Zomwe Zilidi Kudutsa Mukudandaula Kwakuya, Kwakuda

Zamkati

• Njira 3 Ndingalongosole Kukhumudwa Kwa Mnzanu
  
• Kusintha kwa kukhumudwa kwakukulu ndikuganiza zodzipha
• Kuyesetsa kuti ndithandizidwe chinali chizindikiro chakuti ndimafunabe kukhala ndi moyo
• Dongosolo Langa La Mavuto: Ntchito Zochepetsa Kupanikizika
  

Ndimaganiza kuti aliyense amadzipha nthawi ndi nthawi. Iwo satero. Umu ndi m'mene ndachira ndikukhumudwa kwamdima.

Momwe timawonera mapangidwe adziko lapansi omwe timasankha kukhala - ndikugawana zokumana nazo zokakamiza kumatha kupanga momwe timachitirana wina ndi mnzake, kukhala abwinoko. Uku ndikuwona kwamphamvu.

Kumayambiriro kwa Okutobala 2017, ndidadzipeza ndikhala muofesi yanga yothandizirana nawo mwadzidzidzi.

Anafotokoza kuti ndimakumana ndi "vuto lalikulu lachisoni."

Ndinali ndikumvanso chimodzimodzi kukhumudwa kusukulu yasekondale, koma sizinali zopweteka kwambiri.

Kumayambiriro kwa 2017, nkhawa yanga idayamba kusokoneza moyo wanga watsiku ndi tsiku. Chifukwa chake, kwa nthawi yoyamba, ndinali nditapeza wothandizira.

Kukula ku Midwest, chithandizo sichidakambidwenso. Sizinali mpaka nditakhala m'nyumba yanga yatsopano ya Los Angeles ndipo ndinakumana ndi anthu omwe anawona wothandizira pomwe ndinaganiza kuti ndiyesere ndekha.

Ndinali ndi mwayi wokhala ndi wothandizira pomwe ndinayamba kuvutika maganizo kwambiri.

Sindingaganize kuti ndipeze thandizo pamene ndimatha kutuluka pabedi m'mawa.

Mwinanso sindinayesere nkomwe, ndipo nthawi zina ndimadzifunsa kuti chikanandichitikira ndikadapanda kufunafuna chithandizo cha akatswiri chisanafike gawo langa.

Nthawi zonse ndimakhala ndi nkhawa komanso nkhawa, koma thanzi langa lidakanika kugwa msanga.

Zimanditengera pafupifupi mphindi 30 kuti ndikadzichotsere pakama. Chifukwa chokha chomwe ndingadzukire chinali choti ndimayenera kuyenda ndi galu wanga ndikupita kuntchito yanga yanthawi zonse.

Ndinkatha kudzikokera kuntchito, koma sindinathe kulingalira. Pakhoza kukhala nthawi zina pamene lingaliro lakukhala mu ofesi lingakhale lopanikiza kotero kuti ndimapita ku galimoto yanga kuti ndikapume ndikudziletsa.

Nthawi zina, ndinkalowa mozembera kubafa ndikulira. Sindinadziwe ngakhale zomwe ndimalira, koma misonzi sinathe. Pambuyo pa mphindi khumi kapena kuposerapo, ndinkatsuka ndikubwerera kudesiki yanga.

Ndinkachitabe zonse kuti abwana anga asangalale, koma ndinali nditasiya chidwi ndi ntchito zomwe ndimagwirako, ngakhale ndimagwira ku kampani yanga yamaloto.

Kuthetheka kwanga kunangokhala ngati kukunguluka.

Tsiku lililonse ndimatha kuwerengera maola mpaka nditapita kunyumba ndikugona pabedi langa ndikuwonera "Anzanga." Ndimawonera magawo omwewo mobwerezabwereza. Magawo odziwika bwino amenewo adanditonthoza, ndipo sindimatha kuganiza zakuwonera chilichonse chatsopano.

Sindinasiyiretu kucheza kapena kusiya kupanga mapulani ndi anzathu momwe anthu ambiri amayembekezera kuti anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lalikulu lachisoni. Ndikuganiza, mwa zina, ndichifukwa choti nthawi zonse ndimakhala wololera.

