Maupangiri 10 Otumizirana mameseji ndi Maupangiri ochezera pa intaneti a Tech-Savvy Singles

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• Osatumizira Mameseji Mpaka Mukakhala ndi Tsiku Lokhazikitsidwa
• Nyamula Foni Ngati Ndi Yofunika
• Ganizirani Musanatumize
• Lolani Mafupipafupi Otumizirana Mameseji Amange
• Samalani ndi Makhalidwe Ake
• Osasewera Masewera
• Simukufunika Kuyankha
• Gwiritsani ntchito Emoji imeneyo
• Pangani Maziko Musanafufuze
• Sewerani!
• Onaninso za

Sabata yatha, Match.com idatulutsa kafukufuku wawo wachisanu wapachaka wa Singles in America, kutipatsa chidziwitso chosangalatsa cha momwe abambo ndi amai amakhalira. Ingoganizani? Ndi dziko lamisala, chatekinoloje kunja uko. Amuna ndi akazi makumi atatu ndi mmodzi pa 100 aliwonse adakumana ndi tsiku lawo lomaliza pa intaneti (mosiyana ndi 6 peresenti mu bar), 34 peresenti ya omwe ali ndi zaka za m'ma 20 amayembekezera kuyankha pamutu pasanathe mphindi 10 (!), Ndi ogwiritsa ntchito emoji ambiri. adapita pa deti loyamba chaka chatha kuposa omwe sanagwetse nkhope yonyowa pazomwe amawakonda (52 peresenti motsutsana ndi 27 peresenti).

Zonsezi zikubweretsa funso: kodi timakhala bwanji bwino mudziko la digito? Mwamwayi, tinapeza akatswiri azibwenzi kuti atuluke momwe mungakhalire akatswiri odziwa zambiri zaukadaulo momwe mungakhalire. (Koma musaiwale izi 6 Zochita ndi Zosachita Zochita Zochita pa Intaneti pa Chitetezo pa intaneti.)

Osatumizira Mameseji Mpaka Mukakhala ndi Tsiku Lokhazikitsidwa

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Laurel House, wolemba wa Kusintha Malamulo, akuwonetsa kupewa kupewa kubwereranso mpaka mutakhala ndi tsiku lenileni m'mabuku. "N'zosavuta kutengeka, kulemberana mameseji okhudzana ndi kugonana, ndi kupha chibwenzi musanapeze mwayi wokumana nawo," akutero. M'magawo oyamba azibwenzi, ganizirani zolemba mameseji kokha monga chiyambi cha mgwirizano weniweni: msonkhano wapa-munthu.

Nyamula Foni Ngati Ndi Yofunika

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Kaya mukungozichita chifukwa ndi momwe mudayambira (mwachitsanzo, pa intaneti), kapena chifukwa chopewa kunena mitu yovuta mokweza, "palibe chabwino chimabwera mukamayesa kukambirana nkhani zomwe zingakukhumudwitseni kudzera pachida chamagetsi," akutero wothandizira zibwenzi Neely Steinberg, wolemba Khungu mu Masewera. Izi zitha kubweretsa chisokonezo kapena mkwiyo (kutengera gawo laubwenzi wanu). Ngati ndikofunikira, tengani foni! Kapena gwirani mwamphamvu mpaka mutamuwona.

Ganizirani Musanatumize

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Kumayambiriro, muyenera kukhala osamala. Munthu amene mukumulemberayo sikuti amakudziwani kapena samangoseketsa. Chifukwa chake werenganinso, onaninso kawiri, ndipo samalani: "Zolemba zanu sizikhala ndi mawu komanso nkhope-ngakhale mutakhala ndi zotengera zingati," akutero a House. "Njira imodzi yoyesera kamvekedwe ka mawu ndiyo kuganiza kuti akukutumizirani lembalo. Nenani mokweza, kuchotsa kutsika kwa mawu, ndipo ganizirani ngati lingamveke monga momwe mukufunira." (Simukufuna kukhala ngati amodzi mwamavuto apa Chibwenzi pa intaneti omwe angakusangalatseni kuti simuli pabanja.)

Lolani Mafupipafupi Otumizirana Mameseji Amange

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"Popeza kulumikizana kwa anthu kwatha, ndikulimbikitsa osakwatira kuti azingogwiritsa ntchito mameseji pafupipafupi kuposa momwe angafunire," akutero a Steinberg. "Pambuyo pa deti, ndizosangalatsa kutumiza chidziwitso. Ngati muli ndi magalimoto ambiri, mudziwitse kuti mukuchedwa. Tumizani mawu oseketsa kapena osangalatsa kunena kuti zomwe mwakumana nazo zakukumbutsani za iye. " Mukungofuna kupewa mameseji omwe amangoleredwa kwanthawi yayitali.

