Kudzisamalira Pakutha Kwa Msambo: Amayi 5 Agawana Zomwe Adakumana Nazo

Zamkati

• Kodi kudzisamalira kumatanthauza chiyani kwa inu, ndipo chifukwa chiyani kuli kofunika kwambiri pakutha kwa msambo?
• Kodi ndi zinthu ziti zomwe mudachita kuti mudzisamalire mukamasamba?
• Kodi ndi malangizo ati omwe mungapatse munthu amene akusamba chifukwa chodzisamalira?

Ngakhale zili zoona kuti kusamba kwa msambo kwa munthu aliyense ndikosiyana, kudziwa momwe mungasamalire bwino kusintha kwamthupi komwe kumatsata gawo lino la moyo kumatha kukhala kokhumudwitsa komanso kopatula. Ndi chifukwa chake kudzisamalira pa nthawi ino ndikofunikira kwambiri.

Kuti mumvetse bwino momwe kudzisamalira kungakuthandizireni panthawiyi komanso kuti mudziwe zomwe zingathandize ena, tafunsa azimayi asanu omwe adayamba kusamba kuti agawane maupangiri awo. Izi ndi zomwe amayenera kunena.

Zaumoyo ndi thanzi zimakhudza moyo wa aliyense mosiyanasiyana. Tinapempha anthu ochepa kuti agawane nkhani zawo. Izi ndi zokumana nazo zawo.

Kodi kudzisamalira kumatanthauza chiyani kwa inu, ndipo chifukwa chiyani kuli kofunika kwambiri pakutha kwa msambo?

Jennifer Connolly: Kudzisamalira kumatanthauza kuwonetsetsa kuti ndikupanga nthawi yokwaniritsa zosowa zanga zakuthupi, zamaganizidwe, ndi zauzimu. Nthawi zambiri azimayi amakhala osamalira ana awo kapena amuna awo, koma amadzipeza okha akusamalira makolo awo okalamba pomwe akupita kumapeto.

Pakutha kwa thupi, matupi athu amasintha, ndipo ndikofunikira kuti tisinthe zina mwazomwe timadzipangira tokha. Zitha kutanthauza ngakhale mphindi 10 patsiku kuti musinkhesinkhe kapena kulemba nkhani, kusamba bwino, kapena kukhala ndi nthawi yokumana ndi chibwenzi.

Karen Robinson: Kwa ine, kudzisamalira kumatanthauza kukhala woona mtima kwa ine ndekha, kuthana ndi zovuta pamoyo wanga, kupanga zizolowezi zatsopano zobwereranso kwa munthu yemwe ndinali ndisanathe kusamba, ndikuika patsogolo "nthawi yanga" yochita zosangalatsa, ndikuchita zinthu zotsitsimula monga kusinkhasinkha.

Kudzisamalira ndikumakhala ndi malingaliro abwino, kugona bwino, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kusamalira thanzi langa komanso thanzi langa, komanso kudya mopatsa thanzi kuti lipatse thupi langa mwayi wothana ndi kusintha kwa moyo wamkati.

Maryon Stewart: Amayi amatengeka kwambiri kuti athandize ena onse m'miyoyo yawo, nthawi zambiri kunyalanyaza zosowa zawo. Kusamba kwa nthawi ndi nthawi yomwe amafunikira, kamodzi, kuyang'ana kwambiri pakuphunzira kukwaniritsa zosowa zawo ngati ulendo wosalala pakutha kwa msambo ndi zomwe amaganiza.

Kudziwa bwino zida zodzithandizira, zothandizidwa ndi kafukufuku, ndikofunikira monga kugwiritsa ntchito. Kuphunzira momwe tingakwaniritsire zosowa zathu komanso kudzisamalira tokha pa nthawi yausinkhu wauchikulire ndiye chinsinsi chobwezeretsa thanzi lathu komanso "kutsimikizira zamtsogolo" thanzi lathu.

Kodi ndi zinthu ziti zomwe mudachita kuti mudzisamalire mukamasamba?

Magnolia Miller: Kwa ine, kudzisamalira pakutha kwa msambo kunaphatikizapo kusintha kwa zakudya komanso kuchita zonse zomwe ndingathe kuti ndigone mokwanira usiku. Ndinazindikiranso kufunika kochita masewera olimbitsa thupi kuti ndithandizire kuthetsa nkhawa zomwe zimachitika mthupi langa. Ndinachita zinthu zonsezi ndikulandira.

Mwina, komabe, chinthu chothandiza kwambiri chomwe ndidadzichitira ndekha pansi pa chikwangwani cha "kudzisamalira" chinali kudzilankhulira ndekha ndi zosowa zanga popanda kupepesa. Ngati, mwachitsanzo, ndimafuna nthawi yokhala ndekha kutali ndi ana anga ndi amuna anga, sindinabweretse mlandu uliwonse ndi ine nthawi imeneyo.

