Kodi Phokoso Lanu Logonana Limatanthauza Chiyani Kwenikweni

Zamkati

• Chifukwa Chomwe Anthu Ena Amalira ~ Kwambiri ~ Pogonana
• Chifukwa Chake Anthu Ena Sadandaula N’komwe
• Zomveka Zabwino Kwambiri = Zomveka Zenizeni
• Momwe Mungapezere Phokoso Lanu Loona Pabedi
• 1. Mvetserani phokoso la kugonana kwa anthu ena.
• 2. Kuchita maliseche.
• 3. Sewerani nyimbo.
• 4. Ikani zolaula kumbuyo.
• 5. Muziganizira kwambiri mpweya wanu.
• 6. Lankhulani ndi bwenzi lanu!
• Mfundo Yofunika Kwambiri
• Onaninso za

Moan kapena mwa. Kung'ung'udza, kubuula, kupumula, kapena gurgle. Fuulani kapena [ikani phokoso la chete]. Phokoso lomwe anthu amapanga akamagonana, chabwino, ndiosiyana ndi anthuwo. Komabe, ndi ma com-com onse, makanema odziwika bwino a XXX, komanso ma jerks athunthu kunja uko, mutha kukhala kuti mumadzidera nkhawa chifukwa chakulira kwanu kwakugonana - kapena kusowa kwawo.

Kaya mukumangokhalira kumangokhalira kumangokhalira kumenyanirana, kapena mukufuna kuti milomo yanu yakumwamba ikhale yolimba pomwe milomo yanu yapansi ili ... ayi, tabwera kudzakulowetsani mwachinsinsi: Zomveka zanu zogonana sizachilendo.

Pano, akatswiri ogonana amaphwanya chifukwa chake anthu ena amadandaula za kugonana pamene ena sali-komanso chifukwa chake kutsegula phokoso lanu lodziwika bwino la kugonana kungakhale chinsinsi cha kugonana bwino.

Chifukwa Chomwe Anthu Ena Amalira ~ Kwambiri ~ Pogonana

Ganizirani za kuusa moyo kumene mumamasula mukapita kuchimbudzi mutayenda ulendo wautali. Kapenanso, kubuula komwe kumatsagana ndi iwe kukuchotsa zidendene pambuyo pa kuvala. Jill McDevitt Ph.D. katswiri wokhudzana ndi kugonana ku CalExotics-ndipo izi zimaphatikizapo kukhumudwa pakugonana. Kwenikweni, nthawi zina mumalira chifukwa zimangomveka bwino, kaya ndi kubuula kapena ayi!

Kuthekera kwina ndikuti mukubuula panthawi yogonana kuti mulankhulane. "Ndi chida cholumikizirana," akutero McDevitt. "Kulira kumakupatsani mwayi wowongolera mnzanu m'njira yoyenera osagwiritsa ntchito mawu - ndi njira ina yonena kuti" eya inde, zowonjezera pamenepo! "(Onani: Momwe Mungamuuzire Mnzanu Zomwe Mukufuna Mukugona.)

Kumbali ina, kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti nthawi zina phokoso lachiwerewere sali za kufotokoza chisangalalo chanu chakugonana, koma m'malo mwake zokondweretsa wokondedwa wanu. Mwachitsanzo, kafukufuku wina waung'ono wa 2010 wokhudza amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe adasindikizidwa m'magazini Zosungira Zakale Zokhudza Kugonana adapeza kuti azimayi ndi omwe amafuula kwambiri amuna awo asanafike pachimake. Ofufuzawa ati izi zikuwonetsa kuti mwina azimayi ena amabuula "zabodza" kuti athandize okondedwa awo pachimake.

Kodi ndi chinthu choipa? Nthawi zina, inde. Amayi opitilira magawo awiri pa atatu aliwonse omwe ali mu kafukufukuyu akuti akubuula zabodza chifukwa anali osamasuka kapena otopa ndi kugonana. Tanthauzo, m'malo molankhulana ndi wokondedwa wawo momwe kugonana kungakhalire kosangalatsa kwa iwo kapena kuti akufuna kusiya, adayesa kuti kugonana "kupite mofulumira."

