Momwe Mungakhalire Olankhulana Bwino Kwambiri

Zamkati

• Sinthani luso lanu lolankhula
• Khalani omasuka ndi malingaliro anu
• Lankhulani momveka bwino, mosapupuluma
• Sankhani mawu anu mosamala
• Musagwirizane mwaulemu
• Funsani mafunso
• Penyani thupi lanu
• Yang'anani pamaso
• Khalani omasuka kufotokoza
• Pewani kuwoloka miyendo ndi mikono
• Yesetsani kupewa kuchita zinthu mopupuluma
• Samalani awo chilankhulo chamthupi
• Musaiwale kumvetsera
• Vomerezani ndi kuvomereza
• Funsani mafunso pakafunika kutero
• Werengani chipinda
• Perekani chidwi kwa wokamba nkhani
• Misampha yoti mupewe
• Kuthamanga
• Kuyankhula zongolankhula
• Kupewa
• Kuchita mokwiya
• Kupanga milandu
• Mfundo yofunika

Kukhoza kulankhulana bwino ndi imodzi mwa luso lofunika kwambiri lomwe mungakhale nalo.

Mukudziwa kuti kulumikizana momasuka kumatha kupindulira ubale wanu, koma kulumikizana mwamphamvu kumatha kukupindulitsani m'mbali zonse za moyo.

Olankhulana bwino atha kupeza kuti:

• kutenga maudindo otsogolera
• dziwani anthu atsopano
• zolepheretsa chikhalidwe kuti ziwonjezere kuzindikira ndi kumvetsetsa zochitika zosiyanasiyana m'moyo
• kukulitsa kumvera ena chisoni ndi kuwamvera chisoni

Koma kulumikizana, komwe kumaphatikizapo kupereka komanso kulandira chidziwitso, sikubwera mosavuta kwa aliyense. "Kuyankhulana ndi chinthu chovuta, makamaka," akutero Emily Cook, PhD, wothandizira mabanja komanso mabanja ku Bethesda, Maryland.

Sinthani luso lanu lolankhula

Mukamaganiza zolumikizana, zokambirana m'mawu zimatha kubwera m'maganizo anu poyamba.

Kuyankhulana kumangodutsa zokambirana, inde, koma kugawana malingaliro ndi ena kumafunikira kuthekera kofotokozera momveka bwino zomwe mukuganiza.

Khalani omasuka ndi malingaliro anu

Mawu anu amakhala ochokera pansi pamtima mukawapatsa chidwi. Maganizo ogawana akhoza kukuthandizani kulumikizana ndi ena mosavuta, koma simungathe kugawana momwe mumamvera pokhapokha mutalumikizana ndi zomwe mumamva.

Onetsani zokambirana zanu zonse, kulola momwe mumamvera mukamamvetsera. Kubwezera kapena kubisala kungakupangitseni kuti muwoneke kuti mulibe ndalama zambiri zokambirana, ngakhale kukhala opanda pake.

Yesetsani kufotokoza momwe zokambiranazi zimakupangitsani inu kumverera m'malo mwake - ngakhale kuli kwanzeru kuyeserera pang'ono ngati zingabweretse kukhumudwa kwakukulu.

Lankhulani momveka bwino, mosapupuluma

Zimakhala zachizolowezi kuyankhula mwachangu mukakhala wamanjenje kapena mukadzikayikira pang'ono. Ngati mungalankhule mwachangu kwambiri, omvera angavutike kutsatira mawu anu.

Pumirani pang'ono musanalankhule, kapena pokambirana mukamva mawu anu ayamba kutuluka.

Zingawoneke zovuta poyamba, koma kuyang'ana pamawonekedwe ndi mawonekedwe amawu aliwonse mkamwa mwanu kungathandizenso kuti muchepetse ndikuyang'ana kwambiri pazomwe mukunena.

Sankhani mawu anu mosamala

Kutanthauzira kwanu, kutanthauzira mawu ndi ziganizo zomwe mungasankhe, zitha kukhudza uthenga wanu wonse. Ganizirani momwe mumalankhulira ndi mnzanu wapamtima, amayi anu, ndi abwana anu. Kodi mumagwiritsa ntchito mawu amodzimodzi kapena ziganizo kapena mumasinthasintha pang'ono?

