Chifukwa Chake Sayansi Mumada Tsiku la Valentine

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• Mankhwala Osokoneza Bongo Mu Ubongo Wanu
• Mayankho Anu Achilengedwe Pakugawana Kwambiri Kumeneko
• Very ~Real~ Ululu wochokera ku Mtima Wosweka
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Ndi nthawi imeneyo ya chaka-chilichonse, kuyambira ma baluni mpaka makapu a peanut butter, chimakhala chofanana ndi mtima. Tsiku la Valentine layandikira. Ndipo ngakhale tchuthi chimayambitsa ena anthu asefukira ndi chisangalalo ngati madzi mumphika yotentha yooneka ngati mtima, ena amatekeseka akawona February 14 pa kalendala. Mwayi ngati mudadina nkhaniyi, muli mgulu lomalizali.

Simuli nokha. An Elite Daily Kafukufuku wazaka 415 apeza kuti 28 peresenti ya azimayi ndi 35 peresenti ya amuna sachita chidwi ndi Tsiku la Valentine.

Pali zifukwa zikwizikwi zomwe timakonda kudana ndi February 14, akufotokoza a Laurie Essig, Ph.D., pulofesa wa zachikhalidwe cha anthu ku Middlebury College komanso wolemba Chikondi, Inc..

Zachidziwikire, malonda ndi gawo lake.Koma anthu akamva chisoni ndi Tsiku la Valentine, nthawi zambiri amakhala chifukwa chakuyembekezera kwakukulu komwe tsikuli likhala-kwa onse omwe sanakwatire ndikudikirira mnyamata kapena mtsikana wamaloto awo kuti abwere komanso omwe ali pachibwenzi, nawonso. "Ngakhale mutakumana ndi 'ameneyo,' mumayenera kulimbana ndi mphepo yamkuntho komanso zinthu zoopsa padziko lapansi," sys Essig. "Tsiku la Valentine ndilonjezo lodabwitsa lapachaka, ndipo enafe timangokhalira kukhumudwa nalo."

Kukhumudwa kumeneku kungafotokozedwe, mwa zina, ndi sayansi. Inde, pali zifukwa zina zosakukondweretsani Tsiku la Valentine kupatula kungokhala odandaula kapena osasamala. Apa, tikufotokozera zifukwa zingapo - ndikupereka mayankho othana ndi malingaliro omwe amakupangitsani kuti musamangoganizira za chikondi panthawi ino ya chaka.

Mankhwala Osokoneza Bongo Mu Ubongo Wanu

Oxytocin ndi mahomoni otchedwa chikondi, ndipo amapangidwa makamaka mu hypothalamus. Neurochemical imamangiriza ma neuron muubongo ndipo imathandizira kukulitsa kulumikizana pakati pa anthu, kukondana, komanso kumvera ena chisoni.

Asayansi apeza kuti kuchuluka kwa oxytocin yomwe munthu aliyense amatulutsa kumangiriridwa ku majini-akazi amakonda kutulutsa oxytocin kuposa amuna, akufotokoza motero Paul Zak, Ph.D., katswiri wa zamaganizo pa Claremont Graduate University ku California. Izi ndi zina chifukwa testosterone imalepheretsa kutulutsidwa kwa oxytocin, kupanga "machitidwe olamulira" osati "machitidwe ophatikizira."

Kuchuluka kwa "mahomoni achikondi" kutulutsidwa kumamangiridwanso ndi umunthu wanu-anthu omwe ali ovomerezeka komanso achifundo amatulutsa oxytocin wambiri, Zak akufotokoza. Koma izi zimatha kusintha tsiku ndi tsiku, kutengera mawonekedwe anu komanso zakunja. "Pali anthu omwe samatulutsa oxytocin wochuluka atatha kucheza bwino, angokumbatirana kapena kuthokoza," akufotokoza. "Anthu awa atha kukhala ndi tsiku loipa kwambiri. Kupsinjika mtima kumalepheretsa ubongo kupanga ochuluka a oxytocin, kuchokera pama cellular," akufotokoza. "Inde, anthu ena sangakondwere ndi V-Day, mwa zina, chifukwa cha izi."

Koma sizitanthauza kuti anthuwa sangathe kuchita zinthu kuti ayese kuwonjezera oxytocin muubongo.

Zoyenera kuchita: Zak akunena kuti ngati mukufuna kusintha maganizo anu pa tchuthi, njira yabwino yosonyezera chikondi (ndi oxytocin) ndi kupereka kwa wokondedwa wanu (ngati muli pachibwenzi), kholo, chiweto, kapena bwenzi. Mumalandira zomwe mumapereka zikafika ku hormone. "Ndizovuta kwambiri kuti anthu aziwonjezera oxytocin wawo, koma atha kupereka mphatsoyo. Ngati mupatsa iwo omwe mumakhala nawo chikondi ndikuwasamalira, zimawalimbikitsa kuti nawonso azikupatsani zomwezo," akutero Zak.

