Kodi Ndizowona Kuti Google App Yanu Imasanafike Tsiku?

Zamkati

• Inde, Palibe Yankho Lachilengedwe
• Phindu Lalikulu Lakufufuza Mwachangu: Chitetezo
• Itha Kukuthandizani Kuzindikira Zosagwirizana
• Koma Pali Zero Pindulani ndi Over-Sleuthing
• Kumbukirani: Kusaka Kwanu Sikudzanena Nkhani Yonse
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Musanakumane ndi winawake wa pulogalamu ya zibwenzi, kodi inu Google ndinu amoyo mwa iwo? Kapena yang'anani kagwiridwe kawo kochezerako, ndikudandaulira machesi omwe ali ndi zida zawo zachinsinsi? Ngati inde, ndinu ambiri. Malinga ndi kafukufuku wa Statista, anthu 55 pa anthu 100 aliwonse amatenga dzina la machesi awo kumalo osakira asanakumane ndi IRL, pomwe 60% amapita kumayendedwe awo amacheza. Ndi 23% yokha mwa anthu omwe adafunsidwa omwe amati sakupha.

Koma monga mphutsi, mafuta a kokonati, ndi kuyeretsa makala kwatsimikiziridwa, chifukwa chakuti chinachake chiri chofala sichimapangitsa kuti chikhale bwino. Ngati mukuganiza kuti muyenera kutsatira unyinji pankhaniyi, mwafika pamalo abwino. M'munsimu, atatu ubale akatswiri kuthana ndi ubwino ndi kuipa kwa kuphunzira za tsiku lanu kudzera ulalo musanakumane nawo IRL.

Inde, Palibe Yankho Lachilengedwe

Monga momwe zimakhalira nthawi zambiri zogonana komanso zibwenzi, yankho la "Kodi ndiyenera Google machesi anga?" sindiye inde kapena ayi. Sizolondola kunena kuti Googling nthawi zonse imakhala yoyipa kapena yabwino nthawi zonse, atero a Jesse Kahn, LCSW-R, director and Therapist ku Gender & Sexuality Therapy Center ku NYC. “Chofunika apa ndi kulimbikitsa kwanu,” iwo akutero. Ndi malingaliro ati omwe akukutumizani ku bar yanu yosaka: Kodi ndi mantha komanso kukayika? Chidwi ndi nosiness? Chisangalalo ndi jitters?

Kudziwa zomwe mukuyang'ana kapena kusaka musanayambe kufunafuna ndikofunika, atero a Jor-El Caraballo M. Mwanjira imeneyi mudzadziwa mukapeza zomwe mukuyang'ana, akutero. (Ndipo mutha kupeŵa kulowa pansi mozama mukapeza.)

Phindu Lalikulu Lakufufuza Mwachangu: Chitetezo

"Chibwenzi pa intaneti chawonjezeka kwambiri, ndipo monga momwe zakhalira, momwemonso chiwerengero cha opha zoopsa," atero a Megan Harrison, wothandizira maubwenzi ku Tampa Bay komanso woyambitsa Couples Candy. (Anthu osachepera 18,000 adagwidwa ndi "zachinyengo zachikondi" mu 2018, malinga ndi FBI.) Googling ingakuthandizeni kupewa m'modzi mwa asodziwa ndikuthandizani kuti mutsimikizire kuti wina ndi amene amadzinenera. Mwachitsanzo, ngati gulu lawo la mpira liphulika, alidi pakati pa gulu lawo, ndipo ngati nyuzipepala yakomweko ikunena zamabizinesi awo a mandimu kupita kumtunda, alidi amalonda.

