Kodi Kugonana Kumakhudza Bwanji Mtima Wanu? Zinthu 12 Zomwe Muyenera Kudziwa Zokhudza Kukopa ndi Kudzutsa

Zamkati

• Zinthu zoyambirira: Kugonana kumatanthauza zinthu zosiyanasiyana kwa anthu osiyanasiyana
• Ngakhale pali malingaliro ambiri, amuna kapena akazi anu alibe chochita ndi momwe mumamvera mukamagonana
• Anthu ena amafuna kukopeka kuti athe kukopa thupi
• Ena amapeza kuti kuchita zinthu zokopa kumatha kuyambitsa kukopeka ndi malingaliro
• Ena atha kuwona kuti kukopa kwam'maganizo ndi kwakuthupi kumagwira ntchito m'malo awiri osiyana
• Mosasamala malingaliro anu, kugonana ndi kutengeka kumakhudza njira zomwezo muubongo
• Kuphatikiza apo, anthu ambiri amakumana ndi zomwezo panthawi yogonana ndikumasulidwa
• Ndikofunikanso kudziwa kuti kukakamira zogonana kumatha kuzimitsa ziwalo za preortal cortex
• Kudalira kwa oxytocin ndichinthu china
• Ofufuzawa akutulutsabe mitundu yosiyanasiyana yazokhumba, zokopa, ndi cholumikizira
• Ngati mukufuna kupatula kugonana ndi kutengeka
• Ngati mukufuna kukulitsa ubale pakati pa kugonana ndi kutengeka
• Mfundo yofunika

Zinthu zoyambirira: Kugonana kumatanthauza zinthu zosiyanasiyana kwa anthu osiyanasiyana

Kugonana kumatha kukhala chiwonetsero chomaliza cha kukondana komanso kukondana. Kapena chosinthasintha chamalingaliro. Kapena wothetsa mavuto. Kapena zonsezi ndi za kubereka ana. Kapenanso ndi nthawi yabwino. Zitha kukhala zinthu zonsezi ndi zina zambiri.

Kugonana kumatanthauza zinthu zosiyanasiyana kwa anthu osiyanasiyana. Ndipo zilizonse zomwe zikutanthauza kwa inu sizikhala zosasintha, mwina.

Zitha kutanthauza zinthu zosiyanasiyana munthawi zosiyanasiyana pamoyo wanu, kapena kuyambira tsiku limodzi kupita tsiku lotsatira.

Ndipo mukudziwa chiyani? Zonse ndi zabwinobwino.

Ngakhale pali malingaliro ambiri, amuna kapena akazi anu alibe chochita ndi momwe mumamvera mukamagonana

Amayi ali pachisoni cha zotumphukira zawo; Amuna amalamulira mwamphamvu momwe akumvera pang'ono. Osachepera ndi zomwe nzeru zotchuka zikadakhala zitatipangitsa ife kukhulupirira.

Malingaliro awa ali ndi mizu yakuya, koma anthu ndi ovuta kwambiri kuposa pamenepo.

Pakhala pali ena onena kuti azimayi amafotokoza momveka bwino momwe akumvera, ku United States komanso kumayiko ena akumadzulo kwa Europe.

Amanenanso kuti amuna ali ndi mayankho omwewo kapena akulu pakulimbana ndi kupsinjika kwamaganizidwe.

Kusiyana kumeneku kungachitike chifukwa cha chikhalidwe cha komwe tikukhala. Mwinamwake takhala tikungogwira ntchito pazomwe tidauzidwa ndizovomerezeka.

Masiku ano, anthu samakonda kutsatira magulu osagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.

Mulimonse momwe mungakhalire amuna kapena akazi komanso ngati mumafotokoza poyera kapena ayi, momwe mumamvera mukamachita zogonana ndizapadera.

