Zinthu Zisanu Ndi Ziwiri Anthu Omwe Amakhala Ndi Malire Akumalire Amafuna Mukudziwa

Zamkati

• 1. ‘Tili ndi mantha kuti mudzachoka, ngakhale zinthu zitakhala bwino. Ndipo ifenso timadana nazo. '
• 2. 'Zimakhala ngati ndikupita pamoyo wamoto wachitatu; Chilichonse chimakhala chotentha komanso chopweteka kukhudza.
• 3. 'Chilichonse chimamveka kwambiri: chabwino, choyipa, kapena china. Zomwe timachita ndikumverera koteroko zingawoneke ngati zosagwirizana, koma ndizoyenera m'maganizo mwathu. '
• 4. 'Ndilibe umunthu wosiyanasiyana.'
• 5. 'Sitife oopsa kapena opondereza ... [timangofunika chikondi chochepa chabe.'
• 6. 'Ndizotopetsa komanso zokhumudwitsa. Ndipo ndizovuta kupeza mankhwala abwino, otsika mtengo. '
• 7. 'Sitife okondedwa ndipo timakonda zazikulu.'
• Ngati muli pachibwenzi kapena muli ndi wokondedwa ndi BPD, ndikofunikira kuti mufufuze za vutoli, ndipo samalani ndi malingaliro omwe mungakumane nawo

Mavuto am'mbali mwa malire nthawi zambiri samamvetsetsedwa. Yakwana nthawi yoti musinthe.

Mavuto am'malire - {textend} omwe nthawi zina amadziwika kuti kusakhazikika kwamunthu - {textend} ndimavuto amunthu omwe amakhudza momwe mumaganizira ndikudzimvera za inu eni ndi ena.

Anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la m'malire a m'malire (BPD) nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi mantha akulu kuti atayidwa, amayesetsa kuti akhalebe ndi maubwenzi abwino, amakhala ndi nkhawa kwambiri, amachita zinthu mopupuluma, ndipo amathanso kukhala amisala ndi kudzipatula.

Kungakhale matenda owopsa kukhala nawo, ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuti anthu omwe ali ndi BPD azunguliridwa ndi anthu omwe amatha kuwamvetsetsa ndikuwathandiza. Komanso ndi matenda osalidwa modabwitsa.

Chifukwa cha malingaliro olakwika ambiri mozungulira, anthu ambiri omwe ali ndi vutoli amachita mantha kuti alankhule zakukhala nawo.

Koma tikufuna kusintha izi.

Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndidafikira ndikufunsa anthu omwe ali ndi BPD kuti atiuze zomwe akufuna kuti anthu ena adziwe ndikukhala ndi vutoli. Nawa mayankho awo asanu ndi awiri mwamphamvu.

1. ‘Tili ndi mantha kuti mudzachoka, ngakhale zinthu zitakhala bwino. Ndipo ifenso timadana nazo. '

Chimodzi mwazizindikiro zazikulu za BPD ndikuopa kusiyidwa ndipo izi zimatha kuchitika ngakhale zinthu muubwenzi zikuwoneka kuti zikuyenda bwino.

Pali mantha oterewa oti anthu atisiyira, kapena kuti sitili okwanira kwa munthu ameneyo - {textend} ndipo ngakhale zitakhala zopanda nzeru kwa ena, zimatha kukhala zenizeni kwa munthu yemwe akuvutika.

Wina yemwe ali ndi BPD amatha kuchita chilichonse kuti izi zisachitike, ndichifukwa chake atha kuwona ngati "okakamira" kapena "osowa." Ngakhale zingakhale zovuta kuzimvetsa, kumbukirani kuti zimachokera pamalo amantha, zomwe zimakhala zovuta kukhala nazo.

2. 'Zimakhala ngati ndikupita pamoyo wamoto wachitatu; Chilichonse chimakhala chotentha komanso chopweteka kukhudza.

Munthuyu akunena molondola - {textend} anthu omwe ali ndi BPD amakhala ndi zotengeka kwambiri zomwe zitha kukhala kwa maola ochepa mpaka masiku angapo, ndipo zimatha kusintha mwachangu kwambiri.

Mwachitsanzo, titha kuchoka pakukhala osangalala mpaka mwadzidzidzi kukhumudwa komanso kukhumudwa. Nthawi zina kukhala ndi BPD kuli ngati kuyenda pamagoza ozungulira wekha - {textend} sitidziwa komwe tingapite, ndipo nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kuwongolera.

Ngakhale tiwoneke ngati "omvera mopambanitsa," kumbukirani kuti nthawi zina sitingathe kuwongolera.

3. 'Chilichonse chimamveka kwambiri: chabwino, choyipa, kapena china. Zomwe timachita ndikumverera koteroko zingawoneke ngati zosagwirizana, koma ndizoyenera m'maganizo mwathu. '

Kukhala ndi BPD kumatha kukhala kovuta kwambiri, ngati kuti tikungokhalira kusinthasintha. Izi zitha kukhala zotopetsa kwa ife komanso kwa anthu omwe timakhala nawo.

Koma nkofunika kukumbukira kuti zonse zomwe munthu amene ali ndi BPD akuganiza ndizofunikira kwambiri m'maganizo awo panthawiyo. Chifukwa chake chonde musatiuze kuti ndife opusa kapena kutipangitsa kumva kuti malingaliro athu siabwino.

