Mphunzitsi wa Queer Yoga Kathryn Budig Alandira Kunyada Monga 'Njira Yeniyeni Yake'

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Kathryn Budig siwokonda zolemba. Ndi m'modzi mwa aphunzitsi odziwika bwino a Vinyasa yoga padziko lonse lapansi, koma amadziwika kuti ndi ma burpees komanso kudumpha ma jacks m'njira zina zachikhalidwe. Amalalikira kukongola kwa thukuta, grit, ndi mphamvu, koma nthawi zonse amadzimangirira munsalu zowongoka kwambiri komanso mafashoni owoneka bwino, monga zikuwonekera ndi Instagram yake. Chifukwa chake mukafunsa Budig - yemwe adakwatirana ndi mtolankhani wazamasewera komanso wolemba Kate Fagan atasudzula mwamuna wake - kuti afotokozere za kugonana kwake, sakhala wokakamizidwa kutero.

"Ndikukhulupirira kuti chikondi sichiyenera kukhala ndi dzina," akutero pakuyitana Zoom kuchokera kunyumba kwake ku Charleston, South Carolina, pomwe Fagan amayang'ana kumbuyo. "Koma monga munthu amene ndakwatiwa ndi mwamuna, ndidadziwulula poyera kuti ndinali wowongoka, mkati mwanga, ndimadziwa kuti ndimagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha - koma kachiwiri, sindimakonda zolemba." Budig akuti atangomva kukakamizidwa kugawa zachiwerewere, amadalira mawu oti 'madzimadzi,' koma tsopano wasintha magiya. "Tsopano ndimakonda 'queer' chifukwa ndi mawu okongola okhawo, onse omwe amandisangalatsa." (Zokhudzana: LGBTQ Glossary of Gender and Sexuality Definitions Allies Ayenera Kudziwa)

Ndipo Budig ndi wopanda manyazi, wokondwa mosatsutsika - mkhalidwe womwe umachitika mwamphamvu m'makalasi ake apa intaneti. (Monga wophunzira wa nthawi yayitali wa Budig, ine sindikanatha kudziletsa koma kuzindikira kusintha kwa khalidwe lake kwa zaka zambiri.) Ngakhale kuti zomwe ali nazo zakhalabe zamoyo, zokoma, komanso nthawi zambiri zoseketsa kwa zaka zambiri (adzakumenya bulu koma). Pangani nthabwala za chikwama chake Ashi panjira), Budig akuwoneka kuti akumulolera momwe aliri pakadali pano, kukumbatira ma quirks ake, ndikulimbikitsa ophunzira ake kuti nawonso achite zomwezo.

"Zakhala kusintha kwakukulu kwa ine, ndipo ndine wokondwa nazo," akutero, kuvomereza kuti kuyambira pomwe adakwatirana ndi Fagan mu 2018, adakhala "mtundu weniweni" wokha. "Mwachiwonekere, kukondana ndi Kate kunali gawo lalikulu kwambiri - linatsegula maso anga kuzinthu zambiri. Ntchito yanga monga mphunzitsi ndikupangitsa ophunzira kukhala otetezeka komanso olandiridwa. N'zosatheka kukondweretsa aliyense, koma zakhala zazikulu. gawo la makalasi anga tsopano kuti ndipereke zosintha zambiri momwe ndingathere komanso kukhala achindunji ndi zosankha za chilankhulo changa - mpaka kuphweka koyesera kuphatikizika ndi matchulidwe a jenda. dzulo ndikudandaula, koma ndiye njira yosinthira ndikuyesera kuchita bwino nthawi zonse. "

Ndikukhulupirira chikondi chiyenera kukhala chosalemba.

