5 Kufotokoza za Kugonana

Zamkati

• Kugonana Kwinakwake Mosazolowereka
• Kulamuliridwa
• Kugonana ndi Watsopano
• Kugonana Pakamwa
• Lumikizani Nthawi Yogonana
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Timatsimikiza kuti tisamakambirane za maloto athu - ndipo izi ndi zoona makamaka pankhani ya kugonana. Koma tikadaulula zongopeka zapakati pamasamba, anzathu angamvetse - mwina ali ndi zomwezo. Pakufufuza kwaposachedwa kwa akulu 1,516, ofufuza ochokera ku Yunivesite ya Quebec adapeza kuti malingaliro ambiri azakugonana ndiofala kuposa kale. Apa, zokhumba zisanu zomwe amayi ambiri amavomereza, kuphatikiza upangiri waluso momwe mungachitire zoyeserera zenizeni pamoyo.

Kugonana Kwinakwake Mosazolowereka

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Malingaliro awa ndiofala makamaka muubwenzi wanthawi yayitali, atero a Laura Berman, Ph.D., wogonana komanso wogwirizira ubale komanso katswiri wazogonana wa Durex. Ndi chifukwa kuyesa chilichonse chatsopano-kaya zikutanthauza kupita kumalo osiyana-siyana-odziwika bwino kapena kukhala otanganidwa kunja kwa chipinda chogona-kwenikweni kumalimbikitsa malo a dopamine muubongo, kumawonjezera chisangalalo ndi chisangalalo.

Yesani: Malo oyipitsitsa kwambiri kuti ayesere malingaliro amnzanu podzinamiza kumbuyo kumbuyo kwa zisudzo ndi pomwe magetsi amayamba kuchepa, akutero Berman. Zibweretseni panthawi yopanda ndale (werengani: osati pamene mukugonana kapena m'dera lanu lachikhumbo), ndipo khalani okonzeka kukambirana. Atha kudana ndi lingaliro lanu loti mugone pagulu la anthu, mwachitsanzo, koma khalani otseguka kuti mupite nawo pakona yapadera kumbuyo kwanu, atero a Berman.

Kulamuliridwa

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Makumi asanu Mithunzi ya Imvi sanayambe dziko kutengeka ndi BDSM-izo basi capitalized pa izo. "Akazi masiku ano akungokhalira kuchita zinthu zambiri tsiku ndi tsiku, kotero kuti lingaliro lopereka ulamuliro kwa munthu wina - osati izo zokha, koma munthu amene amadziwa zoyenera kuchita ndi ulamuliro umenewo - ukhoza kukhala wonyansa kwambiri," akutero Berman.

Yesani: Mofanana ndi kugonana kwa anthu, BDSM si chinthu choyesera pokhapokha. Choyamba, funsani mwamuna wanu momwe angamverere kuphatikizira ukapolo kapena nkhani zonyansa m'chizoloŵezi chanu. Ngati akukwera, yendani naye momwe mungakhalire. Amuna ambiri amatha kukayikira kutenga gawo lalikulu m'chipinda chogona, malangizo apadera atha kukhala othandiza, akutero Berman. Komanso ndikofunikira: kusankha mawu otetezeka musanayambe. (Amayi si okhawo omwe amavomereza zopeka za BDSM. Ndi imodzi mwazisangalalo zachinsinsi zachimuna zisanu zomwe ndizofala kwenikweni.)

Kugonana ndi Watsopano

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Berman akuti ndizabwinobwino kulakalaka mitundu ina, makamaka ngati mwakhala ndi mnyamata kwazaka zambiri. Ngakhale anthu atha kukhala kuti adakwanitsa kukhala ndi mkazi m'modzi, kulakalaka kusintha malowa si kwachilendo kwenikweni.

Yesani: Berman samalimbikitsa kwenikweni kugonana ndi mnzanu, ngakhale wina wanu wamkulu atakwera. "Imatsegula Bokosi la Pandora," akutero. "Wina amakhala wansanje kapena wosatetezeka." M'malo mwake, yesani kusewera. Muuzeni mnyamata wanu ngati mlendo kuti akutengereni ku bar yapafupi, kapena mufunseni kuti avale tsitsi kapena zovala kuti mugone. Kuyesera malo atsopano, kusewera zolaula pamene mukupusitsa, kapena kugwiritsa ntchito chidole chogonana panthawi yamasewera kungathenso kukwaniritsa chikhumbo chanu cha kusintha.

Kugonana Pakamwa

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Ngakhale akuwona kuti ndiwopatsa chidwi, "anthu ambiri sakhala omasuka ndi kugonana mkamwa," akutero Berman. Amakhala ndi nkhawa ndi luso lawo (ngati ndiomwe amachita) kapena amakhala ndi nkhawa zakumva kukoma kwawo (nsagwada zake zikutopa? Kodi ndikumva fungo labwino? Kodi ndikuchedwa?

Yesani: Ngati nkhawa zakuti "musazichite bwino" zikukulepheretsani, Berman akuwonetsa kuti mungoyang'ana maphunziro pa intaneti-mwina mungamve ngati opusa, koma pano, chidziwitso ndiye chida chanu chabwino kwambiri. Ngati mukuda nkhawa kuti mudzalandiridwa, komano, yesani njira zaana. "Yambani ndi kumupempha kuti akugwereni kwa mphindi zitatu zokha. Nthawi ina, yesani zisanu," akufotokoza motero. Kenako yang'anani kukhalabe munthawiyo mpaka nthawiyo ithe. Ingomuuza zam'mbuyomo, kapena angaganize kuti akuchita zomwe simumakonda mukamuletsa, zomwe zimamupangitsa kukhala ndi nkhawa.

Lumikizani Nthawi Yogonana

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Zongopeka zodziwika bwino za akazi zinali chimodzi mwazinthu zosafunikira kwambiri pamndandanda - kufuna kumva kukhudzika kwachikondi panthawi yogonana. Berman anati: “Zikugogomezera kufunika kokhala ndi kugwirizana m’maganizo. "Chifukwa ndikadatha kukupatsirani zinthu 365 zomwe mungayesere kukulitsa moyo wanu wogonana, koma ngati inu ndi mnzanu mulibe kulimba mtima kwakeko, palibe chomwe chingathandize."

Yesani: Kuti mumve kukhala oyandikana kwambiri ndi mnzanu wapabedi, yesani njira zogonana za tantric, zomwe zimagogomezera kulumikizidwa kwamalingaliro, akutero Berman. Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kosavuta: Khalani pamiyendo ya mnzanu mozungulira, kenako ikani dzanja lanu lamanja pamtima pake. Mukamayang'anirana, gwirizanitsani kupumira kwanu ndi kwake. "Izi zimakuthandizani kukhala pakati, kuyang'ana dziko lonse lapansi, ndikupangitsa kuti mukhale olimba pakati panu musanakhale wathupi," akutero Berman.

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