Koma ngakhale ndimkawonabe kumacheza kapena zakumwa ndi anzanga, sindikadakhala komweko mwamalingaliro. Ndinkaseka pa nthawi yoyenera ndikugwedeza mutu pakufunika, koma sindinathe kulumikizana.

Ndimaganiza kuti ndangotopa ndikuti zitha posachedwa.

Njira 3 Ndingalongosole Kukhumudwa Kwa Mnzanu

• Zili ngati ndili ndi dzenje lakuya lachisoni m'mimba mwanga lomwe sindingathe kulichotsa.
• Ndikuwona dziko likupitilira, ndikupitilizabe kuyenda ndikumwetulira pankhope panga, koma mkati mwanga, ndikumva kuwawa kwambiri.
• Zimakhala ngati pali cholemera chachikulu m'mapewa mwanga chomwe sindingathe kuchokapo, ngakhale nditayesetsa motani.

Kusintha kwa kukhumudwa kwakukulu ndikuganiza zodzipha

Ndikayang'ana m'mbuyo, kusintha komwe kuyenera kuti kunandizindikiritsa kuti china chake sichili bwino ndipamene ndidayamba kukhala ndi malingaliro ofuna kudzipha.

Ndinkakhumudwa ndikadzuka m'mawa uliwonse, ndikulakalaka ndikanathetsa ululu wanga ndikugona kwamuyaya.

Ndinalibe dongosolo lodzipha, koma ndimangofuna kuti ululu wanga wamalingaliro uthere. Ndikadaganizira za yemwe angasamalire galu wanga ndikamwalira ndikatha maola ambiri pa Google ndikufufuza njira zosiyanasiyana zodzipha.

Gawo lina la ine limaganiza kuti aliyense amachita izi nthawi ndi nthawi.

Gawo lina lothandizira, ndidamuuza wodwalayo.

Gawo lina la ine limayembekezera kuti anena kuti ndasweka ndipo samandionanso.

M'malo mwake, adandifunsa modekha ngati ndili ndi malingaliro, koma sindidayankha. Ndinamuuza kuti pokhapokha pakakhala njira yodzipha yopanda nzeru, sindingathe kulephera.

Ndinkaopa kuthekera kwa ubongo wosatha kapena kuwonongeka kwakuthupi kuposa imfa. Ndimaganiza kuti zinali zabwinobwino kuti ndikapatsidwa mapiritsi otsimikizira kuti ndikufa, nditha kumwa.

Tsopano ndikumvetsetsa kuti si malingaliro abwinobwino komanso kuti panali njira zochizira matenda anga amisala.

Ndipamene adalongosola kuti ndimadutsa gawo lalikulu lokhumudwitsa.

Kuyesetsa kuti ndithandizidwe chinali chizindikiro chakuti ndimafunabe kukhala ndi moyo

Adandithandizira kupanga dongosolo lazovuta lomwe limaphatikizaponso mndandanda wazinthu zomwe zimandithandiza kupumula komanso zondithandizira.

Zothandizira zanga zinali amayi anga ndi abambo anga, abwenzi apamtima ochepa, nambala yolankhulirana yodzipha, komanso gulu lothandizira pakukhumudwa.

Dongosolo Langa La Mavuto: Ntchito Zochepetsa Kupanikizika

• kusinkhasinkha motsogoleredwa
• kupuma kwakukulu
• pitani kochita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndikukwera pazitali kapena kupita kukalasi
• mverani mndandanda wanga womwe umakhala ndi nyimbo zomwe ndimakonda nthawi zonse
• lembani
• tengani galu wanga, Petey, paulendo wautali

Anandilimbikitsa kuti ndigawe malingaliro anga ndi abwenzi ochepa ku LA komanso kunyumba kuti azindiyang'anira pakati pa magawo. Anatinso kuyankhula za izi kungandithandizire kudziona kuti ndili ndekhandekha.

