Momwe Kuthamanga Kudathandizira Mayi Mmodzi Kukhala (ndi Kukhala) Oledzeretsa

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Kaŵirikaŵiri moyo wanga unkawoneka wangwiro, koma zoona zake n’zakuti, ndakhala ndi vuto la kumwa mowa kwa zaka zambiri. Ku sekondale, ndinali ndi mbiri yoti ndine "wankhondo kumapeto kwa sabata" komwe ndimakonda kuwonetsa chilichonse ndipo ndimakhoza bwino, koma kumapeto kwa sabata, ndidapita ngati tsiku langa lomaliza padziko lapansi. Zomwezi zidachitikanso ku koleji komwe ndimakhala ndimakalasi ambiri, ndimagwira ntchito ziwiri, ndikumaliza maphunziro ndi 4.0 GPA-koma ndimakhala usiku wonse ndikumwa mpaka dzuwa litatuluka.

Chosangalatsa ndichakuti, ndinali nthawi zonse adayamika kuti atha kusiya moyo wawo. Koma pamapeto pake zinandipeza. Nditamaliza maphunziro anga, kudalira kwanga mowa kudali kutayikiratu kotero kuti sindinathenso kugwira ntchito chifukwa ndinkadwala nthawi zonse ndipo sindinkabwera kuntchito. (Zogwirizana: Zizindikiro 8 Mukumwa Mowa Wambiri)

Nditakwanitsa zaka 22, sindinali pantchito ndipo ndinkakhala ndi makolo anga. Ndipamene ndinayamba kuzindikira kuti ndinali wosuta ndipo ndikufuna thandizo. Makolo anga ndiwo anali oyamba kundilimbikitsa kuti ndipite ku chithandizo ndi kukalandira chithandizo - koma ndikuchita zomwe ananena, ndikupita patsogolo kwakanthawi, palibe chomwe chinkawoneka ngati chikukakamira. Ndinapitilizabe kubwerera kubwalo lina mobwerezabwereza.

Zaka ziwiri zotsatira zinali zofanana. Zonse sizili bwino kwa ine - ndinakhala m'mawa wambiri ndikudzuka osadziwa komwe ndinali. Thanzi langa linali lotsika kwambiri ndipo, pamapeto pake, linafika poti sindinathenso kukhala ndi moyo. Ndinakhumudwa kwambiri ndipo chidaliro changa chidasokonekera. Ndimamva ngati ndawononga moyo wanga ndikuwononga chiyembekezo chilichonse (chamunthu kapena waluso) chamtsogolo. Thanzi langa lakuthupi ndilomwe linathandizira maganizo amenewo makamaka makamaka tikaganizira kuti ndinali nditapeza mapaundi 55 pa zaka ziwiri, zomwe zinapangitsa kulemera kwanga kufika pa 200.

M’maganizo mwanga ndinali nditagunda mwala. Mowa unali utandimenya kwambiri mwakuthupi komanso mwamalingaliro kotero kuti ndimadziwa kuti ngati sindipeza thandizo pakadali pano, ndiye kuti ndichedwa kwambiri. Chifukwa chake ndidayang'ana ku rehab ndipo ndinali wokonzeka kuchita chilichonse chomwe angandiuze kuti ndikhale bwino.

Ngakhale kuti ndinali nditapitako kasanu ndi kamodzi m’mbuyomo, nthaŵi imeneyi inali yosiyana. Kwa nthawi yoyamba, ndinali wofunitsitsa kumvetsera ndipo ndinali womasuka kuti ndiganizire za kudekha. Chofunika kwambiri, kwa nthawi yoyamba, ndinali wokonzeka kukhala gawo la pulogalamu yobwezeretsa masitepe 12 yomwe inatsimikizira kupambana kwa nthawi yaitali. Kotero, nditakhala m'chipatala kwa milungu iwiri, ndinabwerera kudziko lenileni kupita ku pulogalamu ya odwala kunja komanso AA.

Chifukwa chake ndinali ndi zaka 25, ndikuyesera kuti ndisamamwe mowa mwauchidakwa ndikusiya kusuta. Ngakhale ndinali ndi kutsimikiza mtima konse kuti ndipite patsogolo ndi moyo wanga, zinali zambiri zonse mwakamodzi. Ndinayamba kudziona kuti ndine wotanganidwa kwambiri, zomwe zinandichititsa kuzindikira kuti ndinafunika kuchitapo kanthu. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndidaganiza zolowa nawo masewera olimbitsa thupi.

