Maupangiri 8 otumizirana mameseji pamisonkhano ya Steamy (komanso Safe).

Zamkati

• Pezani Chilolezo
• Kumanani Choyamba
• Gwiritsani Ntchito Kutumizirana Zinthu Zolaula monga Foreplay
• Osazengereza
• Gwiritsani Zochitika Zakale
• Gwiritsani Ntchito Kutaya Malangizo
• Samalani ndi Zowoneka
• Osasunga kapena Kusunga Archive
• Onaninso za

Kuchokera pa ma celebs omwe ali ndi zithunzi zamaliseche zosasunthika pazithunzi za 200,000 za Snapchat zomwe zatulutsidwa pa intaneti, kugawana zinsinsi kuchokera pafoni yanu kwakhala koopsa. Ndizomvetsa chisoni chifukwa kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti kutumizirana zolaula kumakhala ndi vuto: Kutumiza zolemba kwa mnzanu sikuti kumangoyatsa zinthu pakati pamashiti, kumalimbitsa chidaliro chanu, kumalimbitsa ubale wanu, komanso kukuthandizani awiri kufufuza njira zodziwonetsera nokha zakugonana. Ndizopambana-ponse pozungulira. (Onani: Kutumizirana mameseji angakuthandizeni kukhala ndi ubale wabwino ndi IRL)

Zachidziwikire, kutumizirana zolaula kungakhale kovuta ngati simunazichitepo, simukudziwa choti munganene, kapena simukudziwa zomwe wokondedwa wanu amakonda kapena kumva bwino. Ndipo palibe chimodzi mwazabwino za kutumizirana mameseji pafoni ngati mumagawana zolakwika, kapena kulola macheza anu kuti agwere m'manja olakwika - kaya abera kapena abwenzi omwe sakukhulupirika. Ngati mukuganiza momwe mungatumizire mameseji motetezeka - komanso kuti mupindule kwambiri ndi mauthenga anu - malangizo asanu awa otumizirana mameseji adzakuthandizani kuwongolera moyo wanu wogonana popanda kuyika zinsinsi zanu pachiwopsezo.

Pezani Chilolezo

FYI, inu nthawi zonse amafunika chilolezo choti atumize zithunzi zachabechabe - kapenanso mawu olaula - kwa wina, monga Carol Queen, Ph.D., katswiri wazakugonana wa Vibrations, woyang'anira Antique Vibrator Museum, komanso wolemba nawoBuku la Sex & Pleasureadanena kale Maonekedwe. Ngati mudadodometsedwa kovutikira m'sitima yapamtunda kapena kudabwitsidwa kuchokera pamasewera atsopano a Tinder, mukudziwa momwe kuphwanya kumverera kumenyedwa ndi zolaula zosavomerezeka, ngakhale atakhala pixels ena pafoni yanu.

Onetsetsani kuti mwafunsa wolandirayo musanatumize chilichonse. Simuyenera kufunsa kuti, "Kodi mumavomereza kutumizirana mameseji?" koma yesetsani kufotokoza cholinga chanu ndikuwathandiza musanapite. Yesani monga: "Sindingathe kuleka kuganizira zomwe zinachitika usiku watha. Muzikumbukirenso kudzera pa meseji?" kapena "Mwandivutitsa kwambiri ndikuvutitsidwa pano. Kodi titengere msonkhanowu pamlingo wina?" kapena "Ndangotenga selfie ya 🔥 ... popanda chovala chilichonse. Mukufuna kuwona?" (Ndi lingaliro labwino kuyang'ananso malamulo ovomerezeka akugonana aku boma lanu.)

Kumanani Choyamba

Poganizira kutchuka kwa zibwenzi zapaintaneti, mutha kutumizirana mameseji ndi bwenzi latsopano kwa milungu ingapo musanakumane maso ndi maso. Mukadikirira, sungani kamvekedwe kocheperako komanso koyerekeza koma ayi kugonana. Mutha kusangalala ndi kutumizirana mameseji pafoni musanachitike, koma ngati mulibe umagwirira ntchito mwa munthu, mwangogawana zambiri zaumwini ndi munthu yemwe simumukonda, akufotokoza Emily Morse, katswiri wazakugonana komanso wolandila Kugonana Ndi Emily Podcast. Gwiritsani munthu amene mwakhala mukuthana naye. (Zogwirizana: Mapulogalamu Abwino Ogonana Okuthandizani Kuti Mukhale Paubwenzi)

Gwiritsani Ntchito Kutumizirana Zinthu Zolaula monga Foreplay

Kutumizirana mameseji otumizirana mameseji kumapangitsa kuti anthu aziyembekeza mozama komanso akuwonetsa zomwe zikubwera, akutero Morse, kotero ndikwabwino kuyambitsa kutentha ndi kusamvana musanayambe kugonana. Malankhulidwe oyenera atha kukupatsani nthawi yosangalala musanawonane ndikukonzekera usiku wokonda. Ponena za momwe mungatumizire mameseji, yang'anani pakusunga mauthenga afupi - simukulemba buku lachikondi pano, ndipo kuchedwa kwanthawi yayitali kumatha kupha ma vibes - koma kumadzaza ndi zambiri zowutsa mudyo. "Mawu ndi aphrodisiacs, ndipo zochitika zomwe mumabzala m'maganizo a munthu wina zitha kukuthandizani kuti muumbe kugonana komwe mudzakhale nako mtsogolo," akutero. (Zokhudzana: Malingaliro 10 Owonetseratu Zomwe Zingakhale Zotentha Kuposa Kulowa)

