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• Kukambirana kwa "Social Life"
• Nkhani yakuti "Tikathera Kuti?" Kukambirana
• Kukambirana kwa "Ana".
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Zidachitika mwachangu. Dzulo inu munali dissecting malemba ake ndi anzanu ndi angling kwa deti lachitatu, ndipo lero nonse awiri muli nyumba. Nonsenu mukudziwa komwe mukupita-yay! -Ndipo ngati sanapemphebe, mukutsimikiza kuti posachedwa apita.

Koma musanatengeke, ndi nthawi yoti mukambirane nkhani zingapo zomwe zimawoneka ngati zosayenera kuyambitsa mukangokhala pachibwenzi. Chifukwa chiyani? “Mungaganize kuti muli pa tsamba lomwelo, kapena kuti mudzatha kukonza zinthu zimenezi, koma kulingalira kumeneko kwadzetsa mabanja ambiri opanda chimwemwe,” akuchenjeza motero Karen Sherman, Ph.D. katswiri wama psychology komanso wolemba wa Ukwati Magic! Zipezeni, Zisungeni, Ndipo Zikhale Zokhalitsa.

Choncho musachedwe tsiku lina: Kambiranani zinthu zitatu izi tsopano kuonetsetsa kuti mosangalala mpaka kalekale kenako.

Kukambirana kwa "Social Life"

Malingaliro

Ngati ndi gulugufe ndipo ndiwe wokonda kukhala kunyumba - kapena ali ndi vuto logwira ntchito nthawi zonse ukadali wantchito - tili ndi nkhani zoyipa: Osayembekezera kuti chilichonse chingasinthe chifukwa chongomumangirira , malinga ndi Sherman. "Ndimalankhula ndi mabanja ambiri omwe angaganize kuti wina ndi mnzake akhazikika pagulu, kapena amatha kusintha zizolowezi zawo atakwatirana. Koma sizimachitika kawirikawiri," akufotokoza. Osadandaula, pali njira yothetsera vutoli: Zonse zimadalira kulolerana.

Ingokumbukirani: "Tiyenera kulankhula" ndi mawu anayi omwe anyamata amadana nawo kwambiri, Sherman akufotokoza. Chifukwa chake tulukani zoyambira zilizonse ndikumufunsani ngati akuwona kuti ntchito yake kapena magwiridwe antchito akusintha mukadzakwatirana. Ngati zomwe akukuuzani sizikugwirizana ndi zomwe mukufuna, ndiye kuti angavomere kutuluka usiku umodzi wokha pa sabata, kapena mulonjeza kuti musiye kugwira nawo Loweruka ndi Lamlungu. Nonse muyenera kukhala ofunitsitsa kupereka ndalama, akutero Sherman.

Nkhani yakuti "Tikathera Kuti?" Kukambirana

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Chifukwa chake mudasamukira mumzinda watsopano kukagwira ntchito kenako mudakumana ndi Mr. Wonderful. Nthawi ina, mudzakumana ndi chisankho: Khalani, chokani, kapena pita ku burbs, akutero Sherman. Ndipo musanamufunse zomwe akuwona, muyenera kudziwa chiyani inu kufuna. Choyamba, dzifunseni kuti, "Kodi ndikufuna kukhala kuti zaka 5 kapena 10 kuchokera pano, ndipo ndi zofunika bwanji kwa ine?" Sherman akuganiza. Ndipo ngati mukufuna kukhala pafupi ndi banja lanu-kapena mukuganiza kuti angafune kuti atero! Kupatula apo, ngati mukukhala ku New York-ndipo mudakulira ku Brooklyn pomwe adaleredwa ku Midwest-mutha kumva "kunyumba" pomwe ali ndi malingaliro osiyanasiyana okhudza komwe mudzakhale muzaka za 30 ndi 40s, Sherman akuti. .

Kukambirana kwa "Ana".

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Pali mitu ina yofunikira kwambiri kuvina mozungulira, akutero Sherman. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa iwo. Ndipo ngati zokambirana zanu za ana sizinapitilire pamgwirizano woti nonse mukufuna ana tsiku lina posachedwa, sikokwanira. Kupatula apo, ngati mukudziwa angati omwe mukufuna, ndipo mukufuna kuyamba kuyesa posachedwa, izi zitha kukhala minga yayikulu muukwati wanu wachinyamata ngati simukuwonana, Sherman akuti. Ngakhale samawoneka wofunitsitsa, zili bwino komanso zopindulitsa-kukambirana mwatsatanetsatane, Sherman akutsindika. Musaiwale kukambirana momwe mudzalerere ana anu-zinthu monga masitaelo, masukulu, kapena chipembedzo ndizofunikira. Musanapemphe, yang'anani banja lake ndi momwe adaleredwera-onse amapereka lingaliro labwino pazomwe angafune (kapena osafuna!), Sherman amalimbikitsa.

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