Thandizo lamagulu am'mabanja: ndi chiyani, ndi chiyani komanso zimachitidwa bwanji

Zamkati

• Ndi chiyani
• Momwe mankhwalawa amachitikira

Gulu la mabanja ndi mtundu wa mankhwala amisala omwe cholinga chake ndikuthandizira kuchiza matenda amisala, makamaka omwe atha kukhala olimbikitsidwa ndimphamvu zam'mabanja komanso maubale, kuzindikiritsa zopsinjika ndi chithandizo chawo.

Imeneyi ndi njira yomwe idapangidwa ndi Bert Hellinger, wochiritsa matenda aku Germany, wochiritsa wodziwa za mabanja yemwe wazindikira kupezeka kwa mphamvu zabwino komanso zoyipa m'mabanja. Powona momwe maubwenzi awa alili, komanso nkhawa ndi malingaliro omwe amadza chifukwa cha mtundu uliwonse waubwenzi, Bert adapanga njira yosagwirira ntchito kuti athe kuwonetsa munthuyo mdziko mosiyanasiyana, ndikumumasula kuzinthu zingapo zopanikiza, zomwe zitha kukhala zoyambitsa kusokonezeka kwamaganizidwe.

Kuti tichite njirayi ndikofunikira kukaonana ndi sing'anga wodziwa kugwiritsa ntchito njirayi, popeza ili ndi malamulo ndi mawonekedwe ake, omwe amafunika kulemekezedwa kuti apereke zotsatira zomwe akuyembekezeredwa.

Ndi chiyani

Malinga ndi lingaliro lomwe limalimbikitsa chithandizo chamagulu am'banja, magawo atha kuthana ndi mavuto am'banja, mavuto amgwirizano pakati pa makolo ndi ana, komanso zovuta muubwenzi wapamtima.

Chifukwa chake, anthu omwe nthawi zambiri amapita pagulu la mabanja ndi omwe:

• Amayesetsa kuthetsa mavuto am'banja;
• Ayenera kuthana ndi mayanjano olakwika;
• Amafuna kuthana ndi mkangano wamkati;
• Ndani adakumana ndi zoopsa kapena kutayika kwakukulu.

Kuphatikiza apo, chithandizo chamagulu am'mabanja chikuwonekeranso ngati chida chothandiza kwa aliyense amene akufuna kukwaniritsa ukadaulo wapamwamba kapena waluso.

Momwe mankhwalawa amachitikira

Mwambiri, munjira yamankhwala iyi, gulu la anthu omwe sadziwana limagwiritsidwa ntchito m'malo ndi kutenga gawo la ena am'banja la munthu amene akufuna kupeza yankho pamavuto kapena nkhawa zomwe apereka .

Kenako, wothandizirayo amalimbikitsa kulumikizana ndi "abale "wa ndikufunsa aliyense kuti ayesere kuzindikira zomwe zili pamalingaliro ndi machitidwe a munthu amene akufuna yankho. Ndikofunikira kuti, palibe aliyense mwa anthu omwe akuyimira banja adziwe yemwe akumuthandiza kapena vuto lomwe akufuna kulandira, chifukwa izi siziyenera kutengera momwe akumasulira.

Pakadali pano, wothandizirayo amayimirira panja pa kulumikizana ndikuyesera kuwunika malingaliro onse, kenako, pamodzi ndi zomwe zimanenedwa ndi munthu aliyense, muwonetseni munthuyo zonse zokhudzana ndi kulumikizana kwawo ndi "banja", kuzindikira zomwe zapanikizika kwambiri, zomwe zikuyenera kuchitidwa.

Popeza ndi mankhwala ovuta, gulu la mabanja nthawi zonse silibweretsa zotsatira mwachangu, ndipo magawo angapo atha kukhala ofunikira mpaka munthuyo atayamba kuzindikira zomwe zikuyenera kusintha pakuyanjana ndi abale ena. Kuyambira gawo limodzi kupita kumapeto, ndizodziwika kuti wothandizira amasintha maudindo a "achibale" osiyanasiyana mpaka atapeza gulu / gulu la nyenyezi lomwe limamuthandiza munthuyo kuzindikira zopinga zawo.