Zinthu 8 Anthu Omwe Ali Ndi Matenda Ovutikira Kwambiri Amafuna Mukudziwa

Zamkati

• 1. Mumamva ngati mumangokhalira "kuzipusitsa"
• 2. Muyenera kutsimikizira kuti mukuvutika ndipo mukusowa thandizo
• 3. Masiku abwino ndi "abwinobwino"
• 4. Koma masiku oyipa ndiopirira
• 5. Kupilira m'masiku oyipa kumafunikira mphamvu zambiri
• 6. Mutha kulimbana kuti muganizire, ndikumverera ngati simukuchita momwe mungathere
• 7. Kukhala ndi nkhawa yayikulu kumatopetsa
• 8. Kupempha thandizo ndichinthu champhamvu kwambiri chomwe mungachite

Ngakhale sizingakhale zowonekeratu, kudutsa tsikulo kumatopetsa.

Momwe timawonera mapangidwe adziko lapansi omwe timasankha kukhala - ndikugawana zokumana nazo zokakamiza kumatha kupanga momwe timachitirana wina ndi mnzake, kukhala abwinoko. Uku ndikuwona kwamphamvu.

Kungakhale kovuta kuwona zizindikilo za munthu amene ali ndi vuto la kukhumudwa kwambiri. Ndi chifukwa, kunja, nthawi zambiri amawoneka bwino kwambiri. Amapita kuntchito, kukwaniritsa ntchito zawo, ndikupitiliza ubale. Ndipo pamene akudutsa kuti asunge moyo wawo watsiku ndi tsiku, mkati akufuula.

"Aliyense amalankhula za kukhumudwa komanso kuda nkhawa, ndipo amatanthauza zinthu zosiyanasiyana kwa anthu osiyanasiyana," akutero Dr. Carol A. Bernstein, pulofesa wa zamisala ndi ubongo ku NYU Langone Health.

"Kupsinjika kwa magwiridwe antchito sichinthu chodziwitsa matenda kuchipatala. Anthu atha kukhala okhumudwa, koma funso lokhudza kukhumudwa ndiloti likhala lotalika bwanji, ndipo zingatilepheretse bwanji kupitiliza ndi moyo [wathu]? ”

Palibe kusiyana pakati pa kukhumudwa ndi kukhumudwa kwapamwamba. Matenda okhumudwa amasiyana pang'ono mpaka pang'ono. Mu 2016, anthu aku America pafupifupi 16.2 miliyoni adakumana ndi vuto limodzi lokha.

"Anthu ena omwe ali ndi vuto la kupsinjika sangathe kupita kuntchito kapena kusukulu, kapena magwiridwe awo ntchito amavutika kwambiri chifukwa cha izi," atero a Ashley C. Smith, wogwira ntchito zovomerezeka pachipatala. “Sizili choncho kwa anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la kupsinjika kwamphamvu. Atha kugwira ntchito pamoyo wawo, kwakukulukulu. ”

Koma kukwanitsa kudutsa tsikulo sikutanthauza kuti ndikosavuta. Izi ndi zomwe anthu asanu ndi awiri adanena za momwe zimakhalira kukhala ndikugwira ntchito ndi nkhawa yayikulu.

1. Mumamva ngati mumangokhalira "kuzipusitsa"

"Tikumva zambiri tsopano zokhudzana ndi imposter syndrome, pomwe anthu amamva kuti akungoyipeza" ndipo sali ogwirizana monga momwe anthu amaganizira. Pali mtundu wa izi kwa iwo omwe amalimbana ndi kukhumudwa kwakukulu ndi mitundu ina yamatenda amisala. Mumakhala waluso kwambiri pa 'kusewera nokha,' ndikuchita zomwe inu nokha omwe anthu okuzungulirani amayembekeza kuwona ndikumva. "

- Daniel, wolemba nkhani, Maryland

2. Muyenera kutsimikizira kuti mukuvutika ndipo mukusowa thandizo

“Kukhala ndi vuto la kupsinjika kwa thupi kumakhala kovuta kwambiri. Ngakhale mutha kugwira ntchito ndi moyo ndipo makamaka mumakwaniritsa zinthu, simukuzichita ndi kuthekera kwanu konse.

