Momwe Mungakhalire Kholo Labwino

Zamkati

• Kodi kulera ana ndi chiyani?
• Momwe mungakhalire kholo limodzi
• 1. Tisiye zakale
• 2. Muziganizira kwambiri mwana wanu
• 3. Kulankhulana
• 4. Mvetserani mwatcheru
• 5. Kuthandizana wina ndi mnzake
• 6. Konzekerani tchuthi ndi tchuthi
• 7. Kunyengerera
• Zinthu 6 zofunika kuzipewa
• Momwe mungapangire dongosolo la kulera
• Kugwira ntchito ndi othandizira
• Kudzisamalira
• Kutenga

Kodi kulera ana ndi chiyani?

Kulera limodzi ndi kulera ana limodzi ndi makolo awo kapena ziwerengero za makolo omwe sanakwatirane kapena amakhala okhaokha.

Co-makolo atha kusudzulana kapena mwina sanakwatiranepo. Alibe chikondi chilichonse pakati pawo. Co-kulera amatchedwanso kulera limodzi.

Co-makolo samangogawana za momwe ana awo amasamalidwira, komanso amapatsidwa zisankho zazikulu zakuleredwa, kuphatikiza:

• maphunziro
• chithandizo chamankhwala
• maphunziro achipembedzo
• zina zofunika

Co-kulera ndizofala. Akuti ana 60 pa 100 aliwonse ku United States amakhala ndi makolo awo obadwa nawo. Ena 40% amakhala munthawi zosiyanasiyana, zambiri zomwe zimakhudza kulera ana.

Pemphani kuti mumve zambiri zakulera ana, kuphatikizapo malangizo, zinthu zoti mupewe, ndi zina zambiri.

Momwe mungakhalire kholo limodzi

Kulera bwino makolo limodzi kumathandiza ana m'njira zingapo.

Kafukufuku wofalitsidwa mu Interdisciplinary Journal of Applied Family Science apeza kuti ana omwe adaleredwa ndi makolo ogwirizana amakhala ndi mavuto amakhalidwe ochepa. Amayandikanso kwambiri ndi abambo awo kuposa ana omwe adaleredwa ndi makolo anzawo kapena kholo limodzi.

Nazi njira zowonjezera mwayi wanu wopambana polera ana:

1. Tisiye zakale

Simungathe kulera bwino kholo ngati mulibe kanthu koma kunyoza wakale wanu. Mutha kufotokozabe zokhumudwitsa zanu ndi abwenzi, abale, kapena othandizira, koma osafotokozera za kholo linalo kwa ana anu.

2. Muziganizira kwambiri mwana wanu

Chilichonse chomwe chingakhale chitachitika muubwenzi wanu m'mbuyomu, kumbukirani, ndi m'mbuyomu. Maganizo anu apano ayenera kukhala pazomwe zili zabwino kwa mwana wanu kapena ana anu.

3. Kulankhulana

Kulera bwino ana kumadalira kulumikizana kwabwino. Nawa malangizo:

• Lankhulani momveka bwino, mwachidule, komanso mwaulemu. Osatsutsa, kuimba mlandu, kutsutsa, kapena kuopseza. Kulankhulana kwanu kuyenera kukhala kwamalonda.
• Khalani ogwirizana. Musanalankhule, ganizirani momwe malingaliro anu adzapezeke. Kodi mukumveka wopanda nzeru kapena wovutitsa ena?
• Pitirizani kulemberana mameseji mwachidule. Ngati mukutumizirana mameseji kapena kutumizirana maimelo kulankhulana kwanu, sungani mwachidule, mwaulemu, komanso mpaka pamenepo. Khazikitsani malire ndi kholo lanu limodzi maimelo kapena zolemba zingati patsiku.
• Lankhulani mwachindunji. Mukamayenda mwa nkhoswe ngati kholo lopeza, agogo, kapena wina wamkulu, mumakhala pachiwopsezo chazinthu zosalumikizidwa. Muthanso kupanga kholo lanu lothandizana kumva kuti akusalidwa.

