Zomwe Ndinaphunzira Kwa Atate Wanga: Chikondi Chilibe Malire

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Kukhala bambo kungatanthauze zambiri kuposa zomwe mendulo yagolide ya Paralympic yama Paralympic a Jessica Long akuti Maonekedwe. Apa, katswiri wosambira wazaka 22 akugawana nkhani yake yosangalatsa yokhala ndi abambo awiri.

Pa Leap Day mu 1992, achinyamata awiri osakwatirana ku Siberia anandibala ndipo ananditcha Tatiana. Ndinabadwa ndi fibular hemimelia (kutanthauza kuti ndinalibe fibulas, akakolo, zidendene, ndi mafupa ena ambiri m'mapazi anga) ndipo mwamsanga anazindikira kuti sakanatha kundisamalira. Madokotala anawalangiza kuti anditenge kuti ndikhale wovomerezeka. Iwo anamvetsera monyinyirika. Patatha miyezi khumi ndi itatu, mu 1993, Steve Long (wojambulidwa) adachokera ku Baltimore kudzanditenga. Iye ndi mkazi wake Beth anali kale ndi ana awiri, koma amafuna banja lokulirapo. Zinali zosangalatsa pamene wina wa kutchalitchi kwawoko anatchula kuti kamtsikana kameneka ka ku Russia, kamene kanali ndi chilema chobadwira, anali kufunafuna nyumba. Anadziwa nthawi yomweyo kuti ndinalipo mwana wamkazi, Jessica Tatiana monga momwe amanditchulira pambuyo pake.

Abambo anga asanadumphe ndege kupita ku Cold War Russia itatha, anali atakonzekera kutenga mwana wazaka zitatu yemwenso anali mwana wamasiye yemweyo. Anaganiza kuti, "Ngati tikupita ku Russia kwa mwana mmodzi, bwanji osatenga wina?" Ngakhale Josh sanali mchimwene wanga wobadwa naye, mwina akadakhalapo. Tinali osowa zakudya m’thupi moti tinali ofanana kukula—tinkaoneka ngati mapasa. Ndikaganiza za zomwe abambo anga adachita, ndikupita kudziko lina kuti ndikatenge ana aang'ono awiri, ndimachita chidwi ndi kulimba mtima kwawo.

Miyezi isanu nditabwerera kunyumba, makolo anga anaganiza, mothandizidwa ndi madokotala, kuti moyo wanga ukanakhala bwinoko akadadula miyendo yanga yonse pansi pa bondo. Nthawi yomweyo, ndinali nditadzala ndi ziwalo zomangira, ndipo monga ana ambiri, ndinaphunzira kuyenda ndisanathamange-ndiye kuti sindinayimitsidwe. Ndinali wokangalika ndikukula, nthawi zonse ndimathamanga kuseli kwakunyumba ndikulumpha pa trampoline, yomwe makolo anga amatcha kalasi la PE. Ana a Long anali ophunzitsidwa kunyumba-tonsefe asanu ndi mmodzi. Yup, makolo anga mozizwitsa anali ndi ena awiri pambuyo pathu. Chifukwa chake inali nyumba yosokonekera komanso yosangalatsa. Ndidali ndi mphamvu zambiri, pamapeto pake makolo anga adandilembetsa kuti ndizisambira mu 2002.

Kwa zaka zambiri, kuyenda ndikubwera padziwe (nthawi zina kuyambira 6 koloko m'mawa) inali nthawi yanga yomwe ndimakonda ndi bambo. Pakati pa ola limodzi ndikupita mgalimoto, bambo anga ndi ine timakambirana momwe zinthu zikuyendera, zokumana zomwe zikubwera, njira zokulitsira nthawi yanga, ndi zina zambiri. Ndikakhumudwa, amandimvera ndikundipatsa upangiri wabwino, monga momwe ndingakhalire ndi malingaliro abwino. Anandiuza kuti ndinali chitsanzo chabwino, makamaka kwa mng'ono wanga yemwe anali atangoyamba kumene kusambira. Ndinazikumbukira. Tinayandikira kwambiri kusambira. Ngakhale mpaka lero, kukambirana naye za nkhaniyi kudakali chinthu chapadera.

Mu 2004, patatsala mphindi zochepa kuti alengeze gulu la Paralympic la US ku Masewera a Olimpiki a Chilimwe ku Athens, Greece, bambo anga anandiuza kuti, "Zili bwino, Jess. Iwe uli ndi zaka 12 zokha. Monga mwana wazaka 12 wosasangalatsa, zomwe ndimangonena ndizoti, "Ayi, bambo. Ndikwanitsa." Ndipo atalengeza dzina langa, anali munthu woyamba kumuyang'ana ndipo tonsefe tinali ndi nkhope izi ngati, "O, bambo anga !!" Koma zowonadi, ndidati kwa iye, "Ndakuuza choncho." Nthawi zonse ndinkaganiza kuti ndine mermaid. Madziwo anali malo amene ndimatha kuthyolako miyendo ndi kumva bwino kwambiri.

Makolo anga agwirizana nane ku Masewera a Summer Paralympic ku Athens, Beijing, ndi London. Palibe chabwino kuposa kuyang'ana mafani ndikuwona banja langa. Ndikudziwa sindikadakhala komwe ndili lero popanda chikondi chawo komanso chithandizo chawo. Ndiwo mwala wanga, chifukwa chake, ndikuganiza, sindinaganizire kwambiri za makolo anga ondibereka. Panthaŵi imodzimodziyo, makolo anga samandilola konse kuti ndiiŵale choloŵa changa. Tili ndi "Russia Box" iyi yomwe bambo anga adadzaza ndi zinthu kuchokera paulendo wawo. Tinkazigwetsa pansi limodzi ndi Josh nthawi ndi nthawi, ndikudutsa momwe ziliri, kuphatikiza zidole zamatabwa zaku Russia ndi mkanda womwe adandilonjeza patsiku langa lobadwa la 18.