Ngakhale kulowetsaku kukuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi mtendere wamumtima, Caraballo akukupemphani kuti muyang'ane mkati ndikuwona ngati muli ndi zifukwa zomukayikira munthuyu kapena ayi. "Kodi pali china chake makamaka chomwe chimakukhudzani? Ngati ndi choncho, kodi zomwe muwerenga pa intaneti zidzachitika kwenikweni "Ngati pali china chake makamaka chomwe chimakukhudzani," khulupirirani chibadwa chanu, "akutero a Kahn." Musavomere kukumana ndi munthu pokhapokha mutatsimikiza kuti ndi omwe amadzinenera khalani, ndipo mumakhala omasuka kutero. "

Ndibwino kufunsa wina yemwe mudakumana naye pa intaneti kuti agawane nanu Snap kapena Instagram, kuti mukhale ndi chitsimikizo, akutero Caraballo. Mawu ofunikira apa: funsani. M'malo mochita upolisi, mukungofunsa munthu wina kuti akuthandizeni.

"Muthanso kupempha wina kuti azicheza mwachangu mukanema musanavomereze kukumana pamasom'pamaso," akutero. "Izi zimakulolani kuchita cheke cha vibe, komanso zimatsimikiziranso kuti munthuyo ali bwanji, ndi ndani, poyamba adadziimira yekha." (Onani: Ndidayamba Madeti Oyamba Kudzera Pamacheza Akanema Panthawi Yokhazikika Yokhazikika ya COVID-19 - Umu Ndi Momwe Zinakhalira)

Ndipo ndikofunikira kukumbukira kuti palibe njira yotsimikizira kuti muli pachibwenzi. Pongoyambira, anthu ambiri pa intaneti amasungidwa mosamala kuti apange chithunzi, "chifukwa chake kutsata njira zapaintaneti si njira yolondola kwambiri yodziwira munthu kapena mawonekedwe ake," akutero Harrison.

Kuti mukhale otetezeka, ndibwino kuti mupatse ochepera awiri (akumaloko) abwenzi komanso abale anu momwe mungayendere tsiku lanu, komanso kugawana malo omwe muli ndi munthu pafoni yanu, musanakumane ndi intaneti. (Zokhudzana: 5 Zinthu Zomwe Aliyense Ayenera Kudziwa Zokhudza Kugonana ndi Chibwenzi, Malinga ndi Relationship Therapist)

Itha Kukuthandizani Kuzindikira Zosagwirizana

"Kafukufuku wocheperako pa intaneti angathandize kumvetsetsa zamunthu kapena malingaliro andale komanso achipembedzo," akutero Harrison. Mutha kufuna kudziwa ngati ali ndi malingaliro omwe simukugwirizana nawo konse, akutero - makamaka akapanda kupereka zambiri pazambiri zawo.

Mwachitsanzo, mwina mumangocheza ndi anthu omwe amavota buluu ndipo machesi anu amavala chipewa cha "Make America Great Again" pazithunzi zawo zonse za Facebook. Kapena, mudaphunzira kuti ndi odzipereka ku tchalitchi kuchokera ku Instagram, pomwe ndinu wosakhulupirira kuti kuli Mulungu. Kuphunzira zinthu izi patsogolo pa IRL hang kungakhale kothandiza chifukwa zimakupulumutsani kuti musakumane ndi munthu yemwe simunayambe naye chibwenzi.

Izi zati, pali njira zopezera izi popanda bar yosaka. Bwanji? Kukambirana! Ndizosavuta kufunsa machesi anu malingaliro andale ndi malingaliro adziko lapansi musanakumane. Mwachitsanzo munganene kuti, "Tisanapange zokambirana pamasom'pamaso, kodi mungadandaule ndikakufunsani omwe mudavotera zisankho zapitazi? Ndazindikira kuti ndimagwirizana kwambiri ndi anthu omwe nawonso ndi a Democratic." Kapena, "Sindikudziwa momwe ndingayambitsire izi mwachisawawa, koma ndimafuna kukudziwitsani kuti ndine wokonda kusankha. Kodi mungafune kugawana nawo malingaliro anu pamutuwu?" (Zokhudzana: Mlandu Wokhala Patsogolo Pazakugonana Kwanu Patsiku Loyamba)

Monga Caraballo ananenera, "Kukhala pachibwenzi kumangokhudza kuphunzira zambiri za wina ndikudziwitse kuti mudziwe. Kufunsa mafunso ndikukhala ndi chidwi ndi gawo limodzi mwamphamvu."

