7 Ubwino Wosakhala Pabanja

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Kwa zaka zambiri, kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti kumanga mfundo kumapereka ubwino wambiri wathanzi-chilichonse kuchokera ku chimwemwe chachikulu kupita ku thanzi labwino la maganizo ndi mwayi wochepa wokhala ndi matenda aakulu. Chithandizo cha mnzanu wapabanja chimawoneka ngati chothandiza maanja kuthana ndi mkuntho panthawi yamavuto. Koma kwa osalumikizidwa, palibe chifukwa chodandaulira kuti udindo umodzi wokha ungasokoneze thanzi lanu. (M'malo mwake, Sayansi Ikuti Anthu Ena Akufuna Kukhala Osakwatira.) Mukufuna umboni? Nazi zopindulitsa zingapo zomwe mungapeze mukamauluka nokha.

Inu mukhoza Very Khalani Osangalala

Osakhulupirira zonse zomwe mwawerenga. Wosungulumwa, dona wamphaka wosakwatiwa? Nuh-uh. Pakafukufuku ku New Zealand kwa amuna ndi akazi 4,000 azaka zapakati pa 18 mpaka 94, ofufuza adapeza kuti omwe sanali ofunitsitsa kukangana pamabanja anali osangalala. Pamwamba pa izo, kafukufuku wa 2014 kuchokera ku Zolemba za Psychophysiology adapeza kuti abambo ndi amai omwe amakhala ndi mavuto okhalitsa kwa nthawi yayitali m'mabanja awo satha kusangalala ndi nthawi yosangalala yomwe ingayambitse kuyankha-zomwe ofufuza akuti ndizomwe zimayambitsa kukhumudwa.

Inu're Zochepa Kwambiri Kuti Mungonyamula Pamaundi

"Kulemera kwa ubale" ndichinthu chambiri, makamaka pakati pa akazi omwe angokwatiwa kumene. Malinga ndi kafukufuku waku Australia waku 2014 wa akwatibwi 350, ofufuza adapeza kuti azimayi amakonda kupeza pafupifupi mapaundi asanu m'miyezi isanu ndi umodzi atanena kuti, "Ndimatero." Kuphatikiza apo, kafukufuku wa 2013 wa mabanja 169 omwe angokwatirana kumene m'magaziniyi Psychology Zaumoyo anasonyeza kuti okwatirana osangalala amalemera m’zaka zinayi pambuyo pa ukwati wawo, mwina chifukwa chakuti okwatirana amakonda “kupumula khama lawo kuti awonjezere kunenepa” pamene sakuyang’ananso wokwatirana naye. (Fufuzani momwe Ubale Wanu Ungasinthire Moyo Wanu Wathanzi.)

NdinuZambiriZotheka Kukwaniritsa Zolinga Zanu Zolimbitsa Thupi

Madona osakwatiwa akuyenera kusankha mathamangitsidwe owonjezera ndi kukwera njinga m'malo mwa masiku a chakudya chamadzulo. Malinga ndi kafukufuku wa Brits, 27 peresenti yokha ya akuluakulu adakumana ndi mphindi 150 zolimbitsa thupi pa sabata (yikes). Komabe, mwa akazi amene sanaiyambitse mokwanira ntchito yawo, 63 peresenti anali okwatiwa—ndipo 37 peresenti yokha anali osakwatiwa kapena osudzulidwa. Ofufuzawo akuti izi zikuchitika chifukwa, ndiukwati, mumakhala ndiudindo wowonjezera - gulu lanu logwira ntchito limodzi, kukonza nyumba yatsopanoyo, pamapeto pake ana-yomwe imadula nthawi yomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito zolimbitsa thupi. Chifukwa chake ngati mukufuna kunyengerera kapena kukonzekereratu pa mpikisano wothamanga, kukhala osakwatira si vuto.