Anthu ena amafuna kukopeka kuti athe kukopa thupi

Kodi mukuyenera kumakopeka ndi malingaliro musanaganize zogonana? Ngati izi zikumveka ngati inu, simuli nokha.

Mwinanso muyenera kulumikizana ndiuzimu. Mwina ndi malingaliro awo kapena kuti mumagawana nzeru zoyambira za moyo.

Mwinamwake inu munamverera kagawo kakang'ono kameneko ka chisangalalo pamene iwo ankakupangitsani kuseka ’mpaka inu mutalire.

Kapena ndi nkhani ya Ndikufuna kudziwa - zinazake zomwe simungathe kuziyika m'mawu, koma mumadziwa zikachitika.

Mukufuna chibwenzi. Malingaliro anu akakhala m'derali ndipo mwalumikizana, mutha kuyamba kumva kutengeka.

Kunja kwa zone imeneyo, simugonana. Mukuyamba kupanga chikondi.

Ena amapeza kuti kuchita zinthu zokopa kumatha kuyambitsa kukopeka ndi malingaliro

Anthu ena amakopedwa limodzi ngati maginito.

Pali zomwe zimachitika ndi mankhwala, njala, chilakolako changwiro chakuthupi ndi munthu wina. Ndi chilakolako.

Pamene umagwirira pakati pa anthu ali olondola, kulimbitsa thupi kumatha kukula kwambiri.

Kuwunikiranso komwe kudachitika mu 2012 kunapeza magawo awiri aubongo omwe amatsata momwe zimakhalira kuchokera pakukonda kugonana. Imodzi ndiyo malo okhala. Ili mu kotekisi yaubongo.

Enanso ndi striatum. Ili mkati mwa forebrain. Chosangalatsa ndichakuti, striatum imalumikizananso ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo.

Chikondi ndi chilakolako chogonana zimayambitsa magawo osiyanasiyana a striatum.

Kugonana ndi chakudya ndi zina mwazinthu zosangalatsa zomwe zimayambitsa chilakolako. Njira zokhazikitsira - mphotho ndi mtengo wake - zimayambitsa gawo lachikondi.

Pamene chikhumbo chakugonana chimapindulitsidwa, chimakhala chizolowezi, chomwe chimatha kukutsogolerani kunjira yachikondi.

Chilakolako chikayamba kusandulika chikondi, gawo lina la striatum limayamba.

Ena atha kuwona kuti kukopa kwam'maganizo ndi kwakuthupi kumagwira ntchito m'malo awiri osiyana

Anthu ndi zolengedwa zosamvetsetseka zokhala ndi zigawo zambiri.

Kwa ena a ife, pali mizere yolunjika yogawanitsa pakati pa zokopa zakuthupi ndi zokopa zakuthupi. Sizimabwera pamodzi.

Mutha kukopeka ndi winawake popanda chilakolako chogonana. Kapena mumakhala ndi chidwi chakuthupi chamunthu amene samakuchitirani zotheka.

Ngakhale muubwenzi wanthawi yayitali, anthu amatha kusinthana ndikupanga zogonana - kapena kusiya zogonana kwathunthu - ndipo izi nzabwino.

Mosasamala malingaliro anu, kugonana ndi kutengeka kumakhudza njira zomwezo muubongo

Kafukufuku wa 2018 akuwonetsa kulumikizana pakati pamachitidwe okhudzana ndi kugonana, malingaliro, komanso ubereki wokhudzana ndi endocrine system, makamaka, hormone yotchedwa kisspeptin.

Malinga ndi blog ya Tufts University yokhudzana ndi sayansi yaukadaulo, kudzutsa chilakolako chogonana sikuchitika mwakachetechete, koma mozungulira.

Zimakhudzanso kuzindikira, thupi, komanso minyewa, zonse zomwe zimaphatikizidwa ndikumakhudzidwa ndi kutengeka. Zimakhala zomveka.

