Kwa Mtsikana Olimbana ndi Kudzidalira, Mukuchita Zabwino

Zamkati

• Nayi lingaliro langa lachisangalalo chachikulu Lachisanu usiku: kuyambitsa buku latsopano. Si lingaliro lomwe ndikunyadira kugawana nawo, koma bwanji? Palibe cholakwika ndi kukhala wolowerera.
• Lekani kuzika chimwemwe chanu pamakhalidwe a anthu ena
• Dziwani zomwe zili phokoso lomwe likupita pachabe
• Pali chifukwa chomwe mumakondera zinthu zomwe mumakonda
• Kumbukirani zinthu zabwino

Nayi lingaliro langa lachisangalalo chachikulu Lachisanu usiku: kuyambitsa buku latsopano. Si lingaliro lomwe ndikunyadira kugawana nawo, koma bwanji? Palibe cholakwika ndi kukhala wolowerera.

Kungakhale kovuta kwa ine kukana kuyitanidwa kwausiku wamtchire ngakhale pomwe zonse zomwe ndimafunikiradi ndi usiku wodekha mkati. Ndikukumbukira nthawi zambiri pomwe ndayesapo "kupitiliza" kufunitsitsa kukhalabe.

Ndikanakhala ndikutuluka ku kalabu, ndimadana kuti nyimboyo inali yaphokoso kwambiri kotero kuti sindimatha kuyankhula ndi anzanga, kudana kuti ndiyenera kudutsa pagulu la anthu nthawi iliyonse ndikafuna kupita kwina.

Loweruka lina usiku ku koleji, pamapeto pake ndidagunda khoma. Ndinali kukonzekera phwando (mukudziwa, ntchito zokhazo zomwe ana aku koleji amachita kumapeto kwa sabata lawo pokhapokha zitakhala zomaliza) ndipo ndimamva liwu langa lamkati likundiuza kuti ndikhale kunyumba, ndikundikumbutsa kuti sindinali wokonda kuzunguliridwa ndi anthu kapena kupanga nkhani zazing'ono.

Kamodzi, ndidamvera mawu awa.

Ngakhale ndinali nditavala bwino, ndidavala zodzoladzola, ndinasintha zovala, ndikudzigoneka pabedi. Icho chinali chiyambi.

Zinanditengera kangapo kuti ndiyesetse (munthawiyo) kuti ndichite zomwe zidandipangitsa kukhala wokondwa kwambiri ndisanazindikire kuti ndikupinduladi. Anthu angaganize momwe momwe ndimasankhira kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanga ndizosangalatsa - koma zikafika pakugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanga, chomwe chimafunikira kwambiri ndi momwe ndimamvera.

Lekani kuzika chimwemwe chanu pamakhalidwe a anthu ena

Nthawi zina zimangokhala ngati ndazunguliridwa ndi anthu omwe ali muzinthu zosiyana ndi ine. Zingapangitse kuti zikhale zovuta kuti ndikhale woona pazinthu zomwe ndikufuna kuchita. Ndiyamba kukayikira chilichonse chokhudza ine: Ndine wodabwitsa? Sindili bwino?

Chifukwa chiyani zili zofunika kwambiri kuti chinthu chomwe chikundisangalatsa chiyenera kuvomerezedwa ndi wina?

Tsopano, ndikuganiza ndizoseketsa pamene nkhani yanga ya Snapchat ndi selfie ya mutu wanga pilo yanga ndi mawu oti "Lachisanu usiku bwerani!" Koma zinanditengera kanthawi kuti ndilandire moona #JOMO - chisangalalo chophonya.

Aliyense amakhala ndi lingaliro lake lomwe zomwe zimayenereza kukhala zosasangalatsa, koma mukudziwa chiyani? Zosangalatsa sizofanana ndi zoipa.

Pali kalabu yotchedwa Dull Man's Club yokhudzana ndi "kukondwerera wamba." Ili ndi mamembala opitilira 5,000 amuna ndi akazi. Mukufuna kujambula mabokosi amakalata? Pitani kokwerera masitima onse ku United Kingdom? Sungani zolemba zanu ndikutchetcha kapinga wanu? Sikuti mudzangokhala limodzi ndi kalabu iyi, mwina mupezanso munthu amene amakondanso zomwe mukuchita.

Dziwani zomwe zili phokoso lomwe likupita pachabe

Nditangopeza akaunti ya Facebook ndili ndi zaka 18, ndimamva ngati ndiyenera kulemba mphindi iliyonse ya moyo wanga kuti anzanga adziwe kuti ndine munthu wosangalatsa. Ndinakhalanso nthawi yambiri ndikudziyerekeza ndekha ndi anthu omwe anali pa intaneti omwe anthu ena anali kuwonetsa.

Potsirizira pake, sindinathe kunyalanyaza mfundo yakuti kuyerekezera kwa moyo wanga watsiku ndi tsiku ndi zomwe ndimawona pa intaneti zimandipangitsa kudzimva kuti ndine wopanda pake.

Daniela Tempesta, mlangizi wochokera ku San Francisco, akuti izi ndizofala chifukwa cha zoulutsira mawu. Kunena zowona, panali nthawi zambiri zomwe "abwenzi" anga anali kuchita sizinkawoneka ngati zosangalatsa kwa ine, koma ndimazigwiritsa ntchito ngati ndodo yoyezera (monga Tempesta amazitchulira) momwe ndimamvera kuti moyo wanga uyenera kukhala ukuyenda bwanji.

