Kodi Cuckolding Ndi Chiyani, Ndipo Chifukwa Chiyani Anthu Amatembenuzidwa Ndi Icho?

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• Kodi Cuckolding N'chiyani? Phunziro Lakale Lakale
• Chifukwa Chake Anthu Akukhala Ndi Cuckolding
• Momwe Mungayambire ndi Cuckolding
• Khalani Omasuka, Okonda Achigololo!
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Cuckolding, ngakhale sikuwoneka ngati yodziwika bwino kapena yolankhulidwa, ndichinthu chodziwika kwambiri pakati pa mabanja. Pofufuza za buku lake Ndiuzeni Zomwe Mukufuna, Justin J. Lehmiller, Ph.D., adafufuza anthu aku America okwana 4,175 ndipo adapeza kuti 26% ya akazi ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, 52% ya amuna ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, 42% ya akazi omwe si amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, komanso 66% ya amuna omwe si amuna kapena akazi okhaokha anali ataganizira za kubisala. Palinso ma subreddits onse pa Reddit operekedwa ku r/cuckoldcommunity, r/cuckholdstories, komanso r/cuckoldpsychology aliyense ali ndi mamembala masauzande ambiri.

Koma kubisalira kumatanthauza chiyani, ndendende?

Apa, mayankho pamafunso anu onse okhathamira (kuphatikiza ena omwe mwina simunadziwe kuti muli nawo) ndi upangiri wamomwe mungalumikizirane za kubisala ndi anzanu.

Khalani pansi, kupumula, ndipo mudziloleni mufufuze za kuthekera kwatsopano kokagonana.

Kodi Cuckolding N'chiyani? Phunziro Lakale Lakale

Mbiri ya cuckolding ingakhale yovuta kwambiri - koma ndichifukwa chake, monga mphunzitsi wa zachiwerewere ndi wothandizira maubwenzi, ndimakonda kwambiri kuphunzitsa, kuthetsa kusalana, ndi kupatsa mphamvu anthu kuti agwirizane ndi zomwe iwo ali. (Ngakhale ziwalo za inu zomwe simukuzidziwa pano!)

TBH, sindine wokonda kutanthauzira kovomerezeka kwa cuckold pa intaneti. Koma, chifukwa cha mbiriyakale ndikupitilizabe kuthana ndi malingaliro olakwika a heteronormitve mdera lathu, tiyeni tikambirane.

Malinga ndi Merriam-Webster, kankhuku ndi bambo yemwe mkazi wake ndiwosakhulupirika. Mkazi wa mwamuna wachigololo ndi cuckquean.

Mwachitsanzo: Mu Hamilton, atazindikira kuti Alexander Hamilton iyemwini wakhala akugona ndi mkazi wina, mwamuna wake amalembera Hamilton kuti "uh oh, iwe wapanga sucker yolakwika kukhala kankhuku."

Kwa zaka zambiri (zikomo zabwino), mawu akuti cuckolding asintha kuti atanthawuze china chake motsatira fetish kapena kink momwe munthu (nthawi zambiri amatchedwa "cuck") amasinthidwa ndi mnzake (nthawi zambiri amatchedwa "cuckoldress" ) kugonana ndi munthu wina (nthawi zambiri amatchedwa "ng'ombe"). Muzochitika zambiri, cuck imayatsidwa mwachindunji ndi kuyang'ana wokondedwa wawo amagonana ndi wina.

Zachidziwikire, monga mawu ena ambiri okhudzana ndi kugonana, tanthauzo lenileni lingakhale kutanthauzira kwa banja lililonse ndi zomwe munthu aliyense akuvomereza mosangalala (mwina atakhala ndi zokambirana zazitali zazabwino).

Masiku ano, mutha kuyankhulana ndi maanja angapo omwe amatenga nawo mbali pakuchita nawo masewera olimbitsa thupi ndipo aliyense akhoza kukhala ndi malingaliro osiyana pa zomwe cuckolding imatanthauza kwa iwo - ndiwo matsenga akulankhulana, kuyesa, ndi dziko losinthika la kugonana!

Chifukwa Chake Anthu Akukhala Ndi Cuckolding

Ngati simunamvepo za kubisala kapena simunaganizepo zoyeserera, mwina mungakhale mukuganiza kuti chifukwa chiyani mabanja ambiri amazipeza zosangalatsa.

Kwa anthu ambiri, lingaliro lowonera wokondedwa wawo akuchita zolaula ndi munthu wina ndilosangalatsa. Ndiroleni ndikujambulani chithunzi: Mumagonana ndi mnzanu nthawi zonse ndipo mwachiwonekere, ndizotentha! Koma, kawirikawiri mumatha kuwona momwe zimawonekera kuchokera kumakona ena komanso momwe zimawonekera mukamagonana. Ndikutanthauza, ndizochita zolaula pamaso panu, ndipo mnzanuyo ndiye nyenyezi. (Zogwirizana: Kodi Zoona Zenizeni Zimakhudza Bwanji Kugonana Ndi Ubale?)

Kwa anthu ena omwe amasangalala ndi voyeurism (kusangalala ndikuwonera anthu akugonana), kuwonera kumangokhala kosangalatsa monga kuchitapo kanthu (mwina zochulukirapo). Ndipo kwa iwo omwe ndi owonetsa ziwonetsero (omwe amasangalala kugonana pamaso pa ena), iyi ndi njira ina yosangalalira yofufuzira izi.