Ndinakhalanso wotsimikiza kuti ndimatha kunena ayi ngati ndimamva kuti zofuna zanga nthawi komanso moyo wanga zimabweretsa mavuto osafunikira. Ndinayamba kuzindikira kuti sindinkafunika kuonekera pempho lililonse kwa ine, ndipo sindinadzimve kuti ndili ndi udindo wothandiza wina kuti akhale womasuka ndi chisankho changa.

Ellen Dolgen: Ndondomeko yanga yodzisamalira tsiku ndi tsiku imaphatikizapo kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi (kuyenda ndi kukana), kutsatira pulogalamu yoyera komanso yathanzi, kusinkhasinkha kawiri patsiku, ndikuphunzira kunena kuti ayi kotero sindikuluma kuposa momwe ndimatafunira. Ndimayesetsanso kuthera nthawi yochuluka momwe ndingathere ndi zidzukulu zanga, ndipo chakudya chamadzulo ndimabwenzi anga ndichofunika!

Ndimakondanso kwambiri mankhwala opewera matenda, motero njira yanga yodzisamalirira imakhudzana ndi kuchezera chaka chilichonse ndi akatswiri anga osamba ndikudzaza tchati changa cha kusamba kwa msambo. Ndimadziwitsanso mayeso ena, monga mammograms, colonoscopy, kuchuluka kwa mafupa, komanso mayeso amaso.

Stewart: Kusamba kwanga kunayamba ndili ndi zaka 47, zomwe sindimayembekezera konse. Nditayamba kutentha, ndidachichotsa ngati chokhudzana ndi kupsinjika, chifukwa ndimakhala ndikusudzulana panthawiyo. Pambuyo pake, ndinayenera kuvomereza kuti anali mahomoni anga akusewera.

Ndidadzipangitsa kuti ndiziyankha bwino ndikasunga diary komanso diary yowonjezerapo komanso kuchuluka kwa zizindikilo tsiku lililonse. Ndinali ndikuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, koma ndimakhala wopumira pakupuma. Chifukwa cha kafukufuku wina yemwe ndidamuwerenga pazomwe ndimachita pochepetsa kuchepa kwa moto, ndidaganiza zoyesa kusinkhasinkha ndi pulogalamu ya Pzizz. Izi zidandipangitsa kumva kuti ndimapezanso mphamvu komanso kuzizira.

Zowonjezera zomwe ndidasankha zidathandiziranso kuwongolera kutentha kwamafuta ndikukhazikika kwa magwiridwe anga a mahomoni. Ndinatha kuthetsa matenda anga m'miyezi yochepa.

Connolly: Pakutha msinkhu, ndimayamba kusinkhasinkha tsiku ndi tsiku ndikuyamba kuyang'ana kudya zakudya zachilengedwe. Ndidayamba kupaka mafuta opaka thupi langa lonse ndikatha kusamba kuti ndithane ndi khungu langa louma. Zinandivuta kugona usiku, motero ndinadzilola kugona pansi ndi buku masana kuti ndipumule ndipo nthawi zambiri ndimagona pang'ono.

Sindichititsanso manyazi kunena kuti ndidayankhula ndi adotolo ndikuyamba kumwa mankhwala opondereza kuthana ndi kukhumudwa komwe kumadza chifukwa cha kusintha kwa mahomoni.

Kodi ndi malangizo ati omwe mungapatse munthu amene akusamba chifukwa chodzisamalira?

Connolly: Dzichepetseni nokha, ndipo mvetserani zomwe thupi lanu likusintha likufuna. Ngati mukuvutika maganizo, pezani munthu woti muzilankhula naye. Ngati muli ndi nkhawa yolemetsa, onjezerani masewera olimbitsa thupi ndikuyang'anirani zowonjezera zomwe mungadye mosazindikira. Koma onetsetsani kuti mukuleza mtima ndi thupi lanu. O, ndikugona thonje! Kutuluka thukuta usiku kungakhale kwakuthengo!

Miller: Ndidamuuza kaye kuti kusintha kwa msambo ndikusintha osati moyo wonse. Kusintha kwa kusintha kwa kusamba kumatha kukhala kwakukulu kwambiri ndikuwoneka ngati kosatha. Izi zitha kukupangitsani kumva kuti simudzakhalanso "wabwinobwino". Koma mudzatero.

