Chimwemwe Chanu Chitha Kuthandiza Kuchepetsa Kukhumudwa Kwa Anzanu

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Mukuda nkhawa kuti kucheza ndi bwenzi lanu la Debby Downer kuwononga malingaliro anu? Kafukufuku watsopano ku England wafika kuti apulumutse ubale wanu: Kukhumudwa sikumapatsirana - koma chisangalalo ndicho, akutero kafukufuku watsopano Zotsatira za Royal Society B.

Olimbikitsa malingaliro okhudza kukhumudwa ndikuwonetsa mphamvu yaubwenzi, ofufuza apeza kuti imodzi mwazithandizo zothandiza kwambiri zamaganizidwe sangakhale kutali kwambiri kuposa mndandanda wamakalata pafoni yanu. (Kuphatikizanso, mumapeza Njira 12 za Mnzanu Wapamtima Amalimbitsa Thanzi Lanu.)

Kuti aone mmene mikhalidwe ya mabwenzi imakhudzira winayo, asayansi a pa Univesite ya Manchester ndi Warwick anafufuza ana asukulu 2,000 a kusekondale ku United States, pogwiritsa ntchito makina apakompyuta kuti adziwe mmene akumvera. Ofufuzawo anapeza kuti mosiyana ndi zimene anthu ambiri amakhulupirira, kupsinjika maganizo sikumafalikira kuchokera kwa munthu wina kupita kwa wina. Ndipo kuti awunjike pazopeza zolimbikitsa, adapezanso kuti mikhalidwe yosangalatsa kwenikweni chitani.

Mfundo yakuti mungasangalatse mnzanu yemwe ali pansi sizodabwitsa, adatero wolemba kafukufuku Thomas House, Ph.D., mphunzitsi wamkulu wa masamu ogwiritsidwa ntchito kuchokera ku yunivesite ya Manchester, m'mawu atolankhani. "Tidziwa zochitika pagulu-mwachitsanzo kukhala tokha kapena kukumana ndi nkhanza zomwe zimakhudza ubwana ngati wina akuvutika maganizo. Tikudziwanso kuti kuthandizira ena ndikofunikira kuti tithane ndi kukhumudwa, mwachitsanzo kukhala ndi anthu oti tizilankhula nawo," adalongosola. (Dziwani zambiri za Ubongo Wanu: Kukhumudwa.)

Ndipo zotsatira za bwenzi lachikondi pakukhumudwa kwake zinali zazikulu kwambiri. Pomwe kafukufuku wakale adapeza kuti ma meds amangothandiza pafupifupi gawo limodzi mwa atatu mwa anthu omwe ali ndi nkhawa, kafukufukuyu adapeza "kuchiritsa" kwa 50% pakati pa anthu omwe ali ndi nkhawa omwe ali ndi chithandizo champhamvu. Izi ndizazikulu, atero a House, osanenapo kuti malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndi njira yotsika mtengo yothandizira.

Iyi si nkhani yabwino kwa a Debbie Downers, komanso kwa anthu omwe amawakonda. Sikuti mumangodandaula za "kugwidwa" ndi kukhumudwa kwa mnzanu, koma kuthera nthawi ndi iwo-kapena mtundu uliwonse wa bwenzi pa nkhaniyi-kukhoza kupindula. inu maganizo ndi thupi komanso. Kafukufuku yemwe adachitika mu 2013 ndi United Health Group adapeza kuti 76 peresenti ya achikulire aku US omwe amathera nthawi yawo kuthandiza ena ati kuchita izi kwawapangitsa kuti azikhala athanzi, ndipo 78% anali ndi nkhawa zochepa kuposa achikulire omwe samayesetsa kuthandiza ena . Ndipo kafukufuku wina wofalitsidwa ndi bungwe la American Psychological Association anapeza kuti anthu amene amapita kukathandiza ena nthawi zonse amakhala ndi chiopsezo chochepa cha kuvutika maganizo ndipo amakhala ndi moyo wautali. (N'chifukwa Chiyani Ndikovuta Kwambiri Kupeza Anzanu Ngati Munthu Wachikulire? Tili ndi malangizo othandiza!)

Chifukwa chake nthawi ina mukadzawona mnzanu akuimba "Ndine kamtambo kakang'ono kamvula," mufikire kwa iwo - posachedwa mudzabwera. onse kuyimba muluzu nyimbo yosangalatsa.

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