Ndikofunika kuti mukhale nokha, koma zimathandizanso kulingalira omvera anu poyesa kulumikizana bwino. Mwachitsanzo, kulumbira pamaso pa aphunzitsi a mwana wanu kapena wachibale wosamala akhoza kupereka lingaliro lina losiyana ndi lomwe mukufuna kufotokoza.

Sizipweteka konse kuphunzira mawu atsopano ndikuwonjezera mawu anu, koma musamakakamizike kuti muzitha kukambirana mwakusiya mawu akulu. Kulankhula mwachibadwa kumapereka kuwona mtima kwenikweni.

Musagwirizane mwaulemu

Maganizo osiyana sayenera kuwononga ubale, ubale, kapena kucheza pang'ono. Mutha kukhala ndi zofanana kwambiri ndi anthu ambiri omwe mumalankhula nawo, koma mutha kukhala ndizosiyana zambiri, inunso.

Zimakhala zabwinobwino kusagwirizana nthawi zina.

Samalani kuti:

• kuvomereza malingaliro awo
• gawani malingaliro anu mwaulemu
• pewani kunyozedwa ndi chiweruzo
• khalani ndi malingaliro omasuka

Funsani mafunso

Kukambirana bwino kuyenera kupita mbali zonse ziwiri. Mukufuna kutsegula ndikugawana zinthu za inu nokha, koma mudzafunanso kufunsa mafunso anzeru ndikumvetsera mayankho awo.

Cholinga cha mafunso omwe amafunikira yankho lovuta kuposa mawu amodzi kapena awiri.

Pamapeto pake, onetsani kutengapo gawo komanso chidwi popereka mayankho mwatsatanetsatane wina akakufunsani funso. Yesetsani kupeza malire pakati poyankha funsoli kupitirira kupitirira.

Penyani thupi lanu

Ngakhale mawu olankhulidwa atha kukhala olemera kwambiri, thupi lanu limatha kufotokozanso zambiri.

"Pankhani yolumikizana, momwe mumalankhulira china chake chimafanana ndi zomwe mumanena," akutero a Cook.

Malangizo awa atha kukuthandizani kuti muzikumbukira zomwe mukunena wopanda mawu.

Yang'anani pamaso

Kukumana ndi kuyang'ana kwa wina pokambirana kumatha kuwonetsa chidwi chanu pazomwe akunena. Zimaperekanso tanthauzo la kumasuka komanso kuwona mtima. Kuyang'ana wina m'maso kukuwonetsa kuti mulibe chobisala.

Khalani omasuka kufotokoza

Ngati mumanjenjemera mukamacheza, minofu yanu imatha, zomwe zingakupangitseni kuwoneka okwiya kapena opanikizika.

Palibe chifukwa chokakamiza kumwetulira popeza izi zingawoneke ngati zopanda pake. M'malo mwake, yesani kupuma kwambiri ndikuyang'ana kupumula mawu anu. Kulola milomo yanu kukhala gawo pang'ono kungathandize kumasula minofu yolimba.

Pewani kuwoloka miyendo ndi mikono

Zingamveke zachilengedwe kukhala ndi miyendo yanu yodutsa kapena kupukuta mikono yanu pachifuwa mukaimirira. Koma kuchita izi pokambirana nthawi zina kumapereka chithunzi chotsekedwa kapena kusakhudzidwa ndi malingaliro atsopano.

Ganizirani kusunga mikono yanu m'mbali mwanu ngati mumakonda kuwoloka miyendo yanu mutakhala pansi, kapena kupumula mwendo wanu mukamaoloka manja anu.

Yesetsani kupewa kuchita zinthu mopupuluma

Kufufuza kungaphatikizepo:

• kuseweretsa makiyi, foni, cholembera, ndi zina zambiri.
• kugwedeza phazi
• kuluma misomali

Makhalidwewa atha kuwonetsa kusungulumwa komanso kuchita mantha kuphatikiza pakusokoneza pang'ono.

