Zomwe Ndikuthamangitsidwa Kunandiphunzitsa Zaumoyo Wam'maganizo

Zamkati

• Onaninso za

Ku sukulu ya udokotala, ndidaphunzitsidwa kuyang'ana kwambiri pazovuta zomwe wodwalayo anali nazo. Ndinkangokhalira kutuluka m'mapapu, ndikanapanikizika pamimba, komanso kugundana ndi prostate, nthawi yonseyi ndikufufuza ngati ndili ndi vuto lililonse. Pokhala odwala matenda amisala, ndidaphunzitsidwa kuyang'ana pazomwe zidasokonekera m'maganizo, kenako "kukonza" -kapena, malinga ndi zamankhwala, "kusamalira" -zizindikirozi. Ndinkadziwa mankhwala oti ndipatseni komanso liti. Ndinkadziwa nthawi yoti ndigone wodwala komanso nthawi yoti ndimutumize kunyumba. Ndinachita zonse zomwe ndingathe kuti ndiphunzire kuchepetsa mavuto a munthu. Ndipo nditamaliza maphunziro anga, ndinakhazikitsa chipatala chopambana cha matenda amisala ku Manhattan, ndipo ntchito yanga inali yochiritsa.

Kenako, tsiku lina, ndinadzutsidwa. Claire (osati dzina lake lenileni), wodwala yemwe ndimaganiza kuti akupita patsogolo, adandichotsa mwadzidzidzi nditalandira chithandizo miyezi isanu ndi umodzi. "Ndimadana ndikubwera kumisonkhano yathu yamlungu," anandiuza. "Zomwe timachita ndikungonena zazomwe sizikuyenda bwino m'moyo wanga. Zimandipweteka kwambiri." Ananyamuka ndikumapita.

Ndinadabwa kwambiri. Ndinali kuchita zonse mwa bukhuli. Maphunziro anga onse anali okhudzana ndi kuchepetsa zizindikiro ndikuyesera kuthetsa mavuto. Zokhudza maubwenzi, kupanikizika pantchito, kukhumudwa, komanso nkhawa zinali zina mwamavuto omwe ndimadziona kuti ndine katswiri "wokonza." Koma nditayang’ana m’mbuyo zimene ndinalemba zokhudza magawo athu, ndinazindikira kuti Claire anali wolondola. Zomwe ndimachita ndikungoyang'ana pazomwe zimachitika mmoyo wake.Sindinaganizepo kuti ndizingoyang'ana china chilichonse.

Claire atandichotsa ntchito, ndinayamba kuzindikira kuti sikofunikira kungolemba mavuto okhaokha komanso kukulitsa kulimba mtima. Zinakhala zowonekeratu kuti kukulitsa maluso oyendetsera njira tsiku ndi tsiku ndikutsika ndikofunikira monga kuchiza matenda. Kusakhumudwa ndi chinthu chimodzi. Kumva olimba ngakhale mutapanikizika ndi chinthu china.

Kufufuza kwanga kunandipangitsa kuti ndiziyenda bwino pamaganizidwe abwino, omwe ndi maphunziro asayansi olimbikitsa kukhala osangalala. Poyerekeza ndi matenda amisala komanso psychology, omwe amayang'ana kwambiri za matenda amisala ndi matenda, psychology yabwino imayang'ana kuzolimba kwa munthu komanso moyo wabwino. Zachidziwikire, sindinkakayikira ndikawerenga koyamba za psychology yabwino, chifukwa zinali zosiyana ndi zomwe ndidaphunzira kusukulu ya udokotala komanso kukhalako kwa azamisala. Ndinaphunzitsidwa kuthetsa mavuto-kukonza china chake chomwe chidasweka m'malingaliro kapena mthupi la wodwalayo. Koma, monga a Claire ananenera mwankhanza, china chake chinali kusowa momwe ndingachitire. Pongoyang'ana kwambiri pazizindikiro za matenda, sindinathe kuyang'ana zaumoyo mwa wodwala yemwe anali kudwala. Mwa kungoyang'ana kwambiri zisonyezo, sindinathe kuzindikira mphamvu za wodwala wanga. Martin Seligman, Ph.D., mtsogoleri wa zamaganizo abwino, akulongosola bwino kwambiri kuti: "Thanzi la maganizo ndiloposa kusakhalapo kwa matenda a maganizo."

Kuphunzira momwe mungabwezeretse zovuta zazikulu ndikofunikira, koma nanga bwanji za kuphunzira kuthana ndi zinthu zazing'ono - zovuta za tsiku ndi tsiku zomwe zimatha kupanga kapena kuswa tsiku? Kwa zaka 10 zapitazi, ndakhala ndikuphunzira momwe ndingalimbikitsire kupirira tsiku ndi tsiku ndi "lower". Momwe mumayankhira ku zovuta za tsiku ndi tsiku-mukamamwa khofi panu malaya anu oyera mukamatuluka munyumba, galu wanu akamayang'ana pa rug, pomwe njanji yapansi panthaka imanyamuka mukangofika kumene kokwerera, abwana anu atakuwuzani wakhumudwitsidwa ndi projekiti yanu, pomwe mnzanu akumenya nawo nkhondo - ndikofunikira kuti mukhale ndi thanzi lam'mutu ndi thupi. Kafukufuku akuwonetsa, mwachitsanzo, kuti anthu omwe amakhala ndi malingaliro okhumudwitsa (monga mkwiyo kapena kudziona ngati achabechabe) poyankha zovuta zatsiku ndi tsiku (monga kuchuluka kwa magalimoto kapena kudzudzulidwa ndi wamkulu) amatha kukhala ndi mavuto azaumoyo kwakanthawi.

Ambiri a ife timanyalanyaza kuthekera kwathu kukhala athanzi komanso kutha kuthana ndi mikuntho ya tsiku ndi tsiku. Timakonda kuwona momwe timamvera mumtima mwamtheradi-okhumudwa kapena okhumudwa, odandaula kapena odekha, abwino kapena oyipa, osangalala kapena achisoni. Koma thanzi lamaganizidwe si masewera opanda pake kapena opanda kanthu, komanso ndichinthu chomwe chimafunika kusamalidwa tsiku ndi tsiku.

Gawo lake limadalira momwe mumayikira chidwi chanu. Tiyerekeze kuti mumaloza tochi m'chipinda chamdima. Mutha kuyatsa magetsi kulikonse komwe mungasankhe: kulinga pamakoma, kuyang'ana zojambula zokongola kapena mawindo kapena mwina magetsi; kapena molunjika pansi ndi kumakona, kuyang'ana mipira yafumbi kapena, choipitsitsa, mphemvu. Palibe chinthu chimodzi chomwe mtengo umagwera chimagwiritsa ntchito chipinda cha chipinda. Momwemonso, palibe kutengeka mtima konse, ngakhale kulimba motani, komwe kumatanthauzira malingaliro anu.

Koma palinso njira zingapo zomwe tonsefe titha kugwiritsa ntchito kuti tikulitse thanzi lathu ndikukhala athanzi. Zochita zotsatirazi ndizoyeserera zomwe zimayendetsedwa ndi deta, zoyeserera komanso zowona kuti zikulimbikitseni ndikukulimbikitsani, ngakhale munthawi yamavuto.

[Kuti mumve zambiri, pitani ku Refinery29!]

Zambiri kuchokera ku Refinery29:

Ndinatengera Phokoso La Agogo Anga Aakazi- & Nkhawa Zawo

Ndinayesa Masiku 5 Olemba Ndipo Zasintha Moyo Wanga

Vuto La Kudya Palibe Amene Amalankhulapo

Onaninso za