4 Zowona Zokhudza Mkwiyo Wa Akazi Zomwe Zikuthandizireni Kukhala Okhala Ndi Thanzi

Zamkati

• 1. Mkwiyo si kutengeka koopsa
• 2. Kubisa mkwiyo kuli ndi zotsatirapo zake
• 3. Mkwiyo womangirizidwa ku zotsatira ukhoza kukhala wowopsa m'maganizo
• 4. Njira zabwino zowonetsera mkwiyo

Mkwiyo ukhoza kukupatsani mphamvu, ngati mukudziwa zomwe zili ndi thanzi labwino komanso zomwe sizili bwino.

Pafupifupi milungu iwiri yapitayo, ambiri a ife tidayang'ana umboni wolimba mtima wa Dr. Christine Blasey Ford pamaso pa Nyumba Yamalamulo pomwe amafotokoza zachisoni zomwe adakumana nazo paubwana wake komanso zomwe akuti adamugwiririra ndi Wosankhidwa wa Khothi Lalikulu nthawi imeneyo, Woweruza Brett Kavanaugh.

Kavanaugh tsopano yatsimikiziridwa ndi Senate ndipo mwalamulo ndi Khothi Lalikulu. Kukwiya kwa azimayi ambiri, omwe adachitidwapo zachipongwe, komanso amuna ogwirizana nawo #etoo mayendedwe adatsatira.

Kukhazikitsidwa kwa Kavanaugh pomwe akukayikira za mbiri yake yokhudza nkhanza zakugonana ndichimodzi mwazinthu zingapo zomwe zapangitsa kuti amayi ambiri azimva ngati kupita patsogolo kufikira ufulu wofanana pakati pa abambo ndi amai kwaimitsidwa.

Ndipo izi zimamasuliridwa pakuchita ziwonetsero zambiri, kukambirana momasuka za zoyipa zomwe zimachitika mdera lomwe amuna amakhala ndi maudindo akuluakulu, komanso amakwiya kwambiri.

Kwaya ya zionetsero za amayi sikulandiridwa nthawi zonse - makamaka anthu akawona kuti ndife wokwiya.

Kwa amuna, mkwiyo umaonedwa ngati wachimuna. Kwa amayi, anthu nthawi zambiri amatiuza kuti ndizosavomerezeka.

Koma mauthenga achikhalidwe kuti mkwiyo wa mayi ndi owopsa atha kusokoneza thanzi lathu lamaganizidwe ndi thupi. Kuuzidwa, monga akazi, mkwiyo uli zoipa zitha kuchititsa manyazi kukulira, zomwe zingatilepheretse kuwonetsa malingaliro abwinowa.

Ngakhale sitingathe kuwongolera momwe ena amalandirira mkwiyo wathu - kudziwa momwe tingadziwire, kufotokoza, ndikugwiritsira ntchito izi kungakhale kolimbikitsa.

Monga katswiri wamaganizidwe, Nazi zomwe ndikufuna kuti amayi ndi abambo adziwe za mkwiyo.

1. Mkwiyo si kutengeka koopsa

Kukula m'mabanja momwe kusamvana kunasokonekera pansi pa rug kapena kuwonetsedwa mwankhanza kumatha kukhulupirira kuti mkwiyo ndiwowopsa.

Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa kuti kupsa mtima sikumapweteka ena.

Chowonongera ndi momwe kukwiya kumalumikizirana. Mkwiyo womwe umafotokozedwa ngati kuzunza thupi kapena mawu umasiya mabala am'maganizo, koma kukhumudwa komwe kumagawidwa mosagwiritsa ntchito zachiwawa kumatha kukulitsa kukondana ndikuthandizira kukonza ubale.

Mkwiyo ndi chizindikiro cha magalimoto Zimatiuza kuti tachitiridwa nkhanza kapena kupwetekedwa mwanjira ina. Ngati sitichita manyazi ndi mkwiyo wathu, ungatithandizire kuzindikira zosowa zathu ndikuyamba kudzisamalira.

2. Kubisa mkwiyo kuli ndi zotsatirapo zake

Kukhulupirira kuti mkwiyo uli ndi poizoni kungatipangitse kuthetsa mkwiyo wathu. Koma kubisa malingaliro awa kuli ndi zotsatirapo. M'malo mwake, kukwiya kosalekeza pazovuta zathanzi monga kusowa tulo, nkhawa, komanso kukhumudwa.

Kukwiya kosathetsedwa komanso kosafotokozedwanso kumatha kubweretsanso pamakhalidwe oyipa, monga kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, kudya mopitirira muyeso, komanso kuwononga ndalama mopitirira muyeso.

Maganizo osasangalatsa amafunika kutonthozedwa, ndipo pamene tilibe chithandizo chachikondi, timapeza njira zina zothetsera malingaliro athu.

Sungani malingaliro anu athanzi powafotokozera Ngakhale zimawoneka kukhala zosatetezeka kuyang'anizana ndi munthu wopwetekedwayo kapena zochitika zina, malo ogulitsa monga kulemba, kuyimba, kusinkhasinkha, kapena kuyankhula ndi wothandizira atha kupereka malo okhumudwitsa.

3. Mkwiyo womangirizidwa ku zotsatira ukhoza kukhala wowopsa m'maganizo

Kudalira mkwiyo wathu pakusintha zotsatira kungatipangitse kukhala opanda chiyembekezo, achisoni, ndikukhumudwitsidwa, makamaka ngati munthuyo kapena mkhalidwewo sukusintha.

Poganizira izi, musanakumane ndi munthu wina, dzifunseni kuti: "Kodi ndikuyembekeza kuti ndipindule chiyani ndi mgwirizanowu?" ndipo “Ndidzamva bwanji ngati palibe chomwe chidzasinthe?”

Sitingasinthe anthu ena, ndipo ngakhale izi zitha kukhala zokhumudwitsa, zitha kukhala zomasula kudziwa zomwe tili angathe ndipo sangathe kulamulira.

4. Njira zabwino zowonetsera mkwiyo

Kugwiritsa ntchito mawu oti "Ine" ndi imodzi mwanjira zabwino kwambiri zofotokozera kukwiya.

Kukhala ndi malingaliro anu kumachepetsa chitetezo cha ena, kuwalola kuti amve ndikuvomereza mawu anu. M'malo mongonena kuti, "Mumandikwiyitsa nthawi zonse," yesani kunena, "Ndakwiya chifukwa ..."

Ngati kukumana ndi munthuyo sikungatheke, kuwongolera mphamvu zanu pakuchita zachiwonetsero kumatha kukupatsani lingaliro lakumudzi, komwe kumatha kuthandizira ndikuchiritsa.

Nthawi zomwe anthu apulumuka zoopsa, monga kuzunzidwa, kuzunzidwa, kapena kumwalira kwa wokondedwa, kudziwa kuti zomwe mwakumana nazo zitha kuthandiza munthu wina zimatha kukupatsani mphamvu.

Juli Fraga ndi katswiri wazamisala wokhala ku San Francisco, California. Anamaliza maphunziro a PsyD ku University of Northern Colorado ndikupita ku chiyanjano ku UC Berkeley. Wokonda zaumoyo wa amayi, amayandikira magawo ake onse mwachikondi, moona mtima, komanso mwachifundo. Onani zomwe akuchita Twitter.