Samalani ndi Makhalidwe Ake

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House akuti anthu ambiri amatumizirana mameseji momwe amafunira kutumizirana mameseji-choncho yang'anani momwe amalembera zolemba zake (mwachiyembekezo akuchitiranso chimodzimodzi!). Ngati akuyamikirani mawonekedwe anu, mwina amalakalaka kuyamikiridwa kwakuthupi. Ngati atilemba mwachidule, mwina sakutumizirana mameseji. Onetsetsani kuti milingo ya chidwi ndiyofanana. Njira imodzi yabwino yochitira izi: onani kutalika kwa zolemba zake poyerekeza ndi kutalika kwanu. Ngati mubwerera m'mbuyo ndikuwona kuti simunanenepo ndipo akuyankha ndi liwu limodzi lokha, dzifunseni kuti: "Kodi ndimakondanso chidwi chake?" Ayenera kukhala.

Osasewera Masewera

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Mukakayikira, gwiritsani ntchito chiŵerengero cha 1: 1-akuyenera kuyambitsa theka la nthawi, momwemonso inunso muyenera. Izi zati, ngati muli ndi chonena kapena kuyankha, musasewere naye. "Thumba limapangidwa kuti likhale njira yolumikizirana mwachangu, chifukwa chake musadikire masiku awiri musanayankhe," akutero a House. "Ndikutumiza chizindikiro kuti mulibe chidwi chenicheni, komanso kuti ndimasewera." (Ndipo werengani Malemba 6 Omwe Simuyenera Kumutumizira.)

Simukufunika Kuyankha

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Steinberg akuti akuwona zovuta masiku ano kuti ayankhe malembo ndi maimelo nthawi yomweyo. Ndipo ngati muli mfulu, pitani nazo! Izi zati, musaganize kuti mukuyenera kuyankha pasanathe mphindi 10 ngati zomwe ambiri amakhulupirira. "Muli ndi moyo wathunthu ndipo simukuyitanidwa ndi munthu watsopanoyu," akutero Steinberg. "M'malo mwake, zimapanga chiyembekezo ngati mutenga nthawi yanu kuyankha." Mfundo yofunika kwambiri: khalani ndi moyo wanu. Kulemba mameseji kumayenera kuchitika pokhapokha ngati kuli koyenera, kosavuta komanso / kapena kosangalatsa.

Gwiritsani ntchito Emoji imeneyo

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Ziwerengero za Match.com zimadzilankhula zokha: Ogwiritsa ntchito emoji mwaubwenzi ali ndi mwayi wotuluka pamasiku enieni. Kumwetulira kapena diso kumathandizira owerenga kuwonetsa kuti ndinu opepuka kapena okonda kukopa, mameseji abwino komanso njira kuposa "haha" kapena "lol," zomwe Steinberg akuti zitha kutsekereza ena. "Ingosamalani kuti ma emoticons ambiri amathanso kutsekereza," akutero. "Zachidziwikire osagwiritsa ntchito yopitilira m'modzi m'malemba amodzi. Chidwi chokhazikika bwino chimathandizanso." Koma, kachiwiri, gwiritsani ntchito "lamulo la m'modzi" koyambirira kwa iwo. "'Ndikuyembekezera kukuwonani!' ndibwino kuposa 'Ndikuyembekezera kukuwonani' kapena 'Ndikuyembekezera kukuwonani !!!' "akutero Steinberg.

Pangani Maziko Musanafufuze

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Nyumba yati anyamata ambiri amatha ngati mutazunza anzawo posachedwa. Izi sizitanthauza kuti simuyenera kufunsira za mnyamata watsopano ndipo simukufuna kuti akusangalatseni nthawi iliyonse mukasokonezeka. "Izi zati, ubalewo ukakhala wokhazikika, iwo, 'Hey wokongola ... ndikuganiza za inu,' 'Kudzuka kwa inu m'maganizo mwanga kumandimwetulira,' kapena 'Maloto okoma, wokondedwa,' nonse ndinu olandiridwa, otonthoza, ndi kuyamikiridwa, chifukwa muli ndi maziko ndipo mumasamalana wina ndi mzake,” akutero House. (Komanso onaninso Malangizo 8 Achinsinsi awa omwe mungapite kuchokera ku Zosowa kupita kwa Amuna ndi Akazi.)

Sewerani!

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"Muyenera kukopana m'malemba. Ndipotu, ndizabwino!" akuti Nyumba. Koma palibe mawu aliwonse osangalatsa omwe angachite. Nachi chitsanzo chalemba labwino, pa Nyumba Iliyonse: "Pambuyo pamsonkhano wokondweretsana ndi abwana anga za udindo wanga watsopano (yay!), Ndinapita kukathamanga kuti ndikatonthoze thupi ndi malingaliro anga. Ndikulakalaka mukadakhala kuti mukusangalala ndi kapu ya vinyo nane. Kodi msonkhano wanu lero udali bwanji? Ndikutsimikiza kuti mwakhomera! "

Chifukwa chiyani zimagwira ntchito: sizowoneka bwino kapena zamzitini. Ndizosangalatsa, ndipo pali kuzindikira kozama za munthu yemwe akuwululidwa, komwe kumatha kubwereketsa foni yayitali kapena kukambirana mwapamtima pambuyo pake, akufotokoza. "Kuphatikizanso, panali kukopana komanso chidwi ndi mawu obwebweta." Njira yabwino: choyamba, muuzeni zomwe mwachita kapena zomwe mudzachite kuti akope chidwi chake, kenako funsani funso. Tsopano pitani ndi kukanikiza kutumiza, madona.

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