Ngati kusefukira kukuthandizani kulingalira bwino, yesani kupeza njira yosawonekera kwenikweni. Mwachitsanzo, yesetsani kusunga chidole chazing'ono m'thumba lanu kapena kugwedeza mwendo wanu (pokhapokha ngati uli pansi pa desiki yanu).

Samalani awo chilankhulo chamthupi

Zolankhula za thupi la munthu winayo zitha kukupatsirani chidziwitso pazokambirana.

Kodi amayang'anitsitsa wotchi yawo kapena akuyang'ana m'chipindacho? Amatha kunena kuti akufuna kumaliza zokambiranazo. Mbali inayi, kudalira kukambirana kapena kugwedeza mutu kumapereka chidwi.

Komanso, onetsetsani ngati akuwonetsera mawonekedwe anu kapena mawonekedwe anu. Khalidwe lopanda chidziwitso limachitika mukalumikizana ndi wina, motero nthawi zambiri zimatanthauza kuti zokambirana zikuyenda bwino.

Musaiwale kumvetsera

Kulankhulana sikutanthauza kungonena chidutswa chanu. Kuti muthe kulumikizana ndikugawana malingaliro ndi wina, muyenera kumvera - ndi kumvetsera bwino.

Malangizo awa atha kukuthandizani kukulitsa maluso akumvetsera mwachidwi.

Vomerezani ndi kuvomereza

Kodi mumalankhulapo pomwe munthu wina amangoti "uh hu" osawoneka ngati akumvera zomwe mumanena?

Kutsimikizira zomwe winayo wanena zimawadziwitsa kuti mukumveradi. Kukhazika mtima pansi komanso kupanga phokoso lotsimikiza kuti ndichabwino, koma zimathandizanso kuyimitsa panthawi yopumira mwachilengedwe ndi zinthu monga, "Izi zikumveka ngati zokhumudwitsa" kapena "Ndikumva izi."

Funsani mafunso pakafunika kutero

Mwina mwaphunzira kuti musamadule pakamwa wina akulankhula. Imeneyo nthawi zonse ndi lamulo labwino kutsatira. Koma nthawi zina, kusamvetsetsa kapena kusamveka bwino kumatha kupangitsa kuti kukambirana kukhale kovuta kutsatira.

Ngati mukumva kuti mwasokonezeka kapena simukudziwa, nthawi zambiri zimakhala bwino kusokoneza mwaulemu. Nenani monga, "Pepani, ndikungofuna kuwonetsetsa kuti ndikumvetsetsani molondola." Kenako bwerezani zomwe ananena monga momwe mumazimvera.

Werengani chipinda

Kumvetsera kamvekedwe ka zokambirana kungapereke chidziwitso pamalingaliro a anthu omwe akutenga nawo mbali.

Ngati anthu akuwoneka osakhazikika komanso osasangalala pang'ono, koma osakondwa, nthabwala kapena ndemanga yopepuka ingathandize kupeputsa mpweya. Koma ngati wina alankhula mokhumudwitsa kapena mosungitsa, nthabwala mwina silingathe. Kumvetsera mwatcheru kumatha kukulepheretsani kukambirana molakwika.

Perekani chidwi kwa wokamba nkhani

Sungani thupi lanu kuti liyang'ane wokamba nkhani ngati zingatheke, ndipo yang'anani maso, nthawi zina, kuti musangalatse zokambiranazo.

Misampha yoti mupewe

Ngakhale olankhula mwamphamvu kwambiri amapunthwa nthawi ndi nthawi. Izi zikuyembekezeredwa. Koma kupewa machitidwe ofunikirawa kumatha kukuthandizani kuti mupewe zolakwika zazikulu.

Kuthamanga

Ngati munthu amene mukumulankhulayo akufuna kusintha nkhaniyo, kapena akunena mwachindunji kuti sakufuna kukambirana za zinazake, nthawi zambiri kumakhala kwanzeru kutsatira zomwe akutsogolera.