Kuphatikiza apo, anthu ambiri amakumana ndi zomwezo panthawi yogonana ndikumasulidwa

Kuthamanga kwa mahomoni okhudzana ndi kugonana kumatanthauza kuti malingaliro ena amakhala ofala nthawi yogonana kapena atangotsatira kumene.

Palibe amene amamverera nthawi iliyonse, zachidziwikire.

Zina mwazabwino ndizo:

• chisangalalo
• kumasulidwa kwathunthu
• kumasuka ndi bata
• kukhutira

Kutengera ndi momwe zinthu zilili, mutha kukhala ndi malingaliro ochepera, monga:

• chiopsezo
• manyazi
• liwongo
• kumva kutopa mwakuthupi kapena m'maganizo

Ngati muli ndi postcoital dysphoria, mutha kumva chisoni, kuda nkhawa, kapena kulira mutagonana.

Ndikofunikanso kudziwa kuti kukakamira zogonana kumatha kuzimitsa ziwalo za preortal cortex

Sitimazindikira nthawi zonse zikamachitika kwa ife, koma zimawonekeratu poyang'ana m'mbuyo. Sizinthu zopeka zasayansi kapena zongoyerekeza. Ndi zenizeni.

Kugonana kumatha kuthana ndi ziwalo zaubongo zomwe zimakuthandizani kuganiza mozama ndikukhala ngati munthu wanzeru.

Inde, mumasiya nthawi yanu yanzeru.

Chiweruzo chabwino ndi kulingalira kumatayika ku chilakolako chogonana, chotsitsidwa mchisangalalo cha zonsezi.

Mukabwerera ku zenizeni, mungadabwe, ndikumangodzimvera chisoni kapena manyazi, zomwe mumaganizira.

Zokuthandizani: Simunali.

Kudalira kwa oxytocin ndichinthu china

Oxytocin ndi mahomoni opangidwa mu hypothalamus, omwe amatsegula zotsekeka mukamagonana.

Kuthamanga kwa oxytocin kumakhudzidwa ndi gawo lakugonana. Zitha kulimbikitsanso chidwi monga chikondi, chikondi, ndi chisangalalo.

Iyenera kudziwika kuti ndi mahomoni achikondi. Tsoka, ukhoza kumangokhalira kukhudzidwa ndikumverera kapena kukhala wachangu pachikondi.

Oxytocin imakupangitsani kuti mubwererenso zina.

Ofufuzawa akutulutsabe mitundu yosiyanasiyana yazokhumba, zokopa, ndi cholumikizira

Biology yakusilira, kukopa, ndi kulumikizana sikophweka. Mahomoni amathandizadi.

Nthawi zambiri, kusilira kumayendetsedwa ndi testosterone ndi estrogen, mosatengera kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi. Ndipo chilakolako chimayendetsedwa ndi kulakalaka kugonana.

Chokopa chimayendetsedwa ndi dopamine, norepinephrine, ndi serotonin.

Chokopa chimatha kapena sichiphatikizapo chilakolako, koma malo opangira mphotho ya ubongo ndi chinthu china. Ndicho chifukwa chake mumakhala osasangalala kapena mumamva ngati mukuyenda mumlengalenga pachiyambi cha chibwenzi.

Chingwe chimayendetsedwa ndi oxytocin ndi vasopressin. Ndizomwe zimakhazikitsa maziko olumikizana komanso kukhala ndi ubale wautali.

Pali kuchuluka kwa mahomoni, kuchuluka kwa mahomoni kumasiyana, ndipo pali zina zambiri kuposa izo.

Tivomerezane: Kugonana ndi chikondi ndizovuta. Tikungoyang'ana pamwamba pazomwe zimapangitsa kuti anthu azikayikira.

Asayansi pakati pathu akupitilizabe kusanthula zinsinsi za zilakolako zathu zakugonana komanso momwe amasewera wina ndi mnzake.

Komabe ndizotheka kuti sitidzathetsa mavutowo, kusiya china chake kumalingaliro.