Koma Pali Zero Pindulani ndi Over-Sleuthing

Ngakhale kuti mpukutu waung’ono ungakhale wolimbikitsa, “ukhoza kukhala wodetsa nkhaŵa ngati ukumba mozama,” akutero Harrison. “Mukapeza kuti mukuloweza malo otchuthi omwe mungakumane nawo m’mbuyomu kapena mayina a anzanu onse, ndiye kuti mwina ndi chizindikiro chakuti mwapita patali kwambiri,” akutero. (Ngati mukungochita kuti muthane ndi mitsempha isanachitike, lingalirani chimodzi mwazolingalira za tsiku loyamba zopangidwa ndi Headspace ndi Hinge m'malo mwake.)

Kuphunzira zambiri za munthu musanakumane ndi IRL kumakupatsaninso mwayi wowalola kuti adziwonetsere kwa inu. Osati zokhazo, komanso mutha kuphimba matanthauzo, malingaliro, ndi nkhani pazomwe mumaphunzira zomwe zingakhale zolondola kapena sizingakhale zolondola, akutero Kahn. “Ndipo malingaliro olakwika amenewo angakhudze mmene mumaganizira, mmene mukumvera, ndi kulankhula ndi munthuyo,” iwo akutero. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, mutha kutsiriza tambala-kudzitsekera nokha ndi malingaliro anu!

Kuchokera pazomwe ndakumana nazo, ndikudziwa kuti kudumphira mozama kungayambitsenso mphamvu zosafunikira (komanso zovuta) zomwe wina amadziwa. njira zambiri za mnzakeyo mosemphanitsa. Nthawi ina, ndidakhala pachibwenzi ndi wina yemwe amachita ngati akundidziwa chifukwa amatha kuwerenga nkhani yomwe adalemba (kapena isanu) yomwe ndidalemba. Popeza sindinapatsidwe mwayi woti ndidziwe zambiri za iwo, ndinasokonezeka kwambiri ndipo pamapeto pake ndinachepetsa tsikulo.

Komanso, simungathe kufotokoza zenizeni zomwe mwaphunzira pakusaka kwanu. "Kubweretsa china mpaka tsiku lanu chomwe mwapeza pa intaneti kungakhale nkhani yovuta," akutero Caraballo. Ngati mudagawana nawo mbiri yanu pa intaneti ndiye kuti mutha kungotchula zomwe mudawona ndikufunsa za izi, akutero. Koma pazambiri zopezeka ndi ena (monga kusaka kwa Google, LinkedIn lurk, kapena track ya Venmo) zitha kukhala zovuta. "Kufunsa munthu za zomwe mwapeza [pazosaka zanu] kungawathandize kukhala otetezeka kapena amantha kwambiri," akutero. Chilungamo! (Zokhudzana: Chifukwa Chake Kuda Nkhawa Kwanu Kumapangitsa Kukhala pachibwenzi pa intaneti Kuvuta Kwambiri)

Kumbukirani: Kusaka Kwanu Sikudzanena Nkhani Yonse

Pokhapokha mutaphunzira chinachake chomwe chimakupangitsani kukayikira chitetezo chanu, "ndikofunikira kutenga zomwe mwapeza ndi mchere wamchere," akutero Harrison. "Chithunzi kapena tweet zimangofotokozera gawo limodzi la nkhani, ndipo mumasowa chidutswa chachikulu."

Lingaliro lake: Malingana ngati muli ndi chibadwa chabwino cha m'matumbo mwa munthuyo, "muyenera kumulola munthu mwayi woti adziwonetse kaye pamaso pake chifukwa mudzazindikira bwino kuti wina ali ndani." (Onani zambiri: Njira 5 Zodabwitsa Zomwe Anthu Ochezera Pagulu Angathandizire Ubale Wanu)

Kodi njirayi ichulukitsa masiku omwe mudzapitirire? Mwina. Zingachititsenso kuti muyambe kukondana ndi munthu amene mumawaonetsa pa TV. Chifukwa pamapeto pake, kunja kwa filimuyi Iye, Chibwenzi chimachitika pakati pa anthu awiri - osati munthu m'modzi ndi msakatuli wawo wa intaneti.

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