Kathryn Budig

Kudzipereka kwa Budig pakukonza zokhazokha kudayamba koyambirira - mphunzitsi wobadwira ku Kansas, New Jersey akuti adayamba kuchita yoga ali mwana. Pomwe amaliza maphunziro ake ku University of Virginia, anali atayamba kukondana naye, akumakhala maola awiri patsiku akufuna maphunziro a Ashtanga. Koma kulimbikira kumeneku pamapeto pake kunayambitsa kutopa, ndipo atavulala kangapo, adasintha malingaliro ake ndikuyamba kukulitsa chizoloŵezi chomwe akuti chimamupatsa thanzi komanso chowona momwe amafunira kuti awonetsere ophunzira ake. Anakumana ndi mwamuna yemwe adzakwatirane naye pomwe adayamba kumvana kwambiri ndi yoga, koma patatha chaka chimodzi, Budig akukumbukira kuti adazindikira kuti ali ndi zambiri zodziyang'ana patsogolo pake.

"Kate adasinthiratu dziko langa m'njira iliyonse," akutero. "Ndinali m'banja kwa chaka chimodzi ndi mwamuna wanga wakale, ndipo tinali pamodzi zaka zinayi panthawiyo. Ndinali pa msonkhano wa ESPNW Summit ku Southern California ndipo Kate anali kugwira ntchito ngati gulu. Anali wokongola kwambiri. ndi waluso komanso wodabwitsa ndipo nthawi yomweyo ndidamukonda. " (Zokhudzana: Zoseweretsa Zogonana Zogula Kumabizinesi Ang'onoang'ono Pokondwerera Kunyada)

Budig amakumbukira atatsamira kwa mnzake pamwambowo ndikunong'oneza, "oh mulungu wanga, ndiwokongola kwambiri," pomwe mnzake adayankha, "pitani mzere - aliyense amamukonda." Kutengeka kwa Budig kumakulirakulira, mnzake adasekerera kuti mwina yemwe wangokwatirayo ayambe kulingalira zaukwati wachiwiri.

"Panali kuwonetseratu!" akuseka. "Koma zidawunikiranso kuti sindinasangalale ndiubwenzi womwe ndinali nawo, osati chifukwa choti sindinali ndi mkazi - sindinali wokondwa chifukwa sindinasankhe bwenzi loyenera kukhala naye moyo, ndipo ine adadziwa izi kwakanthawi. "

Komabe, Budig akuti sanong'oneza bondo zam'mbuyo ndipo akukhulupirira kuti akanapanda kukumana ndi kusakwaniritsidwa kwa banja lake loyamba, sakanatha kuzindikira mphamvu ya maginito yomwe amamva kwa Fagan. "Palibe china koma kuyamikira," akutero. "Kusudzulana sikusangalatsa, koma kwandipangitsa kukhala mphunzitsi womvera chisoni - ndimawamvetsetsa ophunzira anga ndipo ndimatha kuwona zinthu kudzera pamagalasi osiyanasiyana. Pali zinthu zambiri zasiliva pamenepo."

Budig akuti kukumana ndi Fagan kudadzutsa malingaliro omwe adawaletsa mosadziwa. "Ndinali m'modzi mwa atsikana ang'onoang'ono omwe adaleredwa m'mabuku a nthano," akutero. "Ndinadziwa kuti panali zina zambiri - panjira yolumikizana. [Ubwenzi wanga wakale] wandiphunzitsa kuti ndisakhazikike."

Pomwe Budig adalemba nthano yake ndi Fagan, ubale wawo sunakhale wolimba. Ngakhale abwenzi ndi abale ake adalandira nthawi yomweyo lingaliro lake lofuna kusudzulana ndikupanga mgwirizano watsopano, ambiri mwa ophunzira ake komanso omutsatira pa intaneti sanamuthandize, kusiya ndemanga zankhanza pazolemba zake za Instagram ndikutsatira akaunti yake m'magulu.

