Kutenga Kwatentha: Kupera Ndiwo Mgwirizano Wogonana Wosaloledwa Kwambiri

Zamkati

• U, Mukutanthauza Chiyani Poti... Kugaya?
• Chifukwa Chani Akupera Kugonana Miyala
• Momwe Mungapangire Kuti Kugaya Kugonana Kumveke Bwino
• 1. Valani pamwambowo.
• 2. Onjezerani lube.
• 3. Bop mu pulagi yamatako.
• 4. Bweretsani mzanga wocheza.
• 5. Yesani kuyimirira pogaya kugonana.
• Onaninso za

Sabata yatha pachikondwerero chokumbukira kubadwa kwa Zoom, ndinali kunena kuti ndimakonda kuchitapo kanthu pamasewera ophatikizira ndikugaya pomwe ndidawona kutembenuza mphuno kukuchitika pazenera. Anzanga sanali kuweruza, ndendende, koma ambiri anali atatengera mawu osokonekera omwe ndimasungira nthawi iliyonse Bachelor chilolezo chimabwera pokambirana. Mwachiwonekere, anzanga ambiri adasiya akupera kusukulu yasekondale, pamodzi ndi nsidze zazing'ono, zibangili, ndi ma CD.

Ngakhale aliyense wofuna zosangalatsa ali olandilidwa pamalingaliro ndi zokonda zawo, ( * ikani mawu a Carrie Bradshaw *) Sindingadziwike koma ndikudzifunsa kuti: "Kodi anthu akusintha mwachidule zosangalatsa zawo posiya zopera m'mbuyomu?"

Zachidziwikire, ndinali ndi hunch yankho lake linali mafuta akulu INDE. Koma ndine wolemba nkhani zachiwerewere, chifukwa chake ndidachita kafukufuku ndikulankhula ndi Taylor Sparks, wophunzitsa zachiwerewere komanso woyambitsa Organic Loven, komanso ena ofuna zosangalatsa omwe akhala akuchita zachiwerewere nthawi yayitali atatha ' d kuwerenga koyamba Wogwira Mu Rye.

U, Mukutanthauza Chiyani Poti... Kugaya?

Tisanalowe m'mawu anga anthano (kuti kugaya ndi njira yabwino kwambiri komanso yocheperako kwambiri yogonana), tiyeni tifika pa tsamba lomwelo zakuti kugaya ndi chiyani. Zoonadi, kugaya ndi mchitidwe uliwonse wogonana womwe munthu mmodzi amakoka maliseche pa chinachake kapena munthu.

Mutha kusangalala nokha mukugwiritsa ntchito pilo, mkono wa bedi, ndodo zanu, kapena nyama yodzaza, atero Spark. Kapena, mutha kusangalala ndi mnzanu. Pamasewera ogwirizana, kugaya kumatha kuwoneka ngati kusisita kumaliseche, kapena opanda zovala. Koma, imathanso kuwoneka ngati maliseche-ntchafu, maliseche-m'chiuno, ndi zina, kupukuta, akutero.

Kugaya kumatchedwanso outercourse, coital alignment, tribadism (vulva-on-vulva grinding), kapena kubetcha kwambiri. Pamene maphwando onse atavala mokwanira, amatchedwanso humping wouma, pomwe maphwando onse amakhala amaliseche ndikusisita maliseche awo, amadziwika kuti scississ. Ndi mdziko liti pomwe kugonana komwe sikuyenera kusangalatsidwa kuli ndi mayina ambiri? (Sizingatero!)

Chifukwa Chani Akupera Kugonana Miyala

Mawu awiri: Clitoral stimulation. Kodi mumadziwa 73 peresenti ya eni maliseche nawonso zosowa kukondoweza kwa chiwonetsero kapena kukhala ndi ziwonetsero zabwinoko zokopa? "Kugaya kumapatsa eni maliseche kukondoweza kwa clitoral komwe kumafunikira kwambiri kuti akhale ndi orgasm," akuvomereza Sparks.

Ine ndekha ndimakonda kugaya chifukwa ndimasangalala ndi kukondoweza kwa clitoral, koma glans clitoris yanga (ndiyo mbali yakunja) imakhala yovuta kwambiri. Ngati mphukira yaying'ono imalimbikitsidwa kwambiri, mwachangu kwambiri, mwadzidzidzi zinthu zonse zimakhala gule wosakhwima wopewa chovala changa. Osati zosangalatsa kwenikweni. Komabe, akupera - makamaka, kuvala akupera - kumapereka phokoso lokhazikika la kupanikizika komwe kumamveka bwino kwambiri motsutsana ndi clit yanga ndipo amatha kutero popanda kuthakuyambitsa izo.