“Kupitilira apo, palibe amene akukhulupirira kuti mukulimbana chifukwa moyo wanu sukugwera panobe. Ndinali wofuna kudzipha ndipo ndatsala pang'ono kumaliza zonse ku yunivesite ndipo palibe amene angandikhulupirire chifukwa sindinali kulephera kusukulu kapena kuvala ngati nyansi zonse. Kuntchito, ndizofanana. Tiyenera kukhulupirira anthu akapempha thandizo.

“Pomaliza, othandizira ambiri amisala ali ndi zofunikira, pomwe muyenera kuwoneka okhumudwa kuti mupeze chithandizo. Ngakhale ndikakhala kuti ndilibe nkhawa kwenikweni ndipo nthawi zonse ndimaganiza zodzipha, ndiyenera kunama kuti ndigwire bwino ntchito. ”

- Alicia, wokamba / wolemba nkhani zaumoyo, Toronto

3. Masiku abwino ndi "abwinobwino"

“Tsiku labwino ndikuti ndimatha kudzuka asanakwane kapena kumangomvera alamu yanga, ndikasamba, ndi kuvala nkhope. Ndikhoza kupitiliza kukhala pafupi ndi anthu, monga ntchito yanga yophunzitsa mapulogalamu imandiitanira. Sindine wamisala kapena wopanda nkhawa. Ndimatha kupitilira madzulo ndikukambirana ndi omwe ndimagwira nawo ntchito osataya mtima kwathunthu. Patsiku labwino, ndimakhala ndi chidwi komanso kumvetsetsa kwamaganizidwe. Ndimamva ngati kuti ndine munthu waluso, wogwira ntchito bwino. ”

- Mkhristu, wophunzitsa mapulogalamu, Dallas

4. Koma masiku oyipa ndiopirira

“Tsopano patsiku loipa… Ndimalimbana ndi ine ndekha kuti ndidzuke ndikudzichititsa manyazi kuti ndizisamba ndikudzipeza ndekha. Ndinadzola zodzoladzola [kotero sindimachita] kuchenjeza anthu za mavuto anga amkati. Sindikufuna kulankhula kapena kusokonezedwa ndi aliyense. Ndikunamizira kukhala munthu, popeza ndili ndi renti yolipira ndipo sindikufuna kupondereza moyo wanga kuposa momwe ulili.

“Nditatha ntchito, ndikungofuna kupita kuchipinda changa cha hotelo ndikusuntha pa Instagram kapena pa YouTube. Ndidya zakudya zopanda pake, ndikumva ngati wotayika ndikudzipeputsa.

"Ndili ndi masiku oyipa kuposa abwino, koma ndapeza bwino pakuwunamiza kotero makasitomala anga amaganiza kuti ndine wantchito wabwino. Nthawi zambiri ndimatumizidwa kudos pantchito yanga. Koma mkati, ndikudziwa kuti sindinapereke pamlingo womwe ndikudziwa. ”

- Mkhristu

5. Kupilira m'masiku oyipa kumafunikira mphamvu zambiri

“Zimakhala zotopetsa kwambiri kuti utsilize tsiku loipa. Ndimagwira ntchito, koma sizabwino zanga. Zimatenga nthawi yayitali kukwaniritsa ntchito. Pali zambiri zomwe zimayang'ana mlengalenga, kuyesa kubwezeretsanso malingaliro anga.

"Ndimapezeka wokhumudwa mosavuta ndi omwe ndimagwira nawo ntchito, ngakhale ndikudziwa kuti palibe njira yodziwira kuti ndikukumana ndi mavuto. Patsiku loipa, ndimadzidalira kwambiri ndipo sindimafuna kuwonetsa abwana anga ntchito iliyonse chifukwa ndimaopa kuti adzaganiza kuti sindingakwanitse.