M'malo mwake, kutha msinkhu kwenikweni kufikiridwa, sikuti [akazi ena] amangomva kuti "abwinobwino" kachiwiri, koma [kwa ena] pamakhala kudzimva kosangalatsa, kwatsopano komanso mphamvu yamoyo. Ngakhale zili zowona kuti unyamata wathu watitsalira, ndipo izi zitha kukhala zoyambitsa kulira ndi kutayika kwa amayi ena, ndizowona kuti kumasuka kumwezi ndi zovuta zonse zomwe zimatsatirapo ndizosangalatsa chimodzimodzi.

Kwa azimayi ambiri, zaka zawo atatha msinkhu ndi zina mwazomwe amakhala osangalala komanso opindulitsa kwambiri, ndipo ndikulimbikitsa azimayi kuti azikumbatira zaka izi mwachidwi komanso mwatcheru.

Robinson: Osasiya kudzisamalira pa nthawi yeniyeni m'moyo wanu yomwe muyenera kudzisamalira kwambiri.

Dolgen: Pangani mndandanda wazomwe mungakwanitse kudzisamalira nokha. Chotsatira, pezani katswiri wazakulephera kusamba yemwe akuchita maphunziro asayansi ndi maphunziro aposachedwa. Katswiriyu ndi mnzanu yemwe akuchita bizinesi yakutha msambo, onetsetsani kuti mwasankha mwanzeru.

Ndizotheka kumva bwino pakapita nthawi, kusamba, komanso kusiya kusamba ngati mutapeza thandizo lomwe mukufuna ndikuyenera!

Jennifer Connolly amathandiza azimayi opitilira 50 kukhala olimba mtima, otsogola, komanso abwino kudzera mu blog yake, Moyo Wotayidwa Bwino. Katswiri wolemba zaluso komanso wothandizira pazithunzi, amakhulupirira ndi mtima wonse kuti azimayi akhoza kukhala okongola komanso odalirika pazaka zilizonse. Nkhani zakuya za a Jennifer komanso kuzindikira kwake zamupangitsa kukhala mnzake wodalirika kwa azimayi zikwizikwi ku North America komanso padziko lonse lapansi. Jennifer wakhala akufunafuna maziko abwino kuyambira mu 1973.

Ellen Dolgen ndiye woyambitsa komanso Purezidenti wa Kusamba Lolemba Lolemba ndipo ndi wamkulu wa Dolgen Ventures. Ndiwolemba, wolemba mabulogu, wokamba nkhani, komanso wathanzi, thanzi, komanso wothandizira kuzindikira za kusintha kwa msambo. Kwa Dolgen, maphunziro akusamba ndi ntchito. Atalimbikitsidwa ndi zomwe adakumana nazo ali ndi vuto lakutha msambo, Dolgen adapereka zaka 10 zapitazi za moyo wake kuti agawane mafungulo a ufumu wakuthawa patsamba lake.

Pazaka 27 zapitazi, Maryon Stewart yathandiza akazi masauzande ambiri padziko lonse lapansi kuti akhalenso ndi thanzi labwino ndikuthana ndi PMS ndi matenda osamba. Stewart adalemba mabuku 27 othandiza, adalemba nawo mapepala azachipatala, adalemba zolemba zawo zamanyuzipepala ndi magazini ambiri tsiku lililonse, ndipo anali ndi makanema ake pa TV komanso pawailesi. Analandiranso Mendulo ya Britain Britain ku 2018 chifukwa chothandizidwa ndi maphunziro a mankhwala osokoneza bongo atachita bwino zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri ku Angelus Foundation, yomwe adakhazikitsa kukumbukira mwana wake wamkazi, Hester.

Karen Robinson amakhala kumpoto chakum'mawa kwa England ndipo amakhala mabulogu okhudza kusamba pa tsamba lake Kusamba Pa Intaneti, ma blogs a alendo m'malo azachipatala, kuwunikiranso zinthu zokhudzana ndi kusintha kwa thupi, ndipo adafunsidwa mafunso pa TV. Robinson atsimikiza kuti palibe mayi amene ayenera kumusiyidwa yekha kuti athane ndi vuto lakumapeto kwa nthawi ya kusamba, kusintha kwa thupi, komanso zaka zotsatira.

Magnolia Miller ndi wolemba zaumoyo komanso thanzi la amayi, loya, komanso wophunzitsa. Ali ndi chidwi ndi nkhani zaumoyo wa azimayi omwe ali pakati paumoyo zokhudzana ndi kusintha kwa kusamba. Ali ndi digiri yaukadaulo yolumikizana ndiumoyo ndipo ndiwotsimikizika pakulimbikitsa ogula. Magnolia adalemba ndikufalitsa zapaintaneti m'malo ambiri padziko lonse lapansi ndipo akupitilizabe kulimbikitsa azimayi patsamba lake, Bulogu wa Perimenopause . Kumeneko amalemba ndikufalitsa zomwe zili pazokhudzana ndi thanzi la amayi.