"Ndikuganiza kuti anthu adamva kuti achita zachinyengo," akutero. "Ndikuganiza kuti anthu amadziphatika ku zomwe akufuna kuti chikondi chiwonekere, ngakhale sakudziwa zomwe zikuchitika mu ubale wa anthu onsewa omwe amawawona kudzera pakompyuta kapena m'kalasi. Kotero ndikuganiza kuti panali mlingo. kusakhulupirika komanso kudana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. " (Zokhudzana: Kumanani ndi FOLX, Pulatifomu ya TeleHealth Yopangidwa Ndi Queer People for Queer People)

Budig akuti kuwonongedwa kwachinyengo pa intaneti kunali kovuta m'mimba - osati chifukwa anali ndi nkhawa kuti kuchepa kwazosangalatsa zomwe zikutsatira kumukhudza bwanji pantchito yake, koma chifukwa amamva kuti kuyankhidwaku kukuyimira kukhazikika kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, mosasamala kanthu za kupita patsogolo komwe kwachitika. yapangidwa poyimira LGBTQ. "Sizinali zazing'ono kuchita mantha ndi ntchito yanga komanso zambiri zakumva chisoni chachikulu pa umunthu," akutero. "Ndi ndemanga yomvetsa chisoni kwambiri komwe tili monga chikhalidwe komanso kudzutsa kwakukulu."

Budig ananenanso kuti kusakhulupirira modzipereka kwa omuthandizira sikothandizanso. "Anthu sakudziwa momwe zimapwetekera kunena, 'Sindikukhulupirira kuti izi zikuchitikabe mu 2021 - kudana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sikungakhalebe zenizeni!'" Akutero. "Ndizosangalatsa kuti sanakumanepo nazo, koma anthu ammudzi wa LGBTQ akupitiriza kukumana nazo nthawi zonse."

"Gawo lokongola [lokhudza poyera za kugonana kwanga] lakhala kuti anthu ambiri adandiuza kuti samamvetsetsa ndipo amafuna," akutero.

Kathryn budig

Komabe, Budig akuti kwakukulukulu, iye ndi Fagen akhala "ndi mwayi" pokhudzana ndi zomwe adakumana nazo chifukwa chodana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha koma akuvomereza kuti banjali likuyesetsa kupewa malo ndi anthu omwe samadzimva kuti ndi otetezeka.

Pali mbali yowala kwambiri pangozi yomwe Budig adagawana nawo pachibwenzi chake ndi Fagan. "Gawo lokongola lakhala loti anthu ambiri adandiuza kuti samvetsa ndipo akufuna," akutero. "Ndili ndi chiyamikiro chakuya kwa anthu omwe akufuna kumvetsetsa ndipo mwinamwake alibe chidziwitso chochuluka kunja kwa dziko losasinthika ndipo sangathe kukulunga malingaliro awo posudzulana ndi mwamuna ndikuyamba kukondana ndi mkazi." Budig akuti kumasuka kwake kwalimbikitsanso amayi ena omwe ali ndi mbiri yofananayi kuti afikire. "Ndinali ndi azimayi ambiri omwe amandifikira ndi nkhani zawo zomwe amandithokoza chifukwa chomasuka komanso poyera," akutero. "Ndikukhulupirira kuti tikamachita zinthu moonekera bwino, anthu ambiri amamva kuti ndi otetezeka." (Zokhudzana: Ndine Wakuda, Queer, ndi Polyamorous: Chifukwa Chiyani Izi Zili Zofunika kwa Madokotala Anga?)

Pamene Budig akupitilizabe kusintha payekha komanso mwaukadaulo (posachedwa adakhazikitsa nsanja yake yoga pa intaneti yotchedwa Haus of Phoenix), amalingalira zakale komanso chiyembekezo chamtsogolo chamtsogolo.

"Ndinalibe nkhani yochititsa chidwi - yanga inali yokhudzika," akutero. "Ndikukhulupirira kuti tonse ndife chikhalidwe cha makolo akale ndipo titha kumasula kufunika kokhala ogonana komanso kutchula zakugonana. Ndikadakonda anthu kuti atuluke magawo okhwima awa ganizani ali. Ngati ana adaleredwa popanda lingaliro loti 'pinki amatanthauza mtsikana' ndipo 'buluu amatanthauza mnyamata,' titha kuwapatsa ufulu wongokhala anthu. "

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