“Chimodzi mwazinthu zothandiza kwambiri zomwe ndimachita m'masiku oyipa ndikuika patsogolo ntchito yanga. Ndikudziwa kuti ndikadzikakamira kwambiri, ndipamene ndimatha kugwa, ndiye ndimaonetsetsa kuti ndimachita zinthu zovuta ndikakhala ndi mphamvu zambiri. ”

- Courtney, katswiri wotsatsa, North Carolina

6. Mutha kulimbana kuti muganizire, ndikumverera ngati simukuchita momwe mungathere

"Nthawi zina, palibe chomwe chimachitika. Nditha kukhala daze lalitali tsiku lonse, kapena zimatenga tsiku lonse kumaliza zinthu zingapo. Popeza ndimalumikizana ndi anthu ndipo ndimagwira ntchito ndi anthu komanso makampani omwe amalimbikitsa cholinga chachikulu, chomwe nthawi zambiri chimakopa anthu, ntchito yanga imatha kundilowetsa mumtima.

“Nditha kukhala ndikugwira nthano, ndipo ndikulemba ndimakhala ndi misozi ikutsika pankhope panga. Izi zitha kupindulitsa kasitomala wanga chifukwa ndili ndi mtima komanso chidwi chochuluka munkhani zopindulitsa, koma ndizowopsa chifukwa zotengeka zimathamanga kwambiri.

- Tonya, wolemba nkhani, California

7. Kukhala ndi nkhawa yayikulu kumatopetsa

“Kwa zondichitikira, kukhala ndi nkhawa yomwe imagwira ntchito kwambiri ndikotopetsa. Ndikutsiriza tsikulo ndikumwetulira ndikukakamiza kuseka mukamazunzidwa ndikumverera kuti anthu omwe mumacheza nawo amangolekerera inu komanso kukhalapo kwanu padziko lapansi.

"Ndikudziwa kuti ndiwe wopanda ntchito komanso ukuwononga mpweya ... ndikuchita zonse zomwe ungathe kuti uwonetse zolakwika pokhala wophunzira wabwino kwambiri, mwana wamkazi wabwino kwambiri, wogwira ntchito bwino kwambiri. Zimapitilira tsiku lonse tsiku lililonse ndikuyembekeza kuti mutha kupangitsa wina kumverera kuti ndinu woyenera nthawi yake, chifukwa simukumva ngati momwe muliri. "

- Meaghan, wophunzira zamalamulo, New York

8. Kupempha thandizo ndichinthu champhamvu kwambiri chomwe mungachite

“Kupempha thandizo sikumakupangitsani kukhala munthu wofooka. M'malo mwake, zimakupangitsani kukhala chosiyana kwambiri. Kukhumudwa kwanga kudawonekera ndikamwa kwambiri. Zowopsa kwambiri, ndimakhala milungu isanu ndi umodzi ndikukonzanso ku 2017. Ndimangokhala wamanyazi kwa miyezi 17 yodziletsa.

"Aliyense atha kukhala ndi malingaliro ake, koma mbali zonse zitatu za thanzi lam'mutu mwanga - kusiya kumwa, kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala olankhula, ndi mankhwala - zakhala zofunikira kwambiri. Makamaka, mankhwalawa amandithandiza kuti ndikhale wolimba tsiku ndi tsiku ndipo zakhala zikundithandiza kwambiri kuti ndikhale bwino. ”

- Kate, wothandizira maulendo, New York

“Ngati kukhumudwaku kukukhudzani moyo wanu, ngati mukuganiza kuti mukuyenera kukhala bwino, pemphani thandizo. Onani dokotala wanu wamkulu za izi - ambiri amaphunzitsidwa kuthana ndi kukhumudwa - ndipo funsani wopita kuchipatala.

"Ngakhale kuti padali kusalidwa kwakukulu chifukwa chokhala ndi matenda amisala, ndinganene kuti tikuyamba, pang'onopang'ono, kuti manyazi achepetse. Palibe cholakwika kuvomereza kuti muli ndi vuto ndipo mutha kugwiritsa ntchito thandizo lina. ”

- Daniel

Meagan Drillinger ndi wolemba maulendo komanso zaumoyo. Cholinga chake ndikupanga maulendo opitilira muyeso ndikukhalabe ndi moyo wathanzi. Zolemba zake zawonekera mu Thrillist, Men's Health, Travel Weekly, ndi Time Out New York, pakati pa ena. Pitani kukamuona blog kapena Instagram.