Kodi Kukhudza Njala Kumatanthauza Chiyani?

Zamkati

• Ndi chiyani?
• Dikirani, ndicho chinthu chenicheni?
• Kodi zimangokhudza kukhudza kuthupi?
• Chifukwa chiyani kukhudza kuli kofunika?
• Kodi mungadziwe bwanji ngati mukukhudzidwa ndi njala?
• Nanga bwanji ngati simukukonda kukhudzidwa - kodi mungakhudzidwe ndi njala?
• Kodi mungatani kuti muthane ndi chikhumbochi?
• Kodi mungatani kuti mulimbikitse kukondana tsiku lililonse?
• Za inu nokha
• Kwa okondedwa anu
• Mfundo yofunika

Ndi chiyani?

Anthu ndi wired kuti akhudzidwe. Kuyambira pakubadwa mpaka tsiku lomwe timamwalira, kufunikira kwathu kokhudzana ndi thupi kumakhalabe.

Kukhala wokhudzidwa ndi njala - yemwenso amadziwika kuti njala yapakhungu kapena kusowa kwamphamvu pakumakhudza - kumachitika munthu akagwiridwa pang'ono ndi zamoyo zina.

Dikirani, ndicho chinthu chenicheni?

Poyeneradi. Vutoli likuwoneka kuti likufala kwambiri m'maiko omwe akukhudzidwa kwambiri.

Mwachitsanzo, France adapezeka kuti ndi amodzi mwamalo ovuta kwambiri, pomwe United States idawonekera kumapeto kwenikweni.

Kaya izi ndichifukwa chokwera kwa kugwiritsa ntchito ukadaulo, kuopa kukhudza kuwonedwa ngati kosayenera, kapena chikhalidwe chosavuta, palibe amene akutsimikiza.

Koma kafukufuku apeza kuti kuphonya kukhudza kwamunthu nthawi zonse kumatha kukhala ndi zovuta zina komanso zokhalitsa.

Kodi zimangokhudza kukhudza kuthupi?

Ayi sichoncho. Kukhudza kulikonse komanso kwabwino konse kumawerengedwa kuti ndi kopindulitsa. Kulephera kugwirana chanza kuntchito, kukumbatirana mwaubwenzi, kapena kupapasa pamsana kungachititse kumva kuti muli ndi njala.

Zachidziwikire, zimakhudzana ndi kukhudza mthupi, monga kugwirana manja, kukanda kumbuyo, ndi kupukuta phazi, nawonso.

Koma asayansi apeza kuti kutha kwamitsempha, komwe kumatchedwa, kulipo kuti kuzindikire zilizonse mawonekedwe a kukhudza modekha.

M'malo mwake, malinga ndi kafukufuku wa 2017, ili pakati pa 3 ndi 5 masentimita pamphindikati.

Izi zimatulutsa oxytocin, yomwe imadziwikanso kuti "mahomoni achikondi."

Chifukwa chiyani kukhudza kuli kofunika?

Kulumikizana khungu ndi khungu ndikofunikira osati kokha pakukhala ndi thanzi lam'mutu komanso kwamaganizidwe, komanso thanzi.

Mukamva kuti chipale chofewa chimapanikizika kapena mukapanikizika, thupi limatulutsa mahomoni opsinjika a cortisol. Chimodzi mwazinthu zazikulu kwambiri zomwe zimakhudza ndi nkhawa, kulola chitetezo cha mthupi kugwira ntchito momwe ziyenera kukhalira.

Kukhudza kuthenso, monga kugunda kwa mtima wanu ndi kuthamanga kwa magazi.

Zimatero polimbikitsa zolandilira zamagetsi zomwe zimatumiza zizindikiritso zamitsempha ya vagus. Minyewa imeneyi imagwirizanitsa ubongo ndi thupi lonse. Imagwiritsa ntchito zizindikirazo kuti ichepetse kuthamanga kwamanjenje.

Kumayambiriro kwa moyo, kukhudza kumaganiziridwa kuti ndikofunikira pakukhazikitsa ubale wabwino polimbikitsa njira za oxytocin, serotonin yachilengedwe yopewetsa kupsinjika, komanso mankhwala osangalatsa a dopamine.

Kuphatikiza apo, kuthana ndi kusungulumwa. Ngakhale kukhudza pang'ono kwa mlendo kumafunikira kuti muchepetse kudzipatula.

Kodi mungadziwe bwanji ngati mukukhudzidwa ndi njala?

Palibe njira yotsimikizika yodziwira. Mwachidule, mungamve kukhala osungulumwa kwambiri kapena kulandidwa chikondi.

Zizindikirozi zitha kuphatikizidwa ndi:

• kumva kukhumudwa
• nkhawa
• nkhawa
• otsika ubale kukhutira
• kuvuta kugona
• chizolowezi chopewa zotetezedwa

Muthanso kumachita zinthu mosazindikira kuti mufanane ndi kukhudza, monga kusamba motentha, kusamba kapena kusamba, kukulunga mu bulangeti, ngakhale kugwirana ndi chiweto.

Nanga bwanji ngati simukukonda kukhudzidwa - kodi mungakhudzidwe ndi njala?

