Matsenga Osintha Moyo Ochita Palibe Chilichonse Pambuyo Pobereka

Zamkati

• Mlandu wosachita kalikonse ngati mayi watsopano
• Zomwe sizikuchita ngati mayi watsopano zikuwoneka
• Momwe ndidaphunzirira osachita chilichonse pambuyo pobereka

Simuli amayi oyipa ngati simutenga dziko lapansi mukakhala ndi mwana.

Ndimvereni kwa miniti: Bwanji ngati, mdziko lokhala ndi atsikana-akukuyang'anani ndikuyang'anizana ndi #girlbossing ndi bounce-backing, tasintha momwe timawonera nthawi ya postpartum ya amayi?

Bwanji ngati, mmalo molimbana ndi amayi ndi mauthenga onena za momwe angakhalire okonzeka ndikugona sitima ndi dongosolo la chakudya ndikugwira ntchito zambiri, tangopereka chilolezo kwa amayi atsopano kuti asachite chilichonse?

Inde, ndiko kulondola - palibe kanthu.

Ndiye kuti, osachita chilichonse kwakanthawi kwakanthawi - bola momwe angathere - kupatsidwa zovuta zina pamoyo, ngakhale kubwerera kuntchito yanthawi zonse kapena kusamalira ana ena achichepere mnyumba mwanu.

Zimamveka zachilendo, sichoncho? Kuti ndilingalire? Ndikutanthauza, osachita chilichonse ngakhale yang'anani monga m'dziko lamakono la akazi? Timazoloŵera kuchita zinthu zambirimbiri ndikukhala ndimndandanda wazinthu miliyoni zomwe zikuchitika nthawi imodzi ndikuganiza masitepe 12 patsogolo ndikukonzekera kuti tisachite chilichonse chimawoneka ngati choseketsa.

Koma ndikukhulupirira kuti amayi onse atsopano ayenera kupanga njira yopangira chilichonse atakhala ndi mwana - ndichifukwa chake.

Mlandu wosachita kalikonse ngati mayi watsopano

Kukhala ndi mwana masiku ano kumaphatikizapo ntchito yokonzekera. Pali kaundula wa ana ndi shawa ndi kafukufuku ndi dongosolo la kubadwa ndi kukhazikitsidwa kwa nazale ndi mafunso "akulu" monga: Kodi mungapeze matenda? Kodi muzengereza kukanikiza chingwe? Kodi mungayamwitse?

Ndipo pambuyo pokonzekera ndi kukonzekera ntchito yonse ndikukonzekera kubereka mwanayo, kenako mumadzipeza muli kunyumba mutavala thukuta mukudabwa kuti chani chotsatira chotsatira. Kapena kuyesa kudziwa momwe mungachitire zonse zinthu m'masiku ochepa omwe muli nawo musanabwerere kuntchito.

Zitha kumveka ngati ndikukonzekera komwe kumabwera kale khanda, zotsatira zake ziyenera kukhala zotanganidwa mofananamo. Chifukwa chake, timadzaza, ndi zinthu monga mapulani olimbikira pambuyo pa ana ndi magawo a ana ndi maphunziro ogona ndi makalasi a nyimbo za ana kuti mupezenso chisamaliro chanu.

Pazifukwa zina, timawoneka ngati ofunitsitsa kukhala ndi mwana ngati blip kwakanthawi m'moyo wamayi - taganizirani kuti a Duchess Kate akumwetulira pamwamba pa masitepe amiyala yake atavala bwino komanso tsitsi lake lopindika - m'malo mochita momwe liyenera kukhalira amachitiridwa: ngati kubwera kuchimphona, kukuwa, nthawi zambiri kumakhala kupweteka, kuyima panjira.

Kukhala ndi mwana kumasintha chilichonse m'moyo wanu, ndipo pomwe aliyense amayang'ana kwambiri za wakhanda, thanzi lam'mama, lamaganizidwe, malingaliro, komanso thanzi lauzimu samangopeza nthawi komanso kufunikira koyenera.

Timapatsa azimayi nthawi yosankhika yamasabata 6 kuti achire, pomwe imeneyo ndi nthawi yochepa yokwanira kuti chiberekero chanu chibwerere kukula kwake. Izi zikunyalanyaza kuti chilichonse mthupi lanu chikupezabe bwino ndipo moyo wanu mwina ndiwosokonekera.

Chifukwa chake ndikunena kuti yakwana nthawi yoti amayi afunefune kusintha - polengeza kuti pambuyo pakhanda, palibe chomwe tidzachite.

Palibe chomwe tingachite koma kuyika tulo patsogolo kuposa china chilichonse m'miyoyo yathu.

Palibe chilichonse chomwe tingachite kuti tioneke ngati tilibe mphamvu yosamalira.

Sitipanga chilichonse popereka toot zouluka m'mimba mwathu momwe mukuwonekera, kapena zomwe ntchafu zathu zikuchita, kapena ngati tsitsi lathu likugwa.

Palibe chomwe tingachite koma kuyika patsogolo kupumula kwathu, kuchira, ndi thanzi lathu, pafupi ndi makanda athu.

Zomwe sizikuchita ngati mayi watsopano zikuwoneka

Ngati izi zikumveka zaulesi kwa inu, kapena muli okhumudwa mkati, mukuganiza, "Sindingachite izi!" ndiloleni ndikutsimikizireni kuti sichoncho, ndipo mutha, ndipo mwina koposa, muyenera.