Zingawatengere nthawi kuti aganizire zamaganizidwe athu - {textend} koma munthawi yomwe zinthu zitha kukhala zowopsa ngati gehena. Izi zikutanthauza kuti osaweruza ndikupereka malo ndi nthawi pomwe kuli koyenera.

4. 'Ndilibe umunthu wosiyanasiyana.'

Chifukwa chokhala vuto laumunthu, BPD nthawi zambiri imasokonezedwa ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi vuto lodziwikitsa, komwe anthu amakhala ndi umunthu wosiyanasiyana.

Koma sizili choncho ayi. Anthu omwe ali ndi BPD alibe umunthu wopitilira umodzi. BPD ndimatenda amunthu omwe mumakumana ndi zovuta momwe mumaganizira ndikudzimvera za inu eni komanso anthu ena, ndipo mukukumana ndi mavuto m'moyo wanu chifukwa cha izi.

Izi sizitanthauza kuti vuto lodziyikira payokha liyenera kusalidwa, mwina, koma siziyenera kusokonezedwa ndi vuto lina.

5. 'Sitife oopsa kapena opondereza ... [timangofunika chikondi chochepa chabe.'

Pali nkhanza zazikulu zokhudzana ndi BPD. Anthu ambiri amakhulupirirabe kuti omwe amakhala nawo akhoza kukhala osokoneza kapena owopsa chifukwa cha zizindikilo zawo.

Ngakhale izi zikhoza kukhala choncho mwa anthu ochepa kwambiri, anthu ambiri omwe ali ndi BPD amangolimbana ndi kudzidalira komanso ubale wawo.

Ndikofunika kuzindikira kuti sitili anthu owopsa. M'malo mwake, anthu omwe ali ndi matenda amisala amatha kudzivulaza kuposa momwe amachitira ena.

6. 'Ndizotopetsa komanso zokhumudwitsa. Ndipo ndizovuta kupeza mankhwala abwino, otsika mtengo. '

Anthu ambiri omwe ali ndi BPD sachiritsidwa, koma osati chifukwa sakufuna. Ndi chifukwa chakuti matenda amisala samathandizidwa ngati ena ambiri.

Kwa mmodzi, BPD sichichiritsidwa ndi mankhwala. Itha kuchiritsidwa ndi chithandizo chamankhwala, monga dialectical Behaeve Therapy (DBT) ndi Chidziwitso cha Makhalidwe Abwino (CBT). Palibe mankhwala omwe amadziwika kuti ndi othandiza pochiza BPD (ngakhale nthawi zina mankhwala amagwiritsidwa ntchito polemba chizindikiro kuti athetse zizindikiro).

Ndizowona kuti chifukwa chakusalidwa, azachipatala ena amaganiza kuti anthu omwe ali ndi BPD adzakhala odwala ovuta, motero, kungakhale kovuta kupeza chithandizo choyenera.

Anthu ambiri omwe ali ndi BPD amatha kupindula ndi mapulogalamu a DBT, koma awa siosavuta kuwapeza. Izi zikutanthauza kuti, ngati wina yemwe ali ndi BPD "sakukhala bwino," musafulumire kumawadzudzula - {textend} kupeza thandizo ndizovuta zokha.

7. 'Sitife okondedwa ndipo timakonda zazikulu.'

Anthu omwe ali ndi BPD amakonda kwambiri kupereka, kotero kuti zitha kukhala zopitilira muyeso.

Ubale ukhoza kumverera ngati kamvuluvulu nthawi zina, chifukwa pamene munthu yemwe ali ndi BPD - {textend} makamaka iwo omwe akulimbana ndi malingaliro osatha a kusungulumwa kapena kusungulumwa - {textend} amapanga kulumikizana kwenikweni, kuthamanga kumatha kukhala kolimba monga kutengeka kwina kulikonse komwe amakumana nako .

Izi zitha kupangitsa kukhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi BPD kukhala kovuta, koma zikutanthauzanso kuti uyu ndi munthu amene amakonda kwambiri. Amangofuna kudziwa kuti malingaliro awo abwezedwa, ndipo angafunike kuwatsimikizira pang'ono kuti atsimikizire kuti ubalewo ukukwaniritsabe nonsenu.

Ngati muli pachibwenzi kapena muli ndi wokondedwa ndi BPD, ndikofunikira kuti mufufuze za vutoli, ndipo samalani ndi malingaliro omwe mungakumane nawo

Mwayi wake ndikuti, ngati muwerenga zina za zovuta zamalire amalire zomwe simukufuna kunena inu, Munthu yemwe ali ndi BPD sangapindule chifukwa choganizira za iwo, mwina.

Kugwira ntchito kuti mumvetsetse mwachifundo zomwe akukumana nazo, ndi momwe mungathandizire wokondedwa wanu komanso inu nokha kupirira, zitha kupanga kapena kuthetsa chibwenzi.

Ngati mukumva kuti mukufuna thandizo lowonjezera, tsegulani winawake momwe mukumvera - {textend} bonasi ngati ndi othandizira kapena asing'anga! - {textend} kuti athe kukuthandizani ndi maupangiri amomwe mungakhalire ndi thanzi labwino.

Kumbukirani, chithandizo chabwino kwambiri kwa wokondedwa wanu chimachokera kukusamalirani bwino kwambiri.

Hattie Gladwell ndi mtolankhani wa zaumoyo, wolemba, komanso woimira milandu. Amalemba za matenda amisala akuyembekeza kuti achepetsa manyazi ndikulimbikitsa ena kuti alankhule.