Ace Nkhani Yanu ya "Kumene Tidakumana".

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Meg Ryan ndipo Tom Hanks adapanga misonkhano yapaintaneti kuti iwoneke ngati yokondana ngakhale. Komabe, kwinakwake pakati pa 1998's Mwalandila makalata ndipo lero, zibwenzi pa intaneti zapeza mbiri yoyipa. Taganizirani kafukufuku waposachedwa: Ofufuza ku Yunivesite ya Cornell ndi University of Indianapolis adapeza kuti komwe okwatirana amakumana nthawi zambiri kumatsimikizira momwe banja lawo komanso anzawo angathandizire paubwenzi. Ngati awiriwa adakumana mwamwambo, tinene kuti mukalasi yaku koleji kapena kuntchito, netiweki yawo imathandizira kwambiri kuposa ngati awiriwa adakumana pa intaneti. [Twitani izi!]

Koma malinga ndi kafukufuku waposachedwa wa Pew, m'modzi mwa anthu 10 aku America wagwiritsa ntchito pulogalamu yapaintaneti kapena tsamba, ndipo chiwerengerochi chikukwera. Koma ngati nthawi zina mumawona kuti anzanu omwe akhala pachibwenzi kuyambira nthawi ya kusekondale, kapena mnzanu yemwe adakumana ndi Mr. Wonderful pa mpando wachifumu, pagombe la Bahamian, kapena ku Central Park (mukumvetsa mfundoyo), ndi nthawi yoti musinthe malingaliro. "Chachikulu ndichakuti kukumana pa intaneti sikoyenera kuchita manyazi," atero a Laurie Davis, omwe adayambitsa eFlirt Expert komanso wolemba Chikondi Poyamba Dinani. "Koma ngati mungayandikire kuchokera pamalo amanyazi, ndiye kuti anthu sangakusangalatseni."

Umu ndi momwe mungayankhire funso losapeŵeka, "Kodi munakumana bwanji awiri?" kuti muwonetsetse kuti nkhani yanu yamisonkhano ikulimbana ndi rom-com.

1. Lembani Nkhani Yapachikuto

Kujambula nkhani yonena kuti mwakumana nawo nonse mutakumana Goldfinch nthawi yomweyo-amatha kubwerera kudzakuluma. "Sichingakhale chowonadi," akutero Davis. "Ndipo mwina ndichifukwa chake anthu sangasangalale nanu, chifukwa chisangalalo chaubwenzi sichimafika."

2. Khazikitsani Kamvekedwe

"Mukamafotokozera momwe mudakumana ndi munthu, mosasamala kanthu komwe mudakumana, zimangokhudza kamvekedwe kamene mumagwiritsa ntchito," akutero Davis. "Ndizokhudza ubale wokhudzana ndi ubale m'malo mokhala komwe mudakumana." M'malo movomereza mwamanyazi kuti mwapanga zibwenzi pa intaneti mutasiyana kale, khazikitsani nkhani yanu pofotokoza momwe mudasangalalira kuti mutsegule chaputala chatsopano cha moyo wanu ndikuyesera china chosiyana-kuti mudzakumane naye milungu ingapo pambuyo pake. "Mukawona msonkhano wanu kuchokera pamagalasi abwino motsutsana ndi zoipa, izi zipanga kusiyana konse padziko lapansi," akutero a Karen Ruskin, othandizira zama psychology, komanso katswiri wazamaubwenzi. Mwayi, banja lanu ndi abwenzi adzawonetsa momwe mukumvera, choncho awonetseni chisangalalo, osati manyazi.

3. Muzimva Opatsidwa Mphamvu

Mukakhala pachibwenzi pa intaneti, mumakhala kuti mukuwongolera moyo wanu wachikondi - ndipo simuyenera kuchita nawo manyazi. "Mukugwiritsa ntchito kupita patsogolo kwaukadaulo kuti mupeze wina," akutero a Ruskin. Mukamafotokoza nkhani yanu mutha kuwunikira zabwino zomwe mumakumana nazo pa intaneti monga momwe mungadziwire amuna omwe angakhale oopsa kwa inu kapena omwe samatengera zomwe mumayendera. Nenani chinachake chonga, "Ndinadziwa kuti ndimafuna mwamuna yemwe anali pafupi kwambiri ndi banja lake," ndikufotokozera momwe mbiri yake inakokera chidwi chanu ndikukukokerani nthawi yomweyo.

4. Yang'anani pa Nkhaniyo

Ngakhale Match.com ikukudziwitsani za ena ofunika, nthawi ina, nonse awiri simunakhalepo pa intaneti, munakumana pamasom'pamaso, ndipo munakhala tsiku loyamba lenileni. Yang'anani pa zimenezo. "Aliyense ali ndi nkhani," akutero Davis. Nkhaniyi iyenera kuti idayamba ndi uthenga woseketsa woyamba womwe adatumiza, koma zomwe zidachitika tsiku lanu loyamba komanso mitu yomwe mudalumikizana nayo ndi gawo la nkhaniyi, akutero. Auzeni zamalumikizidwe odabwitsa omwe mwazindikira kuti munachoka pa bat kapena momwe mudakwanitsira kuthira ketchup pa diresi lanu mphindi 10 mukamadya. Kuwuzanso tsiku lanu loyamba kumathandizira anthu kuwona kupitilira zoyambira zenizeni.

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