Ndi wokondedwa, mungafunikire kuyambiranso nkhaniyo mtsogolo. Kuwapatsa malo pakadali pano kumapereka mpata wothana ndi zovuta ndikubwerera kumutuwo panthawi yomwe ingagwire nonsenu.

Ndikofunika kwambiri kuti muzisamala ndi zolankhula zamthupi mukamayankhula nkhani yovuta. Ngati wina akuyang'ana kumbali, akubwerera m'mbuyo, kapena akuyankha ndi mayankho achidule, mungafune kusiya nkhaniyi.

Kuyankhula zongolankhula

Zokambirana zimangotuluka, ndipo nthawi zina, zinthu zimakhala chete. Izi nzabwino kuposa zonse, chifukwa zimapatsa onse omwe akuyankhula komanso omvera mwayi woti aganizire pazomwe zanenedwa ndikusonkhanitsa malingaliro awo.

Osatengera chidwi chodzaza mphindi yopanda phokoso ndi macheza opanda pake.

Kupewa

"Kuchotsa / kupewa ndi njira imodzi yamavuto yomwe ingasokoneze zokambirana zomveka bwino, zopindulitsa," a Cook akufotokoza.

Izi zimachitika nthawi zambiri mukayamba kukhumudwa kapena kupsinjika chifukwa chocheza kovuta. Mwinamwake simukukonda mikangano, ndipo simukufuna kukumana ndi mnzanu pamene ali wokwiya.

Kuwona zokambirana sikuthandiza aliyense, komabe. M'malo mwake, adziwitseni kuti mukufunika kupuma ndikupemphani kuti mukambirane nonse mukakhazikika.

Kuyeserera kulumikizana kwabwino kumapeto onse awiri kungakuthandizeni kuti muzikumana bwino.

Kuchita mokwiya

Aliyense amakwiya nthawi zina, koma kuyankha mukakhala pamalopo kumatha kusokoneza zinthu msanga.

Pumulani pazokambirana ngati mukufuna. Nthawi zina, kugwira ntchito kupsa mtima nokha ndikwanira. Pakadutsa tsiku limodzi kapena awiri, vutoli mwina silikhala lofunika kwambiri. Ngati zikukuvutitsani, mungaone kuti sizophweka kupeza yankho mukaziziritsa.

Ngati simungathe kupuma, yesani kupeza njira zina zotulutsira mkwiyo wanu.

Kupanga milandu

Ngakhale mutamudziwa munthu amene mukumulakwayo akusokonezani, kungomunena mwachindunji sikungakhale njira yabwino yothanirana ndi vutolo.

Yesani kugwiritsa ntchito mawu oti "Ine" m'malo mwake. Izi zikuphatikiza kuyang'ana kwambiri momwe mukumvera, m'malo mongomuneneza mnzanuyo kena kena.

Nayi template yoyambira:

• "Ndikumva (kutengeka) pamene (chinthu chapadera chikuchitika) chifukwa (zotsatira za chinthu china chikuchitika). Ndikufuna kuyesa njira ina. ”

Zingathandizenso kufunsa kuti mumveke musanatsutsane ndi wina. Panjira yocheperako posonyeza cholakwika cha wina, yesani izi:

• "Mukanena kuti" X, "mukutanthauza (kubwereza zomwe ananena)? Ndakhala ndikumvetsetsa izi (malongosoledwe anu). ”

Mfundo yofunika

Nthawi iliyonse mukakhala pafupi ndi ena, mumalankhulana pamlingo winawake, ngakhale simukuzindikira. Nthawi zina simungamalankhule ndi mawu, koma zonena ndi manja anu amalankhulabe.

Kuyankhulana kwapafupipafupi kumeneku kumatha kuwoneka kovuta ngati simukumva ngati wokonda kucheza mwachilengedwe. Ngakhale kulibe njira imodzi yotsimikizira kukambirana koyenera, kuyeseza kungakuthandizeni kukulitsa luso lanu ndikuyankhulana molimba mtima komanso moona mtima.

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