Kuphatikizanso, pakhoza kukhalanso ndi mphamvu zina zachigololo zomwe zimaseweredwa munthawi ya cuckold. Nthawi zambiri, ng'ombe ndiyo yomwe imagwira ntchito kwambiri, ndikupanga mawonekedwe kapena zochitika zomwe onsewo kapena m'modzi mwa anthuwo akhoza kukhala ogonjera.

Kutengera mtundu wa anthu omwe akutenga nawo mbali, kubwereketsa ana kungakhale njira yabwino yowonera zogonana mukakhala pachibwenzi. Zosangalatsa: Anthu opitilira 12,000 amafufuza Google "bi cuckold" mwezi uliwonse. (Zokhudzana: Zomwe Bisexuality Imatanthauza, Sizikutanthauza, ndi Momwe Mungadziwire Ngati Ndinu Bi)

Ndipo kwa anthu ena, kunyazitsidwa ndi nkhuku ndiko kukoka kwakukulu; kwenikweni, lingaliro la kunyengedwa (mogwirizana) limabweretsa malingaliro ansanje ndi manyazi omwe angakhale otembenuka kwambiri. Kuchititsa manyazi kwenikweni ndi nthano wamba komanso wachibale wamasewera ogonjera.

Cuckolding kwenikweni ndi chidebe momwe zinthu zambiri zosangalatsa zimatha kuchitika: kukakamiza (kuchita kusangalala ndi chisangalalo ndi kukula kwa mnzanu), nsanje (yomwe siili yoyipa), kukwaniritsa zongopeka, masewero amphamvu - zinthu sizidzatha.

Momwe Mungayambire ndi Cuckolding

Tsopano, kuti mwaphunzira za cuckolding, mumayamba bwanji? (Ngati inu ndi mnzanu mukufuna kuyesa.)

Lingaliro langa loyamba ndikulankhula. Izi mwina zikuwoneka zomveka, koma ndiroleni ndikufotokozereni.

Choyamba, kambiranani za zomwe aliyense wa inu amapeza zachiwerewere za lingaliro la kubisala ndi chifukwa chiyani. Kenako fotokozerani maudindo omwe munthu aliyense atenga nawo mbali ngati / nthawi yobisalira ikuyenera kuchitika. Mwanjira imeneyi nonse muli patsamba limodzi ndipo mutha kuyamba kulingalira zongopeka zomwezo.

Kenako, tengani kuchipinda - koma monga nonse awiri. Pamene mukugonana, kambiranani zachigololo pamodzi za zomwe zikanakhala zikuchitika panopa mukanakhala mu cuckolding. Lolani kuti aliyense agawane zomwe angakhale akuchita, zomwe angafune kuti wokondedwa wawo achite, komanso zomwe munthu wachitatu akuchita. Mutha kuganiziranso zowonera zolaula zakhalidwe labwino kuti musangalale ndi lingaliro ndikuwona momwe zingasewere. (Zowonjezera apa: Momwe Mungakhalire ndi Thanzi Latatu)

Izi ndizofunikira chifukwa zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zenizeni ndipo zimakupatsani mwayi wochita zosewerera limodzi musanadumphe pachilichonse.

Kenako, yambani kuyang'ana! Pali mapulogalamu ambiri okhudzana ndi kugonana omwe maanja angagwiritse ntchito kuti apeze wokonda wachitatu kuti alowe nawo zosangalatsa. Hashtag Open imalola maanja kupanga mbiri yawo, zomwe akuyang'ana, ndi zomwe ali omasuka nazo malinga ndi dongosolo. Izi zimawonetsetsa kuti anthu atha kuchepetsa kusaka kwawo kuti apeze anthu ovomerezeka kuti asangalale. Feeld ndi pulogalamu ina yokhudzana ndi kugonana kwa maanja ndi osakwatira omwe akuyang'ana "tsiku loposa lachilendo."

Mawu kwa anzeru: Osadabwitsa aliyense amene ali ndi khola (kapena chilichonse chogonana). Ngati wina avomera kuti agonane nanu koma mukufuna kupita nawo kunyumba kwa wokondedwa wanu ... imeneyo si njira yabwino kwambiri. Kuona mtima, kulankhulana mopitirira muyeso, ndi kukonzekera ndizofunikira pazochitika zambiri zogonana - ndipo ndikhulupirireni, zimapangitsa nthawi yachigololo kukhala yabwinoko pamene ilibe nkhawa ndipo malire / malire a aliyense ali poyera! (Zogwirizana: Momwe Mungakhazikitsire Malire Ndi Aliyense M'moyo Wanu)

Khalani Omasuka, Okonda Achigololo!

Ngati pali chilichonse chomwe mungachotse pa izi, chikhale: kulumikizana, kulumikizana, kulumikizana. Kugonana ndi kovuta, koma kungakhale kosavuta (komanso kosangalatsa kwambiri) ngati mubweretsa zoyembekeza zonse ndi malire poyera kuti onse okhudzidwa athe kuziwona. Kenako, pitani mukasangalale ndi nkhono.

Rachel Wright, M.A., L.M.F.T., (iye) ndi katswiri wodziwa zamaganizo, wophunzitsa za kugonana, komanso katswiri wa ubale ku New York City.Ndi wokamba nkhani waluso, wotsogolera gulu, komanso wolemba. Adagwira ntchito ndi anthu masauzande padziko lonse lapansi kuwathandiza kuti angofuula zochepa komanso kuwombera kwambiri.

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