Kukonzekera Tsogolo Lanu, Kuzindikira Khansa Ya M'mawere

Zamkati

• Kulera pambuyo pofufuza
• Khansa ndi ntchito yanu
• Kukonzekera moyo wanu
• Kutenga

Kumva mawu oti "uli ndi khansa" sichinthu chosangalatsa. Kaya mawuwa akunenedwa kwa inu kapena kwa wokondedwa wanu, sizomwe mungakonzekere.

Lingaliro langa pomwe ndidazindikira kuti, "Ndipita bwanji ku _____?" Kodi ndidzakhala bwanji kholo lomwe mwana wanga amafunikira? Ndipitiliza kugwira ntchito bwanji? Kodi ndizisunga bwanji moyo wanga?

Ndinali ndi chisanu m'kupita kwanthawi kuyesera kuti mafunso ndi kukayikira kuchitike, osandilola ngakhale nthawi kuti ndikwaniritse zomwe zachitika kumene. Koma kudzera mukuyesa zolakwika, kuthandizidwa ndi ena, komanso kufunitsitsa, ndinayankha mafunso amenewo.

Nawo malingaliro anga, malingaliro, ndi mawu olimbikitsa kuti inunso muchite zomwezo.

Kulera pambuyo pofufuza

Chinthu choyamba kutuluka pakamwa panga pamene dotolo wanga anandiuza kuti ndili ndi khansa ya m'mawere anali, "Koma ndili ndi mwana wazaka chimodzi!"

Tsoka ilo, khansa siyimusala, komanso sizisamala kuti muli ndi mwana. Ndikudziwa kuti ndizovuta kumva, koma ndizowona. Koma kupezeka ndi khansa ndikukhala kholo kumakupatsani mwayi wapadera wowonetsera ana anu momwe kuthana ndi zopinga kumawonekera.

Nawa mawu olimbikitsa ochokera kwa omwe adapulumuka modabwitsa omwe adandithandizira zikafika povutikira:

• “Amayi, mwapeza izi! Gwiritsani ntchito mwana wanu kuti azikulimbikitsani kuti muzimenya nkhondo. ”
• "Palibe vuto kukhala pachiwopsezo pamaso pa mwana wanu."
• "Inde, mutha kupempha thandizo ndikukhalabe mayi wamphamvu kwambiri padziko lapansi!"
• "Palibe vuto kukhala mchimbudzi ndikulira. Kukhala kholo ndikovuta, koma kukhala kholo la khansa ndi gawo lina lotsatira! ”
• “Funsani munthu wanu (aliyense amene mumacheza naye kwambiri) kuti adzakupatseni tsiku limodzi lokha sabata iliyonse kuti muchite zomwe mukufuna kuchita. Sikokwanira kufunsa! "
• “Osadandaula za chisokonezo. Udzakhala ndi zaka zambiri kuti utsuke! ”
• "Mphamvu yanu idzalimbikitsa mwana wanu."

Khansa ndi ntchito yanu

Kupitiliza kuthana ndi matenda a khansa ndichisankho cha munthu aliyense. Kutengera ndi momwe mukudziwira ndi ntchito, mwina simungathe kupitiliza kugwira ntchito. Za ine, ndadalitsidwa kugwira ntchito pakampani yodabwitsa ndi omwe ndimagwira nawo ntchito komanso oyang'anira. Kupita kuntchito, ngakhale nthawi zina kumakhala kovuta, ndiko kuthawa kwanga. Zimakhala ndi chizolowezi, anthu oti tizilankhula nawo, ndi zina zomwe zimapangitsa kuti malingaliro anga ndi thupi langa zizikhala zotanganidwa.

Pansipa pali malangizo anga opangira ntchito. Muyeneranso kukambirana ndi anthu ogwira nawo ntchito za ufulu wanu wogwira ntchito zikafika ku matenda a khansa, ndikupita kumeneko.

