Kuyankhula Kwanokha: Momwe Kuyankhulira Nokha Ndi Chinthu Chabwino

Zamkati

• Chifukwa chiyani zili zabwino kwa inu?
• Zimagwira bwanji?
• Kodi ndi zitsanzo ziti?
• Kodi ndimagwiritsa ntchito bwanji tsiku lililonse?
• Kodi ndiyenera kufunafuna thandizo liti?

Timaphatikizapo zinthu zomwe timaganiza kuti ndizothandiza kwa owerenga athu. Ngati mutagula maulalo omwe ali patsamba lino, titha kupeza ndalama zochepa. Nayi njira yathu.

Kodi kuyankhula kwabwino ndikotani?

Kudzilankhulira ndizokambirana zanu zamkati. Zimakhudzidwa ndi malingaliro anu osazindikira, ndipo zimawulula malingaliro anu, zikhulupiriro, mafunso, ndi malingaliro.

Kudziyankhula nokha kumatha kukhala koyipa komanso kwabwino. Zitha kukhala zolimbikitsa komanso zosautsa. Zambiri zomwe mumalankhula zimadalira umunthu wanu. Ngati mukukhulupirira, kuyankhula kwanu kumatha kukhala kopatsa chiyembekezo komanso kopatsa chiyembekezo. Koma nthawi zambiri zimakhala zosiyana ngati mumakonda kukhala opanda chiyembekezo.

Kuganiza bwino ndikukhala ndi chiyembekezo kungakhale zida zothandiza zothanirana ndi nkhawa. Inde, kukhala ndi chiyembekezo chabwino pamoyo kungakupatseni thanzi labwino. Mwachitsanzo, kafukufuku wina wa mu 2010 akuwonetsa kuti chiyembekezo chili ndi moyo wabwino.

Ngati mukukhulupirira kuti zoyankhula zanu ndizolakwika, kapena ngati mukufuna kutsindika kudzilankhula kwanu, mutha kuphunzira kusinthaku kukambirana kwamkati. Ikhoza kukuthandizani kukhala munthu wabwino, komanso kusintha thanzi lanu.

Chifukwa chiyani zili zabwino kwa inu?

Kudzilankhulira kumatha kukulitsa magwiridwe antchito komanso moyo wabwino. Mwachitsanzo, kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti kuyankhula payokha kumatha kuthandiza othamanga pakuchita bwino. Zitha kuwathandiza kupirira kapena mphamvu kudzera pachitsulo cholemera.

Kuphatikiza apo, kudzilankhula kwabwino komanso kukhala ndi chiyembekezo kungakhale ndi maubwino ena azaumoyo, kuphatikiza:

• mphamvu yowonjezera
• kukhutira ndi moyo
• kusintha kwa chitetezo cha mthupi
• kuchepetsa ululu
• thanzi labwino la mtima
• thanzi labwino
• kuchepetsa chiopsezo cha imfa
• kuchepetsa kupsinjika ndi kupsinjika

Sizikudziwika chifukwa chake ochita zabwino komanso anthu omwe ali ndi chiyembekezo chodzilankhulira amapeza maubwino awa. Komabe, kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti anthu omwe amadzilankhulira okha atha kukhala ndi maluso am'maganizo omwe amawalola kuthana ndi mavuto, kuganiza mosiyana, ndikuchita bwino kuthana ndi zovuta kapena zovuta. Izi zitha kuchepetsa zovuta zoyipa zamavuto komanso nkhawa.

Zimagwira bwanji?

Musanaphunzire kudziyankhulira nokha, muyenera kuzindikira malingaliro olakwika. Maganizo amtundu woterewa amakhala m'magulu anayi:

• Kusintha. Mumadziimba mlandu pachilichonse.
• Kukulitsa. Mumangoyang'ana mbali zoyipa zazomwe zikuchitika, mukunyalanyaza zabwino zonse.
• Kusokoneza. Mumayembekezera zoipitsitsa, ndipo kaŵirikaŵiri simumalola mfundo kapena kulingalira kukutsimikizireni mwanjira ina.
• Kupanga. Mukuwona dziko lapansi lakuda ndi loyera, kapena labwino ndi loipa. Palibe chilichonse pakati komanso malo apakati pokonzekera ndikugawa zochitika m'moyo.

Mukayamba kuzindikira mitundu yanu yamaganizidwe olakwika, mutha kuyesetsa kuwapangitsa kuti aziganiza moyenera. Ntchitoyi imafuna kuyeserera komanso nthawi ndipo sikukula mwadzidzidzi. Nkhani yabwino ndiyakuti zomwe zingatheke. Kafukufuku wa 2012 akuwonetsa kuti ngakhale ana ang'onoang'ono amatha kuphunzira kukonza zoyankhula zawo zoipa.

Kodi ndi zitsanzo ziti?