4. Mvetserani mwatcheru

Gawo lina lolankhulana ndikumvetsera. Kuti muthandize kholo kapena kholo lanu kumvetsetsa ndikumvedwa, ganizirani izi:

• Muzisinthana polankhula.
• Osasokoneza.
• Musanalankhule nthawi yanu, bwerezani m'mawu anu zomwe kholo kapena kholo linzanu lanena, ndikufunsani ngati mwamvetsetsa bwino. Ngati sichoncho, funsani kholo lomwelo kuti libwerezenso.

5. Kuthandizana wina ndi mnzake

Dziwani kuti makolo abwino kwambiri ndi omwe amagwira ntchito limodzi. Mukawona kholo linalo likuchita zomwe mumakonda, ayamikireni. Kulimbitsa mtima ndichofunikira kwambiri pakulera bwino ana.

Momwemonso, tsatirani malamulo ogwirizana. Ngati mwagwirizana za nthawi yofikira panyumba, nthawi yogona, kapena nthawi yochezera mwana wanu ayenera kutsatira mosatengera kuti ndi kholo liti, tsatirani malamulowo mwana wanu akakhala nanu.

6. Konzekerani tchuthi ndi tchuthi

Matchuthi ndi tchuthi atha kukhala nthawi yovuta kwa makolo anzawo, koma kulumikizana ndikukonzekera zitha kupangitsa nthawi izi kukhala zosavuta. Nawa maupangiri:

• Fotokozerani zamtsogolo momwe zingathere.
• Perekani kwa kholo linalo chidziwitso cha komwe mungakhale.
• Sungani ana m'njira zawo zanthawi zonse za tchuthi. Ngati musanagawane mumakonda kugwiritsa ntchito Thanksgiving ndi mbali yanu yabanja komanso Khrisimasi ndi wakale wanu, sungani zomwezo. Apanso, kusasinthasintha ndibwino kwa ana.
• Ngati simungagawane nawo tchuthi, yesani kuzisintha.
• Yesetsani kukonzekera tchuthi mozungulira nthawi yomwe kholo-kholo limasamalira ana.

7. Kunyengerera

Palibe kholo lomwe limaonana ndi maso, kaya ali limodzi kapena apatukana. Pamene simukugwirizana pankhani, yesetsani kupeza yankho lomwe mungakhalemo.

Mwachitsanzo, ngati mukuganiza kuti ndikofunikira kuti mwana wanu azipita kutchalitchi akakhala limodzi ndi kholo lina lomwe silipembedza, onani ngati kholo lanu lingavomereze kusiya mwana kuntchito ndikuwatenga pambuyo pake. Kapenanso mungavomereze kuti kholo logwirizana limamupatsira mwanayo ntchito nthawi ina iliyonse.

Zinthu 6 zofunika kuzipewa

Kuti mukhale kholo logwirizana, kumbukirani malangizo awa asanu ndi limodzi:

1. Osalankhula zoyipa za kholo limodzi kwa ana anu.
2. Musamufunse mwana wanu kuti atenge mbali.
3. Osamulekerera mwana wanu kwa kholo-mnzake chifukwa cha mkwiyo kapena nkhanza. Chifukwa chokha chovomerezeka choletsa mwana ndi chitetezo chawo.
4. Osati ngati mwana wanu "kuzonda" kwa kholo lina.
5. Musakhale osagwirizana ndi dongosolo la kholo logwirizana.
6. Musalole malonjezo kugwa.

Momwe mungapangire dongosolo la kulera

Kukhazikitsa malamulo ndi kufotokoza momveka bwino za zomwe mukuyembekezera kumathandizira kuti mukhale olera bwino.

Ngati pulani yomwe mudakhazikitsa poyamba siyigwira bwino ntchito, musawope kugwira ntchito ndi kholo limodzi kuti musinthe momwe zingafunikire. Ndipo kumbukirani kuti pulani yomwe imagwira ntchito bwino mwana wanu akadali wamng'ono angafunikire kusintha pamene mwana wanu akukula.