• Khalani owona mtima kwa woyang'anira wanu za momwe mukumvera mumtima mwanu komanso mwathupi lanu. Oyang'anira ndianthu okha, ndipo sangathe kuwerenga malingaliro anu. Ngati simunena zowona, sangakuthandizireni.
• Onetsani zowonekera kwa anzanu ogwira nawo ntchito, makamaka omwe mumagwira nawo ntchito mwachindunji. Kuzindikira ndikowona, onetsetsani kuti akudziwa zenizeni zanu.
• Ikani malire pazomwe mukufuna kuti ena mgulu lanu adziwe pazomwe mukukumana nazo, kuti mukhale omasuka muofesi.
• Khalani ndi zolinga zomwe mungakwanitse, ndikugawana ndi oyang'anira anu, ndikuwapangitsa kuti aziwonekere kuti muthe kutsatira njirayo. Zolinga sizinalembedwe mwa chikhazikitso chokhazikika, chifukwa chake pitirizani kuziwona ndikuzikonza momwe mungapitire (onetsetsani kuti mwalankhula zosintha ndi woyang'anira wanu).
• Pangani kalendala yomwe anzanu akuntchito amatha kuwona, kuti adziwe nthawi yomwe akuyembekezereni muofesi. Simuyenera kukhala ndi tsatanetsatane, koma onetsani zowonekera kuti anthu asadabwe kuti muli kuti.
• Khalani okoma mtima kwa inu nokha. Chofunika chanu choyamba nthawi zonse chizikhala thanzi lanu!

Kukonzekera moyo wanu

Pakati pa madokotala, mankhwala, ntchito, banja, ndi maopaleshoni, mwina zimamveka ngati mwatsala pang'ono kutaya malingaliro. (Chifukwa moyo sunali wopenga kale, sichoncho?)

Nthawi ina nditapezeka kuti ndili ndi matenda komanso mankhwala asanayambe, ndimakumbukira ndikumuuza wodwala oncologist wanga kuti, "Mukuzindikira kuti ndili ndi moyo, sichoncho? Monga, kodi wina sangandiimbire foni asanakonzekere pulogalamu yanga ya PET pamsonkhano womwe ndimakhala nawo sabata yamawa? " Inde, ndanenadi izi kwa dokotala wanga.

Tsoka ilo, kusintha sikungapangidwe, ndipo ndinatha kusintha. Izi zachitika kawiri biliyoni mzaka ziwiri zapitazi. Malangizo anga kwa inu ndi awa:

• Pezani kalendala yomwe mugwiritse ntchito, chifukwa mudzafunika. Ikani zonse mmenemo ndikunyamula nanu kulikonse!
• Khalani osinthasintha pang'ono, koma musakhale osinthasintha kotero kuti mumangodumpha ndikusiya ufulu wanu. Muthabe kukhala ndi moyo!

Zidzakhala zokhumudwitsa, zofooketsa, ndipo nthawi zina, mudzafuna kufuula pamwamba m'mapapu anu, koma pamapeto pake mudzatha kuyambiranso moyo wanu. Maimidwe a Dokotala adzaleka kukhala zochitika tsiku ndi tsiku, sabata iliyonse, kapena mwezi uliwonse, ndikusintha kukhala zochitika pachaka Mutha kukhala ndi ulamuliro.

Ngakhale simudzafunsidwa nthawi zonse pachiyambi, madokotala anu amayamba kufunsa ndikukupatsani mphamvu zowerengera nthawi yomwe mwasankhidwa ndi maopaleshoni anu.

Kutenga

Khansa nthawi zonse imayesa kusokoneza moyo wanu. Zidzakupangitsani kufunsa mafunso pafupipafupi momwe mudzakhalire moyo wanu.Koma kumene kuli chifuniro, pali njira. Lolani kuti lilowe mkati, pangani ndondomeko, lankhulani ndondomekoyi kwa inu nokha komanso kwa anthu m'moyo wanu, ndikuisintha pamene mukupita patsogolo.

Monga zolinga, mapulani sanalembedwe ngati chikhazikitso chokhazikika, chifukwa chake sinthani momwe mukufunira, kenako mulumikizane. O, ndipo ziyikeni mu kalendala yanu.

Mutha kuchita izi.

Danielle Cooper anapezeka kuti ali ndi khansa ya m'mawere ya siteji 3A mu Meyi 2016 ali ndi zaka 27. Tsopano ali ndi zaka 31 ndipo wazaka ziwiri kuchokera pomwe adamupeza atachitidwa opaleshoni yapawiri ya mastectomy ndi yomanganso, maulendo asanu ndi atatu a chemotherapy, chaka chimodzi cha infusions, ndi kupitirira apo mwezi wa radiation. Danielle anapitiliza kugwira ntchito yanthawi zonse ngati manejala wa projekiti pazithandizo zake zonse, koma chidwi chake chenicheni ndikuthandiza ena. Adzayamba podcast posachedwa kuti akwaniritse zomwe amakonda tsiku lililonse. Mutha kumutsata pambuyo pa khansa pa Instagram.