Mwathupi, Ndine Wokonzeka Kugonana Pambuyo Pobereka. Mumtima? Osati Zambiri

Zamkati

• Kuopa kutenga pakati
• Kusintha zofunika kuchita
• Kulankhulana ngati banja

Kuchokera ku mantha otenganso pakati, kukhala bwino ndi thupi lanu latsopano, kugonana pambuyo pobereka sikungokhala kwakuthupi chabe.

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Nkhani yotsatirayi ikuchokera kwa wolemba amene wasankha kukhalabe osadziwika.

Chabwino, ndatsala pang'ono kukhala pachiwopsezo pano ndikuvomera china chake chowopsa komanso chochititsa manyazi kwa ine: Ndidakhala ndi mwana miyezi ndi miyezi yapitayo, ndipo nditha kuwerengera dzanja limodzi kangati momwe ine ndi amuna anga takhala tikugwirizana kuyambira pamenepo.

Kwenikweni, mukudziwa chiyani? Bwanji ngakhale kunamizira - pangani izo theka za dzanja.

Eeh, ndiko kulondola.

Ndakhala ndikuda nkhawa kuti china chake chalakwika ndi ine, kuti china chake chalakwika ndi mwamuna wanga, ngati titabwereranso ku "zachilendo," kapena ngati banja lathu litha kwamuyaya.

Koma ndiye ndidaganiza zongosiya kuda nkhawa, chifukwa mukudziwa chiyani? Kukhala ndi mwana kumakhala kovuta popanda omwe adangobereka nawonso akumverera kuti akukakamizidwa kuti agonane asanafune.

Chowonadi ndi chakuti, timakambirana zambiri za nthawi yomwe mudzamve mwathupi okonzeka kuyambiranso zogonana atabereka, koma zotengeka Zinthu zimakhudzana kwambiri ndikukhala ndichisangalalo.

Nazi zina mwa zotchinga zenizeni zomwe mungakumane nazo ngati kholo latsopano, kuti ngati mutakumana nazo, mudziwe kuti simuli nokha.

Kuopa kutenga pakati

Ngati mwangobereka kumene kumene, izi zitha kukhala mantha kwenikweni kwa inu, makamaka ngati palibe aliyense mwa inu amene adachitapo kanthu kuti athetse mphamvu yolera yotseketsa (ndipo Hei, ngakhale mutakhala - mantha ndi malingaliro olondola ndipo tonse tamva nkhani za mimba ya vasectomy).

M'malo mwathu, ndinganene kuti ichi ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zazikulu kwambiri, mwina osati nambala wani, pakusowa kwathu zochitika m'chipinda chogona. Mwachidule, ndinali ndi pakati, kubereka, komanso kubereka pambuyo pobereka, ndipo ndikukhulupirira kuti thupi langa silingathenso kutenga pakati.

Tidakambirana za njira zathu zakulera ndili ndi pakati, ndikugwirizana kuti amuna anga atengepo gawo kuti atengeke. Koma chifukwa cha zovuta zingapo zosiyana, sizinachitike.

Chifukwa cha izo, zowona, ndakhala ndikuwopa kugonana. Sikuti chikhumbo changa chogonana ndichokwera kwambiri pakadali pano, chifukwa cha kuyamwitsa komanso kugona, ndi zina zonse zofunika pamoyo, koma kugonana, kwa ine, kumangowoneka ngati chiopsezo chachikulu chotenga popanda chitsimikiziro chosalephera I sadzakhalanso ndi pakati.

Ngakhale kugonana kwa mwamuna wanga kungakhale nthawi yosangalatsa, kugonana kwa ine pakadali pano kumawoneka ngati bizinesi yowopsa, yowopsa - osati mwanjira yabwino.

Ndiyamba kulingalira za kugulitsa kwa mphindi zochepa (ahem) ndi zomwe zitha kubweretsa zovuta kwa miyezi 9, maola ogwira ntchito, ndi miyezi yakuchira kwa ine, ndipo zimangoyamba kumva… sizabwino konse.

Pepani, koma kwa ine pompano, ndicho chowonadi. Zinthu sizikumverera chimodzimodzi, ziwalo za thupi zili m'malo osiyanasiyana, ziwalo zina zitha kutuluka, ndipo ndi motani padziko lapansi momwe mukuyenera kumverera ngati mukukhalabe ndi nkhawa zokumana ndi zovuta zomwe mwangopilira kumene?

