Mwakwera? Momwe Mungabweretsere Kink Yanu Kwa Mnzanu

Mwakwera? ndilo gawo latsopano la upangiri wa Healthline, lomwe limathandiza owerenga kuti afufuze zakugonana.

Ndimakumbukirabe ndikuganiza za nthawi yoyamba yomwe ndinayesa kubweretsa malingaliro anga ogonana kwa mnyamata, ndili ndi zaka makumi awiri. Sizinali zodabwitsa ngakhale izi. Ndinali wofunitsitsa kumangirizidwa ndi china chonga tayi - {textend} chiwembu chachiwerewere ndi Mzinda ku WORST.

Nditakhala ndi kulimba mtima kumufunsa za izi, ndinali wanjenjemera, ndikumachita chibwibwi ndikutuluka thukuta ponsepo osauka asanazindikire kuti ndikungopempha ukapolo wopepuka (ndipo adachita ngati chimphepo).

Kodi nchifukwa ninji ndinali wamanyazi chonchi? Kodi nchifukwa ninji zinali zovuta kulankhula za zomwe ndimafuna? Ndinali wowongoka kwambiri kuti nditha kugwira ntchito! Ndimayesetsa kudzicheka, komabe. Kupatula apo, zinali izi anthu asanapange mamiliyoni a madola kulemba za mgwirizano wa BDSM ndi "zipinda zofiira," Rihanna asanatilangize kuti tifotokozere mutu wamaketoni ndi zikwapu munyimbo yake yotchedwa S & M.

Chofunika kwambiri, izi zinali zisanachitike mapulogalamu odziwika ndi anthu monga Scruff kapena Feeld asanatengere mwayi wopeza anzawo omwe ali patsamba lomwelo, anzeru. Pa izi, kuwunika mwachidule ma profiles omwe amalembetsa zomwe munthu ali musanatumizireko kumapangitsa kuti chiopsezo chamanyazi chichepeko. Mutha kupanga zomwe mukufuna kumveketsa bwino mbiri yanu munthu asanawone nkhope yanu (ndipo nthawi zina osadziwa momwe amawonekera NDI fetus - {textend} ndizosavuta bwanji).

Nanga bwanji za anthu omwe amakumana ndi anthu kunja kwa intaneti, anthu omwe ali pachibwenzi pomwe mutuwo sunabwerepo, kapena anthu omwe sangakambirane zachilungamo ndi anzawo kapena zifukwa zawo zina?

Ngakhale ndi kupita patsogolo konse komwe tapanga ndi mwayi wogonana komanso maphunziro azakugonana, kuyambitsa zokambirana kungakhale kovuta!

Kuyambitsa kukambirana

Ndiye njira yabwino kwambiri yoyambira ndi iti? Ndinaganiza zopita kwa mnzanga Lux Alptraum, katswiri wokhudza zakugonana komanso wolemba "Faking It: The Lies Women Tell About Sex - {textend} Ndi Zoonadi Zomwe Amavumbulutsa" kuti ndikalandire malangizo.

"Munthu winayo angaganize kuti ndinu wodabwitsa kapena mwina [kink] ndi wamkulu," akutero Alptraum. Izi ndizotheka kwambiri ndipo zitha kukhala zokhumudwitsa, komabe pali njira zomwe onse awiri angayankhulire mokambirana ndi ulemu ndi ulemu.

"Zitha kukhala pachiwopsezo kukhala otseguka ndikunena kuti, 'Moni, ndikufuna kufufuza izi,'" adatero za mantha oyambitsa zokambiranazi, asanandikumbutse zitha kukhala zolakwika kukhala pamapeto pake wa kulengeza kink, ngakhale zitakhala zomveka kwa inu. Zitha kukhala zowopsa pang'ono poti mwina pamakhala kukakamizidwa kapena “nanga ndikachita choipa kapena sindikudziwa choti ndichite?”

Monga chombo chosinthira kwa oyamba kumene kinky, tonsefe timalimbikitsa kwambiri kufananiza zolemba - {textend} kwenikweni! Kafukufuku wa "Inde / Ayi / Mwinanso" adalemba zochitika zosiyanasiyana zakugonana ndi feteleza kotero kuti mukalemba, zitha kukhala chithunzi cha zomwe muli nonse.

Lux akuvomereza kuti mugwiritse ntchito pulogalamu ya PlsPlsMe, yomwe ingakupatseni mafunso ndi mnzanuyo kenako ndikuwulula zomwe nonse mukuyesera! Komabe, kwa iwo omwe ali pachibwenzi chodzipereka, amaganiza kuti mndandanda wolemba pamanja ungakhale njira yokhayo.

“Ndikolimba mtima kuwonetsa wina zinthu zako zonse ndikukhala otseguka kuthekera komwe sangakonde. Kink zambiri zimalimbikitsa kukhulupirirana komanso kukulitsa kukondana. ”

Kufufuza = / = kuwunika luso lanu

Ziribe kanthu momwe mungayambitsire zokambirana, Lux akuti, zitsimikizirani koyambirira kuti uku ndikufufuza osati kuwunika.

Ngati winayo akukaikira chifukwa akuwopa kuti sangachite molondola kapena kungofuna chitsogozo, yesetsani kukhazikitsa malo othandizira. Akuganiza kuti akuyandikira ndi malingaliro akuti, "Hei, tizingoyang'ana izi ndipo kuyesera kumatanthauza zambiri kwa ine," imagwira ntchito zodabwitsa. Izi zikutanthauzanso kumvera mayankho, ndipo mwina kupeza njira zowasokonezera kuti nonse mukhale omasuka ndikuyatsa.

“Nthawi zina umafunika kulimba mtima, kutenga chiopsezo, ndikuzindikira kuti ungakhumudwe. Mutha kudziwa kuti munthuyo wakukana, ndipo ndi gawo limodzi lachiwerewere komanso chibwenzi. Pangani malo ocheperako, pitilizani kutseguka, ndipo ganizirani chilichonse chomwe angakulandireni. ”

Upangiri wabwino - {textend} ndipo nazi zanga ndikugawana, shuga: Lekani kudziona ngati "odabwitsa" mukayamba kuchita zinthu zosafala kwenikweni. Ngati aliyense amene akutenga nawo mbali ndi GGG (ndiye "zabwino, zopatsa, komanso masewera") ndipo simukuphwanya chilolezo cha aliyense, muyenera kulandira zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala osangalala komanso okhutira!

Chidwi chabwinobwino ndi gawo limodzi lachiwerewere, choncho tulutsani maunyolo ovuta aja, pezani mawu otetezeka, ndipo chokani!

Reed Brice ndi wolemba komanso woseketsa ku Los Angeles. Brice ndi alum wa UC Irvine's Claire Trevor School of the Arts ndipo anali munthu woyamba kuchita transgender yemwe adaponyedwapo akatswiri ndi The Second City. Popanda kuyankhula tiyi wamatenda amisala, Brice amatipatsanso gawo lathu lachikondi ndi zogonana, "U Up?"