Palibe Chinthu Chotere Monga Kholo Langwiro

Zamkati

• Asiyeni iwo alakwitse
• Si ana okhawo amene amafunika kukumbutsidwa
• Makolo Pa Ntchito: Ogwira Ntchito Zakutsogolo

Amayi Anga Amayi Opanda Ungwiro Sangokhala dzina la gawo ili. Ndizovomereza kuti changwiro sicholinga.

Momwe ndimayang'ana pozungulira ine zomwe zikuchitika mdziko lapansi ndikuwona momwe tikugwirira ntchito mwakhama kuti tipeze moyo tsiku lililonse - makamaka makolo - ndimawona ngati iyi ndi nthawi yabwino kutumiza chikumbutso kuti zili bwino ngati sititero .

Sizingatheke kupeza chilichonse molondola 100 peresenti ya nthawiyo.

Chifukwa chake lekani kudziyikira nokha kuti mukwaniritse zosatheka.

Chodabwitsa ndichakuti, chomwe chili chofunikira ndichakuti timadzipatsa chilolezo chobowoleza zinthu panjira.

Inde, monga makolo. Chifukwa mosiyana ndi nkhani yomwe anthu ambiri aphunzitsidwa zakufunika kokhala "angwiro," ndizabodza. Ndipo tikangoyambitsa nthanoyo ndikuvomereza kupanda ungwiro kwathu, posachedwa tidzatsegula kuthekera kwathu kwenikweni ndikukhala bwino.

Chowonadi ndichakuti, tonse timawopa kukokoloka pamlingo wina, inenso ndaphatikizidwa. Chifukwa palibe amene amafuna kuti aziwoneka kapena kudziona kuti ndi wosakwanira, wopanda nzeru, kapena wopusa. Makamaka kholo.

Koma chowonadi ndichakuti, palibe aliyense wa ife amene adzapachika chilichonse nthawi zonse. Ndipo sitikhala ndi mayankho onse.

Tikuti tichite zinthu zolakwika zambiri, koma zili bwino. Monga, ndizo kwenikweni CHABWINO.

Chifukwa chake, dzichitireni zabwino posachedwa ndikulowetsani liwu lokhalitsa mumutu mwanu lomwe likunena kuti zolakwitsa ndizoyipa ndi mawu olimba, opatsidwa mphamvu omwe amati zolakwitsa ndiye njira yokhayo yosinthira ndikupambana ndi ukulu.

Chifukwa tikamakhulupirira izi ndikuwonetsa zomwe - ndikumaphunzitsa - kwa ana athu, ndizomwe zimasintha masewerawa.

Ndikuganiza wolemba waku Britain a Neil Gaiman adati ndibwino:

“… Ngati mukupanga zolakwa, ndiye kuti mukupanga zinthu zatsopano, kuyesa zatsopano, kuphunzira, kukhala, kudzikakamiza, kusintha nokha, kusintha dziko lanu. Mukuchita zinthu zomwe simunachitepo kale, ndipo koposa zonse, mukuchita Chinachake.“

Ndipo zonse zomwe zimakhala zoona muubereki.

Ndipo ngakhale ndikudziwa kuti tonse mosamala komanso mosazindikira tonse timayesetsa kukhala makolo abwino ndikulera ana abwino, sizingatheke.

Asiyeni iwo alakwitse

Chifukwa chake, nayi lingaliro losavuta kuchokera kwa mayi wa ana awiri aakazi 20 omwe akhala pachinthu choterechi kwazaka zopitilira makumi awiri: Palibe vuto kudzipereka, monga makolo, kuwala kobiriwira kuti tizilakwitsa momwemonso perekani chilolezo kwa ana athu kuti achite chimodzimodzi. Chifukwa ndizo njira yofunikira yomwe tonsefe timaphunzira kupirira.

Kuyambira pomwe ndimakhala kholo, wakale mphunzitsi, wolemba kulera, wolemba nkhani, komanso wowonetsa wailesi, ndikuwona dziko lodzala ndi ana omwe ali ndi nkhawa, ambiri omwe akuyenda moyo wawo pansi pa kwambiri kuganiza zabodza kuti apite patsogolo mdziko lino, ayenera kukhala angwiro, kusewera timu ya varsity, kukhala m'magulu onse a AP, ndikupanga ma SAT awo.