Kusintha zofunika kuchita

Pamwamba pa mantha omwe andiletsa ngakhale kufuna kulingaliranso zachiwerewere, ndichakuti zomwe ndimaika patsogolo sizikuphatikizapo kugonana pompano. Ndili ndi moyo wopulumuka pakadali pano kotero kuti ndiyenera kudikirira kuti amuna anga abwerere kunyumba ndikundipatsa ntchito zakulera kuti ndikhoze kuchita zinthu zofunikira monga kugwiritsa ntchito chimbudzi kapena kusamba.

Mwana wathu sanagonepo usiku wonse - amadzuka kawiri kapena katatu usiku uliwonse pa chabwino usiku - ndipo chifukwa ndili ndi ntchito yakutali kunyumba, ndimagwira ntchito nthawi zonse ndikumusamaliranso nthawi zonse.

Pakutha tsikulo, zonse zomwe ndikufuna kuchita ndikugona mphindi zochepa zilizonse zomwe ndingathe. Kugonana, kwa ine, sikungowona kuti ndi koyenera kutaya tulo tambiri.

Kulankhulana ngati banja

Pali zokambirana zambiri zokhudzana ndi mbali yakuthupi yakugonana pambuyo pobereka, koma momwe moyo wanu wogonana umawonekera ngati munthu amene wangobereka kumene ndiwachinsinsi kwambiri ndipo umakhudza zambiri kuposa thupi lomwe lachiritsidwa.

Kukhala ndi mwana kumasintha moyo wanu komanso ubale wanu m'njira zowopsa kotero kuti kumatha kukhala kovuta kungoyeseranso kubwerera momwe mumapangira zinthu osafufuza momwe ubale wanu wasinthira.

Kafukufuku wosangalatsa wa 2018 adafanizira kukhutira ndi kugonana pakati pamagulu awiri azimayi obereka pambuyo pobereka - omwe adalandira chisamaliro chokhazikika pambuyo pobereka komanso omwe amalandila upangiri wa maanja ndi magulu.

Gulu lomwe lidalandira upangiri pazokhudza kukondana, kulumikizana, mayankho azakugonana azimayi, komanso zovuta zamaganizidwe ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu zokhudzana ndi kugonana pambuyo pobereka zidakhutira kwambiri patadutsa milungu 8 kuposa gulu lolamulira.

Tangoganizirani, sichoncho? Kuvomereza kuti kugonana pambuyo pa kubereka kungaphatikizepo zambiri osati kungochiritsa munthu kumeneko ndikuyambiranso zochitika monga zabwinobwino kumathandizira azimayi kuti azikhala ndi moyo wabwino wogonana? Ndani akanakhala thunk?

Mfundo pazonsezi, makolo anzanga okondedwa, sikuti ndikungokutsimikizirani kuti mukuchita bwino kwambiri mu dipatimenti yogona kuposa ine, koma kutikumbutsa ife tonse kuti zikafika pothandizira ndi kuphunzitsa anthu za kuyendetsa moyo tikabereka mwana, tili ndi ntchito yambiri yoti tichite.

Chifukwa chake ngati mukulimbana ndi moyo wanu wogonana pakadali pano, choyambirira, musadzimenyetse nokha. Palibe njira "yolondola" kapena "yolakwika" yogonana pambuyo pobereka, ndipo banja lililonse lidzakhala losiyana.

M'malo mwake, khalani ndi nthawi yovomereza zenizeni zakuthupi ndi zam'malingaliro zomwe zingachitike, kulumikizana ngati banja, ndipo musawope kufunanso chithandizo cha akatswiri. (Onani chitsogozo cha Healthline pazithandizo zotsika mtengo.)

Ndi yanu moyo wogonana, ndi yanu chidziwitso cha postpartum, ndiye inu nokha amene mungadziwe zomwe zili zabwino kwa inu ndi mnzanu. Chofunikira kwambiri ndikuwonetsetsa kuti mukumva bwino, ndipo kugonana kukupitilizabe kukhala chinthu chabwino kwa inu mukakhala okonzeka - osati zomwe mumamva kuti ndinu olakwa kapena zochititsa manyazi.