McDevitt amalangiza mwamphamvu (!) Motsutsana ndi kubuula pazifukwa ziwirizi. Chifukwa kubuula kumakhala ngati kulimbikitsana, ngati mnzanu akuchita zinazake zakutizakuti ndipo mukung'ung'udza ngati akuchita zina zomwe zingakufikitseni pachimake, "zimaphunzitsa" wokondedwa wanu kupitiliza kuchita izi basi- choncho chinthu, iye akufotokoza. Kuusa moyo. (Zokhudzana: Kulumikizana Ndikofunika Kwambiri Pazomwe Zimachitika. Malangizo Awa Atha Kuthandiza).

Izi zati, kubuula kwabodza pakugonana sikuli nthawi zonse chinthu choyipa, malinga ndi a McDevitt omwe amatenga chiyembekezo chochepa: "Kuchita zinthu zomwe zimapangitsa mnzanu kukhala wosangalala kumatha kupanga inu khalani omvera inunso, "akutero. Kutanthauza, ngati kubuula kwabodza kumabweretsa chisangalalo kwa mnzanu ndipo kumakusangalatsani, sikuti ndikungodzipereka nokha momwe kumawonekera pamtengo.

Ditto amapita ngati mwadzilimbitsa kale ndipo mukubuula chifukwa chokoka mtima chimathandiza mnzanuyo kufika kumeneko. Monga McDevitt ananenera, kuchita zinthu kuti muthandize mnzanuyo kuti azisangalala si chibadwa (kapena ngakhale kawirikawiri!) Chinthu choyipa. M'malo mwake, zitha kutanthauza kuti inu ndi mnzanu mumachita bwino polankhula zomwe aliyense amafunikira kuti azisangalala, akutero.

Chifukwa Chake Anthu Ena Sadandaula N’komwe

Kunena zomveka bwino: Kugonana mokweza kwambiri si kugonana kwabwinoko. "Anthu ena amangokhala chete panthawi yogonana, ndipo ndi zoona ngakhale atakhala ndi kugonana kopambana m'moyo wawo," akutero McDevitt.

Ngati mwachilengedwe (mwachilengedwe kukhala mawu ofunikira pano) pambali yopanda phokoso panthawi yogonana, musaope. Kugonana kwanu sikosangalatsa kwenikweni kuposa anzanu okweza kwambiri. Momwemonso, ngati mnzanu sapanga phokoso panthawi yamgwirizano, sizitanthauza kuti sakusangalala. (Zokhudzana: 5 Zinthu Zomwe Aliyense Ayenera Kudziwa Zokhudza Kugonana ndi Chibwenzi, Malinga ndi Relationship Therapist)

Ngakhale kubuula ndi njira imodzi yolumikizirana tikamagonana, si njira yokhayo, akufotokozera McDevitt. Zizindikiro zopanda makutu monga kuyang'ana m'maso ndikugwiritsa ntchito manja anu kukankhira mnzanu kutali, kapena kuwakokera pafupi, ndi zizindikiro zomveka monga kuyankhula kapena kupuma kwambiri, zingakhale monga (kapena zambiri!) Zophunzitsa ngati kubuula kwapakhosi kapena kubuula. Mwina, anthu sali akubuula chifukwa akugwiritsa ntchito zida zina zoyankhulirana m'malo mwake, akutero.

Komabe, nthawi zina, anthu samabuula chifukwa ali kuyima iwowo kuchokera kubuula. "Anthu ambiri amachepetsa kubuula kwawo ndikung'ung'udza ndikumangokhala chete ndikubuula, kapena osamveka chilichonse," atero a Jess O'Reilly, Ph.D., wolandila @SexWithDrJess Podcast.

Chifukwa chiyani? Mwina mwazolowera kutseka milomo yanu zaka Kuchita maliseche mwakachetechete momwe mungathere mnyumba yodzaza kapena kugonana komwe simukufuna kuti anthu ena amve (ganizirani: chipinda chogona chaubwana kapena chipinda chogona ku koleji). Koma, nthawi zina, zikhoza kukhala chifukwa chakuti mwakhala mukudzimva kuti ndinu otero akuyenera kukhala chete mchipinda chogona, akutero O'Reilly.

Vuto ndi ilo? Kusintha kamvekedwe ka mawu ogonana kumakhudza momwe mumapumira. "Kupuma ndi kusintha komwe kumabwera ndikangokhala chete kumatha kukhudza kuyenda kwa magazi ndi kupuma kwa minofu, zomwe pamapeto pake zimalepheretsa kuyankha kwamankhwala," akutero O'Reilly. Kuthamanga kwa magazi kumaliseche (makamaka minofu ya m'chiuno) ndi gawo lofunika kwambiri la kudzutsidwa-kwenikweni, ndizomwe zimalola nyini kudzipaka mafuta, akufotokoza. Chifukwa chake ngati mukungopuma kapena kupondereza zachiwerewere, mutha kukhala mukulepheretsa zosangalatsa zanu.