Palinso njira zina zothandizidwa ndi sayansi zosinthira momwe ma neurochemicals anu amamangira ma neuron anu kuti apange oxetocin wochulukirapo, ngati "kukonzanso ubongo," akutero Zak. "Mutha kukhala m'bafa lotentha kuti mupumule (kutentha kumadzutsa oxytocin), kusinkhasinkha, kuyenda ndi munthu wina, kapena kuchita chinthu chosangalatsa komanso chowopsya ndi mnzanu kuti muchepetse kupsinjika ndikupangitsa oxytocin: Kwerani chosakhazikika! Tengani kukwera helikopita!" Kapena yesani kulimbitsa thupi kwatsopano ndi anzanu. (Zopindulitsa zogonana pambuyo pochita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndizofunika.)

Ngakhale simunakwatire, kuyesa izi ndi anzanu komanso abale anu kumatha kuthandizira kuti mukhale ndi oxytocin wanu komanso kupsinjika kwanu (ndipo mwina kudana ndi V-Day) kwanu.

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Nthawi ino ya chaka imalimbikitsa PDA ndikutulutsa zolemba pa Facebook ndi Instagram. Makhalidwe ngati amenewa angayambitse anthu onyoza a V-Day, ndipo kafukufuku wina wa yunivesite ya Northwestern University angasonyeze chifukwa chake.

Kafukufuku wochokera ku Northwestern adapeza kuti anthu omwe adafotokoza zaubwenzi wawo pa Facebook samakonda kwenikweni. Kulekerera sikutanthauza kungogawana chithunzi ndi wokondedwa wanu-ndikulongosola kwapamwamba monga, titi, kusewera-tsiku la Tsiku la Valentine usiku. (FYI, nazi njira zisanu zodabwitsa zochezera pagulu zingathandizire ubale wanu.)

Ndipo, ayi. Sikuti ndi anthu osakwatiwa okha amene amaipidwa ndi khalidwe limeneli-palibe amene amawakonda.

"Sitinapeze kusiyana kulikonse pakati pa ozindikira omwe anali osakwatiwa ndi omwe anali pachibwenzi malinga ndi momwe amakondera anthu omwe akusunga chidziwitso chaubwenzi," watero wolemba nawo kafukufukuyu, a Lydia Emery. "Zikuwoneka kuti sizokhudza anthu osakwatira omwe amachitira nsanje kapena kukwiya-zikuwoneka kuti aliyense sakonda kunyalanyaza."

Zoyenera kuchita: Ngakhale simungathe kupeweratu maanja mumsewu kapena chibwenzi chochita bwino chonyamula chimbalangondo chachikulu cha teddy panjanji yapansi panthaka, pali njira zomwe mungatenge kuti muchepetse kugawana uku m'moyo wanu.

Pangani detox yapa social media mwezi wa February. Kuchita izi kungakupangitseni kukhala osangalala patchuthichi-kafukufuku wopangidwa ndi ofufuza a New York University ndi Stanford University adapeza kuti kuyimitsa Facebook milungu inayi yokha kumapangitsa kuti anthu anene kusintha kwa chimwemwe chawo. Ngati izi zikumveka monyanyira, yesani kudzichepetsera kusakatula kwa Instagram kwa mphindi 10 tsiku lililonse. (Palinso maubwino ena pakuchepetsa nthawi yanu yophimba, inunso.)

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Chabwino-nayi yomwe mwakhala mukuyembekezera. Kuphulika kwa malonda ofiira ndi pinki kulikonse komwe mungatembenuke mosakayikira kumayambitsa malingaliro okhudza chikondi m'moyo wanu. Ngati mukulimbana ndi kusudzulana kapena chikondi chosavomerezeka, tchuthi likhoza kuyambitsa ululu. Inde, kupweteka kwenikweni.

"Ubongo wathu sumatipatsa njira yophweka yothawira ku mikangano kapena kudzipatula komwe timamva ngati wina sakubwezera," akutero Zak. "Ndipo kumverera kotereku ndi kusamvana kumachitidwa chimodzimodzi muubongo momwe ululu wamthupi umasinthidwa, kudzera m'matrix athu opweteka."

Mwanjira ina, chikondi chimapweteka kwenikweni, ndipo Tsiku la Valentine lingakhale chikumbutso chosawoneka bwino cha izi.

Zoyenera kuchita: Zak akuti imodzi mwa njira zabwino zochizira ululuwu ndi oxytocin. "Oxytocin ndi analgesic," iye akutero. "Kafukufuku wambiri akuwonetsa kuti amachepetsa kupweteka pochepetsa zochitika m'matumbo opweteka."

Ngati simuli pabanja, kwezani magawo anu ndikuti, kukhala ndi phwando la Tsiku la Galentine kumatha kuthandizira kuthana ndi malingaliro anu okondwerera holideyo ndikukweza milingo ya oxytocin. "Kwenikweni ndi chinthu chanzeru kuchita phwando ndikupita kukacheza ndi anzako," akutero Zak. "Ndiye bwererani ku zojambulajambula za chaka chamawa. Anthu asataye mtima [pakupeza chikondi]."

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