Sparks akuwonjezeranso kuti G-banga itha kulimbikitsidwanso (mosalunjika) ndikupera. "Malo a G amakhala pansi pomwe ndi kuseri kwa mafupa a pubic, chifukwa chake kukakamiza chitunda cha pubic kumatha kuyambitsa malowa ndikupatsa chidwi chenicheni."

Zomveka: Kugaya kumathanso kumva bwino kwa anthu omwe ali ndi mbolo, nawonso.Zingakhale zomveka ngati mutaganizira izi: Kodi kugwira ntchito pamanja, kugonana m’kamwa, ndi kugonana m’malo mwake zikufanana bwanji? Zonsezi zimaphatikizapo kulimbikitsa gawo lakunja la mbolo. “Chifukwa kusisita ndi kugaya kumaphatikizaponso kusonkhezera mbali yakunja ya mbolo, nawonso angakhale olimbikitsa kwambiri kwa mwini mbolo,” anatero Sparks. Ngati eni mbolo sanadulidwe, "kugaya kumbuyo ndi mtsogolo kumathandizanso khungu lanu kukwera ndi kutsitsa mbolo m'njira yomwe ingakhale yolimbikitsa kwambiri."

Kuphatikiza pakumverera bwino, kugaya ndizomwe Theo, wazaka 26, wogulitsa amuna amatcha "umboni wazogonana kwakanthawi," ndichifukwa chake amakonda malowo kwambiri. "Kusamba kwanga kumandipatsa dysphoria ya jenda," akufotokoza. (Gender dysphoria ndi pamene wina akukumana ndi kupsinjika maganizo chifukwa cha kugonana kwake kwachilengedwe kapena maliseche kuti asafanane ndi momwe amawadziwira kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi.) Choncho, sakonda kuchita chiwerewere chosavala pamene akusamba. “Kugaya kugonana kumandithandiza kuvala zovala zanga zonse m’kati mwa mweziwo, ndikusangalalabe,” iye akutero. Komanso, nthawi zambiri ndimakhala ndi orgasm.

Dawson, wazaka 24, wachiwerewere yemwe amatenga nawo mbali amamuwuzanso kuti amuzindikira. "Kupera zovala kumandilola kuti ndizigonana ndi munthu wina (mwachitsanzo, kuyimilira usiku umodzi) osafunikira kuti ndikambirane zakukhosi kwanga, zomwe ndimawatcha, etc."

Pakadali pano, Courtney, wazaka 32, mayi wamayi wachisangalalo amasangalala nazo chifukwa ndi chiopsezo chochepa kwambiri. "Ndili ndi herpes, ndipo sindimamwa ma ARV," akutero. "Ndikamaganiza kuti mwina ndatsala pang'ono kuphulika, kupera ndi zovala zathu zamkati ndi imodzi mwanjira zomwe ine ndi chibwenzi changa timapitilira kugonana."

Akunena zowona: Akupera ndi mchitidwe wogonana wocheperako - koma FTR, nthawi zina, pamakhala chiopsezo chotenga kachilombo ka HIV ndi mimba. Ngati nonse muli ovala, chiopsezo chotenga matenda opatsirana pogonana sichikhala zero. Ngati, komabe, pali malumikizidwe akumaliseche mpaka kumaliseche ndizotheka kuti matenda opatsirana pogonana amafalikira kudzera pakhungu pakhungu (HPV, herpes, syphilis, trichomoniasis) kapena madzi amadzimadzi ogonana (HPV, HSV, chlamydia, gonorrhea, HIV), nawonso. (Zogwirizana: Kodi Matenda Opatsirana pogonana Amatha Kudzichitira Okha?)

Mimba imatheka nthawi iliyonse yomwe munthu wokhala ndi machende ndipo munthu yemwe ali ndi chiberekero ndi chiberekero amagonana ndi nyini. Ngakhale kugaya nthawi zambiri sikufanana ndi P-in-V, palibe apolisi akupera, kotero, ngati mukufuna kuwerengera P-in-V ngati akupera - kapena gwiritsani ntchito kupera ngati kalambulabwalo wa P-in-V - Sindikumenyani yum yanu. Ingodziwa kuti kutenga mimba ndikotheka ngati zofunikirazi zakwaniritsidwa.