Zomveka Zabwino Kwambiri = Zomveka Zenizeni

Pamapeto pake, ngati muli mwachilengedwe kulira kwakukulu kapena kachetechete, mukuchita bwino! "Kupanga mawu ngati njira yachilengedwe yosangalalira ndichinthu chabwinobwino, ndipo kusamveketsa mawu ngati njira yachilengedwe yosangalalira ndichinthu chachilendo," akutero a McDevitt. Apanso, mawu ofunikira apa ndi "mwachilengedwe." (Pazolembedwazo, pafupifupi chilichonse m'moyo wanu wakugonana chikhala bwino mukachilola kuti chichitike mwachilengedwe.)

Mukakumana ndimavuto ndipamene mukuyamba kusewera ngati Moaning Muse kapena Silent Sex Master chifukwa ndi momwe mumaganizira. akuyenera kuwomba. Ndipo malingaliro awa amachokera kuti? (Ding, Ding, Ding) Zolaula. "Anthu ambiri amawonera zolaula, kenako amatsanzira malirowo panthawi yogonana chifukwa amaganiza kuti ndi momwe amayenera kumvekera," akutero O'Reilly. Vuto ndiloti, zolaula zimapangidwira kusangalatsa, osati kukuphunzitsani kugonana kapena kumveka panthawi yogonana, akutero. (Kuwonera zolaula kuti mudziwe momwe hanky-panky "ayenera" amamvekera kuti angakonde kuwonera Tiger King kuti muphunzire kuphunzitsa akambuku.)

Tsopano, izo sizikutanthauza kuti zolaula ndi zoipa mwachibadwa, koma zikutanthauza kuti sizinapangidwe kuti zikuphunzitseni momwe "mukuyenera" kumvekera. TD; LR: Palibe "kuyenera" kumveka. Malingana ngati ali owona, palibe cholakwika kapena cholondola. (Mwinanso tenesi yanu imamveka ngati kulira kwachiwerewere - ndipo ndichoncho.)

"Maphokoso anu achilengedwe (kapena kusowa kwa mawu) ndi gawo lofunika kwambiri pakugonana kwanu," akutero O'Reilly. "Ngati mukuwadzudzula kapena kuwanamizira ndikuwapatsa mphamvu chitani bata kapena phokoso pakama, chisangalalo chanu ndi orgasm zidzakhudzidwa."

Momwe Mungapezere Phokoso Lanu Loona Pabedi

Ngati mwakhala mukuwongolera mawu anu kapena kuwayika pakama, malangizowa atha kukuthandizani kuti mupeze nyimbo zanu zenizeni.

1. Mvetserani phokoso la kugonana kwa anthu ena.

Zovuta ndizo, zogonana zokha zomwe mukudziwa ndi za anthu omwe mwagona nawo. (Kapena, mwina, wokhala naye nyumba, mnansi, kapena zolaula zomwe mumabwererako.) Ngati mukudabwa momwe anthu ena amamvera akamamvekera, nkhani zabwino (ndipo mwina, zodabwitsa): Pali intaneti yonse nkhokwe yachidziwitso ya ~ mapokoso ovomerezeka ~.

Kuyambitsa: Laibulale ya Orgasm Sound, malo ogulitsira (enieni) akumveka kuchokera kwa anthu osadziwika omwe aliyense angathe kutsitsa pa intaneti. Mverani mawu osiyanasiyana osiyanasiyana kuti mumve momwe anthu amamvekera mosiyanasiyana kwinaku akulola mbendera yawo kuwuluka.

2. Kuchita maliseche.

Kuti mumve kuti ndi mawu ati achibadwa kwa inu poyerekeza ndi omwe mwaphunzira, O'Reilly amalimbikitsa kuti mudzimvere nokha. "Panthawi yodziseweretsa maliseche, kukakamizidwa konse (ogwirizana) kumachotsedwa, ndiye mwayi wabwino kwambiri wolola kuti phokoso lanu lituluke popanda choletsa," akutero. "Pezani, kubuula, kubuula, ndipo musasinthe mawu anu kuti amveke ngati achikazi kapena achimuna ... ingowasiyani aziyenda," akutero.

