Kodi Kukondera Kokha Ndi Chiyani? Nanga Zitsanzo Zake Ndi Ziti?

Zamkati

• Ndi chiyani?
• Malo olamulira
• Zitsanzo zakukondera
• Zofufuza zokhudzana ndi kukondera kodzikonda
• Zoyambitsa kukondera
• Kudzikulitsa
• Kudziwonetsera nokha
• Zina zomwe zitha kusankha kudzikonda
• Amuna ndi akazi
• Okalamba vs. achinyamata
• Chikhalidwe
• Kodi kukondera kodzikonda kumayesedwa bwanji?
• Kodi pali zovuta ziti zokondera zokha?
• Kutenga

Ndi chiyani?

Mwinamwake mumadziŵa zokhazokha zokhazokha, ngakhale simukudziwa ndi dzina.

Chodzikondera ndichizolowezi cha munthu yemwe amatenga mbiri pazabwino kapena zotulukapo, koma kumadzudzula zakunja pazinthu zoyipa. Izi zitha kukhudzidwa ndi zaka, chikhalidwe, matenda azachipatala, ndi zina zambiri. Zimakonda kupezeka pakati pa anthu.

Malo olamulira

Lingaliro la locus of control (LOC) limatanthawuza za zikhulupiriro zamunthu pazomwe zimayambitsa zochitika, ndi zomwe zikutsatira. Pali magawo awiri a LOC: mkati ndi kunja.

Ngati munthu ali ndi LOC wamkati, adzawagwiritsa ntchito molimbika, khama, komanso kulimbikira. Ngati ali ndi LOC wakunja, adzalemekeza kupambana kulikonse kapena china chakunja kwa iwo eni.

Anthu omwe ali ndi LOC wamkati amatha kuwonetsa kudzikonda, makamaka pazokwaniritsa.

Zitsanzo zakukondera

Kudzikonda kumapezeka mumitundu yonse, pakati pa amuna ndi akazi, mibadwo, zikhalidwe, ndi zina zambiri. Mwachitsanzo:

• Wophunzira amakhoza bwino pamayeso ndipo amadziuza kuti adaphunzira mwakhama kapena amaphunzira bwino. Amakhoza bwino pamayeso ena ndipo akuti mphunzitsiyo samamukonda kapena mayesowo anali osalungama.
• Ochita masewera amapambana masewera ndipo amati amapambana chifukwa chogwira ntchito molimbika. Akataya sabata yotsatira, amadzinenera kuti awonongera pakuyimba koyipa kwa ochita zisankho.
• Wofunsira ntchito amakhulupirira kuti walembedwa ntchito chifukwa cha zomwe wakwanitsa, ziyeneretso, komanso kuyankhulana kwabwino. Potsegulira kale sanalandire mwayi, akuti wofunsayo sanamukonde.

Wina yemwe ali ndi vuto la kukhumudwa kapena kudzidalira atha kusintha malingaliro okonda kudzikonda: Amanena kuti zochitika zoyipa ndizomwe adachita, ndipo zochitika zabwino ndi mwayi kapena zomwe wina adachita.

Zofufuza zokhudzana ndi kukondera kodzikonda

Kuyesera kosiyanasiyana kwachitika kuti aphunzire kukondera kodzikonda. Pakafukufuku wina mu 2011, omaliza maphunziro awo adalemba mayeso pa intaneti, adakumana ndi kukhudzidwa, adalandira mayankho, kenako adapereka malingaliro pazomwe amachita. Wofufuzayo adapeza kuti kutengeka kwina kumakhudza kudzikonda kodzikonda.

Kuyesanso kwina kwakale kuchokera ku 2003 kudasanthula maziko azomwe amadzipangira okha pogwiritsa ntchito maphunziro azithunzi, makamaka fMRI. Zinapezeka kuti dorsal striatum - yomwe imapezekanso ikugwira ntchito zamagalimoto zomwe zimagawana zidziwitso - zimayang'anira kudzikonda.

Zoyambitsa kukondera

Amaganiziridwa kuti pali zifukwa ziwiri zogwiritsa ntchito kudzikonda: kudzikweza ndi kudzionetsera.

Kudzikulitsa

Lingaliro lodzikweza limagwira ntchito pakufunika kuti munthu akhalebe wamtengo wapatali. Ngati munthu agwiritsa ntchito kudzikonda, kudzinenera zinthu zabwino komanso zoipa kwa omwe akunja kumawathandiza kuti azidziona kuti ndi abwino komanso amadzidalira.