Miyezi isanu ndi umodzi isanachitike Olimpiki yaku London, panthawi yofunsidwa mafunso, ndidati ndikudutsa, "Ndingakonde kukumana ndi banja langa la Russia tsiku lina." Ena mwa ine ankatanthauza zimenezo, koma sindikudziwa ngati ndikanawatsatira kapena ndi liti. Atolankhani aku Russia adamva izi ndipo adadzitengera kuti akumanenso. Pomwe ndimapikisana ku London mu Ogasiti, atolankhani omwewo aku Russia adayamba kundizunza ndi ma Twitter akumanena kuti apeza banja langa laku Russia. Poyamba ndinkaganiza kuti ndi nthabwala. Sindinadziwe choti ndikhulupirire, choncho sindinachilabadire.

Kubwerera kwathu ku Baltimore pambuyo pa Masewera, ndidakhala patebulo lakukhitchini ndikuwuza banja langa zomwe zidachitika ndipo tidapeza kanema pa intaneti wa omwe amatchedwa "banja la Russia." Zinali zopenga kwambiri kuona alendowa akudzitcha "banja langa" pamaso pa banja langa lenileni. Zinanditopetsa kwambiri kuti ndipikisane ku London kuti ndidziwe zomwe ndingaganize. Momwemonso, sindinachite chilichonse. Sipanapite miyezi isanu ndi umodzi kapena kuposerapo, pamene NBC inatifikira ife za kujambulanso banja langa kuti tiwonetsere kuzungulira 2014 Sochi Olympics, kuti ine ndinalingalira izo zenizeni ndikuvomera kuchita izo.

Mu Disembala 2013, ndidapita ku Russia ndi mng'ono wanga, a Hannah ndi gulu la NBC kukawona malo amasiye omwe adanditengera. Tidakumana ndi mayi yemwe adandipereka koyamba kwa bambo anga ndipo adati adakumbukira kuti adawona chikondi chambiri m'maso mwawo. Patatha masiku awiri, tinapita kukakumana ndi makolo anga ondibereka, omwe pambuyo pake ndinapeza kuti anakwatira ndipo ali ndi ana atatu. "Wow," ndinaganiza. Izi zinali kuyamba kupenga. Sindinaganizepo kuti makolo anga anali adakali limodzi, ngakhale kuti ndinali nawo Zambiri abale.

Ndikuyenda kupita kunyumba ya makolo anga ondibereka, ndinawamva akulira mokweza mkati. Pafupifupi anthu 30 osiyanasiyana, kuphatikiza ojambula zithunzi, anali panja akundiwonera (ndikundijambula) panthawiyi ndipo zonse zomwe ndimatha kunena ndekha ndi Hannah, yemwe anali kumbuyo kwanga kuwonetsetsa kuti sindigwe, anali "Osalira. Osazembera. " Kunali -20 madigiri ndipo nthaka idakutidwa ndi chisanu. Makolo anga achichepere 30 atatuluka panja, ndidayamba kulira ndipo nthawi yomweyo ndidawakumbatira. Nthawi yonseyi izi zikuchitika, NBC idagwira abambo anga kunyumba ku Maryland akupukuta maso ndikukumbatira amayi anga.

Kwa maola anayi otsatira, ndinadya chakudya chamasana ndi amayi anga ondibereka, Natalia, ndi bambo anga ondibereka, Oleg, komanso mlongo wanga Anastasia, yemwe anali wamagazi athunthu, komanso omasulira atatu ndi ojambula zithunzi m’nyumba yodzaza kwambiri imeneyi. Natalia sanathe kundiyang'ana ndipo sanandilole kupita. Zinali zokoma kwenikweni. Timagawana nkhope zambiri. Tinayang'ana limodzi pakalilore ndipo tinawawonetsa limodzi ndi Anastasia. Koma ndikuganiza amawoneka ngati Oleg. Kwa nthawi yoyamba m'moyo wanga, ndinakhala ndi anthu onga ine. Zinali za surreal.

Iwo anapempha kuti andionere ziboliboli zanga ndipo anapitiriza kunena mobwerezabwereza kuti makolo anga ku America anali ngwazi. Iwo ankadziwa kuti, zaka 21 zapitazo, sakanatha kusamalira mwana wolumala. Iwo adalongosola kuti ndinali ndi mwayi wopulumuka kumalo osungira ana amasiye - kapena ndizo zomwe madokotala anawauza. Panthawi ina, Oleg anandikokera pambali ine ndi womasulira wina n’kundiuza kuti amandikonda ndipo amandinyadira kwambiri. Kenako anandikumbatira ndi kundipsopsona. Inali nthawi yapadera kwambiri.

Mpaka pomwe titalankhula chilankhulo chimodzi, kulumikizana ndi banja langa laku Russia, pafupifupi 6,000 miles, zikhala zovuta. Koma pakadali pano, tili ndi ubale wabwino pa Facebook pomwe timagawana zithunzi. Ndikufuna kudzawawonanso ku Russia tsiku lina, makamaka kwa maola oposa anayi, koma cholinga changa chachikulu pakali pano ndikukonzekera Masewera a Paralympic a 2016 ku Rio, Brazil. Tidzawona zomwe zidzachitike pambuyo pake. Panopa ndimalimbikitsidwa kudziwa kuti ndili ndi magulu awiri a makolo amene amandikondadi. Ndipo pamene Oleg ndi bambo anga, Steve adzakhala bambo anga nthawi zonse.

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