Mukakhala omasuka ndi mawu anu panthawi yogonana, mudzakhala omasuka ndi mawu anu panthawi yogonana. (Ngati simukufuna kuseweretsa maliseche, malangizowa angakuthandizeni.)

Kutchula koyenera: Masewera apawokha komanso osiyana nawo ndizosiyana kwambiri. Kotero, inu mukhoza kukhala mwachibadwa (pali mawu amenewo kachiwiri!) chete pamene mukuseweretsa maliseche, koma kupanga phokoso panthawi yogonana-kapena mosemphanitsa, akutero Zhana Vrangalova, Ph.D., pulofesa wa kugonana kwaumunthu ku New York University ndi sexpert wokhalamo. ya LELO. "Zomwe zili zowona kwa inu ndizabwino," akutero.

3. Sewerani nyimbo.

Mukakhala paokha kapena mutagonana, "ngati kumva mawu anu oyipa kumakupangitsani kuti musamade nkhawa, yambitsani nyimbozo kuti ziwachotsere pang'ono," akutero O'Reilly. (Kungonena kuti: The Weekend, Banks, and PartyNextDoor ndizodabwitsa kuti khazikitsidwe.)

4. Ikani zolaula kumbuyo.

Mukudziwa kuti mukudziletsa? "Muthanso kusewera zolaula kumbuyo kuti [mawu amenewo kuphatikiza ndi] anzanu akumvekera kuposa mawu anu, atero a O'Reilly." Zili ngati kupanga gulu la oimba la malotowa. "

Pachifukwa ichi, "Ndimalimbikitsa kwambiri kuti musamalere zolaula, m'malo mwake muzisankha zolaula zamakhalidwe abwino kapena zamasewera," akutero Vrangalova, omwe amawonetsa ochita masewera omwe akuwoneka kuti akusangalala kwenikweni, onani Bellesa, CrashPadSeries, ndi Frolic. Ine. Ingokumbukirani: Mukukakamiza sewero kuti likuthandizeni kukhala omasuka kupanga mawu anu enieni. Osati kuti ndikupatseni mawu oti muzitsanzira. (Psst. Palinso tani yaulere, yodzuka, yapaintaneti yomwe mungakonde, inunso.)

5. Muziganizira kwambiri mpweya wanu.

Ngati simumva kupanga phokoso, pumani! Zedi, kupuma ≠ kubuula. Koma kupuma kumapangitsa phokoso ndipo kumakhudza chisangalalo, malinga ndi O'Reilly.

"Kupuma kwambiri ndiko chiyambi chachikulu pakupanga ruckus wowonjezera," akutero McDevitt.

Mutha kuyesa masewero atatuwa opumira pofuna kugonana kwabwino. Kapenanso, mutha kuwona izi mp3 pomwe katswiri wamankhwala a Barbara Carrellas, katswiri wazakugonana komanso wolemba wa Urban Tantra: Kugonana Kopatulika Kwa Zaka Zaka makumi awiri ndi chimodzi imakuyendetsani muukadaulo wakupuma motere, pang'onopang'ono. (Zokhudzana: Kodi Kugonana kwa Tantric Ndi Chiyani, Ndipo Mumatani)

6. Lankhulani ndi bwenzi lanu!

Zonse ziwiri kutseka msampha wanu ndi kukuwa kukhoza kusokoneza chisangalalo ngati sichowona, kotero ngati mumadzimvera nokha za phokoso limene mumapanga kapena simukupanga, ndi bwino kulera ndi mnzanuyo.

"Pemphani chitsimikizo kuti phokoso lanu lakugonana ndilolandiridwa ndikulimbikitsidwa muulemerero wawo wonse," akutero McDevitt. "Kapena, atsimikizireni kuti kukhala chete kwanu sikukutanthauza kuti mulibe nthawi yamoyo wanu."

Mfundo Yofunika Kwambiri

Kaya mukumveka Ooohh ahh, ah ah ah ah, ooo. O O O OO IYE, [kukhala chete], kapena penapake pakati, zonse nzabwino!

Chifukwa chake m'malo mongopanga phokoso m'malo mochita china chifukwa ndi zomwe mukuganiza kuti muyenera kuchita, "dziloleni mupite kukamveka mapokoso kapena osapanga," akutero O'Reilly. "Kupatula apo, kudzilola kupita ndikofunikira kuti mukhale ndi malingaliro osangalatsa."

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