Ngati mukufuna kupatula kugonana ndi kutengeka

Pali zifukwa zilizonse zomwe mungafune kuti muchite zogonana komanso kutengeka.

Ndibwino kuti mufufuze zomwe zakulimbikitsani kotero, ngati zingafunike, mutha kuthana ndi zovuta zomwe sizinathetsedwe.

Mulimonsemo, palibe cholondola kapena cholakwika apa. Simunatsekereredwe njira imodzi yokhala moyo wanu wonse.

Ngati mukufuna chibwenzi wamba kapena "anzanu omwe ali ndi maubwino", nazi malingaliro:

• Choyambirira komanso chofunikira, khalani owona mtima ndi mnzake. Ndizabwino chabe.
• Nenani zomwe mukufuna - komanso zosafunikira - kupereka mwakuthupi komanso mwamalingaliro, komanso zomwe mukuyembekeza kuti mudzabwezere.
• Kambiranani za njira zolerera ndi mchitidwe wogonana motetezeka.
• Gwiritsani ntchito limodzi kukhazikitsa malamulo kuti mupewe kudziphatika kapena kudalirana.
• Lankhulani za zomwe mungachite ngati mmodzi wa inu ayamba kufuna zina.

Kumbukirani kuti zilizonse zomwe mungakonde kapena mosamala kwambiri, malingaliro atha kukula. Maganizo ndi oseketsa mwanjira imeneyi.

Ngati mukufuna kukulitsa ubale pakati pa kugonana ndi kutengeka

Chifukwa chake, ngakhale mahomoni ndi biology ya zonsezi, mwina mungafunike china chothandizira kukulitsa mgwirizano.

Nazi njira zina zoyambira:

• Musalole kuti chibwenzi chakuthupi chikhale chotsatira, chinthu chomwe mumachita nthawi ikalola. Sanjani. Pangani tsiku. Ikani patsogolo pake.
• Phatikizani kukhudza mwachikondi tsiku lonse. Gwiranani manja. Stroko mkono. Kukumbatirana. Cuddle up. Muzipatsana matupi. Kukhudza sikuyenera kutsogolera ku kugonana nthawi yomweyo. Kuyembekezera pang'ono kumapita kutali.
• Yang'anani maso ndi kuigwira. Chitani izi pafupipafupi - mukavomera, mukasemphana, mukamagawana nthabwala zamkati, komanso moyo ukakhala wotopetsa.
• Lolani kusamala kwanu. Khalani osatekeseka pamalingaliro ndikupezeka kwa wina ndi mnzake. Khalani munthu wawo.
• Kupsompsona. Kupsompsona kwenikweni. Ndipo khalani ndi nthawi yanu.
• Lankhulani momwe mukumvera. Nenani kuti "Ndimakukondani" ngati ndi momwe mumamvera.
• Nchiyani chimakutembenuzirani? Kuunikira kwamakandulo, nyimbo zonyansa, zilowerere motalika mu mphika wotentha? Chilichonse chomwe chingakhale, khalani ndi nthawi yokonzekera siteji ndikukhala ndi malingaliro.
• Fotokozerani zokhumba zanu zakuthupi. Muzisinthana kutsogozana kudzera mu zomwe mumakonda.
• Zinthu zikayamba kukhala zathupi, konzekerani bwino. Gwirani, onani, kumva, kununkhiza, ndi kulawa ndi chilichonse chomwe muli.
• Khalani pano pakadali pano ndi munthu amene akufuna kukhala nanu nthawiyo. Pasakhale kanthu kalikonse. Ndipo mwa njira zonse, zimitsani TV ndi foni nthawi yanu limodzi.

Mfundo yofunika

Tivomerezane. Dzikoli likanakhala lotopetsa ngati tonsefe tikanamva chimodzimodzi. Pankhani yogonana ndi zotengeka, palibe njira yoyenera kumva. Khalani nokha.