitheke. Mtundu uwu wofuna kuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa umakhudza momwe munthu amadzionera, umakulitsa kudzidzudzula;
2. Kuchita bwino pagulul, yomwe imayamba chifukwa cha kuwopa kutanthauziridwa ndikudziwika ndi anthu ndikuopa kulephera ndikukanidwa, ndipo mtundu uwu wofuna kuchita bwino zinthu nthawi zambiri umayambitsidwa mwa ana omwe amafunsidwa kwambiri, kutamandidwa kapena kukanidwa, motere mwana amalandiridwa ndi makolo, mwachitsanzo. Kuphatikiza apo, pakuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa, munthuyo amavutika kuyankhula kapena kucheza ndi ena za mantha kapena kusatetezeka kwawo makamaka chifukwa choopa kuweruzidwa.
3. Cholinga chofuna kuchita bwino kwambiri, momwe munthuyo amayembekezera zambiri osati za iye yekha, komanso za ena, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti mgwirizano ukhale wovuta ndikusintha zina, mwachitsanzo.

Kuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa kungakhalenso chifukwa cha kusokonezeka kwamaganizidwe, monga kuda nkhawa komanso kukakamira kuchita zovuta (OCD), mwachitsanzo.

Ndi liti pamene kufuna kuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa kumakhala vuto?

Kuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa kungakhale vuto kugwira ntchito iliyonse ikakhala yotopetsa komanso yopanikiza chifukwa cha kusonkhanitsa kwakukulu, kuda nkhawa kwambiri ndi tsatanetsatane komanso kuopa kulephera. Kuphatikiza apo, kusakhutitsidwa ndi zotsatira zomwe zapezeka kumatha kubweretsa nkhawa, kukhumudwa, kuda nkhawa komanso kupsinjika, komwe nthawi zina kumatha kubweretsa malingaliro ofuna kudzipha.

Anthu ofuna kuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa amangodzidzudzula kwambiri pakadali pano, zomwe zingakhale zovulaza kwambiri, chifukwa amalephera kuwunika zabwino, koma zoyipa zokha, zomwe zimabweretsa kusokonezeka kwa malingaliro. Izi sizikuwonetsedwa pakungogwira ntchito za tsiku ndi tsiku, komanso m'thupi, zomwe zimatha kubweretsa zovuta pakudya, mwachitsanzo, popeza munthuyo amaganiza kuti nthawi zonse pamakhala china chake chosintha m'thupi kapena mawonekedwe, osaganizira fotokozerani zabwino.