Ndachotsa pulogalamu ya Facebook pafoni yanga. Kusapezeka kwa pulogalamuyi kunandithandiza kuti ndichepetse nthawi yanga pazanema. Zinanditengera milungu ingapo kuti ndisiye chizolowezi choyesera kutsegula pulogalamu ya Facebook yomwe sinapezeke nthawi iliyonse ndikatsegula foni yanga, koma posinthana ndi pulogalamu yomwe imandipatsa nthawi zamabasi kupita komwe Facebook imakhalako, ndinapezeka kuti ndikuyesera kupita pa Facebook pang'ono ndi pang'ono.

Nthawi zina, masamba atsopano ndi mapulogalamu amatuluka. Instagram idayambiranso kukhala Facebook 2.0, ndipo ndimadzipeza ndekha ndikudziyerekeza ndekha ndi zomwe ndimawona anthu ena atumiza.

Izi zidamenyedwadi pomwe nyenyezi yakale ya Instagram Essena O'Neill adatulutsa nkhani. O'Neill ankalipidwa kuti azilimbikitsa makampani kudzera pazithunzi zake zokongola za Instagram. Mwadzidzidzi adachotsa zolemba zake ndikusiya zoulutsira mawu, nati adayamba kumva kuti "adyedwa" ndi media media ndikunyenga moyo wake.

Adasinthiratu mawu ake omasulira kuti afotokozere momwe zithunzi zake zonse zidaliri komanso momwe amadzionera opanda kanthu ngakhale moyo wake umawoneka bwino pa Instagram.

Instagram yake idabedwa kuyambira kale ndipo zithunzi zake zachotsedwa ndikuchotsedwa. Koma malingaliro ake mu uthenga wake akadali owona.

Nthawi zonse ndikadzilinganizanso, ndimadzikumbutsa izi: Ngati ndikuyesera kungopatsa anzanga apaintaneti chidziwitso chodabwitsa cha moyo wanga osalemba zazing'ono kapena zoipa zomwe zingandichitikire, ndiye kuti, ndizomwe iwo ndikuchita, inenso.

Pali chifukwa chomwe mumakondera zinthu zomwe mumakonda

Pamapeto pa tsikulo, chisangalalo chanu ndicho chifukwa chokha chomwe muyenera kuchitira kanthu. Kodi zokonda zanu zimakusangalatsani? Ndiye pitirizani kuchita!

Kuphunzira luso latsopano? Osadandaula za chinthu chomaliza pakadali pano. Lembani zomwe mukupita patsogolo, yang'anani momwe zimakupangirani chisangalalo, ndikuyang'ana m'mbuyo nthawi ikadutsa.

Ndinakhala nthawi yochuluka yomwe ndikanatha kugwiritsa ntchito zojambulajambula ndikukhumba ndikanakhala ndi luso kapena luso. Ndidachita mantha ndi ojambula m'mavidiyo omwe ndimawonera. Ndidangokhalira kuyang'ana za kukhala wabwino monga iwonso kuti sindingayese nkomwe. Koma chinthu chokha chomwe chinali kundiletsa ine ndinali ndekha.

Pambuyo pake ndidadzigulira chida choyambira kwambiri chojambula. Ndinkadzaza tsamba m'kabuku kanga ndi kalata imodzi yolembedwa mobwerezabwereza. Zinali zosatsutsika kuti m'mene ndimapitilira sitiroko yomweyo, ndinayamba kupeza bwino pang'ono. Ngakhale m'masabata ochepa omwe ndakhala ndikuchita, ndikuwona kusintha kuyambira pomwe ndidayamba.

Kuwononga kanthawi kochepa tsiku lililonse kuti mugwire ntchito yomwe mumakonda kumatha kulipira m'njira zosayembekezereka. Tangoyang'anani wojambulayo yemwe amapenta utoto mu MS Paint munthawi yocheperako pantchito. Tsopano wajambula buku lake lomwe. M'malo mwake, pali gulu lonse la ojambula omwe asintha zokonda zawo kukhala "ntchito ina" - chizolowezi chamoyo wonse chomwe chakhala ntchito yachiwiri.

Sindikutha kupuma, koma ndili ndi zaka 67, zolemba zanga zitha kuyamba.

Kumbukirani zinthu zabwino

Ndipo nthawi zomwe simumakhala olimba mtima, osatinso kunyamula zida kapena malaya omwe mumawakonda ... chabwino, sizachilendo. Masiku amenewo, Tempesta amalimbikitsa kuti ubongo wanu uzitsogolera zinthu zabwino. Njira imodzi yochitira izi ndikulemba zinthu zitatu zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala onyadira.

Inemwini, ndimadzikumbutsa kuti ndimakonda kupanga ndikudya chakudya chamadzulo ndi bwenzi langa, kucheza bwino ndi anzanga, kuwerenga buku, komanso kucheza ndi amphaka anga awiri.

Ndipo ndikayang'ana m'mbuyo, ndimadziwa kuti bola ndikapatula nthawi yochitira zinthuzo, ndidzakhala bwino.

Emily Gadd ndi wolemba komanso mkonzi yemwe amakhala ku San Francisco. Amagwiritsa ntchito nthawi yake yopuma akumvera nyimbo, kuwonera makanema, kuwononga moyo wake pa intaneti, komanso kupita kumakonsati.