Ndipo tangoganizani kuti akutenga ndani? Mukuganiza kuti ndani akuyika zotchingira pamwamba mosasunthika?

Ndife. Ndife omwe timathandiza ana athu kuti alembe nkhaniyi ndipo ikuwalemetsa chifukwa ndi njira yachikale komanso yosatheka yoganiza yomwe imangokhazikitsa ana athu kuti asweguke akafika pansi.

Onani, tonsefe timafunira ana athu zabwino. Mwachidziwikire. Timafuna kuti achite bwino komanso kuti zinthu ziziwayendera bwino, koma sangachite izi molingana ndi mayendedwe a wina - azingochita akakhala okonzeka. Kuyesera kukakamiza kumangopanga udani pakati pa inu ndi iwo.

Kukhazikitsa ziyembekezo zosayenerera kutengera momwe ana ena amakulira ndizosatheka ndipo zimakhala zoyipa. Omwe ali ndendende chifukwa chomwe tiyenera kukumbatira ana athu komwe ali. (Ndipo chitani zomwezo kwa ife eni.)

Tiyenera kulola ana athu kumva kuthandizira kwathu ndi kuleza mtima kwathu, chifukwa akadziwa kuti ali nazo, ndipamene amayamba kukula. Ndipo akaganiza kuti alibe thandizo ndi kuvomereza kwathu, ndipamene angafune.

Ndipamene ana athu amayamba kutchera khutu ku zomwe ena ali pafupi ndikuchita kuti zovuta zazitali kwambiri nthawi zambiri zimawonekera. Ndipo zomwezo zitha kunenedwa kwa ife monga makolo.

Si ana okhawo amene amafunika kukumbutsidwa

China chomwe tiyenera kupewa ndicho basi chofunikira monga kusayesa ana athu motsutsana ndi ana ena, sikuti tidzipime tokha ndi makolo ena. Chifukwa ndikhulupirireni, mudzafuna. Zambiri.

Makamaka ana anu akafika kusukulu ndipo mumakumana ndi makolo amitundu yonse. Pewani chilakolakocho, chifukwa chidzakupangitsani kuti musaganize chilichonse chomwe mungapange. Osanena kuti kudzifananitsa ndi makolo ena kutero ayi kukupangani kukhala kholo labwino.

Ndipo ndizovuta, ndikudziwa, chifukwa mukayamba kulumikizana ndi amayi ndi abambo ena ndi ana tsiku ndi tsiku, yesero ndilopamwamba kuti mudziyese nokha ndi njira yanu yakulera motsutsana ndi makolo ena onse omwe mumakumana nawo.

Mumaphunzira mitundu ingapo yamakolo ndi mitundu yakulera yomwe ilipo kunjaku, zomwe zimakupangitsani kukayikira momwe mumalerera ana anu.

Mudzadzigwira nokha mukuyesera kusintha njira zonse zomwe makolo ena amagwiritsa ntchito, kuyembekezera kuti mudzakhala ndi zotsatira zomwezo.

Ndipo pomwe ena adzagwira ntchito, ena adzakhala epic yalephera - yotsimikizika. Ndipo izi zitha kupangitsa kupanga zisankho zoyipa zakulera kutengera momwe chinagwirira ntchito wina, zomwe ndi zopanda nzeru. Ichi ndichifukwa chake muyenera kupewa kukakamira kuti muzitsatira.

Chifukwa chake, kumbukirani, pamene mumayamba ulendowu wautali komanso wokongola komanso wovuta nthawi zonse, njira yophunzirira kwa ife monga makolo ndiyotakata monga momwe ilili kwa ana athu.

Chifukwa palibe njira yangwiro, palibe mwana wangwiro, ndipo motsimikiza palibe kholo langwiro.

Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndimayimilira kumbuyo kwa lingaliro loti chinthu chachikulu kwambiri chomwe aliyense wa ife angachite monga makolo (ndi anthu) ndikulola tokha ulesi kuti tichite zowopsa ndikugwa pansi ndikulephera.

Chifukwa, abwenzi, ndi momwe timaphunzirira momwe tingadzukire, kupitabe patsogolo, ndikukhomera nthawi ina.

Makolo Pa Ntchito: Ogwira Ntchito Zakutsogolo

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