Muyenera chifukwa chosachita "kalikonse" ngati mayi wobereka pambuyo pake mukuchita chilichonse.

Chifukwa tiyeni tikhale zenizeni - mwina mukuyenerabe kugwira ntchito. Ndikutanthauza, matewera samadzigula okha. Ndipo ngakhale mutakhala ndi mwayi wokhala ndi tchuthi cha umayi, pali maudindo onse omwe mudali nawo musanabadwe. Monga ana ena kapena makolo omwe mumawasamalira kapena kungoyang'anira banja lomwe silinayime chifukwa choti mudabereka mwana.

Kotero palibe chomwe sichiri kwenikweni. Koma bwanji zikadakhala choncho palibe chowonjezera. Osatinso kupitirira apo komanso osatinso, "Inde, nditha kuthandizira," osatinso kudzimvera chisoni chifukwa chokhala kunyumba.

Kusachita kalikonse kumawoneka ngati kukhala bwino osazindikira kuti ndinu ndani, kapena zomwe mukufuna kukhala, kapena tsogolo lanu pompano.

Kusachita kalikonse monga mayi watsopano kungatanthauze kuti mukakhala ndi mwayi mumathera maola enieni mukugwira mwana wanu ndikuluma Netflix osayeseranso china chilichonse chifukwa ndikupatsa thupi lanu nthawi yopuma. Kungatanthauze kulola maola owonjezera ochepa owonera ana anu ndi chakudya cham'mawa chamadzulo kawiri sabata limodzi chifukwa phala ndilosavuta.

Kusachita kalikonse monga mayi kumatanthauza kuyanjana ndi mwana wanu. Zimatanthauza kupanga mkaka ndi thupi lanu kapena kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zanu zochepa kusakaniza mabotolo. Zimatanthawuza kuthandiza mwana wanu wamng'ono kuphunzira za dziko lowazungulira ndikukhala likulu la chilengedwe cha wina aliyense kwakanthawi kochepa chabe.

Kwa amayi omwe angathe, kuyesetsa kuti asachite chilichonse kungatithandize tonse kupeza zomwe gawo la postpartum liyenera kukhala: nthawi yopumula, kuchira, ndikuchiritsidwa, kuti titha kukhala olimba kuposa kale.

Momwe ndidaphunzirira osachita chilichonse pambuyo pobereka

Ndikuvomerezani kuti zinanditengera ana asanu ndisanadzilole kuti ndichite chilichonse pambuyo pobereka. Ndi ana anga ena onse, ndinkangodziona kuti ndine wolakwa ngati sindinathe kutsatira ndandanda yanga "yachizolowezi" yochapa zovala komanso kugwira ntchito komanso kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndikusewera ndi ana komanso kutuluka kokasangalala.

Mwanjira ina, m'malingaliro mwanga, ndimaganiza kuti ndikhala ndi mfundo zowonjezera za amayi zodzuka ndi kutuluka kale koyambirira ndi mwana aliyense.

Ndidachita zinthu monga kubwerera kukamaliza sukulu ndikadali mwana, ndikuwatenga onse popita kokayenda ndi maulendo, ndikudumphira mmbuyo ndikugwira ntchito mwachangu patsogolo. Ndipo nthawi ndi nthawi, ndinkalimbana ndi zovuta zobereka nditabereka komanso ndinkakhala mchipatala kawiri.

Zinanditengera nthawi yayitali kuti ndikafike kuno, koma ndikutha kunena kuti ndi mwana womaliza uyu, ndinazindikira kuti kuchita "chilichonse" nditangobereka kumene nthawi ino sikunatanthauze kuti ndine waulesi, kapena mayi woyipa , kapena ngakhale bwenzi losafanana muukwati wanga; zimatanthauza kuti ndinali wanzeru.

Kuchita "kanthu" sikunabwere mosavuta kapena mwachibadwa kwa ine, koma kwa nthawi yoyamba m'moyo wanga, ndadzipatsa chilolezo kuti ndikhale bwino ndikusadziwa zomwe zidzachitike.

Ntchito yanga yafika povuta, akaunti yanga yakubanki yagwiradi ntchito, ndipo nyumba yanga sinasungidweko muyeso womwe aliyense wazolowera, komabe, ndikumva mtendere wamtendere podziwa kuti palibe izi amandifotokozeranso.

Sindiyenera kudzikakamiza kuti ndikhale mayi wosangalatsa, kapena mayi wobwerera, kapena mayi yemwe samaphonya kumenyedwa pokhala ndi mwana, kapena mayi yemwe amatha kusunga nthawi yake yotanganidwa.

Nditha kukhala mayi yemwe sachita chilichonse pompano - ndipo zikhala bwino bwino. Ndikukupemphani kuti mudzakhale nafe.

Chaunie Brusie ndi namwino wogwira ntchito ndi yobereka yemwe adasandutsa wolemba komanso mayi watsopano wa ana asanu. Amalemba za chilichonse kuyambira zachuma mpaka thanzi mpaka momwe mungapulumukire masiku oyambilira aubereki pomwe zonse zomwe mungachite ndikuganiza za kugona konse komwe simukupeza. Tsatirani iye apa.