Chifukwa Chake Sindikupepesa Kuti Ndikumva Kuzindikira Matenda Okhumudwitsa

Zamkati

• Kuzindikira kwambiri
• Troll pansi pa mlatho
• Kuzindikira pang'ono
• Chizindikiro chokha
• Kutopa kwampikisano
• Kulalikira kwaya

Ngati muli ngati ine, Mwezi Wodziwitsa Autism ulidi mwezi uliwonse.

Ndakhala ndikukondwerera mwezi wodziwitsa za autism kwa miyezi yosachepera 132 yotsatizana, ndikuwerengera. Mwana wanga wamkazi wamng'ono, Lily, ali ndi autism. Amawona maphunziro anga opitilira muyeso ndi kuzindikira.

Autism imakhudza moyo wanga, ndi mwana wanga wamkazi, komanso dziko langa, ndipo chifukwa cha izi, ndikufunadi kuti anthu omwe amapanga zosiyana m'miyoyo yathu "adziwe." Ndikutanthauza kuti ndikutanthauza kuti ndikhale ndi chidziwitso chazonse zomwe zimakhudzidwa. Ndikufuna omwe adayankha koyambirira m'dera lathu kuti amvetsetse chifukwa chomwe sangayankhe kuchokera kwa mwana wanga wamkazi akamufunsa dzina komanso zaka. Ndikufuna apolisi amvetsetse chifukwa chake amathawa. Ndikufuna aphunzitsi akhale oleza mtima pomwe machitidwe ake akuyambitsa vuto lalikulu kuposa kungofuna kutsatira.

Autism, monga china chilichonse, ndi nkhani yovuta - komanso yandale. Ndipo monga china chilichonse, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri mukamaphunzira zambiri za izi. Kukuthandizani kukhala othandizira, kapena osavulaza, kwa anthu omwe mumawadziwa (komanso kukhala ndi autism, zovuta ndizakuti mumawadziwa), kuzindikira kwa autism ndikofunikira kwambiri.

Osachepera pamlingo winawake. Chifukwa, nthawi zina, kuzindikira kwa autism kumatha kukhala chinthu choyipa.

Kuzindikira kwambiri

Zovuta ndi ndale za autism zitha kukhala zolemetsa ndi kafukufuku wambiri. Ndimamva kuthedwa nzeru ndi zinthu zina polemba nkhaniyi. Mukamazindikira zambiri pazinthu zonse, zimakhala zovuta kuti mutenge sitepe mopanda kuopa kukhumudwitsa munthu amene mukuyesetsa kuti mukhale mnzake.

Kodi ndimapereka katemera, kapena sinditero? Kodi ndimati "autistic" kapena "mwana wa autism"? "Kuchira"? "Landirani"? “Madalitso”? "Temberero"? Mukamakumba mozama, zimakulirakuliranibe. Izi zimalongosola bwino mfundo yanga yotsatira, yomwe ndi:

Troll pansi pa mlatho

Makolo ambiri ndi autistic amasankha Epulo ngati mwezi kuti athe kuganizira kwambiri za autism ngati chifukwa. Timatumiza zolemba zokhudzana ndi autism tsiku lililonse, komanso kulumikizana ndi ena omwe timawona kukhala osangalatsa, ofunika, kapena ogwira mtima.

Koma mukamatumiza kwambiri za zovuta ndi ndale, komanso zabwino zake ndi zoyipa zake, mumakhala otsutsana kwambiri. Chifukwa autism ndi yovuta kwambiri kuti musangalatse aliyense, ndipo ena mwa anthu omwe simukuwasangalatsa amakhumudwitsadi.

Mukamatumiza kwambiri, ma troll ambiri amakhala atakwaniritsidwa. Zitha kukhala zotopetsa m'maganizo ndi m'maganizo. Mukufuna kutulutsa mawu, koma sagwirizana ndi mawu anu kapena momwe mumagwiritsira ntchito.

Autism imatha kufuna kuleza mtima komanso kufunikira. Ndinasiya kulemba mabulogu a autism mwina chaka chokha chifukwa ndapeza kuti zotsutsana komanso zotsutsa ndizolimbikitsa. Zinathetsa chisangalalo changa, ndipo ndimafunikira nyonga kuti ndikhale bambo wabwino.

Kuzindikira pang'ono

Wanu wamba Joe amakhala ndi nthawi yokwanira yokwanira kusinkhasinkha nkhani imodzi kapena ziwiri mwa zikwi zambiri zomwe zatulutsidwa za autism. Chifukwa cha izi, nthawi zonse pamakhala chiopsezo kuti chinthu chimodzi chomwe iye akuyerekezera ndi cholakwika. Nthawi ina ndinali ndi wina woti anene pa blog yanga kuti autism idayambitsidwa ndi "ming'alu" ndikuti amangofunika kuthiriridwa ndi madzi a lalanje kuti ayeretse dongosolo. Wachiritsidwa!

