Chifukwa Chomwe Ndimasuta Fodya ndi Bambo Anga

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Melissa Etheridge adalemba mutu sabata ino pomwe amalankhula za chamba makamaka kuuza Yahoo kuti "azikhala ndi utsi" ndi ana ake okulirapo kuposa kumwa mowa. Pomwe mawu awa adadzetsa kulira komanso kudandaula, ndiyenera kukuwuzani chilungamo: Etheridge ndi ana ake siwo okhawo omwe amasuta udzu limodzi. Bambo anga ndi ine takhala tikusutira limodzi mphika kuyambira ndili ndi zaka 18, ndipo ndi zabwino kwambiri kuposa nthawi iliyonse yomwe timakhala ndi galasi la vinyo (kapena awiri, kapena atatu). Ndikudziwa tani ya inu mwina mukupukusa mitu posakhulupirira, koma ndiloleni ndibwerere ndikuuzeni nkhaniyo.

Kukula, sindinayambe ndakhala mumowa wa mowa, ozizira vinyo, kapena kutchera pamwamba pa gulu la zakumwa za makolo a wina. Mosasamala kanthu za mowa womwe ulipo, sindinagulitsidwepo. Mwina chinali chifukwa chakuti mowa sunandisangalatse.

Zomwe ndimayesa-ndikumatha kukhala wokonda chamba. Melissa Etheridge akuti adayamba kupeza udzu pomwe amasuta chamba chamankhwala kuti athetse vuto la chemotherapy mu 2004. Ndipo ngakhale alibe khansa masiku ano, amawunikirabe. "Kunali kodzidzimutsa kwa ine," Etheridge adauza Yahoo. "Pamene ndinkagwiritsa ntchito ngati mankhwala, zinandiwonekera bwino kwambiri kuti zanenedwa molakwika ndi zosamvetsetseka, ndipo ndinkafunitsitsa kuthandiza anthu omwe akuvutika." (PS Ichi ndichifukwa chake simuyenera kufanizira udzu ndi mankhwala opioid.)

Zowona, sindinapeze udzu movomerezeka monga Etheridge (ndipo sindikuvomereza kuphwanya lamuloli lero): ndinali ndi zaka 16, kuphwando kunyumba, ndipo wina adandinyamulira bong. Kuphatikiza pa kukhosomola kwa mphindi 20 molunjika pambuyo pake (poyang'ana m'mbuyo, kugunda bong inali njira YABWINO yoyambira moyo wanga ngati mphika), wopanda ma calorie, vibe womasuka adatsuka pa ine, ndipo sindinayang'anenso kwenikweni kuyambira pamenepo. Koma patangopita zaka zingapo, pamene ndinachereza anzanga angapo kunyumba kwanga kuti ndikadzuke ndi kuphika, kuti ndipeze theka la malo osuta pakhonde lathu. Ndikukumbukira ndikuyika zidutswazo ndi miyala, ndikuzilemba - ndikuzindikira kuti anali bambo anga omwe anali oponya miyala kunyumba.

Nthawi zonse ndinali mtsikana wa abambo, tinkagwirizana kwambiri pamene ndinali kukula. Ndikakhoza mayeso pamayeso kapena china chake choipa chikachitika ndi mnyamata, ndimakonda kuwauza abambo kaye. Iye basi ndapeza ine ndipo ndimakhala naye nthawi zonse. Kotero pamene ine ndinali ndi kubwera kwa-Yesu mphindi kuti ife tonse tinali miyala, izo pafupifupi zinapanga vuto mu ubale wathu mu njira zodabwitsa kwambiri. Tonse tinali ndi chinsinsi chimodzi (ndipo ine adadziwa ake), koma palibe aliyense wa ife amene akanatha kulankhula za izo. Choyamba, amayi anga ndi mchimwene wanga sanali mu sitima yapoto. Kuphatikiza apo, ndinali ndidakali kusekondale ndipo chamba chinali chovomerezeka mosaloledwa m'boma momwe ndidakulira, ngati mankhwala kapena zina.

Zinatitengera mphindi yophunzitsira kuti tisute limodzi: Nthawi imeneyo adapeza bonge logwiritsidwa ntchito mgalimoto yanga. (Werengani: galimoto yomwe adandigulira.) Kunyamula zida zogwiritsira ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo panthawiyo kunali kuphwanya malamulo, ndipo adandipusitsa chifukwa chokhala wopanda ulemu. Ndipo mverani, iye anali kulondola kwathunthu. Chifukwa ngakhale ndimakonda kusuta, thunthu lagalimoto yanu siyabwino posungira zinthu zanu. Koma zidatitsegulira zokambirana za momwe tonse timasuta mphika, ndipo amandiuza nkhani zakugendedwa kwazaka zambiri - zabwino, monga ma 1970s - ndipo pamapeto pake, gawo lathu loyamba limodzi. (Yokhudzana: Pali Gym yatsopano ya Okonda Chamba Kutsegulidwa Ku California)

Luso langa logudubuza limodzi linamuchititsa chidwi; Ndinadabwa ndi njira zake zopumira. Tinaseka kwambiri tsiku lomwelo, komanso kukumbukira nthawi ndi chifukwa chiti pamene kuli koyenera kuponyedwa miyala komanso nthawi yomwe simukuyenera kusuta. (Monga mgalimoto, mwachitsanzo.) Zokambiranazi mwina ndizomwe zimawonekera kwambiri kwakanthawi kwakanthawi-mtundu wa zokambirana zomwe sizinabwerepo ndi kapu ya vinyo kapena mowa wokhala ndi chakudya chamadzulo.

Tayamba kuyaka pamodzi ngati miliyoni (tsopano mwalamulo, BTW). Ndipo mpaka lero, nthawi zonse ndimakonda kukwera ndi kukambirana bwino ndi abambo anga kusiyana ndi kukhala ndi ma cocktails pang'ono ndikukhala maola 24 otsatira pabedi ndikulephera kuyesa sangweji ya dzira ndi tchizi. Tiyerekeze kuti ndikhoza kukhala bwenzi lapamtima la Mary Jane. Kupatula bambo, ndiye.

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