Mwachitsanzo, tinene kuti mukusewera baseball ndikunyanyala. Ngati mukukhulupirira kuti woyimbirayo amatchedwa kunyanyala pomwe munalandila zolakwika zoyipa, mutha kukhalabe ndi lingaliro loti ndinu wovuta.

Kudziwonetsera nokha

Kudziwonetsera nokha ndikomwe kumamveka - kudzipereka komwe munthu amapereka kwa anthu ena. Ndikulakalaka kuwonekera mwanjira inayake kwa anthu ena. Mwanjira iyi, kukondera kodzikonda kumatithandiza kukhalabe ndi chithunzi chomwe timapereka kwa ena.

Mwachitsanzo, ngati mukufuna kuoneka ngati muli ndi zizolowezi zabwino zowerengera, mutha kunena kuti mayeso oyipa ndi mafunso osalembedwa m'malo molephera kukonzekera bwino.

Mwina munganene kuti, "sindinkagona usiku wonse, koma mafunso sanali chifukwa cha zomwe tinapatsidwa." Dziwani kuti kudzionetsera sikofanana ndi kunama. Muyenera kuti mwakhala mukugona usiku wonse mukuwerenga, koma lingaliro loti mukadaphunzira mosachita bwino silimabwera m'malingaliro.

Zina zomwe zitha kusankha kudzikonda

Amuna ndi akazi

Kusanthula kwa meta mu 2004 kunapeza kuti ngakhale kuti maphunziro ambiri adasanthula kusiyanasiyana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi pazofuna zawo, izi ndizovuta kuzithetsa.

Izi sizili chifukwa choti zotsatira zosakanikirana zapezeka ndikusiyana kwakugonana pazoperekera. Ndi chifukwa chakuti ofufuza apeza m'maphunziro awa kuti kukondera komwe kumadzidalira kumadalira msinkhu wa munthuyo komanso ngati akuyang'ana zonena kuti kuchita bwino kapena kulephera.

Okalamba vs. achinyamata

Kudzikonda kwanu kumatha kusintha pakapita nthawi. Zingakhale zochepa kwambiri kwa okalamba. Izi zitha kukhala chifukwa cha zokumana nazo kapena zomwe zimakhudza mtima.

Okalamba amathanso kukhala ndi chidwi chocheperako (chizolowezi choweruza mikhalidwe yoyenera kukhala yolondola).

Chikhalidwe

Chikhalidwe chakumadzulo chimakonda kupatsa chidwi chokhazikika pawokha, chifukwa chake kudzikonda komwe kumadzetsa mwayi kumathandiza. M'miyambo yambiri yothandizana, zopambana ndi zolephera zimawoneka kuti zimakhudzidwa ndimagulu am'magulu. Anthu ammaderawa amadziwa kuti machitidwe a munthu payekha amadalirana ndi zazikulu.

Kodi kukondera kodzikonda kumayesedwa bwanji?

Pali njira zingapo zoyesera kukondera kodzikonda:

• kuyezetsa labotale
• Kujambula kwamitsempha
• kudzinenera nokha

Kuyesedwa kochitidwa mu labu ndi ofufuza kumatha kukupatsirani njira zochepetsera kudzikonda, komanso momwe zinthu zilili. Zithunzi za Neural zimapatsa ofufuza zithunzi zaubongo kuti awone mbali ziti zaubongo zomwe zimakhudzidwa pakupanga zisankho ndi malingaliro. Kudzidziwitsa nokha kumathandiza kupereka zotsatira kutengera zomwe zidachitika m'mbuyomu.

Kodi pali zovuta ziti zokondera zokha?

Kudzikonda komwe ndimatumikira kumalimbikitsa kudzidalira, koma sikupindulitsa konsekonse. Nthawi zonse kunena zakusokonekera kwazinthu zakunja ndikungotenga mbiri pazinthu zabwino zitha kukhala zokhudzana ndi narcissism, yomwe imalumikizidwa ndi zoyipa zakuntchito komanso ubale wapakati pa anthu.

M'kalasi, ngati ophunzira ndi aphunzitsi nthawi zonse amadzinenera anzawo, izi zimatha kubweretsa kusamvana komanso maubale.

Kutenga

Kudzikonda nokha ndi kwachilendo ndipo kumakwaniritsa cholinga. Komabe, ngati munthu amangonyalanyaza udindo wawo pazochitika zoipa, izi zitha kuwononga njira zophunzirira komanso ubale. Chifukwa chake ndichinthu chofunikira kudziwa.

Zodzikondera zokhazokha zimatha kusiyanasiyana pakati pamagulu, komanso pakapita nthawi mwa munthu.