Anthu ena amalumikiza kwambiri kukhudzana ndi kudalirana. Ngati sakhulupirira munthu, sangayembekezere kuti munthuyo awakhudze. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti salakalaka zabwino za kukumbatirana kapena kugwirana chanza.

Osakonda kukhudza nthawi zina amanenedwa ndi anthu omwe amakhala pama neurodiverse spectrum ndi iwo omwe amadziwika kuti ndi atsikana.

Koma zitha kukhalanso chifukwa cha zokumana nazo zaubwana. Mu 2012, kafukufuku wofalitsidwa mu Comprehensive Psychology adapeza kuti anthu omwe makolo awo anali kukumbatirana pafupipafupi nthawi zambiri amatha kukumbatira anthu atakula.

Kulephera kukumana ndikukhudzidwa pafupipafupi ngati mwana kumatha kukhudza, kuwononga chibwenzi ndi maluso ochezera - ngakhale izi sizowona kwa aliyense.

Kodi mungatani kuti muthane ndi chikhumbochi?

Kukhudza njala sikuyenera kukhala kosatha. Nazi njira zina zosavuta kulandirira chikondi m'moyo wanu tsopano:

• Yesani kutikita minofu. Kaya mufunse wokondedwa kapena mumapita kukafika kwa akatswiri, kutikita minofu ndi njira yotsimikizika yopumulira ndikusangalala ndi zabwino zakukhudza kwa wina.
• Khalani ndi nthawi yabwino ndi nyama. Kawirikawiri zimakhala zosangalatsa kwambiri kukumbatirana, ziweto ndizo njira zabwino zotonthoza. Ngati mulibe, bwanji osapita kukawona kafe?
• Pezani misomali yanu. Osanyalanyazidwa, manicure kapena pedicure zimakupatsani inu kulumikizana ndi anthu komwe mukufuna, ndikuwoneka bwino.
• Pitani ku salon ya tsitsi. Ngati simukukonda kudula, dzilembereni nokha kuchapa ndikuwuma kuti mupumule kwambiri.
• Phunzirani kuvina. Magule ena monga tango sagwira ntchito osakhudzana ndi khungu. Sikuti mudzathetsa njala yanu yokha, mudzatenganso luso latsopano.
• Pitani ku phwando lokukumbatirana. Inde, izi ndi zenizeni. Ndipo ayi, sizachilendo ngati zikumveka. Ngati kucheza pomwe mukukumana sikukuyenerani, yesani kufunsa thandizo la katswiri wodziwa ntchito m'malo mwake.

Kodi mungatani kuti mulimbikitse kukondana tsiku lililonse?

Mukudziwa momwe mungachepetsere kusowa kwa njala kwakanthawi kochepa, koma nanga bwanji za nthawi yayitali?

Kusunga kukhudza pafupipafupi kumakhala kosavuta ngati mungalimbikitse moyo wanu watsiku ndi tsiku. Nawa maupangiri angapo.

Za inu nokha

• Khalani pafupi ndi okondedwa anu. M'malo moyala pabedi, yesetsani kukumbatirana mukamayenda mu Netflix.
• Moni kwa anthu ndi dzanja kapena moni. Mwachidziwikire, osakankha munthu wina kunja kwa malo awo abwino.
• Kukumbatira anthu kwa masekondi osachepera 20. Apa akuti ndi pomwe anthu amatulutsa oxytocin. Ngati mukuda nkhawa kuti kukumbatirana kwanu sikungabwezeredwe, funsani anthu ngati angafune kukumbatirana m'malo mongolowa m'modzi.
• Gwiritsani ntchito kukhudza nthawi iliyonse yoyenera. Kukhala omasuka kukhudza kumalimbikitsa ena kuti apereke. Mukamakondana, gwiranani manja kapena kukumbatirana. Mu ma platonic, tsimikizirani anthu pogwira dzanja kapena kupapasa kumbuyo. Apanso, onetsetsani kuti anthu ena ali omasuka musanapite patsogolo.

Kwa okondedwa anu

• Apatseni chidwi chambiri. Izi zitha kuyambira pakukwapula pang'ono mpaka kukakwirana kangapo patsiku.
• Pewani kugwirizanitsa kukhudzana ndi kusasamala. Osatsina kapena kukankha kapena kuchita chilichonse chomwe chimachotsa kumverera kwabwino kwakukhudzana ndi thupi.
• Lolani ana kukhala pafupi nanu nthawi zonse momwe zingathere. Kulola mwana wanu kuti azikhala pamiyendo panu kapena kumusisita mwana wanu modekha kumatha kuwalimbikitsa kuti azichita zomwezo pambuyo pake.

Mfundo yofunika

Ngati mukumva kukhudzidwa ndi njala, simunasindikize tsogolo lanu. Pali njira zambiri zothetsera vutoli ndikulimbikitsanso kukhudzidwa mwachikondi mwa iwo omwe akuzungulirani.

Lauren Sharkey ndi mtolankhani komanso wolemba wodziwa bwino za amayi. Pamene sakuyesera kupeza njira yoletsa mutu waching'alang'ala, amapezeka kuti akuwulula mayankho amafunso anu obisalira okhudzana ndi thanzi. Adalembanso buku lofotokoza za azimayi omenyera ufulu wawo padziko lonse lapansi ndipo pano akumanga gulu la otsutsawa. Mumugwire iye Twitter.