Kuphatikiza apo, anthu ambiri amafunikira kuwoneratu kwamalingaliro, Jenni Skyler, Ph.D., L.M.F.T., C.S.T., wophunzitsa zachiwerewere komanso wokonda kugonana pakampani yopanga zosangalatsa Adam & Eve, adauza kale.Maonekedwe. Ndipo popeza ubwenzi wapamtima ndi njira yodziwika bwino yolumikizirana, kulumikizana kudzera pazokambirana - kaya ndi IRL kapena kutumizirana mameseji - kungakhale njira yabwino yolimbikitsira.

Osazengereza

Kafukufuku wofalitsidwa mu Zolemba Pakafukufuku Wogonana adapeza kuti maanja omwe amatumizirana mameseji osaletsa amamva kukhutitsidwa ndi ubale wawo komanso amalumikizana bwino pakugonana. Ngati mukuganiza momwe mungatumizire anthu zolaula, dziwani kuti simuyenera kuyambitsa msonkhanowu ndi mawu amizere; Morse akusonyeza kulakwitsa pamasewera osati zolaula poyamba. (Ganizirani: "Ndimagwirabe ntchito zonse kuchokera pazomwe zidachitika usiku watha" kapena "Ndimakopeka ndi kufewa kwa milomo yanu.") Kenako pangani chithunzi monga momwe kulimbikitsira kwanu kukuloleza. (Nawa maupangiri ena amomwe mungalankhulire zauve zomwe mungagwiritse ntchito polemba zolaula kapena IRL.)

Gwiritsani Zochitika Zakale

Payekha, nthawi zambiri zimakhala zosavuta kuti muwerenge zomwe mnzanuyo akufuna komanso akusangalala nazo - koma izi zitha kukhala zachinyengo pamawu. Ngati simukudziwa choti munene, ndendende, ganiziraninso zomwe mudakumana nazo limodzi omwe anali otsogola kwambiri, ophunzitsa zachiwerewere Gigi Engle adauzidwa kale Maonekedwe. Auzeni (mwatsatanetsatane) zomwe mumakonda za zomwe mudachita posachedwa limodzi. Izi zithandizira kuti nawonso athe kulowa nawo.

Gwiritsani Ntchito Kutaya Malangizo

Kutumizirana mameseji otumizirana mameseji kungakhalenso njira yabwino yofotokozera zomwe mukufuna pabedi, m'malo olandirira bwino; muli ndi nthawi yoganizira zomwe mukufuna kunena, ndipo simuyenera kuchita khama kuti mutuluke pamaso panu. Mukasiya zoletsa zanu pouza mnzanu zomwe mukufuna ndi zomwe mukufuna kuwachitira, zitha kukulitsa chidziwitso chanu chogonana, Fran Walfish, Psy.D, banja la Beverly Hills komanso psychotherapist wamaubwenzi, adauzidwa kaleMaonekedwe.

Samalani ndi Zowoneka

Kutumiza selfie wamaliseche kungawoneke ngati njira yosavuta yosangalatsira wokondedwa wanu. Lingaliro lofunikira m'matumizidwe otumizirana zolaula ndikuti, mpaka mutamkhulupirira mnzanu kuti asapite patsogolo - kutanthauza, kwenikweni awakhulupirire - khalani olemba mameseji okha kapena owonetsa koma osawulula kuwombera, atero a Morse. Ngakhale mutatumiza zithunzi zanu kwa munthu wochenjera, kuphwanya chitetezo kumachitika, ndipo maubale atha kusokonekera. Sewerani motetezeka posatumiza zithunzithunzi zamaliseche, kapena samalani bwino: ganizirani bwino za omwe mukuwatumizira, ndipo tulutsani chilichonse chodziwika, monga nkhope yanu ndi ma tattoo apadera, Haley Hasen, wophunzitsa zogonana komanso zolaula. wogwira ntchito, zomwe zidanenedwa kale Maonekedwe. (Yokhudzana: 6 Malembo Simungafune Kutumiza Yemwe Angakhale Mnzanu)

Osasunga kapena Kusunga Archive

Chikhumbo chofuna kusunga mauthenga anu otumizirana mameseji otentha kwambiri, odziwika kwambiri ndi omveka. Kupatula kukhala osangalatsa kuwerenganso, ali ngati zikumbutso zachigololo zomwe zimakukumbutsani momwe inu ndi mnzanuyo mulili olimba komanso momwe mumathawira kuchipinda chosangalatsa chomwe mudasangalala nacho. Koma kuti athetse zovuta zomwe maso olakwika amawawona (ndikuthamangitsa kapena kutumiza ulusi kuti alendo omwe sakuziwerenga nawonso), kugunda, akutero a Morse. Talingalirani kuchita izi, chowiringula kuti mutumizire zolaula posachedwa. 😉

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