Kupita kwanga kunali chopondaponda chifukwa zimawoneka ngati zosavuta ndipo ndidamva kuti kuthamanga kumathandiza kuthana ndi vuto losuta. Patapita nthawi, ndinayamba kuzindikira kuti ndinkasangalala nayo kwambiri. Ndinayamba kukhalanso ndi thanzi labwino, kuonda kwambiri. Chofunika kwambiri, komabe, zidandipatsa malingaliro. Ndidapezeka kuti ndimagwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanga kuthamanga kuti ndizidziwe ndekha ndikuwongola mutu wanga. (Zokhudzana: Zifukwa 11 Zothandizidwa ndi Sayansi Kuthamanga Ndi Zabwino Kwambiri Kwa Inu)

Nditakhala miyezi ingapo ikuyenda, ndidayamba kusaina ma 5K am'deralo. Nditangotsala ndi malamba ochepa, ndinayamba kugwira ntchito yothamanga theka langa, lomwe ndidathamangira ku New Hampshire mu Okutobala 2015. Ndidali ndi chidwi chachikulu kuti pambuyo pake sindinaganizirepo kawiri ndisanalembetse nawo marathon yoyamba chaka chotsatira.

Nditaphunzitsidwa kwa masabata 18, ndinathamanga Rock 'n' Roll Marathon ku Washington, DC, mu 2016. Ngakhale ndidayamba kuthamanga kwambiri ndipo ndidali toast ndi mile 18, ndidamaliza komabe chifukwa palibe njira yomwe ndingawalole onse maphunziro anga amawonongeka. Mphindi yomweyo, ndinazindikiranso kuti panali mphamvu mkati mwanga yomwe sindimadziwa kuti ndili nayo. Marathon imeneyo inali chinthu chomwe ndimakhala ndikugwira ntchito mosazindikira kwa nthawi yayitali, ndipo ndimafuna kuchita zomwe ndimayembekezera. Ndipo nditatero, ndinazindikira kuti ndikhoza kuchita chilichonse chomwe ndingaike m'malingaliro mwanga.

Kenako chaka chino, mwayi woyendetsa TCS New York City Marathon udawonekera ngati mawonekedwe a PowerBar's Clean Start. Lingaliro linali kupereka nkhani yofotokozera chifukwa chomwe ndimamverera kuti ndiyenera kuyambiranso mwai wampikisano. Ndinayamba kulemba ndikufotokozera momwe kuthamanga kwandithandizira kupezanso cholinga changa, momwe kunandithandizira kuthana ndi vuto lovuta kwambiri m'moyo wanga: kuledzera kwanga. Ndagawana nawo kuti ndikapeza mpikisanowu, nditha kuwonetsa anthu ena, zidakwa, kuti ndi zotheka kuthana ndi kumwerekera, ziribe kanthu zomwe ziri, ndi kuti izo ndi kotheka kuti mubwezeretse moyo wanu ndikuyambiranso. (Zokhudzana: Kuthamanga Kunandithandiza Pomaliza Kumenya Kukhumudwa Kwanga Kwakubereka)

Chomwe ndidadabwitsidwa, ndidasankhidwa kukhala m'modzi mwa anthu 16 oti ndikhale mgulu la PowerBar, ndipo ndidathamanga nawo chaka chino. Mosakayikira anali zabwino moyo wanga mwakuthupi ndi m'maganizo, koma sizinayende monga momwe ndinakonzera. Ndinali ndikumva kuwawa kwa ng'ombe ndi phazi zomwe zimabweretsa mpikisano, motero ndinali ndi mantha kuti zinthu ziyenda bwanji. Ndinkayembekezera kuti ndikakhala ndi anzanga awiri omwe amayenda nane, koma onse awiri anali ndi ntchito yomaliza yomwe idandisiya ndikuyenda ndekha, ndikuwonjezera mantha.

Bwerani tsiku la mpikisano, ndidadzipeza ndekha ndikumwetulira kuyambira khutu mpaka khutu mpaka ku Fourth Avenue. Kunena zowonekeratu, kuyang'ana kwambiri, komanso kusangalala ndi unyinji inali mphatso. Chimodzi mwazinthu zovuta kwambiri pazovuta zakugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala ndikulephera kutsatira; osakwanitsa kukwaniritsa zolinga zomwe mwakonza. Zimawononga kudzidalira. Koma tsiku limenelo ndinakwaniritsa zimene ndinafuna kuchita m’mikhalidwe yosakwanira, ndipo ndine wokondwa kuti ndinali ndi mwaŵiwo. (Zokhudzana: Kuthamanga Kunandithandiza Kugonjetsa Chizolowezi Changa Cocaine)

Lero, kuthamanga kumandipangitsa kukhala wokangalika komanso kuyang'ana pa chinthu chimodzi - kukhala woledzeretsa. Ndi dalitso kudziwa kuti ndili ndi thanzi labwino komanso ndimachita zinthu zomwe sindimaganiza kuti ndingachite. Ndipo ndikayamba kufooka m'maganizo (nkhani zankhani: Ndine munthu ndipo ndikadali ndi mphindi zimenezo) ndimadziwa kuti nditha kuvala nsapato zanga zothamanga ndikupita kwa nthawi yayitali. Kaya ndikufuna kapena ayi, ndikudziwa kuti kutuluka kunja ndi kupuma mpweya wabwino kumandikumbutsa nthawi zonse za kukongola kwake kukhala wosaledzeretsa, kukhala wamoyo, wokhoza kuthamanga.

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