Mmodzi wa abwenzi anga apamtima adayankha bwino ndikufunsa, "Ndingatani kuti ndithandizire? Mukufuna chiyani?" Tinabwera ndi pulani yoti anditumizire mameseji tsiku lililonse kuti ndingofufuza komanso kuti ndikhale woona mtima zivute zitani.

Koma galu wabanja langa atamwalira ndipo ndidazindikira kuti ndiyenera kupita ku inshuwaransi yatsopano, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti ndiyenera kupeza wothandizira watsopano, zinali zochuluka kwambiri.

Nditha kugunda pomwe ndimasweka. Maganizo anga ofuna kudzipha adayamba kugwira ntchito. Ndidayamba kwenikweni yang'anani njira zomwe ndingasakanizire mankhwala anga kuti ndipange malo oopsa.

Nditatha kugwira ntchito tsiku lotsatira, sindinathe kuganiza bwino. Sindinasamalirenso za malingaliro a wina aliyense kapena moyo wabwino, ndipo ndimakhulupirira kuti samasamala zanga. Sindinamvetsetse ngakhale zakukhazikika kwaimfa pakadali pano. Ndinangodziwa kuti ndiyenera kusiya dziko lapansi ndi zowawa zosatha.

Ndinkakhulupiriradi kuti sizidzakhala bwino. Tsopano ndikudziwa kuti ndinali kulakwitsa.

Ndinachotsa tsikulo, ndikufuna kukwaniritsa zomwe ndikufuna usiku womwewo.

Komabe, amayi anga anali kuyimbabe foni ndipo sanasiye mpaka nditayankha. Ndinagonja ndikutenga foni. Anandifunsa mobwerezabwereza kuti ndiyitane wothandizira wanga. Chifukwa chake, nditatsika pafoni ndi amayi anga, ndidatumizirana mameseji ndi adokotala kuti ndione ngati ndingakwanitsenso kukumana madzulo amenewo.

Osadziwa ine panthawiyo, padali gawo lina la ine lomwe limafuna kukhala ndi moyo ndikukhulupirira kuti atha kundithandiza kupyola izi.

Ndipo iye anatero. Tidakhala mphindi 45 izi tikubwera ndi pulani ya miyezi ingapo yotsatira. Anandilimbikitsa kuti ndipumule nthawi kuti ndiziganizira za thanzi langa.

Ndinamaliza chaka chonse ndikugwira ntchito ndikubwerera kunyumba ku Wisconsin milungu itatu. Ndinkaona ngati ndikulephera chifukwa chosiya kugwira ntchito kwakanthawi. Koma chinali chisankho chabwino kwambiri chomwe ndidapanga.

Ndinayambanso kulemba, chidwi changa chomwe ndinalibe mphamvu zamaganizidwe kuti ndichite kwakanthawi.

Ndikulakalaka ndikadanena kuti malingaliro amdima apita ndipo ndine wokondwa. Koma malingaliro ofuna kudzipha amangobwera pafupipafupi kuposa momwe ndimafunira. Komabe, pali moto pang ono ukuyaka mkati mwanga.

Kulemba kumandithandiza kupitabe patsogolo, ndipo ndimadzuka ndili ndi cholinga. Ndikuphunzirabe momwe ndingakhalire ndikathupi komanso kwamaganizidwe, ndipo pamakhalabe nthawi zina pamene ululu umakhala wosapiririka.

Ndikuphunzira kuti izi zitha kukhala nkhondo yanthawi zonse ya miyezi yabwino komanso yoyipa.

Koma ndili bwino ndi izi, chifukwa ndikudziwa kuti ndili ndi anthu othandizira pakona yanga kuti andithandizire kupitiliza kumenya nkhondo.

Sindikadatha kudutsa kugwa komaliza popanda iwo, ndipo ndikudziwa kuti andithandizanso kuti ndidutse gawo langa lotsatira lachisoni.

Ngati inu kapena munthu wina amene mumamudziwa akuganiza zodzipha, thandizo lilipo. Fikirani ku Njira Yodzitetezera Kudzipha pa 800-273-8255.

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