Njira 3 Zodziwira Ngati Iye Alidi Wogwira Mtima

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Mukakumana koyamba ndi mnyamata kapena mwangopita naye pang'ono, zingakhale zovuta kudziwa ngati alidi munthu wabwino kapena akungokhala ngati mmodzi mpaka atakuwonetsani kuti iye ndi ndani kwenikweni. Musaope, chifukwa pali zinthu zingapo zomwe zingakuthandizeni kumvetsetsa ngati iye alidi weniweni.

Ndiye kodi mikhalidwe yabwino kwambiri yamunthu wabwino ndi iti? Iye ndi woona mtima, wokoma mtima, ndiponso wodalirika. Ngati mwamuna ali ndi makhalidwe atatuwa, adzakhala wopambana m’mbali zonse zimene takambirana m’munsimu. Kukhala osamala komanso osamala pomulola kulowa m'moyo ndi mumtima mwanu kudzakuthandizani kuti anyamata oyipa asatuluke, ndikusiyira anyamata abwino omwe akuyenera mwayi weniweni.

1. Mbiri yakugwira ntchito. Manja pansi, chimodzi mwazinthu zofunika kwambiri pakuzindikira mtundu wamunthu ndichikhalidwe chokhudzana ndi mbiri ya ntchito yake. Ngati mukufuna tsogolo lachikondi lopanda sewero, yambani ndi mnyamata yemwe ali ndi ntchito ndipo amadziwa momwe angagwiritsire ntchito. M'malo mwake, kupita kusukulu yophunzirira, kumaliza maphunziro, kapena ntchito yamanja - kumatha kuwerengedwa ngati ntchito, chifukwa zikuwonetsa kuti adadzipereka pakuphunzira ndikupeza ntchito yomwe imamuyenerera. Zowonadi, amuna ena atha kukhala kuti sakugwira ntchito chifukwa cha kuchepa kwachuma, choncho musawatsutse. Zomwe mukufuna kuwona ndi amuna oterewa, komabe, ndikulimbikira kuti mupeze ina. Simuyenera kusokoneza moyo wanu posamalira ndi kusamalira munthu wamkulu!

Mafunso Oyenera Kufunsa: Amuna ambiri amadana ndi funso lantchito ("Mumagwira ntchito yanji?"), Chifukwa amaopa kuti azimayi akuyesera kudziwa kuchuluka kwa ndalama zomwe amapeza. M’malo momufunsa zimene amachita, m’funseni ngati amakonda ntchito imene amagwira kapena ngati wakhala akugwira ntchitoyo kwa nthawi yaitali. Dziwani ngati amakonda ntchito yake ndipo amakhala bwino ndi omwe amagwira nawo ntchito. Mufunseni momwe adathera pantchito yake kapena chidwi chake pantchito yake. Mwamuna amene amakhala wokhazikika pa ntchito nthawi zambiri amakhala wokhazikika pa moyo wake wonse, nayenso.

2. Ubale ndi banja lake. Anthu ambiri amaganiza molakwika kuti mnyamata wabwino amakhala ndi ubale wabwino ndi makolo ake ndi abale ake, koma chimachitika ndi chiyani ngati makolo ake ndi / kapena abale ake ndi mtedza pang'ono, ndipo aganiza zopatukana nawo pang'ono kuti apulumuke? Chowonadi ndichakuti zochitika pabanja ndizovuta, chifukwa chake musamuweruze mwachangu ndi ubale wake ndi banja lake.

Mafunso Oyenera Kufunsa: Funsani, "Kodi ubale wanu ndi amayi ndi abambo anu uli bwanji?" kapena "Mumakumana kangati?" Ngati pali tchuthi chomwe chikubwera, funsani ngati akufuna kukacheza ndi abale ake. Ngati sanatero, mufunseni chifukwa chake ndipo mvetserani mwatcheru poyankha kwake. Mukufuna kudziwa kuti bambo amasamala za makolo ake ndi abale ake, komanso kuti amayesetsa kulimbikitsa maubwenzi awo. Kuweruza mwamuna ndi ubale womwe amakhala nawo ndi banja lomwe adachokera nthawi zambiri - koma osati nthawi zonse - mulingo wabwino wamunthu yemwe ali.

3. Ubale ndi abwenzi. Anzanu omwe mwamunayo wasankha kukhala nawo pamoyo wake akukuuzani zambiri za iye. Komanso, mitundu ya zinthu zimene amachita ndi anzake amanena zambiri za iye. Mwachitsanzo, kodi amakonda kucheza ndi anzako, kapena amakonda masewera a tenisi paki yakomweko? Kodi ndi munthu amene amakonda kucheza ndi m'modzi kapena awiri, kapena amakonda zomwe magulu akulu amakulitsa?

Mafunso oyenera kufunsa: Funsani, "Kodi mumakonda kukhala masiku angati sabata limodzi sabata ino ndi anzanu?" Kumulimbikitsa motere ("Masiku angati…") motsutsana ndi zambiri ("Kodi mumakonda kucheza ndi anzanu?") Kumabweretsa mayankho olondola. Muthanso kufunsa zomwe iye ndi azinzake amachita akakhala limodzi. Pomaliza, munthu wabwino kwambiri amakhala ndi abwenzi ndikupitiliza kucheza nawo kwa zaka zambiri. Funsani, "Mukudziwa kuti [ikani dzina] kuchokera? Mukuyankhulabe ndi anthu aku sekondale?" Mnyamata wabwino nthawi zambiri amalankhula ndi mnzake wapamtima wa kusekondale, chifukwa anyamata abwino ndi okhulupirika komanso odzipereka kwa anthu omwe amawakonda.

Ngati mumakonda anzanu atsopano, pitilizani; ngati simutero, lingalirani zothetsa chibwenzicho. Kuzindikira ngati mnyamata alidi munthu wabwino kapena amene angonena kuti si chinthu chophweka. Ndipotu pamafunika kulankhula ndi mwamuna kwa nthawi yaitali kuti mudziwe kuti iye ndi ndani komanso ngati akugwirizana nanu. Koma kuyang'ana kwambiri madera atatu pamwambapa kukupatsani poyambira pabwino. Mukamudziwa, lankhulani za iye kwa anzanu kuti mumve malingaliro awo. Nthawi zina abwenzi amapanga makosi abwino kwambiri a zibwenzi!

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