Nthawi Yoyenera Kukambitsirana Zochepetsa Kuwonda Muli pachibwenzi

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Theodora Blanchfield, 31, woyang'anira malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ku Manhattan amanyadira kuti zaka zisanu zapitazo, adataya mapaundi 50. M'malo mwake, ndiulendo womwe adagawana nawo pagulu lake Kutaya Kunenepa mu Mzinda. Komabe pali anthu ena omwe amakana kuwatsanulira: masiku ake okondana.

"Zimatsutsana ndi zonse zomwe ndimakhulupirira, koma kuti ndimakhala wolemetsa zimandipangitsa kukhala wosatetezeka komanso wamanyazi," akutero Blanchfield. "Ndikudandaula kuti aganiza kuti ndipindulanso. Kapenanso kuti nthawi zonse ndimadya ndipo sindingakhale wosangalala-ngati kuti zomwe ndimachita ndikudya masaladi ndikulimbitsa thupi." (Sangalalani ndi masiku, maola osangalala, ndipo Zambiri ndi izi Malangizo Ochepetsa Kunenepa pa Ntchito Yoyenda Sabata Iliyonse.) Tsoka ilo, mantha amenewo adatsimikiziridwa kwa Blanchfield patsiku loyamba laposachedwa. Mnzake wamkazi yemwe adadziwana mozungulira bala, "Ndimakonda blog yanu!" zomwe zinamupangitsa kuti afike tsiku lofunsa Blanchfield kuti blogyo inali yani. Anamuuza—ndipo sanamvenso za iye.

Blanchfield sadziwa chifukwa chake tsiku lake linasowa, koma akatswiri amavomereza kuti ndibwino kudikirira mpaka mutafikiranso kaye musanapereke zambiri zaumunthu monga kuonda. "Ngati chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe mwakumana nazo koyamba ndikudziwa kuti mwangochepetsa thupi, adzawona izi ngati chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe mumafotokozera," akufotokoza Mimi Tanner, wolemba mabuku. Mfundo Yotsutsana: Pezani Kudzipereka Popanda Mikangano. Ndiye zimatheka bwanji chitani mumanena zammbuyomu?

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"M'malo monena kuti 'Ndinali wonenepa,' yesani kunena kuti, 'Ndinayamba maphunziro a marathon chaka chapitacho, ndipo ndinataya kulemera kwakukulu. Zinali zabwino,' akuwonjezera Sara Eckel, wolemba mabuku. Siinu: Zifukwa 27 (Zolakwika) Simuli Osakwatira. "Anthu ambiri amafuna kuphunzira momwe munachitira izo. Munatenga ulamuliro pa chinachake m'moyo wanu." Lankhulani mutuwo muzokambirana mosaganizira m'malo moponya bomba. (Kupatula apo, mukungogawana kuti mudali wamkulu-osati kuti munaba nyumba ya mnansi wanu.) Blanchfield-yemwe posachedwapa wasintha dzina la blog yake kukhala The Preppy Runner-watengera njira yatsopanoyi. "Ndimachepetsera kunenepa mwadala ndikugogomezera kulimba," akutero.

Nthawi Ndi Yofunika

Zimakhala zokopa kufuna kusonyeza makhalidwe amene anakuthandizani kukwaniritsa cholinga chochititsa chidwi chimenechi. Ndani angafune kucheza ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi mbiri yolimba mtima, kudzipereka, komanso kudziletsa? Ngati mukuyenera kukhala ndi nambala, tsiku lachisanu ndi nthawi yabwino kuwulula, akutero Tanner. "Adzakudziwani kale pofika pano ndipo atha kuphatikizira zidziwitso zatsopanozi popanda kuwononga malingaliro awo oyamba," akutero. (Kuti mumve zambiri panthaŵi yake, werengani Nthawi Yoyenera Kulankhula Za Chilichonse M'banja.)

Mwina chisonyezero chabwino cha nthawi yoyenera kunena, ndi nthawi yanu mverani okonzeka. "Simukuyenera kuuza aliyense nkhani ya moyo wanu wonse," akutsindika Eckel. "Ndi bwino kuchoka kumalo odzilemekeza. M'malo moganiza kuti, 'Kodi iye adzandiweruza?' ganizirani, 'Kodi ndimakhala womasuka kupatsa munthuyu chidziwitso ichi?' Mukudzipatsa mphamvu."

Ilyssa Israel, 39, wothandizira wamkulu ku Springfield, NJ, adakhala womasuka ndi bambo m'modzi kotero kuti adamuwuza tsiku lachiwiri kuti adataya pafupifupi mapaundi 100 atachitidwa opaleshoni yam'mimba-ndipo adachitidwa maopareshoni ena kuti achotse khungu lowonjezera . Yankho lake: "Zabwino! Zabwino kwa inu!" Kenako adavomereza zovuta zake zakulemera ndi mawonekedwe amthupi. "Ndikuganiza kuti kumuuza msanga kudatibweretsa pafupi," akutero Israeli. "Titha kuuza wina ndi mnzake zinsinsi zathu zakuda kwambiri ndikuvomereza kwathunthu." Anakwatirana patapita zaka ziwiri.

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Ngakhale mumalankhula zachinyengo motani, simungathe kuwongolera momwe ena akumvera. Konzekerani kuti ena akhale osazama kapena achiphamaso, akuwonjezera Eckel. Koma dziwani kuti nthawi zina, anthu amakudabwitsani. Blanchfield adakhudzidwa m'mnyamata wina yemwe adakhala naye pachibwenzi amamuuza kuti adamuuzira ndipo pambuyo pake, adachepa kwambiri. "Zinandisangalatsa kudziwa kuti kusintha moyo wanga ndikuwuyika kunja kwakhala ndi zotsatira zabwino kwa wina," akutero. (Onjezerani izi ku Zizindikiro 6 Zosadziwika-Zomwe Ali Osunga.)

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