(Ichi si chinthu.)

Palibe mitu yambiri yamgwirizano pa autism, kotero kuchitira nkhani imodzi, zolemba pamabulogu, kapena nkhani yongonena ngati uthenga wa autism (chabwino, kupatula iyi, mwachidziwikire) ikhoza kukhala yoyipa kuposa kusaphunzira chilichonse.

Chizindikiro chokha

Nthawi ina ndidawerenga ntchito ya wofufuza yemwe adati vuto lalikulu lomwe autism idakumana nalo ndi dzina lake. Autism ndimitundu ingapo, koma onse amalumikizana palimodzi pansi pa chizindikiro chimodzi.

Izi zikutanthauza kuti anthu amayang'ana Rain Man ndikuganiza kuti akhoza kupereka upangiri wothandiza. Zimatanthawuza kuti makampani amatha kupanga mankhwala omwe amachepetsa zizindikiritso mwa mwana m'modzi yemwe ali ndi autism, koma atha kukulitsa zizindikilo za wina. Chizindikiro cha autism chimayambitsa chisokonezo pomwe chisokonezo chilipo kale.

Mwinamwake mudamvapo za mawu akuti, "Ngati mwakumana ndi mwana m'modzi ali ndi autism, mwakumana ndi mwana m'modzi ali ndi autism." Mwana aliyense ndi wosiyana ndipo simungathe kufotokoza zomwe mwana wina adakumana nazo chifukwa choti amagawana chizindikiro chimodzi.

Kutopa kwampikisano

Zomwe anthu ambiri omwe amagwira ntchito yolimbikitsa kuzindikira za autism akufuna ndikuti omwe "samadziwa" kale kuti adziwe. Koma chinthu chabwino chochuluka chingatanthauze kuti ena mwa mauthenga ofunikira kwambiri amizidwa ndi mphamvu yayikulu. Pambuyo pa mwezi wathunthu wodziwa za autism, anthu ambiri omwe ali ndi mwayi wamtengo wapatali angakuuzeni, "Sindikufuna kumva chinthu china chokhudzana ndi autism kwa moyo wanga wonse."

Kulalikira kwaya

Mwana wanga wamng'ono asanam'peze, ndinali nditawerengapo zolemba zero zonena za autism. Ambiri mwa anthu omwe amawerenga zolemba za autism siomwe akumvera. Akukhala moyo. Ndi anthu omwe ali ndi autism kapena owasamalira. Ngakhale ndizolimbikitsa kudziwa kuti wina akuwerenga zinthu zanu, ndizovuta kupanga chidwi pazinthu zomwe sizikukhudza miyoyo ya omvera (monga momwe akudziwira, osachepera).

Kwa ife omwe tikufuna kuti muzindikire - kuti ana athu azikhala ndi moyo wosangalala, wathanzi - kufalitsa "kuzindikira kwa autism" nthawi zonse kumakhala chinthu. Ndipo ndi chinthu chabwino. Makamaka.

Ndine wowona mtima wokondwa kupirira mafunso kapena malingaliro okhala ndi cholinga chabwino, chifukwa zikutanthauza kuti mumasamala zokwanira za mwana wanga wamkazi kapena ine kuti tiwerenge nkhani, kuwonera kanema, kapena kugawana nawo infographic. Chidziwitso sichingakhale cholumikizana bwino ndi zomwe zandichitikira, koma chimamenya gehena chifukwa choyang'ana mokwiya komanso ndemanga zakuweruza m'malo owonetserako momwe mwana wanu amasungunuka (inde, ndakhalapo).

Chifukwa chake, kufalitsa kuzindikira kwa autism mwezi uno. Koma chitani izi mukudziwa kuti mutha kutentha. Chitani izi mukudziwa kuti mwina simungafikire omvera anu. Chitani izi mukudziwa kuti mudzazipeza kumoto pang'ono kwa wina nthawi ina. Chitani izi mukudziwa kuti sizinthu zonse zomwe mungatumize zomwe zingakhudze zomwe ena akumana nazo. Chitani izi mosamala.

Jim Walter ndi mlembi wa Lil Blog Yokha, komwe amafotokoza zochitika zake ngati bambo wopanda ana aakazi awiri, m'modzi mwa iwo ali ndi autism. Mutha kumutsata pa Twitter pa @chantika_cendana_poet.