NdinuKhalani olimba ndi Anzanu

Kuchokera pa kafukufuku wopangidwa ndi Natalia Sarkisian wa ku Boston College ndi Naomi Gerstel wa ku yunivesite ya Massachusetts Amherst, n’zosakayikitsa kuti akazi okwatiwa amasiya kugwirizana ndi anthu osakhala m’banja pofuna kuthandiza mwamuna wawo. Amayi (ndi anyamata), omwe sanalowepo m'banja ali ndi mwayi wogwirizana kwambiri ndi makolo awo, abwenzi, abale awo ndi anthu ammudzi omwe angakuthandizeni kuti mukhale osangalala komanso osangalala. ndipo moyo wathanzi. Pakafukufuku wa amuna ndi akazi okwana 300,000 a 2010, ofufuza adapeza kuti omwe alibe gulu lamankhwala ali ndi mwayi wopitilira 50% wamwalira mchaka cha 7.5 chotsatira. Ngakhale zomwe zimayambitsa matendawa sizimveka bwino, ndizotheka chifukwa anzathu ndi abale athu amatithandiza kuseka, kupumula ndikupewa kupsinjika, komanso kutithandiza tikamakumana ndi matenda kapena kuvulala ndikusowa mapewa kudalira . (Kuphatikiza apo, mumalandira Njira 12 za Mnzanu Wapamtima Zimalimbikitsira Thanzi Lanu.)

InuKhalani Ndi Mavuto Ochepera

Mukakhala pachibwenzi, mukuphatikiza miyoyo iwiri ... zomwe sizowala bwino dzuwa ndi maluwa, makamaka ngati muli ndi spender komanso osunga ndalama pakusakaniza. Pakafukufuku yemwe adachitika mu 2014 kwa achikulire 2,000, m'modzi mwa anthu atatu adakwanitsa kunamizira mnzake za ndalama. Pakati pa anthu osokonekera, 76 peresenti ananena kuti mabodza ang’onoang’ono (kapena aakulu) oyera anasokoneza maukwati awo, pamene pafupifupi theka linati mabodzawo anayambitsa mkangano waukulu. Ngati simuli pabanja, mumakhala ndi nkhawa zochepa zakuti mumagwiritsa ntchito ndalama zanu motani, liti komanso motani. Mumasankha. (Whoo!) (Zomwe zikutanthauza kuti mutha kugwiritsa ntchito maupangiri akusunga ndalama kuti mupeze ndalama zokwanira.)

Ndinu Wokonzeka Kupambana mu Excel mu Ntchito Yanu

Kukhala osakwatira kumayambiriro kwa ntchito yanu kungakhale chisankho chanzeru ngati mukufuna kukwera pamwamba paketi-kuposa anyamata. Kafukufuku wa 2010 adawonetsa kuti wachichepere, wopanda mwana, osakwatiwa Amayi m'mizinda ikuluikulu monga New York ndi LA amalandila pafupifupi 15% kuposa azimuna awo, ndipo izi zitha kudzetsa chiyembekezo pambuyo pake. Kuyang'ana kwambiri ntchito pa ubale utangoyamba kumene moyo umalola mphamvu zambiri ndi malingaliro kukwera makwerero - ndipo sizikutanthauza kuti simudzamanga mfundo. Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti akazi ophunzira kwambiri amakonda kukwatiwa ndi kubereka pambuyo pake. Chifukwa chake, tengani nthawi imeneyo kuti mudzikhazikitse nokha mu 20s ndi 30s oyambirira. (Ndipo mukadali pa izi, dziwani Maluso 17 a Moyo Amene Muyenera Kudziwa Kuchita pofika zaka 30.)

Mukuteteza Mtima Wanu

Ngakhale kukhala mbeta kungakutetezeni ku kusweka mtima kwachikondi, kungakuchepetseninso chiwopsezo chokhala ndi vuto la mtima lalitali. Malinga ndi kafukufuku wa 2014 wochokera ku yunivesite ya Michigan State, atafufuza zambiri za amayi ndi abambo okwatirana oposa 1,000 kwa zaka zisanu, ofufuza adapeza kuti banja loipa limabweretsa mavuto ambiri pamtima kuposa momwe banja labwino limathandizira. Izi zinali zowona makamaka pakati pa akazi. Ndizomveka ngati mukupsinjika pang'ono, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, komanso kukhala ndi BMI yokhazikika, sichoncho? (Muubwenzi wokondwa? Osadandaula, phunzirani Momwe Ubale Wanu Umalumikizidwira ndi Thanzi Lanu-m'njira yabwino!)

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