Malangizo 5 Aubwenzi Ochokera Kwa Akatswiri Osudzulana

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• Dzisamalire
• Pezani Nthawi Yokhala Osakwatiwa
• Ganizirani Chithandizo Zinthu Zikakhala Zabwino
• Khalani Exes M'mbuyomu
• Pitirizani Kulankhula, Ngakhale Zikakhala Zovuta
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Kaya mukusangalala ndi chibwenzi chokwanira, mukukumana ndi mavuto m'paradaiso, kapena mwangokwatirana kumene, pali zambiri zothandiza zomwe mungaphunzire kuchokera kwa akatswiri omwe amapeza ndalama zothandizira mabanja awo nthawi ya chisudzulo. Apa, malangizo awo pa ubale wathanzi-ndi kusweka.

Dzisamalire

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Ngati mwakwatirana kapena mukukhala ndi S.O wanu, sizachilendo kugawa ntchito zapakhomo, koma umbuli siubwino. Dziwani momwe mungasamalire kukonza magalimoto, kukonza nyumba kapena nyumba, komanso zofunika kwambiri zachuma, akutero Karen Finn, Ph.D., wopanga pulogalamu ya Functional Divorce Process. Sikuti mudzangodzipulumutsa kuti musamachite manyazi mukakumana ndi chisudzulo, koma ndizabwino kuti mukhale ndi ubale wabwino kuti aliyense wa inu adziwe mbali zonse zogwirira ntchito zapakhomo, akutero Finn.

Zingamveke ngati zotsutsana, koma amalangiza kuchitira ubale wanu ngati bizinesi poika pambali malingaliro kuti mukambirane za ndalama, ndalama, ndi katundu kamodzi pamwezi. Kuti muwonetsetse kuti mwathamanga, onani Malamulo 16 Andalama Amene Mkazi Aliyense Ayenera Kudziwa Pofika Zaka 30.

Pezani Nthawi Yokhala Osakwatiwa

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Kusudzulana kumatha kuwononga ngakhale kudzidalira kwa amayi-ndichifukwa chake katswiri aliyense angakulangizeni kuti musalowe m'banja latsopano nthawi yomweyo. “Tikukulimbikitsani kwambiri kuti musakhale pachibwenzi kwa chaka chimodzi,” akutero amayi ndi ana aakazi awiri aŵiri Nicole Baras Feuer, M.S., ndi Francine Baras, L.C.S.W., amene anayambitsa njira yawoyawo yolangiza kusudzulana ndipo analemba posachedwapa. 37 Zinthu Zomwe Ndinkafuna Ndikadadziwa Ndisanasudzulane.

Ngakhale chaka chimodzi chitha kukhala chochulukirapo pachibwenzi chochepa kwambiri, lamuloli limagwiranso ntchito. Mukachoka pakulekana kulikonse, tengani nthawi kuti muyang'ane mabala anu ndikuwona omwe mwayambitsa ndi omwe mungachiritse, akutero a Finn. Pitani masiku osavuta kuti muyesere ndikupeza zomwe mukufuna kuchokera pachibwenzi chanu, apo ayi mupanganso cholakwacho kawiri.

Ganizirani Chithandizo Zinthu Zikakhala Zabwino

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Ndi chiŵerengero cha kusudzulana pafupifupi 50% mdziko muno, anthu ambiri akutumpha kapena kulowa m'banja mwachangu, atero a Talia Wager, wololeza wololeza komanso wothandizira mabanja. "Pali zomwe zikuchitika pakadali pano pomwe anthu akubwera kuchipatala kale Amakwatirana, "akutero Wagner." Ngakhale izi sizomwe anthu ambiri amachita, ndi njira yabwino kwambiri kuti maanja apange maziko abwino omangira moyo. "

Ngati mukumva kuti muli kumapeto kwa ubale wanu ndipo mukuganiza zothetsa banja, Feuer ndi Baras akuchenjezani kuti musagwiritse ntchito loya wanu ngati wothandizira. M'malo moimba foni kwa loya, ganizirani kulola mlangizi wa chisudzulo kapena wothandizila kuti awone momwe zinthu ziliri ndikukuwongolerani momwe mungathere musanagwetse masauzande a madola pa chindapusa.

Khalani Exes M'mbuyomu

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Sikulakwa kuyembekezera kuti wokondedwa wanu watsopano azingokhala wakale wanu - ngakhale zitanthauza kuti njira yakupha m'chipinda chake kapena kufunafuna kubera. Mfundo yofunika kwambiri, akutero a Finn: Anthu ambiri amapirira zopweteketsa mtima asanamupezeko, choncho osabweretsa ubale wanu wakale muubwenzi wanu watsopano kapena mumakhala kuti mukulephera musanayambe.

Pitirizani Kulankhula, Ngakhale Zikakhala Zovuta

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Mphindi yomwe mukumva kuti china chake chikucheperachepera muubwenzi wanu, lankhulani, atero katswiri wa ubale Rachel Sussman, LCSW. Ngakhale mukuyenera kusankha nkhondo zanu, ndikofunikira kufotokoza nthawi zonse momwe mukumvera komanso zomwe zikukukhudzani. Ngati mukuwona ngati simungathe, ikhoza kukhala mbendera yofiira kwambiri komanso chilimbikitso cha chisudzulo (kapena kutha), akutero Sussman. Pofuna kuti mnzanu asatseke kapena kudzitchinjiriza, mverani zomwe akunena ndikutsimikizira malingaliro ake, ngakhale simukuvomereza, Sussman akulangiza.

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