Zochitika izi ndi zitsanzo za nthawi komanso momwe mungasinthire zolankhula zanu zoyipa kukhala malankhulidwe abwino. Apanso, zimafunika kuchita. Kuzindikira zina mwazomwe mumadzilankhulira pazomwezi kungakuthandizeni kukulitsa maluso kuti mufotokozere zomwe zichitike.

Zosayenera: Ndikhumudwitsa aliyense ndikasintha malingaliro anga.

Zabwino: Ndili ndi mphamvu yosintha malingaliro anga. Ena adzamvetsetsa.

Zosayenera: Ndinalephera ndikudzichitira manyazi.

Zabwino: Ndimanyadira ndekha ngakhale kuyesera. Izi zinafunika kulimba mtima.

Zosayenera: Ndine wonenepa kwambiri komanso wopanda mawonekedwe. Mwina sindingavutike.

Zabwino: Ndine wokhoza komanso wamphamvu, ndipo ndikufuna kukhala wathanzi kwa ine.

Zosayenera: Ndimalola aliyense mgulu langa kuti ndisaponye pomwe sindinapeze zigoli.

Zabwino: Masewera ndi chochitika chamagulu. Timapambana ndi kutaya limodzi.

Zosayenera: Sindinachitepo izi kale ndipo ndikhala woipa.

Zabwino: Uwu ndi mwayi wabwino kwambiri kuti ndiphunzire kuchokera kwa ena ndikukula.

Zosayenera: Palibe njira iliyonse yomwe izi zingagwire ntchito.

Zabwino: Nditha ndipo ndipereka zonse zomwe ndingapange kuti zigwire ntchito.

Kodi ndimagwiritsa ntchito bwanji tsiku lililonse?

Kuyankhula nokha kumayeserera ngati sichinthu chachibadwa chanu. Ngati nthawi zambiri mumakhala opanda chiyembekezo, mutha kuphunzira kusinthitsa zokambirana zanu zamkati kuti mukhale olimbikitsa komanso olimbikitsa.

Komabe, kupanga chizolowezi chatsopano kumafuna nthawi ndi khama. Popita nthawi, malingaliro anu amatha kusintha. Kulankhula nokha kumatha kukhala chizolowezi chanu. Malangizo awa atha kuthandiza:

• Dziwani misampha yolankhulira yoyipa. Zochitika zina zitha kukulitsa kudzidalira kwanu ndikupangitsa kuti muzilankhula moipa. Zochitika kuntchito, mwachitsanzo, zitha kukhala zovuta kwambiri. Kuloza chala mukamalankhula zoyipa kwambiri kungakuthandizeni kuyembekezera ndikukonzekera.
• Onaninso momwe mukumvera. Imani pazomwe zikuchitika kapena masiku oyipa ndikuwunika momwe mumayankhulira. Kodi zikuyamba kukhala zoipa? Kodi mungasinthe bwanji?
• Pezani nthabwala. Kuseka kungathandize kuthetsa nkhawa komanso kupsinjika. Mukafuna chilimbikitso chodzilankhulira nokha, pezani njira zosekera, monga kuwonera makanema anyama oseketsa kapena wokondetsa.
• Dzizungulirani ndi anthu abwino. Kaya mukuzindikira kapena ayi, mutha kutengera malingaliro ndi malingaliro a anthu okuzungulirani. Izi zikuphatikiza zoyipa ndi zabwino, chifukwa chake sankhani anthu abwino pomwe mungathe.
• Dzilimbikitseni nokha. Nthawi zina, kuwona mawu abwino kapena zithunzi zolimbikitsa kumatha kukhala kokwanira kuwongolera malingaliro anu. Tumizani zikumbutso zazing'ono kuofesi yanu, kunyumba kwanu, ndi kulikonse komwe mumagwiritsa ntchito nthawi yambiri.

Kodi ndiyenera kufunafuna thandizo liti?

Kulankhula moyenera kungakuthandizeni kusintha kaonedwe kanu ka moyo. Ikhozanso kukhala ndi maubwino okhalitsa athanzi, kuphatikiza kukhala ndi moyo wabwino komanso kukhala ndi moyo wabwino. Komabe, kudzilankhulira ndi chizolowezi chopangidwa kwanthawi yayitali.

Ngati mumakonda kudzilankhula nokha ndikulakwitsa, mutha kuphunzira kusintha. Zimatenga nthawi ndikuchita, koma mutha kukhala ndi malingaliro olimbikitsa.

Ngati mukuona kuti simukuchita bwino panokha, kambiranani ndi wothandizira. Akatswiri azaumoyo amatha kukuthandizani kudziwa komwe mungadzilankhulitse nokha ndikuphunzira kusinthasintha. Funsani wothandizira zaumoyo wanu kuti atumize kwa wothandizira, kapena funsani mnzanu kapena wachibale wanu kuti akupatseni lingaliro.

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