Momwe Mungapangire Kuti Kugaya Kugonana Kumveke Bwino

Khulupirirani, malangizo asanu operawa atembenuza inu - ndi anzanu - kukhala mafani, nawonso.

1. Valani pamwambowo.

"Mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya zovala imatulutsa mitundu yazokopa," akutero Spark. Zomwe zimakusangalatsani zimasiyana malinga ndi zomwe mumakonda. Mwachitsanzo, ma denim ndi ma corduroy, amadzipereka kuti azikangana kwambiri, monganso mabotolo aliwonse odzaza ndi seams. Silika, kumbali inayo, ndi yabwino kuti mukhale ndikumverera kuterera motsutsana ndi ma bits anu, akutero.

Inemwini, ndimakonda kugaya nditavala ma leggings otambalala kapena thukuta, zomwe zimandilola kufalitsa miyendo yanga, ndikulowa m'malo omwe amachititsa kuti malo anga otentha azikhala osavuta.

2. Onjezerani lube.

Musalole dzina lake lotchedwa ("humping youma") kuti likulepheretseni kuwonjezera chinyontho chogulidwa m'sitolo pamasewera anu! Payekha, ndimakonda kuwonjezera pang'ono dab ya lube pakati pa labia yanga kuti ndichepetse kusokonezeka kwa mikangano pakati pa milomo yanga yapansi. (Onani: Chifukwa Chake Lube Amapangitsa Nkhani Zonse Zogonana Kukhala Bwino)

3. Bop mu pulagi yamatako.

"Mutha kugwiritsa ntchito pulagi nthawi iliyonse yogonana - mosasamala kanthu kuti ndinu mwamuna kapena mkazi, maliseche, kapena kugonana kwa mnzanu," Alicia Sinclair, mphunzitsi wovomerezeka wa kugonana & CEO wa b-Vibe, kampani yopanga ma anal play, adanena kale. Maonekedwe. "[Ndi] chinthu chosangalatsa kwa thupi lililonse komanso aliyense."

Ngakhale kuti sindinayesepo kuvala plug ya butt pogaya, Carter, 32, ndi mnzake Hannah ali. "Hannah amavala chikwangwani nthawi zonse tikapita kuphwando," akutero Carter. "Mwanjira imeneyi tikamazemba kupita kuchipinda kapena kuchimbudzi kuti tikalowe, titha kutero ndi zovala zathu zonse, ndipo amathabe kutsika, "akutero. Hana, akuti, sangathe kuchoka pakukondweretsedwa kokha, koma atha kudzazidwa anally. (Zogwirizana: Zoseweretsa Zabwino Kwambiri Zogonana, Malinga ndi Sexperts)

4. Bweretsani mzanga wocheza.

Moona mtima, mtundu uliwonse wa vibrator mwina ungagwiritsidwe ntchito pano, koma ndikupangira ma wand vibrator.

Sabata yatha ndidamaliza kutsegula vibrator yatsopano ya Le Wand wand (Buy It, $ 140, babeland.com) boo wanga atabwera. Adafikira zinthu zonyezimira patebulo pabalaza yanga (o, moyo wa wolemba zachiwerewere) ndikuyiyatsa. Nditamupsompsona moni, adayamba kugwiritsa ntchito nthabwala kumbuyo kwanga. Tikupitilira kupsompsonana, adayamba kundikokera ndodo pathupi langa.

Pamapeto pake, adagwira ndodo pakati pa matupi athu kwinaku tikugundana ndikugundana ndi matupi ovala bwino a winayo mpaka, pomwe Trey Songz bop amapita, mnansiyo adadziwa mayina athu onse.

5. Yesani kuyimirira pogaya kugonana.

"Kuyimirira ndi mnzako, ndikupera nawo (kapena kutsutsana nawo), pomwe m'modzi wa inu amatsamira khoma kumatha kukhala kokongola komanso kosangalatsa," akutero Spark. Kwenikweni, amalimbikitsa kuti abwezeretsenso magule oyang'ana kutsogolo omwe aphunzitsi apakati komanso kusekondale sanalole.

"Kuwonjeza pamalo osangalatsa kungakutengereni kukutentha kwambiri kwakugonana," akuwonjezera. Kotero, mwinamwake yesetsani kuyimirira mukupera mu chovala chovala paphwando lanu lotsatira. Chenjezo loyenera: Monga momwe nkhani yomwe tatchulayi ikusonyezera, kugaya kumatha kukhala koyambitsa kubuula, choncho mungachite bwino kukumbukira phokoso ngati muli pagulu.

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