Nazi mfundo zofunika kuziganizira mukamapanga dongosolo:

• Dziwani nthawi yomwe mwana wanu kapena ana anu adzasamutsire nyumba, komwe adzawatengere ndi nthawi yawo, komanso mtundu wamakhalidwe omwe amayembekezeka kunyumba iliyonse.
• Konzani ndi kholo linanu ngati ana anu angakuimbireni kapena kukulemberani mameseji akakhala ndi kholo limodzi. Ngati akufuna, khazikitsani nthawi.
• Onetsetsani kuti aliyense akudziwika bwino za ntchito zawo zosamalira ana. Mwachitsanzo, mungafune kulandira maudindo onse mwana wanu ali nanu. Kapenanso, inu ndi kholo lanu mungafune kugawanika kapena kupatsa ena ntchito zina za tsiku ndi tsiku, monga kupita nawo kusukulu, kupita nawo kumayiko ena, ndi zina zambiri.
• Tsatirani machitidwe ofanana kunyumba iliyonse. Mwachitsanzo, homuweki 5 koloko. ndi nthawi yogona nthawi ya 8 koloko masana, kapena palibe kanema wawayilesi usiku wamasukulu. Ana amagwira ntchito bwino mosasinthasintha.
• Gwirizanani pa zomwe mudzalangize. Khazikitsani malamulo apabanja, monga nthawi yofikira panyumba komanso ntchito zapakhomo zomwe muyenera kuchita. Onetsani kutsogolo kogwirizana mukamakakamiza.

Khalani okonzeka kusintha ndikusintha dongosolo lanu la kulera ana anu akamakula komanso mikhalidwe ikusintha.

Kugwira ntchito ndi othandizira

Funani thandizo kwa akatswiri mukawona kuti mwana wanu ali ndi nkhawa. Zizindikirozi zitha kuwoneka ngati:

• mavuto ogona kapena kudya
• kumva chisoni kapena kukhumudwa
• kusiya maphunziro
• kutha
• kuwopa kukhala kutali ndi kholo
• makhalidwe okakamiza

Komanso pezani thandizo ngati mukusemphana ndi kholo lanu kapena mukukhala kuti:

• kumva kukhumudwa kapena kuda nkhawa
• kupanga ana anu kukhala mthenga kwa inu ndi kholo lina
• kudalira ana anu kuti awathandize
• mobwerezabwereza kuyankhula koipa kwa kholo linzako

Mtundu wamankhwala omwe mungasankhe udalira kuti mwana wanu ali ndi zaka zingati, chifukwa chomwe mukufunira thandizo la akatswiri, komanso ubale wanu ndi kholo lanu.

Pambuyo pokambirana koyamba ndi katswiri, muyenera kuzindikira bwino zomwe mungasankhe. Mutha kufunsa anzanu, dokotala wanu, dokotala wa ana a mwana wanu, kapena pulogalamu yanu yothandizira ogwira ntchito kuti akuthandizeni.

Kudzisamalira

Kutha kwa ubale ndi kuyenda kwa makolo ophatikizana bwino kumatha kubweretsa nkhawa zambiri. Dzithandizeni kuthana ndi malangizo awa:

• Khumudwitsani ubalewo poyankhula za izi ndi abwenzi, abale, kapena othandizira - osati ana anu. Zingakuthandizeni kulemba zakukhosi kwanu.
• Musadzipangire nokha kapena kudziimba mlandu kuti mwatha.
• Khazikitsani chizolowezi. Ikuthandizani kuti muzimva kulamulira.
• Dzichitireni zinthu zabwino mukapanikizika. Mwina ndi maluwa, kutikita minofu, kapena zilizonse zomwe mumakonda zomwe zimawoneka ngati zapadera.
• Khalani okoma mtima kwa inu nokha. Landirani kuti mutha kulakwitsa zina, ndipo zili bwino. Atengereni ngati mwayi wophunzira ndikupita patsogolo.

Kutenga

Kulera ana mokha kungakhale kovuta, koma mutakhala ndi zida zoyenera mutha kukhala kholo limodzi. Chinsinsi chothandizira kulera bwino ndi kulumikizana kwabwino ndi okondedwa anu komanso dongosolo lomveka bwino, lopangidwa mwanzeru.

Monga kulera konse, ngakhale kuchitidwa ngati gawo limodzi kapena ayi, cholinga chake nthawi zonse chizikhala pazabwino kwambiri kwa ana anu.